I have lost it replied by Inexperience01 @ Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:21:33 +0800

Inexperience01 — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:21:33 +0800

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

You are so lucky still have pizza with a glass of water! Wake up boy! study hard and contribute to the society, stop pitying yourself!

I have lost it replied by setokaiba @ Wed, 18 Jun 2008 12:47:18 +0800

setokaiba — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 12:47:18 +0800

Originally posted by SBS594D:

IF I were you, if she just broke up with me, so be it. Just find another GF is possible

If things were that simple, I would not have been like this. Isnt it?

I have lost it replied by SBS594D @ Mon, 16 Jun 2008 20:57:31 +0800

SBS594D — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 20:57:31 +0800

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

IF I were you, if she just broke up with me, so be it. Just find another GF is possible

I have lost it replied by playboy_1985 @ Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:03:50 +0800

playboy_1985 — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:03:50 +0800

dear TS, care to share with us why ur gf broke up with u?

I have lost it replied by Lefti68 @ Mon, 16 Jun 2008 02:04:58 +0800

Lefti68 — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 02:04:58 +0800

Originally posted by setokaiba:

I have not really felt any better. Just living each day as it goes, its still the same for me. I had to wait till 24th June to see the psychologist.

Hope I can last till then.

你要加油!!!

I have lost it replied by MrSean @ Sun, 15 Jun 2008 23:27:14 +0800

MrSean — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 23:27:14 +0800

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi,

I am facing two things at once. My depression and my break up. Depression is causing alot of problems for me. Add in the break up with puts further pressure on my mind and heart, its really tiring.

I have never felt so tired before. I have never cried a few times in a day being an adult. I feel like a zombie now with no mood for anything.

You should not think of your depression as a problem. Depression is what you feel because of these external influences. If everything was going great in your life right now, great car, great job, great salary, sweetest girlfriend, your depression wouldn't even be present.

Depression is a disorder that makes everything even worse. Don't think of this as a main problem because without the other problems, this wouldn't be a problem at all. It's just a multiplier effect.

I know you feel sad about your breakup, was the breakup over something either of you did? If it was her fault and you initiated the breakup, have you thought about calling her up anyway? If it was your fault... I don't know not much hope for this relationship, just wait for another...

I have lost it replied by popikachu @ Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:04:23 +0800

popikachu — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:04:23 +0800

one word for you.

Endure.

I have lost it replied by setokaiba @ Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:01:07 +0800

setokaiba — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 22:01:07 +0800

Originally posted by Sumone3:

It's been 15 days, how are you feeling today? Better?

I have not really felt any better. Just living each day as it goes, its still the same for me. I had to wait till 24th June to see the psychologist.

Hope I can last till then.

I have lost it replied by MadMatrix @ Tue, 27 May 2008 12:50:13 +0800

MadMatrix — Tue, 27 May 2008 12:50:13 +0800

Originally posted by PassionInAG:

Fucking Rite! Ur lucky to have e money to chiong with a NSF pay.

lol.....buddy, money came from mum's insurance + CPF, she was 2 weeks away from collecting her CPF when she pass away........still think I'm lucky?.....lol.......but it's all good......

TS,

How now brown cow? Ready to take on life again, or still picking up e pieces? Bro, if too many pieces, why not start over with a clean slate? Look forward cause the rear view sucks,............ and suddenly,..life is worth living again.

I have lost it replied by Sumone3 @ Tue, 27 May 2008 00:17:01 +0800

Sumone3 — Tue, 27 May 2008 00:17:01 +0800

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

It's been 15 days, how are you feeling today? Better?

I have lost it replied by Q.C.Pak @ Mon, 26 May 2008 18:44:43 +0800

Q.C.Pak — Mon, 26 May 2008 18:44:43 +0800

Everyone feels down once in a moment, the impt thing is to know how to pick yourselves up.

I have lost it replied by PassionInAG @ Mon, 26 May 2008 18:39:33 +0800

PassionInAG — Mon, 26 May 2008 18:39:33 +0800

Originally posted by MadMatrix:

TS,

When I was in the SAF, 3 things happen to me,

1, Mum pass away from cancer

2, A month later later GF of 5 years broke up with me gave some stupid reason, can't rem, prop not interested at that time

3, month later best friend since 5 fell out with me

I've been hit with the suay trifacta, family love friend all gone peat tong. I could have lock myself away wallowing in self pity waiting for the world to end, or I could go out and have the time of my life.......I choose to party like no tomorrow, every nite without fail, would chong like a mad man, drank way more than i should, but, i had fun and i never look back, why should I? was having the time of my life. My family tot I went crazy, can't blame them, they expected me to be depress.....today buddy I feel bullet proof, what don't kill me can only make me stronger, fuk the world.... nothing you can throw at me that i can't handle.....smile and walk on..........

Fucking Rite! Ur lucky to have e money to chiong with a NSF pay.

I have lost it replied by PassionInAG @ Mon, 26 May 2008 18:38:54 +0800

PassionInAG — Mon, 26 May 2008 18:38:54 +0800

Originally posted by MadMatrix:

TS,

When I was in the SAF, 3 things happen to me,

1, Mum pass away from cancer

2, A month later later GF of 5 years broke up with me gave some stupid reason, can't rem, prop not interested at that time

3, month later best friend since 5 fell out with me

I've been hit with the suay trifacta, family love friend all gone peat tong. I could have lock myself away wallowing in self pity waiting for the world to end, or I could go out and have the time of my life.......I choose to party like no tomorrow, every nite without fail, would chong like a mad man, drank way more than i should, but, i had fun and i never look back, why should I? was having the time of my life. My family tot I went crazy, can't blame them, they expected me to be depress.....today buddy I feel bullet proof, what don't kill me can only make me stronger, fuk the world.... nothing you can throw at me that i can't handle.....smile and walk on..........

Fucking Rite! But at least u have e money to chiong :(

I have lost it replied by MadMatrix @ Fri, 23 May 2008 23:34:55 +0800

MadMatrix — Fri, 23 May 2008 23:34:55 +0800

TS,

When I was in the SAF, 3 things happen to me,

1, Mum pass away from cancer

2, A month later later GF of 5 years broke up with me gave some stupid reason, can't rem, prop not interested at that time

3, month later best friend since 5 fell out with me

I've been hit with the suay trifacta, family love friend all gone peat tong. I could have lock myself away wallowing in self pity waiting for the world to end, or I could go out and have the time of my life.......I choose to party like no tomorrow, every nite without fail, would chong like a mad man, drank way more than i should, but, i had fun and i never look back, why should I? was having the time of my life. My family tot I went crazy, can't blame them, they expected me to be depress.....today buddy I feel bullet proof, what don't kill me can only make me stronger, fuk the world.... nothing you can throw at me that i can't handle.....smile and walk on..........

I have lost it replied by BotaHead @ Fri, 23 May 2008 09:00:56 +0800

BotaHead — Fri, 23 May 2008 09:00:56 +0800

if u feel tired, take a longer rest then.

oh yes, one last thing. u are a man u know, this kind of blow is nothing to a man. pls dont be so girly, this is not the end of the world.

I have lost it replied by Poolman @ Fri, 23 May 2008 02:17:05 +0800

Poolman — Fri, 23 May 2008 02:17:05 +0800

Wlao , no worries pal ....... many girls still la in Spore .

I have lost it replied by Alucard101 @ Thu, 22 May 2008 03:17:05 +0800

Alucard101 — Thu, 22 May 2008 03:17:05 +0800

Only ppl with free time feels depressed.

I have lost it replied by youyayu @ Thu, 22 May 2008 00:14:17 +0800

youyayu — Thu, 22 May 2008 00:14:17 +0800

get ur self back together. orelse it will be triple.. cos u will lose ur job

I have lost it replied by XxYaNxX @ Wed, 21 May 2008 18:11:32 +0800

XxYaNxX — Wed, 21 May 2008 18:11:32 +0800

Your pain will go soon, bad things always happen,just try and move on

I have lost it replied by setokaiba @ Wed, 21 May 2008 14:41:56 +0800

setokaiba — Wed, 21 May 2008 14:41:56 +0800

Originally posted by Noughticated:

I understand what you're saying. I'm a hopeless romantic as well and I sacrifice everything for my partner. Its not easy but when you do, you feel somewhat at your best even though it leaves you high and dry. But these are the consequences, and I have no doubt nice guys do finish last.

You might be upset perhaps because you can't understand why even after all those immense sacrifices, the relationship still ended even though you thought it never could since you've been giving so much?

(Glad to know you arent taking extreme medication)

My mind is going crazy at this rate. I might just go nuts if this goes on.

I do not know what to do. Should I just give up and move on?

Should I change myself and then chase her back to show her my sincereity?

Since nice guys finish last, why bother to be one?

Yes I do not understand why? Why do people fail to see how much you have put in and be touched by it or get affected by it?

I have lost it replied by Noughticated @ Wed, 21 May 2008 14:06:59 +0800

Noughticated — Wed, 21 May 2008 14:06:59 +0800

I understand what you're saying. I'm a hopeless romantic as well and I sacrifice everything for my partner. Its not easy but when you do, you feel somewhat at your best even though it leaves you high and dry. But these are the consequences, and I have no doubt nice guys do finish last.

You might be upset perhaps because you can't understand why even after all those immense sacrifices, the relationship still ended even though you thought it never could since you've been giving so much?

(Glad to know you arent taking extreme medication)

I have lost it replied by setokaiba @ Wed, 21 May 2008 10:25:16 +0800

setokaiba — Wed, 21 May 2008 10:25:16 +0800

Originally posted by Noughticated:

In moments like this, when we should be at our strongest, inevitably we feel at our weakest. It isn't her fault that she treats you like a friend, and it isn't your fault if you misconstrued it as something more. But think about it this way, off hand, that if she were to become your girlfriend, you wouldn't be comfortable since if she could be like that to you, if she goes out with her friends and they are males, she could behave like that with them as well and send out wrong messages. What you have is freedom, choice, and a healthy bank account. The only thing standing in the way is your mind. Consider carefully if certain sacrifices are indeed worth making. Its not the easiest thing in the world, but do try.

For depression, please refrain as much as you can from taking anti-depressants. Most people do get hooked on it and rely too much on chemical solutions rather than develop a strength of their own. On the extreme, if you feel suicidal, think about why you like her and if that aspect is really worth us losing a person like you. I have no doubt you're nice.

To me, every sacrifice is worth it even if the rest of the world does not think so. Even if it does take my everything and I end up with nothing, I would still feel worth it because simply I love her.

I did not take any medicine for the past few days as I also know I did not want to rely on it. Anyway, I do not have anti-depressants to take. I only have some kind of a relaxant which helps me sleep better at night. Doesnt work as I will still wake up in the middle of the night.

I like her because she is her. She is unique and special. She loves her parents, siblings very much and is helpful. I like her for who she is.

I place myself as 2nd importance because she is 1st. But am I really doing so?

Thanks for saying I am nice but being nice is of no use because nice guys finish last and no one appreciates them the way they are. You say say its false but after what I been through, its a fact for me.

I have lost it replied by Noughticated @ Tue, 20 May 2008 14:05:11 +0800

Noughticated — Tue, 20 May 2008 14:05:11 +0800

In moments like this, when we should be at our strongest, inevitably we feel at our weakest. It isn't her fault that she treats you like a friend, and it isn't your fault if you misconstrued it as something more. But think about it this way, off hand, that if she were to become your girlfriend, you wouldn't be comfortable since if she could be like that to you, if she goes out with her friends and they are males, she could behave like that with them as well and send out wrong messages. What you have is freedom, choice, and a healthy bank account. The only thing standing in the way is your mind. Consider carefully if certain sacrifices are indeed worth making. Its not the easiest thing in the world, but do try.

For depression, please refrain as much as you can from taking anti-depressants. Most people do get hooked on it and rely too much on chemical solutions rather than develop a strength of their own. On the extreme, if you feel suicidal, think about why you like her and if that aspect is really worth us losing a person like you. I have no doubt you're nice.

I have lost it replied by rlsh07 @ Mon, 19 May 2008 20:26:23 +0800

rlsh07 — Mon, 19 May 2008 20:26:23 +0800

if u cannot healed urself , how can you expect urself to protect anyone?

I have lost it replied by setokaiba @ Mon, 19 May 2008 20:23:39 +0800

setokaiba — Mon, 19 May 2008 20:23:39 +0800

Originally posted by Lefti68:

Go IMH 2 find a psychiatrist. Now u nid therapy. If possible, take leave 2 hv a gd rest. U nid a break now.

I have an appointment at IMH at the end of the month.

I cant take leave. The work place ppl will bully her if I am not around and there will be no one to help her.

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