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  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
    • Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:

      Having some backups help during the 'dry' periods. Gals do it all the time.

      Umm perhaps like go out for meals but definitely my treat as a friend, will tell her nicely to avoid seeming like me leading her on. I am still amateur stage in dating; btw really grateful for your insight becos I also dunno girl will do such thing.

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    31,782 posts since Mar '05
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    9 posts since Aug '14
  • Dchua1969's Avatar
    7 posts since Aug '14
    • @pandalomax

      hi, i'm new here and would like to share with you some thoughts of mine. 

      3 things you can do :

      1. Try it out

      2. Throw it out

      3. Think about it

      Change your nickname to say, happymax , hooraymax - whatever you like 

      when you have a headache, you think of .............dol 

      That is the power of advertisment ,it has a subliminal effect on our brains. That means, the more you use it , the better you remember it (like a habit )

      I remembered listening to a good audio sometime back about a coach asking his guest speaker who trains on memory and asked him - how long do you take to remember something? His reply was : Until  I choose to forget it

      In short, all of us have excellent memory , maybe some weaker but not bad memory like most of us think. 

      To get out of where you are now is to have a clear picture of where you want to go. Do you know where you are going ?

      If you do not have clarity on your destination, then naturally you would circle where you are right now and start to view things less objectively. You would have magnify your circumstances bigger than the possible solutions. 

      When that happens, you start to ask , why me? How come? Listen to love songs about break-up , etc (all these activities reinforce what you think about). 

      Blessings

      Sincerely, give your blessings to your ex- gf. This is one of the hardest for most of my clients. I know it hurts and all sorts of emotions surface up when a break up happens. It takes time but this has to be done.

      Clients who do not listen came back to me on a relationship rebound because they were still living in the past "shadow" without properly letting it go.

      Dateline

      Like your exams and homework, you have a dateline to submit , regardless of you do it at the eleventh hour or not. Set that date for yourself - by xx/xx/2014. Your thoughts, words and actions must be aligned.

      That means no more thinking, talking and enacting your previous behavior (example :when out with friends and you passed by a place you and her spent time with - and you said : You know, xx and I used to come here , and we do this............do that ........and you started smiling, recalling the nice memories )

      Nothing wrong with that as each relationship gives us that but you gotta retain the memories as that and move on in real life. The media and movies would tell you otherwise , haha.

      Talk to someone

      It's not true that men do not talk about relationships problem like women. That's what they do not understand us deeply, haha. This forum might be a safe and avenue for you to share your thoughts and let out your steam in a healthy way.

      I hope this helps and I think happymax sounds nice :)

      Desmond

       

       

       

       

       

  • BishyBashy's Avatar
    14 posts since Sep '14
    • go for some "me" time.

      thats when you develop as a character and attract others instead

  • OoKeNnEtHoO's Avatar
    4 posts since Sep '14
    • Get a new crush. It's probably the most efficient method.

      Anyway, if you decided you want to move on, try not to have too much unneccessary contact with her.

      Basically, don't do what you would not do if you do not have feelings for her.

  • AasonBalancer's Avatar
    19 posts since Sep '14
  • ChevroletYenko's Avatar
    4 posts since Sep '14
    • Determination.

      Life is short, why waste time of remember things that ache your heart.

      Move forward and do things that bright up your life. Date new girls, can't focus because she isn't the girl you want? Travel around the world go sight seeing. Why sight seeing? Because if you keep on pondering on just one girl. No matter where you go, you will lose out the beautiful things that just beside you. End of the day just sit down quietly at a corner, think back is it worth it...

  • panadolmax's Avatar
    35 posts since Jun '14
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    488 posts since Jul '14
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    135 posts since Nov '14
  • FocusGroup's Avatar
    10 posts since Dec '14
    • Time will heal the pain. In the meantime, find a hobby or meet up with your friends to turn your attention away 

  • WongFT's Avatar
    14 posts since Dec '14
    • Jennifer Paige - Crush

      Ah, crush, ah

      I see ya blowin' me a kiss
      It doesn't take a scientist
      To understand what's going on baby
      If you see something in my eye
      Let's not over analyze
      Don't go too deep with it baby

      So let it be what it'll be
      Don't make a fuss and get crazy over you and me
      Here's what I'll do
      I'll play loose
      Not like we have a day with destiny

      It's just a little crush (crush)
      Not like I faint every time we touch
      It's just some little thing (crush)
      Not like everything I do depends on you
      Sha-la-la-la, sha-la-la-la

      It's raising my adrenaline
      You're banging on a heart of tin
      Please don't make too much of it baby
      You say the word "forevermore"
      That's not what I'm looking for
      All I can commit to is "maybe"

      So let it be what it'll be
      Don't make a fuss and get crazy over you and me
      Here's what I'll do
      I'll pay loose
      Run like we have a day with destiny

      It's just a little crush (crush)
      Not like I faint every time we touch
      It's just some little thing (crush)
      Not like everything I do depends on you
      Sha-la-la-la, sha-la-la-la

      Vanilla skies (vanilla skies)
      White picket fences in your eyes
      A vision of you and me

      It's just a little crush (crush)
      Not like I faint every time we touch
      It's just some little thing (crush)
      Not like everything I do depends on you
      Sha-la-la-la
      Not like I faint every time we touch
      It's just some little thing
      Not like everything I do depends on you
      Sha-la-la-la
      Not like I faint every time we touch
      It's just some little thing
      Not like everything I do
      Depends on you

      Edited by WongFT 17 Dec `14, 11:14PM
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