My heart is dead.

• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 04:49

  I told my BF today that my heart is dead and I no longer loved his as much if I do love him at all. I told him of my intentions to date other guys with a higher level of education etc.
  
  I made it clear that I wanted a break up. But he didn't want it.
  
  we passed the day as usual and didn't mention about it until late at night when i was home.
  
  He messaged me and said that he still loved me very much and wants to spend x mas with me and that no matter what he will always love me.
  
  Should I still be with him?
  
  I know I would feel pain if I really leave him. But as they say, duan tong bu ru chang tong.
  
  But I can't bear to break his heart. I keep thinking of being with him for as long as he loves me. Even though I no longer love him.
• missqi

  11 Dec 06, 04:50

  Old habits die hard.
• FBI

  11 Dec 06, 04:51

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  I told my BF today that my heart is dead and I no longer loved his as much if I do love him at all. I told him of my intentions to date other guys with a higher level of education etc.
  
  I made it clear that I wanted a break up. But he didn't want it.
  
  we passed the day as usual and didn't mention about it until late at night when i was home.
  
  He messaged me and said that he still loved me very much and wants to spend x mas with me and that no matter what he will always love me.
  
  Should I still be with him?
  
  I know I would feel pain if I really leave him. But as they say, duan tong bu ru chang tong.
  
  But I can't bear to break his heart. I keep thinking of being with him for as long as he loves me. Even though I no longer love him.

  hey this is rain
  
  mayb u 2 be frens then see how?
  
  well, can still b friends after break de..
• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 04:54

  Originally posted by FBI:

  hey this is rain
  
  mayb u 2 be frens then see how?
  
  well, can still b friends after break de..

  My exes are still my friends. But the thing is, he refuses to let go.
• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 04:55

  Originally posted by missqi:

  Old habits die hard.

  Huh? I don't get it?
• FBI

  11 Dec 06, 04:56

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  My exes are still my friends. But the thing is, he refuses to let go.

  oh ok.
  
  give him some time ba, slowly he will
• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 04:58

  Originally posted by FBI:

  oh ok.
  
  give him some time ba, slowly he will

  I hope so.
• FBI

  11 Dec 06, 05:00

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  I hope so.

  don think so much ba, get a good slp and tml will b a better day.
• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 05:04

  Originally posted by FBI:

  don think so much ba, get a good slp and tml will b a better day.

  but i feel damn weird. I keep thinking about whether I should meet him tmr or not. I told him i have test to study for and he understands but i feel so uneasy inside.
  
  Oh and did I mention he messaged me and said he is very afraid of loosing me?
  I felt so touched. Cuz no one ever took me so preciously.
• FBI

  11 Dec 06, 05:10

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  but i feel damn weird. I keep thinking about whether I should meet him tmr or not. I told him i have test to study for and he understands but i feel so uneasy inside.
  
  Oh and did I mention he messaged me and said he is very afraid of loosing me?
  I felt so touched. Cuz no one ever took me so preciously.

  that means u still have something for him.
  
  but since u knew there is someone ttaking u so preciously, wats the reason for breaking
• Quinsy

  11 Dec 06, 05:13

  Originally posted by FBI:

  that means u still have something for him.
  
  but since u knew there is someone ttaking u so preciously, wats the reason for breaking

  [list=]my parents oppose of the relationship. I'm tired of hiding.
  I keep thinking there are better guys out there.
  His education is too low to secure a good financial ground in the future.
  We have very little in common.[/list]
• biteme86

  11 Dec 06, 06:51

  Old habbits die hard...
• ^tamago^

  11 Dec 06, 07:32

  old rabbits die hard...
  
  i think u shld stay with him.
• Skibi

  11 Dec 06, 07:38

  Be content with what you have. Remember the story of the chinese scholar whom the gf/wife didn't want because he was poor? When he became the top scholar the wife wanted to go back to him but he threw the milk on the ground and said theres no use crying over spilled milk.
• T.Ryousuke

  11 Dec 06, 07:56

  Nowadays very common, girl will look for guy with high pay and Education level. Which the other thread mention on what you look for in your partern, pretty gal do go for better guy, whereas for guy if they are not hard working enough they will lose out.
• Darkness_hacker99

  11 Dec 06, 08:07

  Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:

  Nowadays very common, girl will look for guy with high pay and Education level. Which the other thread mention on what you look for in your partern, pretty gal do go for better guy, whereas for guy if they are not hard working enough they will lose out.

  x2 ya lor.
• Darkness_hacker99

  11 Dec 06, 08:09

  TS, try to recall how you two know and try to think of the days when you two is happy.
• lexibabe

  11 Dec 06, 10:42

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  I told my BF today that my heart is dead and I no longer loved his as much if I do love him at all. I told him of my intentions to date other guys with a higher level of education etc.
  
  I made it clear that I wanted a break up. But he didn't want it.
  
  we passed the day as usual and didn't mention about it until late at night when i was home.
  
  He messaged me and said that he still loved me very much and wants to spend x mas with me and that no matter what he will always love me.
  
  Should I still be with him?
  
  I know I would feel pain if I really leave him. But as they say, duan tong bu ru chang tong.
  
  But I can't bear to break his heart. I keep thinking of being with him for as long as he loves me. Even though I no longer love him.

  i understand how u feel, but maybe you should give yourself more time and tell him or suggest to him that he need to go up higher in education level and to secure his future before u feel really secure. and maybe u should stop thinking of there are better guys out there cause its an endless cycle.
  love is not a passing cloud, when its there its there, willing to do everything for him or her no matter wat, feelings are jus like passing clouds when they are blow away they disappear. trust in urself and decide what is good for u and him. if u still hv something for him, stay with him and go through it. but u might want to listen to this, hving common thing in the 2 of u doesnt really draw u together at times, but its the differences that draws 2 people together and make them stay together, whats the fun when both of u are the same?
  rite?
• mistyblue

  11 Dec 06, 10:46

  how did it die?
  The process normally takes time... with symptoms...
• choco B

  11 Dec 06, 10:52

  If your heart is already closed off to him I think you should stay firm and break off cleanly. No point staying with him out of pity - if he doesn't resent this now he will later when he grows more gumption. Secondly, no point staying with someone on whom you cast lofty expectations when realistically he may never be able to fulfill - in the first place, both of you may want different things in life and for the future.
• forfun_cash

  11 Dec 06, 10:55

  Tread starter, you got the potential for this -- > http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=224692
• blu_sky

  11 Dec 06, 10:58

  TS is still so young. at that age, how many people really 'had been in love'? and even if they had been in love, for a relationship to work, it takes more than just love.
• mayday80

  11 Dec 06, 11:24

  Originally posted by blu_sky:

  TS is still so young. at that age, how many people really 'had been in love'? and even if they had been in love, for a relationship to work, it takes more than just love.

  Sometimes, the younger the age.... the truer the love, the more innocent the love... untainted by our so-called reality.
  
  Anyway to the original poster. No matter what you do, you already screwed his life somewhat. You might wanna just do a clean cut instead of dragging and destroying him more.
• BrUtUs

  11 Dec 06, 11:37

  Originally posted by Quinsy:

  I told my BF today that my heart is dead and I no longer loved his as much if I do love him at all. I told him of my intentions to date other guys with a higher level of education etc.
  
  I made it clear that I wanted a break up. But he didn't want it.
  
  we passed the day as usual and didn't mention about it until late at night when i was home.
  
  He messaged me and said that he still loved me very much and wants to spend x mas with me and that no matter what he will always love me.
  
  Should I still be with him?
  
  I know I would feel pain if I really leave him. But as they say, duan tong bu ru chang tong.
  
  But I can't bear to break his heart. I keep thinking of being with him for as long as he loves me. Even though I no longer love him.

  yo relax gal... better to end it now than to drag on further... like tat only make u n him more painful so do the right thing...
• browniebaobao

  11 Dec 06, 11:43

  I tot ur parents objected to him bcos of his qualifications?
  
  But all along u love him too right?
  
  So why the sudden change of heart?