Mismatch made in Peasant
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The government is worried that Singaporeans are not getting hitched - there are increasing number of singles in Singapore. The government is offering a slew of incentives, and even advice on how to date, how to get married, but I doubt it will work. The problem I think is because these measures target the symptoms and not the cause of the problem; in my opinion, the root of the problem lies in the minds of peasantboys and peasantgirls.
Singaporean peasantboys are one of the most boring members of the adult male species - dating them is often a somniferous experience. Ever notice that the only topic of conversation that excites them, other than their jobs, is National Service? Yes we really want to hear about your days in the army, crawling through mud, or gory tales of training accidents - that really gets our loins burning. The added irony is that despite their macho tales, most peasantboys are mummy's boys - what self-respecting man would continue staying with his parents till the late 20's and even early 30's , letting his mum cook, clean and wash for him? Real women want to date grown up men, not little boys staying at home.
Peasantboys are also wimps - they let peasantgirls walk all over them. They act as their chauffer, their ATM machine and chaperone all rolled into one. Yet, in another ironic twist, they are also male chauvinists, hanging on to anachronistic notions of submissve virginal women who would do as they are told and go off looking for Vietnamese village brides when they don't get what they want here. A message for you peasantboys: most women would love to defer to their men, but strong men who know what they want, who have strength of character. We are not going to submit ourselves to wimpy mummy's boys.
Peasantgirls are not any better - they suffer from the 'I want the cake and eat it syndrome'. Singaporean women want the rights of Western Women and none of the obligations. They also want all the rights of Eastern Women and none of their obligations either.
If you want to be treated as an equal - behave like an equal. Don't expect your man to pay for everything and not even thank them for it. Go dutch sometimes. Take a taxi to the place that you are going to meet your peasantboy and not expect to be driven around like an invalid all the time. If you want to be an equal in marriage, contribute equally to the family accounts - in what world do you think it's fair that you get to spend your husband's money whilst keeping your salary for yourselves?
On the other hand, if you want to be treated like an Eastern Woman, for the husband to take care of you financially, materially, drive you around, do things for you then be prepared to take on the obligations of an Eastern Woman. Go learn how to cook - and not just instant noodels and fried eggs. Learn how to sew. Defer to your husband as the head of the household, and learn how to care for him as the primary caregiver (whilst he is the primary breadwinner).
Neither Western or Eastern Woman is superior; however the Singapore Peasantwoman who wants the best of both worlds is definitely inferior. Make up your mind - choose one or the other. Even Peasantboys wake up one day when they have been screwed over in a bad deal for too long.
So the problem as I see it is that the Peasantboy and the Peasantgirl are fudamentally a bad match, to the extent that they probably hate the sight of each other. Peasantboys complain about Peasantgirls all the time, Peasantgirls whinge about Peasantboys, and neither the twain shall meet.
Therefore, until the mindsets of peasantboys and peasantgirls are changed, no amount of economic incentives or nagging by the government will turn things around.
The illnesses of the peasant are of the mind, and unless it's cured, it's probably better they don't get together and procreate.http://theladymelissa.blogspot.com/2008/08/mismatch-made-in-peasant.html
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Lol that made me laugh .... when i look at some of my peers
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Ya, i'm very angry about that as well.
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Great article.
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Originally posted by Beautiful951:
Ya, i'm very angry about that as well.
Angry or embaressed? -
I am real man. I chased after a gal many years ago, and she did not give me the respect. Finally I told her to F$ off and now in married to a girl who is more richer, more prettier than her. hows that?
I am not a wimp, am I?
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One of those rare well written easy to understsand and balanced 'essays' . lol
And a nice ending.. i like it. Nicely done. With humour too.
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+1 to the article...
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Going to sit back and watch the Peasant Girls/Boys go fight out with each other.
Too bad I'm no peasant girl.
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thats the sad result of decades of repression. pathetic people.
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what a unhealthy culture, what is this peasant/elite/ middle class thing?
where di this crop up from? Back in the 1990s, i recall my sec school classmates all come from poor , middle and rich backgrounds, but we ll were together and and had out own gang of people out to ya-ya papaya.
We did not have this differentiation between us.
what has singapore degraded to? i know in India they have the caste system, but singapre is a modern country. please dont divide its people into castes.. please
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Originally posted by Genie99a:
"Real women want to date grown up men, not little boys staying at home".
http://theladymelissa.blogspot.com/2008/08/mismatch-made-in-peasant.html
I stay at home now, am i a little boy?...My wife says she like me because i am like little boy.she says thats what make her fall in love with me
Wake up your idea. Different woman have different taste. ok.. i also like women who are like a little girl and not too serious. If serious woman, Life will be a bore with such a woman, get it?
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you wait 15 more years, they'll institutionalise a caste system
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Originally posted by HyperionDCZ:
you wait 15 more years, they’ll institutionalise a caste system
PeasantsFTs
Elites
LEEs
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This is a never ending story kind of topic. Sianz . . .
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Originally posted by Genie99a:
The government is worried that Singaporeans are not getting hitched - there are increasing number of singles in Singapore. The government is offering a slew of incentives, and even advice on how to date, how to get married, but I doubt it will work. The problem I think is because these measures target the symptoms and not the cause of the problem; in my opinion, the root of the problem lies in the minds of peasantboys and peasantgirls.
Singaporean peasantboys are one of the most boring members of the adult male species - dating them is often a somniferous experience. Ever notice that the only topic of conversation that excites them, other than their jobs, is National Service? Yes we really want to hear about your days in the army, crawling through mud, or gory tales of training accidents - that really gets our loins burning. The added irony is that despite their macho tales, most peasantboys are mummy's boys - what self-respecting man would continue staying with his parents till the late 20's and even early 30's , letting his mum cook, clean and wash for him? Real women want to date grown up men, not little boys staying at home.
Peasantboys are also wimps - they let peasantgirls walk all over them. They act as their chauffer, their ATM machine and chaperone all rolled into one. Yet, in another ironic twist, they are also male chauvinists, hanging on to anachronistic notions of submissve virginal women who would do as they are told and go off looking for Vietnamese village brides when they don't get what they want here. A message for you peasantboys: most women would love to defer to their men, but strong men who know what they want, who have strength of character. We are not going to submit ourselves to wimpy mummy's boys.
Peasantgirls are not any better - they suffer from the 'I want the cake and eat it syndrome'. Singaporean women want the rights of Western Women and none of the obligations. They also want all the rights of Eastern Women and none of their obligations either.
If you want to be treated as an equal - behave like an equal. Don't expect your man to pay for everything and not even thank them for it. Go dutch sometimes. Take a taxi to the place that you are going to meet your peasantboy and not expect to be driven around like an invalid all the time. If you want to be an equal in marriage, contribute equally to the family accounts - in what world do you think it's fair that you get to spend your husband's money whilst keeping your salary for yourselves?
On the other hand, if you want to be treated like an Eastern Woman, for the husband to take care of you financially, materially, drive you around, do things for you then be prepared to take on the obligations of an Eastern Woman. Go learn how to cook - and not just instant noodels and fried eggs. Learn how to sew. Defer to your husband as the head of the household, and learn how to care for him as the primary caregiver (whilst he is the primary breadwinner).
Neither Western or Eastern Woman is superior; however the Singapore Peasantwoman who wants the best of both worlds is definitely inferior. Make up your mind - choose one or the other. Even Peasantboys wake up one day when they have been screwed over in a bad deal for too long.
So the problem as I see it is that the Peasantboy and the Peasantgirl are fudamentally a bad match, to the extent that they probably hate the sight of each other. Peasantboys complain about Peasantgirls all the time, Peasantgirls whinge about Peasantboys, and neither the twain shall meet.
Therefore, until the mindsets of peasantboys and peasantgirls are changed, no amount of economic incentives or nagging by the government will turn things around.
The illnesses of the peasant are of the mind, and unless it's cured, it's probably better they don't get together and procreate.http://theladymelissa.blogspot.com/2008/08/mismatch-made-in-peasant.html
1) I did not offer to pay on my first date with my hubby 2) I offered to pay other times, and sometimes he lets me 3) when he saw me home last time, we took the bus 4) i hardly ever take the taxi anywhere, unless it's paid for by the company 5) i didn't know how to cook, but I learned 6) my hubby also cooks and we do household chores together, talking, joking, having fun, every saturday without fail 7) we contribute somewhat equally to the household expenses : : : : : : : : : 8) My hubby is not local. I am. So? If there is a real shortage of good men (local) in Singapore, maybe it's time to be more open minded. -
but on the other hand. there are some truths in this post. i know many girls my age who are getting married.... and they declared they will not cook. they will just buy out or make maggie noodles. some call me auntie when i shop for veggies and stuff in the supermarket. I dun care what they say. They're idiots in my opinion. there's nothing wrong in making your own food, may you be traditional or not. if you're too good to cook, you're probably not good enough to be eating.
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Hey I am a WIMP; Weak Intereactive Massive Particles that is.
Oh gosh, I have revealed my nerdy disposition, But OTOH, I will not talk abt gory details on my ns, I talk about quatum theories,Big bang, warp (sex) drive, g-string theory, sure to get your pelvic area burning... how melissa?
Beats ur peasant boy huh? Wanna date me eh..? -
I wonder what gives the thread starter the right to degrade singaporean guys and singapore ladies. Secondly, I wonder what gives the thread starter the right to segregate/degrade the singapore guys/ladies into so called peasant groups. Thirdly, what gives a person the right to define the guys and ladies from singapore into a single narrow band or over simplified view of society. And also, I wonder what gives a person the right to judge others and criticize their "peasant" mindsets as to how a single person (the thread starter) thinks the sg guys/ladies should be under his/her own judgemental mindsets.
And finally, for the thread starter, here's a quote from Mother Teresa.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
And a few others that I think is helpful to regain some humility for the thread starter.
“Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”
“It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip, for they speak of persons instead of things.”
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Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:
I wonder what gives the thread starter the right to degrade singaporean guys and singapore ladies. Secondly, I wonder what gives the thread starter the right to segregate/degrade the singapore guys/ladies into so called peasant groups. Thirdly, what gives a person the right to define the guys and ladies from singapore into a single narrow band or over simplified view of society. And also, I wonder what gives a person the right to judge others and criticize their "peasant" mindsets as to how a single person (the thread starter) thinks the sg guys/ladies should be under his/her own judgemental mindsets.
I believe the blogger would have responded that she has the "right" to air her views even if they were biased.And finally, for the thread starter, here's a quote from Mother Teresa.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
I believe the blogger has no love for the caste of Singaporeans she brands "peasants".
And a few others that I think is helpful to regain some humility for the thread starter.
“Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”
“It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip, for they speak of persons instead of things.”
Yes i do agree she needs humility as it allows you to be heard. No one wants to listen to an arrogant prick rattle off jargon.... even if its gospel.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”
Common mistake of the high and aloof lol
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Originally posted by foxwalk:
but on the other hand. there are some truths in this post. i know many girls my age who are getting married…. and they declared they will not cook. they will just buy out or make maggie noodles. some call me auntie when i shop for veggies and stuff in the supermarket. I dun care what they say. They’re idiots in my opinion. there’s nothing wrong in making your own food, may you be traditional or not. if you’re too good to cook, you’re probably not good enough to be eating.
Hi Foxwalk,I am sure some of us can see the truths in the blogger's post. How she expresses it however will surely bring about venom and fire.
Kind Regards
Genie99
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Originally posted by SPLIT SECOND:
I stay at home now, am i a little boy?...My wife says she like me because i am like little boy.she says thats what make her fall in love with me
Wake up your idea. Different woman have different taste. ok.. i also like women who are like a little girl and not too serious. If serious woman, Life will be a bore with such a woman, get it?
I don't have an issue with little boys falling in love with little girls bro
However if you do have an issue with the blogger's view of "peasant" boys and "peasant" girls do feel free to post a reply in her blog.
what a unhealthy culture, what is this peasant/elite/ middle class thing?
Alright everybody. Education time. I have been accused of being rude and offensive by calling people peasants. I would like to clarify the difference between a peasant and a Peasant in this post.....
http://www.sgforums.com/forums/10/topics/330351 <--- Click
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The Gen X around the 1989 period from China coming out also fuked up. I see alot of similiarities between the psychological make up of Sg and the masses from China.
Tiny state island vs massive state . 'Peasants' from both countries.
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Its more merciful to have the Singaporean as a group simply die out from evolution. Many times, Singaporean's behaviour, thinking, action in public are generally a disappointment and a disgrace.
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Originally posted by mistyblue:
Its more merciful to have the Singaporean as a group simply die out from evolution. Many times, Singaporean's behaviour, thinking, action in public are generally a disappointment and a disgrace.
Know what u mean, I have witnessed that too many times. Sometimes, I am victimised.