parn: I agree that there are stigmas associated with reporting rape that need to be addressed. But rape is rape regardless of the prior relationship (or lack of relationship) between the rapist and the victim. Stranger rape is not any more "real" than marital rape.
jojobeach: it doesn't matter if he has an erection. If he doesn't consent to sex, it's rape. People can be physically aroused but still feel that in all the circumstances they do not want to have sex at that point of time, with the person in question. Nobody else should get to examine their body and decide on whether sex is appropriate. They themselves decide.
To solve this debate, why not just criminalise women for marrying the wrong man willingly or vice versa.
Those who do so must be shot without trial. Then there is no need for this "Marial rape" nonsense.