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  • p228's Avatar
    635 posts since Mar '08
    • Dear all,

      Have this problem I am facing now.. I have a girlfriend which I have known for 10 years.. We got together in 2004 and broke up in 2011.. and recently got back together. In 2013, I became best friends with one of the girls I knew. My girlfriend does not trust that it is just a platonic friendship and insists that there is something going on. Nothing I said ever gets into her. So she threw me this option, me or her?

      Is there a need for such reactions? Why can’t they co-exist? I ever tried to introduce my friend to my gf, but she didn’t want to.

      This friend of mine is just a friend and nothing else. I see her as my buddy who can share things and somebody to talk to when feeling down. Maybe I am afraid of being judged by my gf when if I tell her some stuff. I don’t know, but I really love her.

      Need some advice on what I should do? Thanks

  • chooyaochuen's Avatar
    135 posts since Nov '14
  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • How many girls you need to share your emo with?

      Your girlfriend not enough ? 

      Stop trying to justify your greedy mind.

      If that friend is better at being your shoulder to cry on, then you are with the wrong girl!

  • Queen of sgForums
    驚世駭俗醜不啦嘰 moderatress
    FireIce's Avatar
    264,247 posts since Dec '99
  • p228's Avatar
    635 posts since Mar '08
    • Hi fire,

      That won’t happen. We don’t have feelings for each other.. Plus she has a bf. We’re only bff that’s all.

  • Queen of sgForums
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    FireIce's Avatar
    264,247 posts since Dec '99
  • TehJarVu's Avatar
    117,283 posts since Dec '03
  • Queen of sgForums
    驚世駭俗醜不啦嘰 moderatress
    FireIce's Avatar
    264,247 posts since Dec '99
  • WongFT's Avatar
    14 posts since Dec '14
    • 张学友 & 郑中基

      左右为难 歌词


      左手写他 右手写着爱
      紧握的双手 模糊的悲哀
      我的决定 会有怎样的伤害
      面对着爱人和朋友
      那一个我该放开


      一边是友情 一边是爱情
      左右都不是 为难了自己
      是为你想吧 该为她想吧
      爱虽然已不可自拨
      装作不在意的你 如何面对


      右手写爱 左手写着他
      摊开的双手空虚的无奈
      我的无言 有最深沉的感慨
      最亲的朋友和女孩
      我的心一直在摇摆


      你比我适合她 她是你梦想的爱
      你幸福 我开心给你 让你 爱她 去吧

      Edited by WongFT 17 Dec `14, 10:28PM
  • TehJarVu's Avatar
    117,283 posts since Dec '03
    • England Dan and John Ford Coley

      It's Sad to Belong to Someone Else

       

      Met you on a springtime day

      You were mindin' you life
      And I was mindin mine, too

      Lady when you looked my way
      I had a strange sensation
      And, darlin' that's when I knew...

      Chorus:

      (That/Oh) it's sad to belong to someone else
      When the right one comes along,
      Yes, it's sad to belong to someone else
      When the right one comes along.

      Oh, I wake up in the night
      And I reached beside me
      Hopin' you will be there

      But instead I find someone
      Who believe in me when I said
      "I'd always care."

      Repeat Chorus

      Bridge:
      So I lived my life in a dreamworld
      For the rest of my days
      Just you and me walkin' hand in hand
      In a wishful memory
      Oh, I guess that's all
      That it would ever be.

      Wish I had a time machine
      I could make myself go back
      Until the day I was born,
      And I would live my life again
      and rearrange it so that I'll be
      Yours from now on.

    • stir ah stir~

      teeth.png

  • GHoST_18's Avatar
    24,202 posts since Jun '03
    • this kind of gf dont wan also nvm.

      marry liao will be damn jialat.

      icon_lol.gif

      Edited by GHoST_18 17 Dec `14, 11:17PM
  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • This kind of bf throw away better.

      Marry liao will go out make many many gf to share the dick with.

      very jia lat one.

  • p228's Avatar
    635 posts since Mar '08
    • @jojobeach

      I don’t know about you, but I know my bff when I was single.. so things are different. I won’t go and become bff with another girl when I am attached. I am clear about it.

  • Sinclair27's Avatar
    1 post since Dec '14
    • Do you have feeling for the other friend?

      Of course you do. I agree, you'll break up with your girl and go with your female friend.

  • ditzy's Avatar
    68,867 posts since Dec '03
    • Girlfriend, and best friend who is a girl can never co-exist together.

      The sitcom "How I met your mother." illustrates it pretty well.

  • p228's Avatar
    635 posts since Mar '08
    • Nope, no feeling.. treat her like a little sister.

      Originally posted by Sinclair27:

      Do you have feeling for the other friend?

      Of course you do. I agree, you'll break up with your girl and go with your female friend.


    • Perhaps you are right...

      Originally posted by ditzy:

      Girlfriend, and best friend who is a girl can never co-exist together.

      The sitcom "How I met your mother." illustrates it pretty well.


  • jojobeach's Avatar
    8,349 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by p228:

      Nope, no feeling.. treat her like a little sister.

       

      Since you got no feelings for her, then whats so difficult for you to let your friend go?

      Now you have a girlfriend,  then focus your attention and effort on the one that matters most lah.

      Your girlfriend is more important than your friend. 

      Your immaturity will ruin your relationship when you can't get your priorities right.

      the answer is very clear and simple. 

      You should have never put your girlfriend on the defensive. As a boyfriend you have failed her.

      perhaps your girlfriend needs to go and find a real man who knows exactly what he wants. 

       

  • SJS6638's Avatar
    5,614 posts since Nov '11
    • Either you cut off from your female friend or keep a distance from her.

      If to maintain peace with your gf is important then please make a choice to protect your relationship with your gf.

  • Hydrogen__l's Avatar
    1 post since Dec '14
  • minxzhu's Avatar
    15 posts since Dec '14
    • From a girl point of view, i wouldn't want my boyfriend to have a close relationship with another girl, especially sharing his emotions and stuffs.

      I felt that these kind of things is only best to share them with your girlfriend, she is supposed to be your bestest friend. And afterall your girlfriend is the only one who will truly be with you through up and downs.

      Just think from another angle, what if she is the one who has a close best male friend and share everything with him, even the quarrels between both of you. Won't you be as unhappy about it too? 

      However, i guess it's still up to you to think through it and decide who is more important in your life. smile.png

  • TehJarVu's Avatar
    117,283 posts since Dec '03
    • the issue now is the bestest fren is the girl fren not the gf
      so girl fren shd be his gf icon_lol.gif

  • p228's Avatar
    635 posts since Mar '08
    • Thanks! makes sense also.

      Originally posted by minxzhu:

      From a girl point of view, i wouldn't want my boyfriend to have a close relationship with another girl, especially sharing his emotions and stuffs.

      I felt that these kind of things is only best to share them with your girlfriend, she is supposed to be your bestest friend. And afterall your girlfriend is the only one who will truly be with you through up and downs.

      Just think from another angle, what if she is the one who has a close best male friend and share everything with him, even the quarrels between both of you. Won't you be as unhappy about it too? 

      However, i guess it's still up to you to think through it and decide who is more important in your life. smile.png


  • TWTim's Avatar
    1 post since Dec '14
    • It's hard to choose between two ppl close to you and I don't think it's right for your gf to make you choose but on the other hand if you really did love her you would give up your friendship. So ask yourself 'do you really love your gf so much that you would give up every friendship with a girl you have?' bc I don't think this will be the last friendship you'll have to break for her 

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