More children admitted with mental illness....poor thing
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Barney has always craved solitude and now he has found it on this bleak, lonely, windswept, sun-tortured Florida key, this grim area of unpeopled paradise.Barney guided his old convertible into a sandy, bristling palmetto patch and he unloaded his gear.
Sweltering in a sea of sweat sagging under the load of fishing tackle, bait box and a jug of water.Barney found temporary relief in the shade of gaunt long needle pins as he trudged down the glaring white beach.
He carefully studied the curiously-shaped grotesque mangrove trees, their exposed snakelike roots, interwining, growing from the brine of the shore.Beyond the turquoise Atlantic rests tranquility between tides
SO is this compo good enough for you, or are you gonna ask me what do i want? -
nobody is asking you to write this way. we are not exactly here to write a composition. just write a proper complete sentence. is it too much to ask?Originally posted by chronicles:Barney has always craved solitude and now he has found it on this bleak, lonely, windswept, sun-tortured Florida key, this grim area of unpeopled paradise.Barney guided his old convertible into a sandy, bristling palmetto patch and he unloaded his gear.
Sweltering in a sea of sweat sagging under the load of fishing tackle, bait box and a jug of water.Barney found temporary relieft in the shade of gaunt long needle pins as he trudged down the glaring white beach.
He carfully studied the cruiously-grotesque mangrove trees, their exposed snakelike roots, interwining, growing from the brine of the shore.Beyond the turquoise Atlantic rests tranquility between tides
SO is this compo good enough for you, or are you gonna ask me what do i want? -
Good morning,Originally posted by chronicles:Oh i have never received less than B3 before
I have numerous essays which scored good grades
It is just that on the internet i try to be more straight-fowarded and use mediorce english so that it is easier for people to understand, whats the point of applying bombastic vocabulary which most people would not even understand at all.
At the end of the day, your thoughts will either get misinterpreted or not conveyed properly.
This is really comforting to know.
The issue is not about using bombastic words but about convey your thoughts. If your comments are poorly written, this, in itself is a barrier for people to understand what you are saying. Surely you know this.
As you'd said bombastic languages will result in people not being able to understand you, but doesn't a poorly written script do the same thing too?
Didn't you know that in a piece of writing, because of the lack of any visual cue that one might have in a face-to-face encounter, a reader only has one platform of reference in trying to understand what is being written. Surely you know that too?
On the Barney story... not great, not bad either... but totally irrelevant. But it only goes to show that the caps lock button on your keyboard works - make sure that it is not turned on! Shift key does the job better.
On the issue of the relationship between you and your dad, too bad.... If you cannot change him, can you change yourself? Not everyone is as unfortunately as you, likewise, not everyone is as fortunate as you.... it all depends on what you are comparing against, but no one's preventing you from being bitter the rest of your life.
I did not have a great childhood either, my dad did not play with me nor buy me lots of stuff. We were not well off. We did not have a TV set or a phone till much later in my teenage life. My dad is now 80+, tends to repeat his inane stories, but I love him nonetheless, never blamed him for the perceived inadequacies that he may have. Learned from his positive characteristics as well as his negatives ones so that I will not repeat them. Blame him? NEVER! -
Good Morning!
Very interesting conversation going on!
Glad that chroni is speaking at last, that's nice.
Chin Eng has given u very good advice. Hope you take them.
Seriously, Money and Things are not the most important stuff. I always feel that kids who have all the material stuff do not equate to them being happy and kids without all the material stuff do not equate to them being unhappy.
I personally feel that you and your dad need to communicate your thoughts and you may learn about your dad's love for you.
I have gone thru ups and downs of life too especially during childhood. ....but my siblings and i have never hate or disliked our childhood and life. We don't even hate our dad for what we had gone thru, thanks to my mum of course, who shower us with love and care, who make us understand material things are very trivial.
So look don't go comparing with others. There will always be a down-side in everyone's life story. All you see of them are only what you can see. There are many others you can't see.
Its only how you look at it. The difference in perception is just cross of a line.
If you choose to only look at the negative, nothing will be good to you, be it now or in the future because you will have endless things to brood over. If you choose to look on the positive side you will always find happiness.
Its your own choice. And i hope you choose the positive side.
Remember : Don't measure success or failure by material wealth. But by how you Feel, Our feelings determine the richness of our Lives!
Feel Rich today, look on the positive side and find happiness.
All the Best! -
Originally posted by a_splash:Remember : Don't measure success or failure by material wealth. But by how you Feel, Our feelings determine the richness of our Lives!
Feel Rich today, look on the positive side and find happiness.
All the Best!
someone asked me today why am I happy. My answer? I decided to be happy. Stress and worries are part and parcel of life. It can take you down but it can also take you to the next level. It all depends on how we manage them. -
and that was not even a story it is an intro
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Abraham Lincoln once said that you are only as happy as you decide to be
those who pursue things thinking that they will be happy when they get them, are pursuing a mirage.. as in the movie, it's St Elmo's Fire..
when you stop to realise what you have is quite a lot and start to make the most of what you have, you start to become happy
i think, therein, is life's meaning?Originally posted by Chin Eng: someone asked me today why am I happy. My answer? I decided to be happy. Stress and worries are part and parcel of life. It can take you down but it can also take you to the next level. It all depends on how we manage them. -
For your info my dad had a broken home, knowing how it feels to have a crappy childhood.He should have made it better for me, but right not my teenage hood is just like a replica of his childhood.
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Originally posted by chronicles:For your info my dad had a broken home, knowing how it feels to have a crappy childhood.He should have made it better for me, but right not my teenage hood is just like a replica of his childhood.
herein the secret: those who do not learn from the mistakes of the past are doomed to repeat it!
While my dad did not come from a broken home, he had an abusive mother and a rather weak father. He was far from perfect. He indulges in a hobby (a good clean one) to a point of obsessiveness and neglected his wife and children. Only grudging did he attend my BMT parents' visit and my passing out parade. He'd rather be somewhere else. If things were left to him, we probably not have TV or telephone.
However I have learned not to repeat his mistakes. I am close to my sons, am interested in their development and make an effort to do things together. As a matter of fact, my younger son made a date with me to go frisbee throwing tomorrow morning.
It is not likely you can change him. His life and habits are already moded. You on the other hand is coming to the prime of your life. At this point, you can choose to go his way, or go your own way. No point b-itching about how poor thing you are or shift all the blame to him. Decide now, what you want to do for the rest of your life. Where parents are concern, sometimes you can fight, sometimes you have to give in. Sometimes a little gentleness goes a long way.
"I once complain that I have no shoes, until I saw a man who has no legs..." -
i think i am going to kill him
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sure, whatever.....Originally posted by chronicles:i think i am going to kill him
but it will not solve your problem.... the one about your self-image and your insecurity. -
just asking Chin Eng, is it just me or do i see more and more people demanding everything in life to be served to them on a silver platter, and then they still complain that there are no slaves serving them chilled peeled grapes and waving palm fronds to cool them?
it is scary actually...Originally posted by Chin Eng:sure, whatever.....
but it will not solve your problem.... the one about your self-image and your insecurity. -
i dont give a shit about your opinions but anyway you have a nice painting of the scream,was it painted in norway or something i cant remember i used to have a poster of that painting
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chronicles, everyone here has a right to his or her own opinion. Let us all accept each others views gracefully and we argue it out in a fair, less provocative manner.
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I just waiting for the singapore children to be labelled "wimp" by some MP or directors.
The parents nowadays are too caught-up with the money and rat race to care for their off-spring's welfare.
The children have become their trophy to show off to their friends.
So, when something suddenly happened to the children, the parents never really claim responsibility for their failure as a parents, instead they push the child to see a doctor and hoping the doctor can cure them.
They just never realised that they are the cause of the mental illness of the children.
Children are not cars, you dun send them to doctors and expect them to be fixed. -
You are not too far from the truth here....Originally posted by the Bear:just asking Chin Eng, is it just me or do i see more and more people demanding everything in life to be served to them on a silver platter, and then they still complain that there are no slaves serving them chilled peeled grapes and waving palm fronds to cool them?
it is scary actually...
In a way, I agree with what Phil Yeo says (but now HOW he said it). There are too many whiners (actually not necessary only men) and not enough doers.
My personal view? If we can't make a difference where we are, then we should just shut up and go away. I have always been vocal in my workplace, not contended with just "pantry-talk", I have raised many issues during various departmental meetings and feedback with HR. Glad to say that there are changes because of my challenges, though not always. Still, not many are willing to put the money where the mouth is.
One time, I told off the committee in my congregation: If you cannot be part of the solution, don't be part of the problem. That's when, again, views are split because of opinions, and no one is able to offer alternative solutions. -
This is true. Unfortunately, not many parents see the importance of developing the EMOTIONAL and RESILIENCE QUOTIENT of the child. They focus only on the INTELLECTUAL QUOTIENT and brag about scores and positions.Originally posted by Medicated Oil:I just waiting for the singapore children to be labelled "wimp" by some MP or directors.
The parents nowadays are too caught-up with the money and rat race to care for their off-spring's welfare.
The children have become their trophy to show off to their friends.
So, when something suddenly happened to the children, the parents never really claim responsibility for their failure as a parents, instead they push the child to see a doctor and hoping the doctor can cure them.
They just never realised that they are the cause of the mental illness of the children.
Children are not cars, you dun send them to doctors and expect them to be fixed.
In my family IQ is of the least importance of the three quotients. The scores and positions will take a child up to a point, when failure (even perceived ones)starts, it's the EQ and the RQ that will take them through everything else. -
Add in the CULTURAL QUOTIENT and our children will go further and happier.Originally posted by Chin Eng:This is true. Unfortunately, not many parents see the importance of developing the EMOTIONAL and RESILIENCE QUOTIENT of the child. They focus only on the INTELLECTUAL QUOTIENT and brag about scores and positions.
In my family IQ is of the least importance of the three quotients. The scores and positions will take a child up to a point, when failure (even perceived ones)starts, it's the EQ and the RQ that will take them through everything else. -
ok this was wat i heard yesterday, and it gives me some more answer to parents' kiasuism :
60% of their exams are outside books.
many of the stuff especially for chinese exams are outside wat books or teachers have for the students. (hear that the whole class of students in one popular school failed their chinese exams)
My thoughts :
So in order to 'help' kids to cope with exams, parents need to give the children more 'work' to do. Many of us don't have training on how to care and mind our kids. We use wat we think right. All of us learn through On The Job Training. Many get carried away in their stride to excel the kids. Many of us don't know where to put the 'full-stop', we must have lost that along the line.
But we would think if the studies in school are not so 'tough' we won't have to put so much 'effort' on our kids....
then again....we being parents should know better what is good for our kids?? 'I eat salt more than u eat rice mah '
So blame parents or blame MOE huh?? -
Guess many parents are hoping that their kids don't hv to have so many apple seeds, just one will do....
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