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  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • I am very frustrated and lost, I cant find solution so just need some advice.

      I met this gal 2 years ago, and fall in love at first sight, she is divorced with 2 kids.1 week into the relationship she called me one day and told me someone hack her internet banking account and took all money out, she only had 3K in it. I told her I can help if she needed some money, but at that time she mention she will manage and police is investigating and a week later she got back the money. She is willing to come out with me for meals  and treated me well, but at times she would start behave indifferent and start a quarel with no much reasons , and dissappear for few hours, even HP off.She told me she is doing part time work on every tue and thus after office as makeup artist.I belived what she said, but soon i realize she dont pick up calls during her part time. One day she told me need to stay back untill 10 pm in office  to work, but her office would be locked by 7 pm,i went to fetch her and wait nearby,  I saw a taxi coming in and going in same direction of her office gate. She would always complain that I dont understand the difficulties she going through. Couple of months into the relationship she asked me if I can help her with 30K loan as she want to take over the flat and need to pay to ex hubby to take over the flat. I didnt give the money. But after that 1 night i gave her 500 dollars, and she treated me so well.  I did belive initially about her part time, but she would always chicken out if I ask where is your part time work place. She would often take half days and some times  dont reply my calls. I got more frustrated, one day she plan to take half day to go for seminar, that night I couldnt take it and look for PI. When i was driving to PI place, she msg me if I really love her? I replied I do love me, next day I told her I would send you to your seminar , and PI followed me, I could see she keep looking in side mirror of my car. Later I found out she downloaded some spy software into my HP and can listen to all my conversations/msg. I was frustrated how come she knows everything I do. One day she took another half day to go HDB office, I send the PI, she manage to find out , and told me her hubby is sending her home as he was at HDB office too. But PI told me, she was alone there and he just came and pick her up.I wnet ballastic, and even more frustrated.

      We went for trip to NZ, i gave her 1K NZ dollar to keep, when we reached NZ, she told me she misplace  the money I gave her. I said never mind I have some money with me. As time passed by I grew more suspicious of her behaviour, I even confided to my ex gf, who is now good freind of mine. She ask me to be careful. One day I ask her, how much do you earn from your part time, she told me 500, I told her i will give you same money ,please stop your part time.  In order to help her I even start giving her 1K. One day we had quarel and she told me she need meet up with her ex boss  to discuss something as he is starting some business. We went to changi airport and she spoke to him for 2 hours, i was at some distance. Later she told me she need to work part time for him every sat  morning for 2 hours at his housee. He is Japanese and in late 50's and stay alone here. I was frustrated and told her not to go, even had major quarel. During the quarel she  mention ,he is more dependable. During the quare she told, her boss even agree for once a week. While I am writing this she is at his house and I am really frustrated. I thought if I pay 1K every month to her,she would stop going to his house but she still going to his house. She told me he pays her 500 dollars, and after I start paying her 1K, she told me he going to increase her pay. When i relate everything that happened in past all relates well for her disspperance for few hours every sat morning and sometimes in evening. I am very sure she is sleeping with him for money and maybe security for future. I love her very much , but I cant accept her sleeping with another man. While I am writing ,she is at his place, you can imagine the pain I am going through. This Boss was with her for 15 years. She is working as manager and earns 4K per month, I am willing to support her but she trusts her ex boss more than me. Please advice me, I need to break her from this Japanese men.

  • TehJarVu's Avatar
    118,819 posts since Dec '03
    • sleeping around for money, worth loving mah?
      u mean u must keep increasing the 1K so she will be exclusively sleeping with u???

      u need to break her from this Japanese man or issit u need to break away from her or any such type of girls?

       

  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • Her mother is gambler. She had paid for alot of debts for her in the past. Even before this CNY her mum dissappear for few days, and she was furious and have not spoken to her mum till today.

  • Kutter's Avatar
    312 posts since Apr '09
    • Perhaps it is time to get over this relationship and move on in life.

      Imagine if the 2 of you are married later on in life, she would still do it behind your back. Later on divorce again. I personally do not see a reason to go on in this relationship.

      Keep your cool and think carefully before you regret it.

      Hope that helps.

  • TTFU's Avatar
    6,124 posts since Mar '10
    • Please dont be blinded by love or crush to her.

      So obvious she is treating you like a ATM machine. No offence but such a complicated girl..... After you stop feeding her with money she will find another man to suck more money. Is this really the relationship you want ? Just ask yourself this.

      And sleeping with another man...... Do i need to explain more ? Just fk her for one last time and free yourself from this girl

  • Day Dreamer's Avatar
    283 posts since Jul '09
  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • She is still paying 1K per month for credit card loan she has taken to pay some debts. When i spoke to her about  this part time few months back  and that it really hurts me sending her there, she told me along the way she would tell everything. I am willing to help her, but atleast she must be sincere to me.

  • Kutter's Avatar
    312 posts since Apr '09
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    653 posts since Jan '11
  • Arapahoe's Avatar
    7,075 posts since Jan '07
  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • She is not sincere to me.

      But she shows alot of care and love to me . Even helped me in past with my personal  problem in my office. Maybe i am blinded by her love. I did tried to break up few weeks back, but ended up again with her.

  • BadzMaro's Avatar
    33,748 posts since Apr '04
    • " During the quarel she  mention ,he is more dependable."

      Seriously.. think hard and long what do u love about her. Or perhaps like about her.

      Ask yourself this.. Is The Juice... Worth The Squuuuueeeeeze ?

      Trust ur ex-'s instincts. :P cause they know how weak you are too. lol

  • angel7030's Avatar
    30,628 posts since Jul '07
    • Originally posted by Arapahoe:

      i think u should move on. Find another hole.....


      no, if u talking about another hole, he can still find it in her, why need to move to another one??? siao

    • It is classic middle class love affair here, why stupid man like to spend their love on spent woman, i really dunno, so many new and young virgin around.

  • Kutter's Avatar
    312 posts since Apr '09
    • Originally posted by Goog2great:

      She is not sincere to me.

      But she shows alot of care and love to me . Even helped me in past with my personal  problem in my office. Maybe i am blinded by her love. I did tried to break up few weeks back, but ended up again with her.

      If you are blinded, you shou open your eyes by now.

      the reason for all her love and care is your $$, not you. C'mon! Get over it...............

  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • funny part is she would not accept money so easily, but will finally take it...........

      she is need of money but will not ask for it from me after she know I try to get PI. But I did it as i want to find out the truth. Its not the hole, I can easily get women at any time, but I love her and this Japanese guy using her but dont love her. If there is a man who loves her and willing to take care of her, I will let go of her.

       

  • Hwaimeng's Avatar
    1,059 posts since Apr '08
  • BadzMaro's Avatar
    33,748 posts since Apr '04
    • She doesnt accept money because she doesnt want to show it ma. Women are extremely smart man. 

      Maybe u should considerletting her go. The juice in this case, is obviously not worth the squeeze. Obviously she admitted that the Jap old man is more dependable.How do you know he is using her ?

       

       

  • angel7030's Avatar
    30,628 posts since Jul '07
    • well, pardon me, from the perspective of a female here,  maybe the jap old man can give her better satisfaction then you. You know jap are good in doing that, on the other hands, the jap do not attach any string to here, let her free, come and go as she wish, for you, you controlled her, which she might not feel comfortable, just like me, i dun like to be in control, and worst, using money to control is typically an investment, not love ya

    • Originally posted by Hwaimeng:

      if you marry her

      the next post might be

      My "Wife" sleep with other man


      Then the next post might be..

      I murdered "MY Wife" for sleeping with other man

  • TehJarVu's Avatar
    118,819 posts since Dec '03
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    653 posts since Jan '11
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    30,628 posts since Jul '07
  • Goog2great's Avatar
    15 posts since Jan '11
    • 2 of my ex gf told me i am good in bed. I am not boasting, lets dont go there.
      Fundamental point is that men is richer, old. I have ex who is willing to sleep anytime, but it not what i want. He was her ex MD , maybe 25 k a month, he is old and alone here. She is attractive women, she can better men. I am in love with her and geninue want to help her. This men dont even bring her out, scared people will see them.she deny any relationship with this man, i am not able to prove it, PI cant go inside his house. I am only asking is there a way to break her from this oldman

  • Lovecoach's Avatar
    23 posts since Feb '11
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