Sec sch boy committed suicide
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a Sec 3 15 year old boy committed suicide by leaping off a hdb block because he was in love with a female classmate but was found out by the teacher and pricipal. the principal summoned his parents to school...
wat is god damn wrong with our education system now??
izit wrong to date in sec sch???
wat is so big deal tat parents have to be call???
wat the fuck wrong with the teacher???
CMON NOW PLS LET OUR KIDS GROW UP IN THEIR OWN CAREFREE WAY!!!!!!!!
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I may be next, but not cos of a female. Ha WHAT FEMALEs?!
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fear n stress
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if the school dun do tat, our locals will be carrying guns n drugs to school next, like the kids in the states n other countries.
school is for you to study, not date. n anyway, love is too difficult for young kids to handle. -
i would think otherwise.
let them date lor. its an experience that almost everyone has to go thru.
its not like they are trading guns or drugs.
and when things really get outta hand, it educate them to learn about consequences on the things they do and how to work them out. -
...in another incident, a secondary school girl killed herself in the similar way when she was accused of stealing a mobile phone. Without asking the parents to turn up in school to sort matters out, the school authorities ask the girl to go home to explain to her parents.
She never made it home.... she jumped from a floor higher than her home at her block.
The problem seems to be that the school authorities do not seem to know how to handle such problems.
The students nowadays too are not equipped with the appropriate amount of common sense in dealing with life.
What a waste of humanity..... any young people out there with problems, please do not take the shortcut by killing yourself.... -
Some students simply do not know how to handle this sort of thing. They have been so sheltered all their lives and their parents sort things out for them that when sth does go wrong, they have no idea how to handle the situation at all.
Think the edu system, the parents and the society all have sth to do with this... -
It is too easy to push the blame on the teacher and holds him/her as a convenient scapegoat... But working in a school environment (no, I am not a teacher.), I understand the tremendous pressure that teachers faced.
There's only so much the teacher can do to guide the students after school hours.
Since the boy chooses suicide as a way to solve his problem, it seems to indicate that he probably lack the maturity to handle love relationships as well. -
thought this was a case where a little bit more sensitivity on all parties involved would have prevented the tragedy...
had the school been more sensitive in dealing with the boy and how it is going to notify his parents, it probably wouldn't have terrorised the boy into thinking of suicide.... e.g. through counselling, understanding the kid first... asking the kid what his fears are abt his parents knowing,...etc...
and perhaps also the parents had a part to play.... e.g. were they so strict at home that the thought of them finding out drove the kid to 'escape" via suicide??
Afterall, the boy is already 15 years old... things like finding out about relationships, BGR, dating etc.. it's a natural part of the process of growing up... discovering themselves. -
The trend now is for schools to work closely with parents. And for parents to be more involved in their child's progress and performance in school. I think there is nothing wrong with notifying parents of what the child is up to.
The issue here, is whether parents have a healthy relationship with the child. If the child, when in trouble, fears facing his parents more than death itself, then something is very wrong with the parent-child relationship.
Secondly, a child who is so fearful of making mistakes and getting punished that he'd rather die than to face up to repurcussions, reflects on his lack of maturity.
Perhaps the teacher should be more aware of how each individual would react, how much pressure he can handle before he breaks, and act accordingly. But it isn't easy keeping track of so many students in a class. -
True it isn't easy to track so many students in a class... but does the teacher have to resort to severe warning in this case? read the news article that upon being found out, the teacher summoned both to the teacher's office and gave severe warning.. just wondering why haven't they tried talking normally to the student first?Originally posted by choco B:The trend now is for schools to work closely with parents. And for parents to be more involved in their child's progress and performance in school. I think there is nothing wrong with notifying parents of what the child is up to.
The issue here, is whether parents have a healthy relationship with the child. If the child, when in trouble, fears facing his parents more than death itself, then something is very wrong with the parent-child relationship.
Secondly, a child who is so fearful of making mistakes and getting punished that he'd rather die than to face up to repurcussions, reflects on his lack of maturity.
Perhaps the teacher should be more aware of how each individual would react, how much pressure he can handle before he breaks, and act accordingly. But it isn't easy keeping track of so many students in a class.
True also that the parent-child relationship may have something to do with it, but wouldn't a little bit of sensitivity on the part of the teachers or school counsellors for the student have softened the impact to facilitate better understanding and handling of the situation??
Also agree that schools should work closely with parents, but a little sensitivity to the students' feelings won't hurt. As a 15 year old, being found out by parents is already a terrifying enough thought....and the thought that the teachers are going to call in the parents with severe warnings like that... it's not very assuring. That's why i said in such a case, perhaps a gentler approach like talking to the kid first, finding out more about his relationship with the parents and serving as a mediating party while bringing the kid to understand that relationships are premature would have had a better effect than giving severe warning and telling them that "I"m calling your parents to come to school and talk about it tomorrow." -
stupid teacher...she coz this to happen...
in a mix gender sch...this kinda things is veri normal...as long as no hanky panky...everything is fine... -
or perhaps they saw then hanky panky?
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wat is wrong wif that teacher... deprived childhood is it?
Wat a way to handle the matter, and now that teacher got to live wif this ordeal for the rest of his/her life
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Dis boy is my ex neighbour... Nv tot tat he would do such foolish thing... He's a v active boy... Haiz~ He's gone juz liddat...Originally posted by NathanG5:a Sec 3 15 year old boy committed suicide by leaping off a hdb block because he was in love with a female classmate but was found out by the teacher and pricipal. the principal summoned his parents to school...
wat is god damn wrong with our education system now??
izit wrong to date in sec sch???
wat is so big deal tat parents have to be call???
wat the fuck wrong with the teacher???
CMON NOW PLS LET OUR KIDS GROW UP IN THEIR OWN CAREFREE WAY!!!!!!!!
http://www.zaobao.com/sp/sp006_070304.html -
The staff were probably going by the book. The downside of parental involvement is that the school translates this into -- tell the parents, then whatever happens next is the family's problem. We're in the clear.
It's going to take a few disasters like student suicides to make schools realise that regulations have to be tempered with sensibility.
I agree that a gentler approach to discipline in school will be beneficial all around.
I also think it's a wake-up call to parents who think that parenting is only about meting out punishment to mistakes.Originally posted by KittynMeow:True also that the parent-child relationship may have something to do with it, but wouldn't a little bit of sensitivity on the part of the teachers or school counsellors for the student have softened the impact to facilitate better understanding and handling of the situation??
Also agree that schools should work closely with parents, but a little sensitivity to the students' feelings won't hurt. As a 15 year old, being found out by parents is already a terrifying enough thought....and the thought that the teachers are going to call in the parents with severe warnings like that... it's not very assuring. That's why i said in such a case, perhaps a gentler approach like talking to the kid first, finding out more about his relationship with the parents and serving as a mediating party while bringing the kid to understand that relationships are premature would have had a better effect than giving severe warning and telling them that "I"m calling your parents to come to school and talk about it tomorrow." -
u r over reacting, i doubt kids in singapore would bring guns and drugs into school, besides, trading of armory and pyrotechnics isn't dat easy in singapore unlike malaysiaOriginally posted by keisha:if the school dun do tat, our locals will be carrying guns n drugs to school next, like the kids in the states n other countries.
school is for you to study, not date. n anyway, love is too difficult for young kids to handle.
still, i think having a relationship at dat age isn't appropriate, but sometimes they maybe exception, especially feelings ain't easy to control, therefore, i'm against the school for not managing this incident well... -
yup... and it's not the first time such incidents happen already... just that previously, other incidents were hushed up.. reminds me of the time when I was in Sec school, a gal in my school also jumped to her death cos of BGR.. the guy was going overseas with his family and the 2 actually agreed to jump together, but the guy last minute din jump... sad sad case...Originally posted by choco B:The staff were probably going by the book. The downside of parental involvement is that the school translates this into -- tell the parents, then whatever happens next is the family's problem. We're in the clear.
It's going to take a few disasters like student suicides to make schools realise that regulations have to be tempered with sensibility.
I agree that a gentler approach to discipline in school will be beneficial all around.
I also think it's a wake-up call to parents who think that parenting is only about meting out punishment to mistakes.
And i think it's also about time for parents to realise that a child's growing up is not just the school's responsibility. I'm quite tired of hearing parents complain about teachers not teaching the child right and wrong or even sex education?? duhs.....
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sighz.. i think the gar ment should allow more operators for bungee jump lah... see lah.. now so many kids want to try is.. but forget to tie the rope.... haha...... i got a fren that did that b4.... sighz...sadsadsad case......
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According to the papers, the guy is seen "touching" the girl who is less than 16 plus the fact that these 2 were late for an hour in an exam.
Any one of them can be used to call in the parents isn't it -
haiz...precious life
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not saying that they can't call in the parents... in fact, i agree they should work with the parents... it's the "how" i object to because you can't deny that it played a part in "terrorising" the boy to take to the extremes....Originally posted by socrates:According to the papers, the guy is seen "touching" the girl who is less than 16 plus the fact that these 2 were late for an hour in an exam.
Any one of them can be used to call in the parents isn't it -
His gf is sec 1 onli... If im not wrong.Originally posted by socrates:According to the papers, the guy is seen "touching" the girl who is less than 16 plus the fact that these 2 were late for an hour in an exam.
Any one of them can be used to call in the parents isn't it -
from paper, his gf is his classmate.Originally posted by shan_cai:His gf is sec 1 onli... If im not wrong. -
sori..which paper did u read?Originally posted by socrates:According to the papers, the guy is seen "touching" the girl who is less than 16 plus the fact that these 2 were late for an hour in an exam.
Any one of them can be used to call in the parents isn't it
..they were spotted holding hand..not hanky panky...
in the above URL..the news said..."mo le yi xia"..just a touch...the way u mention it..its like as if they have commit a serious crime n needed to be hang?
btw..its test not exam..pls state your fact right!!