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    Yunhaier's Avatar
    7,753 posts since Apr '01
    • Break-Patch (Requested by dearest MC Embarassed )

      Arrow Both man and woman have equal share of this love vicious cycle that gradually drain and suck life out from a healthy relationship until it become baked and dry of vitae.

      CloUdiSm states: Any relationship that undergo 2 break and 1 patch is almost a goner, without sufficient rest and maturity gain in between the break.

      Arrow Relationship is like an infinite flight of stairs.

      Every relationship, be it old flame or new love, is a new beginning that starts at the very first step of the stairs. As the relationship cultivate growth, you advance up the flight of stairs. Certain issues in love will slow down this growth; this represent you walking up a flight of spiral stairs. Though slow, but you are certain that it will still bring you higher if problems was properly take care of and be enlightened.

      Of course, the easiest way to escape this spiral stairs is to leap out (break) and attempt to start all over again (patch).

      The impact of breaking is represented by how high the flight of stairs you are at before leaping off. You won't die - but the fall will wound you greatly.

      When you decide to patch again - you returned back to the very first step you took right in the beginning. If this continues, you either bleed to death from the wounds you inflict upon your love, lose all the confidence to try anymore or simply too tired to continue walking the same flight of stairs. Idea

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      Arrow Couple that hate to communicate or fail to practice good communication skills and leads to conflicts will find themselves unable to resolve this bitterness or tension within their emotional structure. A violent break is instigated and the couple's bond is severed forcefully.

      When clarify returns, they regret and seek to reconstruct this bond.

      When a break is used to 'solve' a problem - it never served its purpose.

      You merely set them aside.

      When you patch back, the issue is STILL stack at the side, but couple undergoing vicious cycle chose to ignore and push them into their subconscious. This effect is cumulative and with each new stack on top of the old issue - old issue take roots and make relationship tight and unstable.

      Each of these stacks occupies space and when too many of these stacks is around, it force love out of the picture and even if the couple wished to do something - they wouldn't know where to begin by then.

      Arrow Love is suffocated and dies like a burn-out candle - no amount of flame can rekindle them.

      P.S: Employing break to solve love issue will trigger an irrevocably relationship habit & mindset on communication and problem solving. Relationship can survive many issues, but it can only survive that couple of breaks before it is permanently shattered.

      Cheers

  • Devil1976's Avatar
    38,719 posts since May '00
    • Care for a few comments?

      Patching back into a relationship in my opinion... Is not starting from the 1st step again like what you've described in your content. Though it's often a delusion of a couple doing so... And since it's a delusion... It often won't last long enough enough for reality to break in and the 'sweet dream' to be broken... Though it can really varies as per a case by case situation...

      Like what you've mentioned in your stacking of problems in a relationship... End of the day when you're back in a relationship (patch up), you'll still have to face the problem(s) if they exist.. (depending on the nature of the problem)

      To add... Break up is a 'SOLUTION' to certain situations... Law of Devilism can prove it to you... Just that funny enough... Don't understand why people equivalent 'break ups' as a method of saving a relationship... (patch back) Which is often not the case unless it's can be HIGHLY TACTICALLY employed in a CORRECT situation... (and such situations allowing opportunty for application are rare...)

      If you want, ask for a COOL DOWN period... And such a period should usually be SHORT and VERY APPROPRIATE EMPLOYED for an optimised effect.. Anything resulting in a LONG period should have its validity unless CLEAN BREAK UP is highly a consideration.... Twisted Evil

      Regards,

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    Yunhaier's Avatar
    7,753 posts since Apr '01
    • Originally posted by Devil1976:
      Care for a few comments?

      Patching back into a relationship in my opinion... Is not starting from the 1st step again like what you've described in your content. Though it's often a delusion of a couple doing so... And since it's a delusion... It often won't last long enough enough for reality to break in and the 'sweet dream' to be broken... Though it can really varies as per a case by case situation...

      Like what you've mentioned in your stacking of problems in a relationship... End of the day when you're back in a relationship (patch up), you'll still have to face the problem(s) if they exist.. (depending on the nature of the problem)

      To add... Break up is a 'SOLUTION' to certain situations... Law of Devilism can prove it to you... Just that funny enough... Don't understand why people equivalent 'break ups' as a method of saving a relationship... (patch back) Which is often not the case unless it's can be HIGHLY TACTICALLY employed in a CORRECT situation... (and such situations allowing opportunty for application are rare...)

      If you want, ask for a COOL DOWN period... And such a period should usually be SHORT and VERY APPROPRIATE EMPLOYED for an optimised effect.. Anything resulting in a LONG period should have its validity unless CLEAN BREAK UP is highly a consideration.... Twisted Evil

      Regards,

      Maybe you would like to provide a scenario where break up serve as a 'Solution' to certain situations? Wink

      Cheers

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