Originally posted by risou:im 25, shes 21.
initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...
since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.
recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.
this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.
as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).
we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.
i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...
due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.
just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...
p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/
Hmm..I thought the response by Yunhaier was a pretty refreshing one - it's one of the handful he has dispensed which comes without the astrological aspects which would invariably be enshrined in them.Originally posted by risou:good shoe analogy
pretty much summarised it, at least for the most part.
i duno if she's with that guy now though, but believe so due to her msn nick i saw yesterday... it's something related to what she told me about that guy..
well ive just graduated from uni, found a job (for now)... shes in ite... pretty successful so far.
all is lost? at this point in time... even if im dwelling and pissing myself over this... even as she continues being cold/unresponsive to me... i still have to work soon, mundane work.
when one doesnt have anyone comfortable enough to confide in, what can one do?
when one is unable to see the horizon, which direction does one go?![]()
If you are here long enough, you will probably get used to it.Originally posted by walesa:Hmm..I thought the response by Yunhaier was a pretty refreshing one - it's one of the handful he has dispensed which comes without the astrological aspects which would invariably be enshrined in them.
Actually, what is it you want really? You don't seem to be making much of a case of wanting her back because you're still interested in her. Rather, you seem to be motivated by the past romance and the impending loss(as you claimed) of her for good should she hit off with the guy. Perhaps, you ought to really consider if she's the one for you rather than acting on the basis of what the other guy might do. I mean, what good would it do if you won the battle, but lost the war(ie.you win her over now, only to lose her to some other guy later on)?![]()
Originally posted by walesa:Hmm..I thought the response by Yunhaier was a pretty refreshing one - it's one of the handful he has dispensed which comes without the astrological aspects which would invariably be enshrined in them.
Actually, what is it you want really? You don't seem to be making much of a case of wanting her back because you're still interested in her. Rather, you seem to be motivated by the past romance and the impending loss(as you claimed) of her for good should she hit off with the guy. Perhaps, you ought to really consider if she's the one for you rather than acting on the basis of what the other guy might do. I mean, what good would it do if you won the battle, but lost the war(ie.you win her over now, only to lose her to some other guy later on)?![]()
Originally posted by vivasg:Hey i think you have some problem, she already had bf then you go and snatch her again? Don't you have some morality?
Please don't break ppl relationship. Be more responsible ok.
its hard to forget or leave behind the gal since she is ur soulmate but u reali need to leave her n more on with ur life... there better gals to be ur soulmate...Originally posted by risou:im 25, shes 21.
initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...
since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.
recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.
this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.
as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).
we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.
i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...
due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.
just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...
p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/
Originally posted by vivasg:You are trying to get your chance, don't tell me you don't expect something more when you with her and keep trying your chance till now. No matter how long she with her current bf, is none of your business, she already the guy's gf. Stop be a loser and try to snatch ppl's gf.
Ppl like you are disgracing our singaporean, that is y a lot of ppl thought singapore man is desperate. That is all because of ppl like you.
Originally posted by Disappointment:To all forumster,
I think that this thread can closed liao, cause threadstarter says that he just need a place to vent out, no matter how good the comment is. No wonder he got no friends to confide his sorrows.
If he wants to carry on like this, so be it!!! I think there are more genuine cases that ppl actually will listen to our advice.![]()
MY FARKING POINT IS THAT YOU JUST DUN WAKE UPOriginally posted by risou:thanks too![]()
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p.s. this is a forum, anyone is free to post, there's been much advice given... but what is the point of your post besides asking for this thread to be closed? does it violate any rule of this forum?
Originally posted by Disappointment:MY FARKING POINT IS THAT YOU JUST DUN WAKE UP![]()
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GF BROKE ALREADY, MEANS KAPISHI....NO MORE. DUN BREW OVER IT AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
I mean i'm half as angry if you really see what these ppl write here. They are really taking their effort to give good solutions to your problems. So why dun you just try some of them???
What's the use if you dun listen. I mean you as a graduate, 25yrs old.... Shouldn't it be time to handle these issues maturely?![]()
Your problem is you shouldn't have stay too close with her if you can't handle it.... Work is work... If you find that you could be burden by work, go seek entertainment or relaxation elsewhere...Originally posted by risou:good shoe analogy
pretty much summarised it, at least for the most part.
i duno if she's with that guy now though, but believe so due to her msn nick i saw yesterday... it's something related to what she told me about that guy..
well ive just graduated from uni, found a job (for now)... shes in ite... pretty successful so far.
all is lost? at this point in time... even if im dwelling and pissing myself over this... even as she continues being cold/unresponsive to me... i still have to work soon, mundane work.
when one doesnt have anyone comfortable enough to confide in, what can one do?
when one is unable to see the horizon, which direction does one go?![]()
I give up... thought can use reverse psychology. Anyway, good luck in watever you do...Originally posted by risou:hi, and using CAPS or an obscene adjective doesn't put your point across any clearer or otherwise...
it's not like im lying in bed all day crying over this. and i won't be adding to sg's suicide statistics anytime soon...
yes i appreciate those who have posted their advice, but not to your previous postoh, and this post too.