Are singaporean men lousy?
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This is an issue, I have been wondering for quite some time now, and my view is this.
Singaporean men dont really have a problem, it's the whole culture and size of this country that is driving the local women away.
Imagine someone, who has sufficient money, is intelligent enough, has sufficient good looks and NONE of the asian upbringing due to environment that practically worships western values. He/She would definitely not want to live their life in a deadbeat country that encourages working till you die and paying till you die if they have a choice. Sense of partriotism, loyalty to the family are thrown out the window, along with the belief in asian family models.
Man in Asia are expected to start families AND contribute to the family that took care of them before adult hood. Women, however in most Asian countries, do not have this social responsibility on them.
For women in Singapore, to marry a singapore man, would be no different from accepting the dead beat lifestyle that singapore encourages. Which is what most people would agree , is a bullsh1t idea. Believe it or not, if you have a gf who loves Singapore, she would love most Singapore men too.
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10 March 2006, The New Paper,
SORRY, guys. Joey Swee does not quite fancy you.
In her own words, she finds Singaporean men too shallow, too domineering and too boastful.
'When the timing is right, they'll say, 'Let's go apply for a flat together!',' claimed the 29-year-old actress-compere.
She speaks from experience, of course.
Joey has had two Singaporean boyfriends - a three-year relationship in her teens and a four-year relationship that ended when she was 23 years old.
She also has many guy buddies.
And while she has had no lack of Singapore suitors, she has become more sceptical of male attention after joining Star Search in 1997.
'It's harder to make new friends because you wonder if people are trying to make use of you,' she said.
It didn't help that Joey wanted a 'hong hong lie lie ' (Mandarin for grand and spectacular) romance.
So she settled for a foreigner - Indonesian-Chinese Gani Bustan, 41.
'Some people are nice to you or give you treats because you are who you are,' she reasoned. 'But with a foreigner, all the 'privileges' I had are gone, because he doesn't have a clue who I am.'
The couple were introduced in 2003 by Joey's girlfriend, who had married Mr Gani's best pal.
Initially, they kept in touch via e-mail and instant messages.
Things got serious when Mr Gani, who runs his own finance company, started flying to Singapore for business regularly.
He proposed last December aboard a plane. They were returning from a nine-day China tour.
They had their wedding ceremony in Jakarta last month and will register their marriage here next Monday. Then they will fly to Paris in April for their honeymoon.
She said: 'He's a very genuine person and he's very caring and dotes on me.
'We're from two different countries, so we treasure what little time we have together. It's more hong hong lie lie because we're always flying to see each other.'
The jet-setting will continue during their married life, as Joey intends to continue - with her hosting and acting.
When asked how she managed to keep her 'trophy hubby' under wraps, she replied: 'Of course you cannot talk about your final catch, or else someone will come snatch him away!' -
who is joey?
and the husband's pic pls? -
xu qi. she's well-known for her materialistic. but her figure quite good!Originally posted by tiggersgd:who is joey? and the husband's pic pls? 
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singaporeans like me are v humourous and talented
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her nehs so small also got people want? probably married an indon trash worker who use to clear rubbish from my void deck every morning...
all that talk about honeymooning in paris, probably bought a cheap ticket to batam... -
er. y is this thread side tracking to become a babe forum
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To gauge whether singapore men are lousy, is to see how many lesbos couples there are in singapore.
More lesbo couples = singapore men lousy -
hmmmm ...........
nah .... I think it's just you .....
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also read as "he's rich"...Originally posted by caramon.:She said: 'He's a very genuine person and he's very caring and dotes on me.' -
indo chinese most of the time quite rich 1..
she join star search when popular say scare this n tat.. knn dun join star search la.. it's all her fear n shallowness..
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she has nv been really popular before, i'm quite surprised that she stayed on in mediacorp all these years.Originally posted by HolySniper:indo chinese most of the time quite rich 1..
she join star search when popular say scare this n tat.. knn dun join star search la.. it's all her fear n shallowness.. -
There are more Gays in SG now than Les or Butches!Originally posted by Ponders:To gauge whether singapore men are lousy, is to see how many lesbos couples there are in singapore.
More lesbo couples = singapore men lousy
SO THAT MEANS SG WOMEN IS FULL OF SH!T ??
I GUESS SO!, NO WONDER MY WIFE IS JAPANESE!!
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One cannot dictate his/her sexual preference. It manifests itself naturally. You cannot measure the degree of lousiness of male Singaporeans by the size of the lesbian population. There is no correlation at all.
However, Singaporean men are lousy in the sense that the Singapore dream no longer appeals to locals. Marrying a Singaporean male is akin being part of the viscious cycle - Woo a girl in university -> Start Working -> Marry her -> Have Kids -> Send Your Kids to school -> Retire and Work at McDonalds' -> Your kid goes to university and woo a girl .. -> the cycle repeats itself..
How are we Singaporeans going to live our lives outside the social paradigm that is so well-defined in our clinical environment?
We should all migrate! -
im sorry but anyone who drags the topic of sexuality into a topic on the quality of singapore men, obviously do not know their stuff. Doing that alone does say something of the quality of sg men.
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One possible reason is that Joey was a ah lian when she was young and has a bad reputation of mixing and sleeping around with ah bengs. knowing that singapore is such a small place and now that she has the fame of being a celebrity, she might prefer to marry to someone who is unlikely to know about her past.
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it can be only lousy if u fail to look at its strengths... and i don't think anyone is lousy with singapore women included
culture and environment tends to prioritise certain aspects and values more than others... just like how women hope men will take them for what they are, a guy who does not meet ur requirement,he's unsuitable for u and not lousy. -
dun "use one bamboo stick to turn over the whole ship of ppl"(yi gan zi da fan yi chuan ren)
if all singaporean men are lousy, then those who are married/going to marry singaporean men are stupid women cos the picked a lousy husband?
every country has nice guy and bastards, if u happen to be the type of girl that attracts bastards that only want to go to bed with u and/or cheat ur money, dun think that all men are like that. -
Going by what Joey has said in her interview, you can tell her character, so why bother with such a woman, a romance is only hong hong lie lie because of the flying? Pleaze! She isn't that great either, she is only a local celeb. How famous can she be? Good looking? err... I know plenty of girls who are better looking than her, and have more money. She should not talk so big.
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Interesting. Many don't dare to dream of breaking out of this mould of being a 'good Asian son'.Originally posted by caramon.:Man in Asia are expected to start families AND contribute to the family that took care of them before adult hood. Women, however in most Asian countries, do not have this social responsibility on them.
For women in Singapore, to marry a singapore man, would be no different from accepting the dead beat lifestyle that singapore encourages. Which is what most people would agree , is a bullsh1t idea. -
Joey Swee is such a loser for making those comments.
She marry a 41 man - can be her father age already. Why because by 41 the guy have save enough money for her to spend !!!
She should keep her big mouth shut. -
joey i must say, is deluded. all men are bad la. not just sg men
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the good ones are the ones dat own 5Cs and she considering to be gentlemen n caring.Originally posted by HENG@:joey i must say, is deluded. all men are bad la. not just sg men -
actually the good ones are the ones who don't always have their minds full of sex and always fantasize about their sexual fantasies. I think just to ask this of them is enough, never mind asking them to be gentlemanly and caring. If they even remotely show they can stop being total pervs, then we consider asking them to take it one level up, and start showing they can be caring n gentlemanlyOriginally posted by 798:the good ones are the ones dat own 5Cs and she considering to be gentlemen n caring. -
Actually, this is the countless times about singaporeans guys vs girls issue, and based on what Joey Swee has said about singaporean man, it is obvious she has a materialistic tune to her outlook in life. Hence her opinions are despised or even worthless when it was skewed to her materialistic nature.Originally posted by caramon.:This is an issue, I have been wondering for quite some time now, and my view is this.
Singaporean men dont really have a problem, it's the whole culture and size of this country that is driving the local women away.
Imagine someone, who has sufficient money, is intelligent enough, has sufficient good looks and NONE of the asian upbringing due to environment that practically worships western values. He/She would definitely not want to live their life in a deadbeat country that encourages working till you die and paying till you die if they have a choice. Sense of partriotism, loyalty to the family are thrown out the window, along with the belief in asian family models.
Man in Asia are expected to start families AND contribute to the family that took care of them before adult hood. Women, however in most Asian countries, do not have this social responsibility on them.
For women in Singapore, to marry a singapore man, would be no different from accepting the dead beat lifestyle that singapore encourages. Which is what most people would agree , is a bullsh1t idea. Believe it or not, if you have a gf who loves Singapore, she would love most Singapore men too.
What prompted me to write now however, was about Caramon saying the fault doesn't lie on singaporean men. Wow, what a refreshing comment. All these while, I've been tired of hearing about singaporean ladies blaming the local men on alot of issues, and then came out of the blue, Caramon like a superwoman in cape putting things right on prespective. Now that's worth listening to. That just puts Caramon one rung up.