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    FireIce's Avatar
    264,002 posts since Dec '99
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  • AhBeng2's Avatar
    9 posts since Oct '12
    • we should mind our own biz and let nature takes its course. its everyone's own karma. u think u doing her a favor? then you should also prepare to help her reconstruct d after effect.

      bear in mind the consequences if you tell her.... you need then to be her witness.

      send her an anonymous note....seems harmless......better include a picture to convince....

      we dun really know the reason for many things.... I know some married couple very sexily crazy about each other still in their 40s/50s...

  • Cbblp's Avatar
    18 posts since Nov '12
    • U shud Let other ppl handle their own affairs as this issue is very sensitive. By telling her u may spark a confrontation which could lead to worse things. Have seen couple fighting till one injured or even dead. Maybe he would wait for the right time to tell her, it wud be much less painful than finding it out herself and getting him to admit.

  • mrwonderful's Avatar
    777 posts since Sep '05
    • i know some people like this.

      alot of assholes out there. best is not to be friends with them anymore.

      why you still hanging out with these kind of people?

  • Uraniumfish's Avatar
    1,972 posts since Mar '08
    • Dont anyhow send anonymous mail, otherwise you will have a desperate housewifves typeof situation. 

  • mr music's Avatar
    255 posts since Mar '12
  • Uraniumfish's Avatar
    1,972 posts since Mar '08
    • Originally posted by mr music:

      Just tell her lah…why everyone so 婆婆妈妈?

      why everyone so ching ching chong chong? i've been asking that a lot lately.

  • mr music's Avatar
    255 posts since Mar '12
    • Originally posted by Uraniumfish:

      why everyone so ching ching chong chong? i've been asking that a lot lately.


      May I know what is ching ching chong chong?

  • Summer hill's Avatar
    6,640 posts since Dec '11
    • take a recording and show it to ur friend.

      it's evidence, so that your friend can bash up her husband and take 70% of his assets.

  • Domdom_wassup's Avatar
    30 posts since Sep '12
    • Originally posted by Summer hill:

      take a recording and show it to ur friend.

      it's evidence, so that your friend can bash up her husband and take 70% of his assets.

      Agree. Some guys just deserve it. But there are nice guys out there too. If you think u are helping her then go ahead but must have evidence, if not its all a waste of time.

  • SgSling's Avatar
    6 posts since Nov '12
    • Hi,

      It's very hard to be in your position as you never know how it's going to turn out for you. Even if she is not mad at you she might be embarrassed by the situation and decide not to see you anymore...

      First, try to get some evidence. Then, why don't you try to ask your friend directly by mentioning another case or celebrity case? I had a neighbor who was cheating on his wife... luckily I was not friend with the woman. But I had a close friend in my condo and talking about that we agreed if we would notice anything suspicious about our husbands we will let each other know. I definitely want to know but some women don't... Try to find out. If she says she would like to know then wait for a few days, invite her for lunch, show your evidences and try to comfort her...

      Good luck!

  • Discord's Avatar
    36 posts since Nov '12
    • I think you should tell her the hurt will only increase if she finds out later...better for her to know the truth...

  • crazyheart's Avatar
    14 posts since Oct '12
    • Originally posted by Anonymouswoman1970:

      My friend has been married for almost 10 years. During the whole marriage he has been cheating on her both in and out of Singapore. This time he's with another girl that I know and they have been together for more than a year. They always talk about the future (having babies, etc) in front of me, and he even said he would leave his wife for her in about one year! I feel very bad for his wife. But I read a lot of forums regarding this topic and they said the messenger is the one who will get into trouble but I really cannot put up with this!! Any suggestions on what to do? Help please!!

      Gather evidence first (photos?) then just send an anonymous email? But you need to consider how the wife would react in such a painful situation. Would she be capable of handling such a shock? Consider this so you may figure out the most proper way in letting her know, let all out at one go or little by little give her some hints.

      Cheers

  • Uraniumfish's Avatar
    1,972 posts since Mar '08
  • hahagirl's Avatar
    59 posts since Nov '12
    • Originally posted by Anonymouswoman1970:

      My friend has been married for almost 10 years. During the whole marriage he has been cheating on her both in and out of Singapore. This time he's with another girl that I know and they have been together for more than a year. They always talk about the future (having babies, etc) in front of me, and he even said he would leave his wife for her in about one year! I feel very bad for his wife. But I read a lot of forums regarding this topic and they said the messenger is the one who will get into trouble but I really cannot put up with this!! Any suggestions on what to do? Help please!!

      i think you shld drop hints to ur friend...like talking abt affair stories to her. otherwise u shld stay away and not tell her. 

  • JelloPoop's Avatar
    281 posts since Apr '12
    • Any kids? tell before its too late...  Make sure you have evidence.....Solid ones before you tell...you dont want the husband to turn the tables on you right so cover your own ass first?....

      Edited by JelloPoop 18 Nov `12, 12:48AM
  • LOLx99999's Avatar
    15 posts since Feb '13
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      u sure the wife doesn't know?

      or maybe the wife oso having a good time with a young guy...........

      Wah how u know? Sht my secret is out

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