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  • Borderline syndr's Avatar
    3 posts since Aug '12
    • I met this girl i was interested in. So i asked her out, she agreed, she was 30 min late. We had a one hour conversation until she had to leave to pick up her sister somewhere. I pick up the tab $70.

      Then I ask her out again, she agreed, she was 30 min late again. We makan at some place, I pick up tab again - $60.

      Third time, hoping its a charmer, I ask her out for movies. At first I text her on wednesday to ask her if she is free on saturday. She answered me 5 hours later to tell me she get back to me on the same day. Check my Iphone on same day, no answer.

      Then on thursday, text her again to remind her about it, she never answered. Today friday, still no answer.

      Is she stalling me? Wonder if she is interested or not?

      I ask one friend for advice - he tell me to forget it maybe she has other guys in mind, and not to call her as that may be perceived stalker.

      Ask another friend for advice - he tell me to call her to pursue her. Make her feel good.

      So what is your take on this? Feel sad she hasn't replied after two days.

       

      Edited by Borderline syndr 10 Aug `12, 10:18AM
    • She just replied me to tell me that she's doing some house cleaning. Could not reply me for two days because busy.

      Then she said she isn't free for this weekend.

      I somehow doubt her authenticity, she really took a long time to reply, that gives her a chance to think of what to make up "stories". But I wanna move on, I also met another girl whom I more interested. The other girl at least when we go out, we go dutch. Rare attribute in a singaporean girl.  

      So, I am wondering if she's really stalling me? She got other dates?

      You see, we met on a social dating place.

      Should I continue to pursue her?

      Edited by Borderline syndr 10 Aug `12, 10:18AM
  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by Borderline syndr:

      She just replied me to tell me that she's doing some house cleaning. Could not reply me for two days because busy.

      Then she said she isn't free for this weekend.

      I somehow doubt her authenticity, she really took a long time to reply, that gives her a chance to think of what to make up "stories". But I wanna move on, I also met another girl whom I more interested. The other girl at least when we go out, we go dutch. Rare attribute in a singaporean girl.  

      So, I am wondering if she's really stalling me? She got other dates?

      You see, we met on a social dating place.

      Should I continue to pursue her?

      She isn't interested in you. Using you to pay for free meals.

      She is also dating other guys. U are not the only fish in the ocean. She haven't outright reject u yet, because u got on her spare tire list.

      If she can't find something better, she may call u up again.

       

      Your other girl go Dutch because she is cautious. At least she is not a shameless user like the previous one. But second date onwards u should offer to pay. Or at least send her home on your dime. 

       

  • GhostStalker's Avatar
    306 posts since Feb '05
  • novelltie's Avatar
    621 posts since Jul '08
    • first gal? move on, she’s not interested… humans are like this; if they like someone, they will check their phone like every few minutes to see if the person got text or call…

      why i know? because i were where you are now… life experience; listen to those who been there, done that.

      PS: before i marry my wife she check her phone minimum every 30 minutes. now, wait long long then reply… sigh…

  • Facebook102's Avatar
    17 posts since Aug '12
    • Man I love this forum! Especially this section, Aunt Agony!

      Alright bro! I experienced what you just had. Your answer is "MOVE ON!"

      Don't ask why. You farked up!. PERIOD. GG ADY! Btw, I don't text. I call.. 

      Maybe you could share us the details what kind of convo you just had with her. There must be something wrong in the convo which turned her off. Then, there must be some room for the improvement for future references. You know.. noone is bound to be perfect scorer. 

      Btw, you never reminded her about the date!!! If she is interested in you, no reminder is needed. She will answer you very fast. Btw, 30 mins late is alright. My ex used to tell me to be 2 hrs late because she needed to make up. You know... girls need to look good infront of you. 

      But guys, you should never be late. It's a death penalty. Don't ask why. That's how the women play the game. 

      Anyway, I know how you feel. So shitty. Just think of her a typical Biatch. You will move on. Tho think of a girl that way makes you a loser. Well... that's how I moved on.

      Peace! :)

      $70 and $60? lol.. thats part of investment. It's some sort of business. It's alright. Money can be made back. But, experience is priceless. Anyway, money is a big issue to you. I would suggest you not to date because girls cost you money and time. =/

      Your call... 

  • troublemaker2005's Avatar
    8,443 posts since Dec '05
    • i also invited angel to photoshoot outdoors at ECP. then she said she wants go indoors so bring her at hotel. behind closed doors she posed provocatively after that she ignore me for weeks.

  • Borderline syndr's Avatar
    3 posts since Aug '12
    • Hey guys and girls,

      New update. I am feeling I just want to shoot her but make it into a light joke.

      What if I say I want to help with her house cleaning? Offer to help her move furniture?

      See whats her reaction.

      But maybe after saying that, she probably won't consider me again..haha.

       

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by Borderline syndr:

      Hey guys and girls,

      New update. I am feeling I just want to shoot her but make it into a light joke.

      What if I say I want to help with her house cleaning? Offer to help her move furniture?

      See whats her reaction.

      But maybe after saying that, she probably won't consider me again..haha.

       

      I hope you are not bi polar.

      One moment u want to shoot her, the next you want to be her slave. Can u please make up your mind ?

      No woman will deny herself attention from a man. Accepting attention does not means she will reciprocate his intention. 

      A girl who likes a guy will return the attention. You have done some, let her do some. That's a relationship- two way street. 

      You are making it a one way street, you 'll go straight into hotel Desperado.

       

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    FireIce's Avatar
    264,489 posts since Dec '99
  • Facebook102's Avatar
    17 posts since Aug '12
    • Originally posted by Borderline syndr:

      Hey guys and girls,

      New update. I am feeling I just want to shoot her but make it into a light joke.

      What if I say I want to help with her house cleaning? Offer to help her move furniture?

      See whats her reaction.

      But maybe after saying that, she probably won't consider me again..haha.

       

      Won't work buddy. Leave her alone. 

      I had an experience like you did. We had been texting for awhile due to long distance. As for the reason, I often don't make phone calls. We had done few video calls. Anyway, it was just all of sudden that she turned cold. She never texted me when I did not text her. I only got replies when I texted first. So, I moved on just like you (I'm not sure if you do). I just did not text her anymore. 

      I got texts from her one day without texting her first. She was just asking my help. 

      Technical stuff. I'm sorta geek you know. I can solve technical issues just asking me thru texting. Anyway, it's just friend. I did what I could do for a friend's favor. 

      Problem was solved. I said to her, "you are welcome." She replied, "Lol, I have not said thank you." I said, "Lawl, that is cool." I also made a joke, "thank you for your time." She was so offended right after I said that.

      LOL.

      She then never texted me if I did not text first. Never asked how I was doing.

      It's cool. I move on. :)

       

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    Yunhaier's Avatar
    7,753 posts since Apr '01
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      so u are saying like........ u spent money and there is no ROI?

      Seriously... icon_lol.gif

  • angel7030's Avatar
    30,628 posts since Jul '07
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      so u are saying like........ u spent money and there is no ROI?


      What return on investment?? We are specialist, an hour of consultation and being with a good looking girl like me is worthly of that $70 or pathetic $60, you go specialised doctor is more than that you know.

      TS should appreciate the time she spent with you, paid your fees, in fact, only half of it, you book a girl at my place for an hour is much more than that ok.

    • Originally posted by troublemaker2005:

      i also invited angel to photoshoot outdoors at ECP. then she said she wants go indoors so bring her at hotel. behind closed doors she posed provocatively after that she ignore me for weeks.


      Shoot shoot, shoot your head lah!!!

    • Oops, sorry, and as for interest, as a girl, let me tell you the truth, nothing but the truth, she is not interested.

  • troublemaker2005's Avatar
    8,443 posts since Dec '05
    • Originally posted by angel7030:


      Shoot shoot, shoot your head lah!!!


      don;t so fierce okay. next time no men wants you onlyi photoshoot you k icon_lol.gif

  • kengkia's Avatar
    6,447 posts since Aug '04
    • angel think that troublemaker wanna shoot her with his male syrup. it's just a misunderstanding icon_lol.gif

  • motoway's Avatar
    9,766 posts since Dec '05
  • angel7030's Avatar
    30,628 posts since Jul '07
    • Finally, a sound comment, that is how I get free meals,  but she is not up to my standard, mine can cost a guy few hundreds for meal, no chop now, when to chop, order this and that, if cannot finish, ask the captain to Pao up, I take home slowly eat, abalone, pepper crabs, fresh oyster, pinot Noir wine, tenderloin steak...yummy!

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