Originally posted by SBS594D:

IF I were you, if she just broke up with me, so be it. Just find another GF is possible

If things were that simple, I would not have been like this. Isnt it?

 

Originally posted by Sumone3:

It's been 15 days, how are you feeling today? Better?

I have not really felt any better. Just living each day as it goes, its still the same for me. I had to wait till 24th June to see the psychologist.

Hope I can last till then.

Originally posted by Noughticated:

I understand what you're saying. I'm a hopeless romantic as well and I sacrifice everything for my partner. Its not easy but when you do, you feel somewhat at your best even though it leaves you high and dry. But these are the consequences, and I have no doubt nice guys do finish last.

You might be upset perhaps because you can't understand why even after all those immense sacrifices, the relationship still ended even though you thought it never could since you've been giving so much?

(Glad to know you arent taking extreme medication)

My mind is going crazy at this rate. I might just go nuts if this goes on.

I do not know what to do. Should I just give up and move on?

Should I change myself and then chase her back to show her my sincereity?

Since nice guys finish last, why bother to be one?

Yes I do not understand why? Why do people fail to see how much you have put in and be touched by it or get affected by it?

Originally posted by Upset gal:

Scenario :

Married guy to girl colleague - Miss you, shall we meet in some dark corner?

Questions :

1. Is this considered unfaithful to married guy's partner?

2. What if married guy "has not done anything"?

3. Can a 3rd party reading this take it to mean as a tease?

It depends on how you see it.

It can be taken as a sign of unfaithfulness as the married guy should not even say the words Miss you. This is misleading.

It could be he is playing a joke on the colleague.

Married guy has not done anything does not mean anything. He has already done something by sending the misleading sms, isnt it?

Like I said, it can be taken as a teast or some prank joke which can be ignored. If its just a one off case, maybe it is but if it happens more than once. Beware.

Originally posted by Noughticated:

In moments like this, when we should be at our strongest, inevitably we feel at our weakest. It isn't her fault that she treats you like a friend, and it isn't your fault if you misconstrued it as something more. But think about it this way, off hand, that if she were to become your girlfriend, you wouldn't be comfortable since if she could be like that to you, if she goes out with her friends and they are males, she could behave like that with them as well and send out wrong messages. What you have is freedom, choice, and a healthy bank account. The only thing standing in the way is your mind. Consider carefully if certain sacrifices are indeed worth making. Its not the easiest thing in the world, but do try.

For depression, please refrain as much as you can from taking anti-depressants. Most people do get hooked on it and rely too much on chemical solutions rather than develop a strength of their own. On the extreme, if you feel suicidal, think about why you like her and if that aspect is really worth us losing a person like you. I have no doubt you're nice.

To me, every sacrifice is worth it even if the rest of the world does not think so. Even if it does take my everything and I end up with nothing, I would still feel worth it because simply I love her.

I did not take any medicine for the past few days as I also know I did not want to rely on it. Anyway, I do not have anti-depressants to take. I only have some kind of a relaxant which helps me sleep better at night. Doesnt work as I will still wake up in the middle of the night.

I like her because she is her. She is unique and special. She loves her parents, siblings very much and is helpful. I like her for who she is.

I place myself as 2nd importance because she is 1st. But am I really doing so?

Thanks for saying I am nice but being nice is of no use because nice guys finish last and no one appreciates them the way they are. You say say its false but after what I been through, its a fact for me.

Originally posted by Lefti68:

Go IMH 2 find a psychiatrist. Now u nid therapy. If possible, take leave 2 hv a gd rest. U nid a break now.

I have an appointment at IMH at the end of the month.

I cant take leave. The work place ppl will bully her if I am not around and there will be no one to help her.

Originally posted by Nikar 3:

if you do that, you're lowering yourself and making yourself look despo and needy, which is a big turn-off for girls.

just let her go or change job if need to.....if you face her everyday, the problem is very hard to solve and even time cannot heal you if that's the case.

I am not sure if time can heal me.

For me right now, the only way to really heal would be hoping something can happen so that we could be back together.

 

I don't really know what to do.

I really love my gf and can't bear to let her go.

Should I tell her about how I feel now?

 

I forgot to mention that we work in the same company and same department. I have to face her everyday.

I still love her. Very much.

I feel the pain and my heart hurts. Very much.

Even if it means that I have to take this pain forever, I will.

I could not bring myself to hurt her or just pretend that nothing ever happened.

Originally posted by HuaGe:

hi friend...serious depression and mild depression can be alot of difference..but if you under ovbservation and medication..pls do so.. dun skip you medication and conselling peroid with your doctor...find someone u most comfortable with..try to spill out everyth inside your heart to u friends.. you will definitely feeling much better after that....u need emotional support now...i'm dunno u or else we can hang out together to 'vent u anger/depression'...we have the same fate..but you sound worse than me..

take a break from you work if youn think u can;t concentrate to do anythi now...try to find somethi to do just to occupy u mind from thinking of her...really have to take care...

I duno how serious is my depression. I am not on medication either.

I tried to find someone to talk to but it seems I really need someone to be by my side for a long time. Everyone has their life, even the best of friends. They cant be by me for a long time.

Yes, you are right. I need emotional support now. Alot of them. But I am sad to say, I could not find much from my best friends. I called 3 of them. 2 of them could not comfort me and told me what normal people would say like move on, there is life, be strong. I dont really find emotional support from these. 1 other who is slightly better but was busy with things so could not talk to me much.

Originally posted by whiskers:

Goto work, let the work numb your soul for awhile... After work go to somewhere open like a  beach to think things straight.

Sorry, I forgot to mention. Work is part of the reason for my depression. So probably it wont numb me.

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Big cry???

How big is big? Hmm. Is half hour of crying each time considered big cry?

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Go out some where quiet and take  a breeze or lock yrself in quiet room. Listen to heartbreak song and have a big cry. After that u willl feel much better.

I did cried. A few times today.

Originally posted by HuaGe:

dun think this way..at least u bother to tell us your prob here..i;m sure you will make throu this time..cos at the end day...our life is not only girls..u still have u friends, parents and alot more who r care about you..tell u what..i broke up with my girlfriend last night too...i know we feel hurt...maybe my amount of hurtness can;t compare to yours..but still jhave to say this...jia you and let time heals everythi...

take care

Hi,

I am facing two things at once. My depression and my break up. Depression is causing alot of problems for me. Add in the break up with puts further pressure on my mind and heart, its really tiring.

I have never felt so tired before. I have never cried a few times in a day being an adult. I feel like a zombie now with no mood for anything.

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

 

Originally posted by Daisuke-kun:

BANKAI!

this might help u reach ur partner orgasm.

lol. BANKAI! I think this will throw her over the edge.

I read the news paper lately and I fully agree with Adebayor that underperforming players should be offloaded.

Make way for some new, fresh, exciting talent that is capable to challenge for honours all the way!

Do nothing?

Have you talked to her about it?

Originally posted by acaseofyou:

how about talking to your partner? you mentioned he/she;s working in your company right

She is having long term stress and have sleeping problems already. I couldn't bear to add on to her burden.

I do agree that Arsene Wenger is very good at looking for youth talents and developing them.

I think Arsenal's major problem is they do not have the expereince at the big stage or the depth to last for a major challenge. Just look at how the past few weeks have left them with almost nothing to fight for.

Arsenal does not really have natural wingers like last time when they did with Pires and Overmars. I think they should get one or two good wingers and then things should improve.

Searching for the key is never easy. There are many different kinds of keys. One for each one of us. The same key for you might not be the same key for him or anyone else.

The character of the person doesnt help much either. Hes too nice to push the burden to others. I duno what you would say of him (whether its stupid or silly). He would just take the burden rather than hurt those ppl involved by giving them the burden.

I think this links to what he is going through now. Accumulated and bottled up things or feelings or burden. Think its a volcano waiting to explode?

Have you ever carried a burden for years and tried to put it down but it just cling to you and you have never really put it down?

Does it feel like a chain with a heavy weight tied to you and until you find the key to unlock this chain, you would be carrying it on and on?

 

Well, I know the symptons of depression and thats why I suspect I am going through it.

I have tried to find someone to talk to but it seems that those that I find were too busy to listen. Its hard finding a good listener.

Have you ever felt that you could do better than you are now but yet something is holding you back?

But you do not know what is holding you back?