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• LiLmSmischief

  28 Sep 08, 21:30

  Hi there...

  I need some advice.

  I'm in relationship with M. 

  One day, M cried out about his family problems to me. I tried to comfort him. Out of sudden, he said that he needs to forget someone and he needs time.

  Since then, my trust towards him has decreased and I do not know how to react. He, on the other hand, acts like normal. Sometime, he behaves super irritating that he gets on my nerve. Even so, he does apologise and behaves like normal again.

  However, he has stopped expressing "i love you" or "i miss you" spontaneously since then. Only when I express it first, he will say it. Other then that, he is pretty quiet about it.

  I'm not sure whether I would stay or move on in this relationship.

  Frankly, I love him but I don't dare to place high hope in him.

• Detached

  28 Sep 08, 21:36

  Originally posted by LiLmSmischief:

  Hi there...

  I need some advice.

  I'm in relationship with M. 

  One day, M cried out about his family problems to me. I tried to comfort him. Out of sudden, he said that he needs to forget someone and he needs time.

  Since then, my trust towards him has decreased and I do not know how to react. He, on the other hand, acts like normal. Sometime, he behaves super irritating that he gets on my nerve. Even so, he does apologise and behaves like normal again.

  However, he has stopped expressing "i love you" or "i miss you" spontaneously since then. Only when I express it first, he will say it. Other then that, he is pretty quiet about it.

  I'm not sure whether I would stay or move on in this relationship.

  Frankly, I love him but I don't dare to place high hope in him.

  
  A rebound guy who can't even keep his emotions in check (and behave in a mature manner).

  Girl, you'd have better luck placing your money on a casino table

• deluded

  28 Sep 08, 23:19

  sigh. guys. Been through something recently and let me share my thoughts.

  Every girl likes to think of herself as "the one", but...
  
  I learn that some guys no matter how good they are as a buddy to their guy pals or how good/successful they are at work, does not equal to how good they are as a potential spouse/significant other.
  
  I have learned that some guys, no matter how much of a chemistry you feel for them and how much they declare they are into you, if they do not make plans and actions concretely to want to see you without the lure of physical touch, they are not worth your time.
  
  Guys who are unavailable (as in you cannot reach them), are as the word has already explained, unavailable.
  
  Guys who lie/mislead/are evasive/unreachable, no matter how well they can communicate with you, are not worth your time pondering over. Forget them without the need for closure and explanation. That will only eat into your precious time and energy. If he does respond, it only serves to complicate things further when you see the vicious cycle continues. Devote your time to someone who has the respect to interact timely with you.

• seotiblizzard

  29 Sep 08, 02:41

  Originally posted by deluded:

  sigh. guys. Been through something recently and let me share my thoughts.

  Every girl likes to think of herself as "the one", but...
  
  I learn that some guys no matter how good they are as a buddy to their guy pals or how good/successful they are at work, does not equal to how good they are as a potential spouse/significant other.
  
  I have learned that some guys, no matter how much of a chemistry you feel for them and how much they declare they are into you, if they do not make plans and actions concretely to want to see you without the lure of physical touch, they are not worth your time.
  
  Guys who are unavailable (as in you cannot reach them), are as the word has already explained, unavailable.
  
  Guys who lie/mislead/are evasive/unreachable, no matter how well they can communicate with you, are not worth your time pondering over. Forget them without the need for closure and explanation. That will only eat into your precious time and energy. If he does respond, it only serves to complicate things further when you see the vicious cycle continues. Devote your time to someone who has the respect to interact timely with you.

  
  It works both ways.

• wonderamazement

  29 Sep 08, 02:44

  give both yourself some time apart lo... he needs to forget someone, is that someone his ex or something?

• parn

  29 Sep 08, 07:20

  Originally posted by LiLmSmischief:

  Hi there...

  I need some advice.

  I'm in relationship with M. 

  One day, M cried out about his family problems to me. I tried to comfort him. Out of sudden, he said that he needs to forget someone and he needs time.

  Since then, my trust towards him has decreased and I do not know how to react. He, on the other hand, acts like normal. Sometime, he behaves super irritating that he gets on my nerve. Even so, he does apologise and behaves like normal again.

  However, he has stopped expressing "i love you" or "i miss you" spontaneously since then. Only when I express it first, he will say it. Other then that, he is pretty quiet about it.

  I'm not sure whether I would stay or move on in this relationship.

  Frankly, I love him but I don't dare to place high hope in him.

  
  How long was the relationship with M?

  Who is the someone he's trying to forget?

  In what ways was he super irritating?

  What caused you to lose your trust in him especially after he had confided his probems to you?

  Are you M?

• LiLmSmischief

  2 Oct 08, 20:11

  To Wonderamazement: i'm not sure. I wasnt given a chance to ask him.

  to parn: almost 1/2 year. He always gets on my nerve and because he didn't brought it up at the first plance. I'm not M. he is my bf =)

   

• Detached

  2 Oct 08, 20:15

  Has the issues been resolved?

• hiphop2009

  2 Oct 08, 20:21

  the someone might not necessary means you.

  he is probably trying hard to cope with his problems.

• Ferret

  2 Oct 08, 20:22

  Originally posted by Detached:

  
  A rebound guy who can't even keep his emotions in check (and behave in a mature manner).

  Girl, you'd have better luck placing your money on a casino table

  x2 

• cherrycola

  3 Oct 08, 02:20

  Originally posted by deluded:

  sigh. guys. Been through something recently and let me share my thoughts.

  Every girl likes to think of herself as "the one", but...
  
  I learn that some guys no matter how good they are as a buddy to their guy pals or how good/successful they are at work, does not equal to how good they are as a potential spouse/significant other.
  
  I have learned that some guys, no matter how much of a chemistry you feel for them and how much they declare they are into you, if they do not make plans and actions concretely to want to see you without the lure of physical touch, they are not worth your time.
  
  Guys who are unavailable (as in you cannot reach them), are as the word has already explained, unavailable.
  
  Guys who lie/mislead/are evasive/unreachable, no matter how well they can communicate with you, are not worth your time pondering over. Forget them without the need for closure and explanation. That will only eat into your precious time and energy. If he does respond, it only serves to complicate things further when you see the vicious cycle continues. Devote your time to someone who has the respect to interact timely with you.

  Well said!

• Sakuraflower

  3 Oct 08, 02:25

  Then pls dun place high hope on him... Because it will make you sad...

  continue go steady with him until he reject u or u dun love/like him anymore..

   

  But keep a lookout of more suitable people... U are still young!

   

  Jia you!

• xoxbox

  28 Oct 08, 15:52

  Originally posted by LiLmSmischief:

  Hi there...

  I need some advice.

  I'm in relationship with M. 

  One day, M cried out about his family problems to me. I tried to comfort him. Out of sudden, he said that he needs to forget someone and he needs time.

  Since then, my trust towards him has decreased and I do not know how to react. He, on the other hand, acts like normal. Sometime, he behaves super irritating that he gets on my nerve. Even so, he does apologise and behaves like normal again.

  However, he has stopped expressing "i love you" or "i miss you" spontaneously since then. Only when I express it first, he will say it. Other then that, he is pretty quiet about it.

  I'm not sure whether I would stay or move on in this relationship.

  Frankly, I love him but I don't dare to place high hope in him.

  
  Thats our gal! Maybe "M!!!" is still forgetting that person(hope its not you).. He might need emotional help lol..... Not that im hoping for it to happen but... Maybe, just maybe.. He has lost interest in you a little?

• tinuviel07

  28 Oct 08, 16:05

  Originally posted by Sakuraflower:

  Then pls dun place high hope on him... Because it will make you sad...

  continue go steady with him until he reject u or u dun love/like him anymore..

   

  But keep a lookout of more suitable people... U are still young!

   

  Jia you!

  damn sad leh tt line.. like eat finish nth to do like tt

• de_middle

  28 Oct 08, 16:12

  only 6months......how to last?