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  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
    • Normally do gals get turn off if i tell them? I do not look that ugly infact quite attractive just that i don't play with girl's feeling if i am not interested in them, so i am considered abnormal?

       

  • Queen of sgForums
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    FireIce's Avatar
    261,993 posts since Dec '99
    • u are fine.

       

       

      though i would like to verify the "quite attractive"

      Edited by FireIce 18 Jun `14, 7:43PM
  • ArJoe's Avatar
    877 posts since Nov '13
  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      u are fine.

       

       

      though i would like to verify the "quite attractive"

      Thank you!  why i say "quite attractive" is because girls ( i mean decent looking ones) do approach me and confess before.^^  

    • Originally posted by ArJoe:

      You got take the initative to chase girls anot?

      Got, but there is this girl i like n she always appear to be like so busy when I tried ask her out. is she trying to play hard to get or how else could I explain the look of excitement when she sees me in class?? normally, i can sense if a girl likes me but now i felt so confused men?Maybe i am too optimistic abt the part that she likes me as I think she could tell i am interested in her but perhaps she does not want lose our friendship or reject me? it has been awhile ever since i started to have feelings for someone.

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • Got girl confessed, you rejected. Now you complain nobody wants you.

      What you want, you cannot get. So you feel dejected.

      karma. 

      Don't define your self worth base on past conquest. 

      Everything happens for a reason. She is not yours to take.

  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
    • Originally posted by jojobeach:

      Got girl confessed, you rejected. Now you complain nobody wants you.

      What you want, you cannot get. So you feel dejected.

      karma. 

      Don't define your self worth base on past conquest. 

      Everything happens for a reason. She is not yours to take.

      I can't simply just like any girls that confessed to me right? moreover, she has so many suitors definitely there are better calibre guys than me.I think karma will find it's way to me if i don't like the girl and yet play around with her instead.The girl i like may look kinda plain jane but i have developed a strange feelings towards her like for e.g.keep thinking abt her when idling & somehow I tried to convince myself it is just momentarily & i will forget her soon) 

      There were never any conquest to begin with as I never intended to attract wrong girls and then rejects them( infact i distance myself miles away). I know I can't force someone to like me but seem like history is always repeating itself and I can't attract the girl i like instead- probably is karma but what did i do wrong?

       

  • Queen of sgForums
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    FireIce's Avatar
    261,993 posts since Dec '99
    • maybe u shd not be announcing to everyone u are virgin 

      let them, i mean, her, find out for herself when the time is rite

  • sgdiehard's Avatar
    5,269 posts since Jul '04
    • Originally posted by panadolmax:

      I can't simply just like any girls that confessed to me right? moreover, she has so many suitors definitely there are better calibre guys than me.I think karma will find it's way to me if i don't like the girl and yet play around with her instead.The girl i like may look kinda plain jane but i have developed a strange feelings towards her like for e.g.keep thinking abt her when idling & somehow I tried to convince myself it is just momentarily & i will forget her soon) 

      There were never any conquest to begin with as I never intended to attract wrong girls and then rejects them( infact i distance myself miles away). I know I can't force someone to like me but seem like history is always repeating itself and I can't attract the girl i like instead- probably is karma but what did i do wrong?

       

      you think you are "in fact quite attractive", you "can sense if a girl likes me" but the girl you like " look kinda plain jane". take a look outside of your ego, and don't worry about karma...

  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
    • Originally posted by sgdiehard:

      you think you are "in fact quite attractive", you "can sense if a girl likes me" but the girl you like " look kinda plain jane". take a look outside of your ego, and don't worry about karma...

      Yes I agree my main problem is my ego I need deflate this terrible ego problem I have, As well as the element of fear in me that is feeding it. I need to be even humble and  abandon all these thoughts, I need to deflate this  bloody ego of mine or crush it first before realizing my real true qualities to attract these lady I like instead.  Maybe because of that I am behaving like a douche n I will take it as a lesson. Thanks people!

  • razorlala's Avatar
    14 posts since Jun '14
    • Just hope whoever you are chasing doesn't need to take panadol Max on a regular basis   :P

  • Jessicanaylor47's Avatar
    1 post since Jun '14
  • Bio-Hawk's Avatar
    1,009 posts since May '10
    • If you are a looser, it's only because you allow such stupid thoughts in to your mind. Better be a virgin than fuck a bitch and get AIDS or even worse parent her child for rest of your life.

  • Dlmfnr's Avatar
    4 posts since Jul '14
    • I agree with Bio-Hawk! Don't rush things! If you don't get a boner, then don't do it! Simple as that!

  • Fongqinxuan's Avatar
    10 posts since Jul '14
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    23 posts since Jul '14
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    9 posts since Apr '14
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    9 posts since Jul '14
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    10 posts since Jul '14
  • Genesix32's Avatar
    8 posts since Aug '14
    • Try to test water first? then be more aggresive in chasing the girl if she is receptive? Some girls needs a stronger push than others shade.png

  • Hear-me-out's Avatar
    9 posts since Aug '14
  • Jerjer4's Avatar
    1 post since Oct '14
    • Wow you are a rare one! Don't do it just because it's the 'norm', but do it because you love the girl and you believed that you have found the right one!

  • Freeonefiveone's Avatar
    10 posts since Oct '14
    • Hmm.. And what is exactly wrong with being a virgin?

      No girl want you so? 

      There are some ppl who are fine with that.

      I read this from somewhere but I cannot verify if it is true but I will quote

      " ppl who don't have gf and NOT desperate for GF, will get a GF "

  • Akaroudo's Avatar
    14 posts since Oct '14
  • The Modern Gentleman's Avatar
    9 posts since Oct '14
    • Greetings PanadolMax,

      Lets just say i understand how you feel.

      Firstly, you need to get out of your own head. Often, the solution is as simple as a 5 minute sitting meditation everyday. You'll start to see things more clearly. 

      A 25 year old virgin isnt a big deal. It is only a big deal because you think it is a big deal. I'm pretty sure there will be girls who appreciate the fact that you waited for the right one before deciding to be intimate. 

      Secondly, stop thinking you're attractive. If your confidence stems from the thought that you're attractive or past instances where girls confess to you that you're attractive, then my friend, that is not true confidence. That kind of confidence is so easily shaken.

      Do note that most physically attractive people are insecure because their very foundation of confidence is bulit on the fact that they are good looking. And lets just say you cannot always look good all the time and there will always be someone better looking than you.  

      True confidence comes from within. You will neither think you're attractive or not. That is irrelevant. True confidence comes from knowing who you truly are.

      I shall leave you with this one question.

      If your life is filled with fulfillment and everyday when you wake up, you are doing what you want to do in life, would the fact that you're a 25 year old virgin still bother you? 

      P.s. As mentioned earlier, sometimes the solution is as simple as just meditating for 5 mins a day.

      Sincerely,
      The Modern Gentleman. 

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