Will you tell your partner/stead...
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that u had sex with your previous gf/bf???Anybody have this problem?? I don't want to post in Bar bcos i think my question related to relationship problem .
->I will tell, but i think its a big problem to the gf...she possible will compare herself with my previous gf. Its a big bummer later...haihzzzz -
Well, I would suggest you to keep your curiousity to yourself. It is not pleasant to dig into the past and it would be shallow and ungracious to do so. Be cool and forget about the past, never question about the past unless that person willingly mention it as in want you to know about it.Originally posted by ahmike:that u had sex with your previous gf/bf???Anybody have this problem?? I don't want to post in Bar bcos i think my question related to relationship problem .
->I will tell, but i think its a big problem to the gf...she possible will compare herself with my previous gf. Its a big bummer later...haihzzzz
Remember...the past is never going to return. So it is useless to dwell in the past. Dwelling in the past is never going to bring you any benefits in your current relationship and I thought that you should be aware of it.
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Eh??? I think u got the wrong impression. I was asking... if lets say your gf ask u "have u had sex with your previous gf". Would u tell her or evade it?Originally posted by parn:Well, I would suggest you to keep your curiousity to yourself. It is not pleasant to dig into the past and it would be shallow and ungracious to do so. Be cool and forget about the past, never question about the past unless that person willingly mention it as in want you to know about it.
Remember...the past is never going to return. So it is useless to dwell in the past. Dwelling in the past is never going to bring you any benefits in your current relationship and I thought that you should be aware of it.
Good luck.
Would you tell your current bf/gf that u had sex with your previous bf/gf? If he/she asked??? that my main question... -
if he ask i will say never, who would know if its the truth why risk anything to spoil the relationship
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There is only one answer. Choose the one which will make your gf most happy. That one is the correct answer that you should choose. Lie to her if you really have to do it...but you must make sure that in between all the options that you have to choose from, pick the one which will make her happy. Trust me, it is never wrong.Originally posted by ahmike:Eh??? I think u got the wrong impression. I was asking... if lets say your gf ask u "have u had sex with your previous gf". Would u tell her or evade it?
At the most you go to eighteen levels of hell for all your lies, but think again...making her happy was so worth the pain and trouble. Not considered a lie until you are caught or exposed. Got it?
Hehehe...I am so going to hell this time. -
Originally posted by parn:There is only one answer. Choose the one which will make your gf most happy. That one is the correct answer that you should choose. Lie to her if you really have to do it...but you must make sure that in between all the options that you have to choose from, pick the one which will make her happy. Trust me, it is never wrong.
At the most you go to eighteen levels of hell for all your lies, but think again...making her happy was so worth the pain and trouble. Not considered a lie until you are caught or exposed. Got it?
Hehehe...I am so going to hell this time.
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u tell the turth and that it.... she will refresh what u said again and again when u have conflict in future..
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ya..remind you to your grave!
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Originally posted by blowfish:u tell the turth and that it.... she will refresh what u said again and again when u have conflict in future..
Okie i think its better to evade it....
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Sometimes, telling the truth is the best.. You never know when she will actually find out the truth.. If she ask you abt it.. Than admit it.. No point hiding it frm her right? I mean some how or rather, the truth is going to surface and things will nt be nice if your thing is being uncovered..
Any bf/gf who loves you for who you are now.. will not mind what happen or what you did back than.. Cause what is done cannot be undone..
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Hm... Y would ur gf ask that for? Its quite a strange question to ask.Originally posted by ahmike:that u had sex with your previous gf/bf???Anybody have this problem?? I don't want to post in Bar bcos i think my question related to relationship problem .
->I will tell, but i think its a big problem to the gf...she possible will compare herself with my previous gf. Its a big bummer later...haihzzzz -
Hmm....i also dont really know. Maybe just curious i guess.Originally posted by shaunlaw:Hm... Y would ur gf ask that for? Its quite a strange question to ask.
. I cant really gurls minds..... 
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It is ok to let her know abt yr ex but don't go into details abt what u both used to do, the places u go etc.
Girls get jealous easily esp. if u are still in contact with yr ex.
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Well, telling or not telling both has its goods and bads. For me i think, if she wan to noe the truth just tell her. If not, just dun say bah.Originally posted by ahmike:Hmm....i also dont really know. Maybe just curious i guess. . I cant really gurls minds..... -
watever answer u give she also won't believe one lah!!! it's a lose-lose situation cos u guy, no way to prove
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u dun tell her now...she might find it out later....then there is a betrayal of trust...
might as well both of you handle it early in your realtionship otherwise it might be too late. just be supportive of her emotionally (dun be impatient when she is upset or moody coz of this)...
if u can't even do this for her might as well call it off eariler to save each other's troubles... -
hmm... i think i would tell la.. honestly, every r/s will definetely have some sort of ... happenings one mah, so better tell the truth, besides, if u n ur gf stable ennuff rite, nth will happen de..
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What if it is not sex, what if a girl keeps asking a guy about his previous relationships?
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when she ask you this question must got reason behind it
ask her why you ask me this ?
maybe its bcos she is planning to deflower you and deciding whether to use condom or not
if virgin then dun use condom for better experience -
I would and I did. If this topic or question will end the current relationship, then don't you think you should think twice about this relationship?Originally posted by ahmike:that u had sex with your previous gf/bf???Anybody have this problem?? I don't want to post in Bar bcos i think my question related to relationship problem .
->I will tell, but i think its a big problem to the gf...she possible will compare herself with my previous gf. Its a big bummer later...haihzzzz
I hate to live in the dark and I gradually learn to accept things and accept the consequences of my actions.
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I guess its a really tough question for guys to answer.
Opt for the politically correct answer.
Be it yes or no.
If she is someone who can handle the truth,tell her the truth.
Here's another tip, get her to answer her own question first. -
I think better not. Although honesty is a good thing but being honest is being stupid too. When u keep mum about it, it does not mean you lie to her also. So, better don't tell her unless she ask you. I've experienced such cases and was stupid to tell the truth. Girls like to hear something nice but not the truth.Originally posted by ahmike:that u had sex with your previous gf/bf???Anybody have this problem?? I don't want to post in Bar bcos i think my question related to relationship problem .
->I will tell, but i think its a big problem to the gf...she possible will compare herself with my previous gf. Its a big bummer later...haihzzzz -
Btw this question was asked b4 i break up with my x-gf (errr during somewhere middle of my relationship timeline)... i just want to know how ppl (guys) will mostly think on this situation overall when the question pop-up. Yeah sometimes want to be honest also hard to decide it sure will backfire to guys mostly...Originally posted by cold-turkey:I think better not. Although honesty is a good thing but being honest is being stupid too. When u keep mum about it, it does not mean you lie to her also. So, better don't tell her unless she ask you. I've experienced such cases and was stupid to tell the truth. Girls like to hear something nice but not the truth.
. Why she asked on this is bcos she was curious due to my performance.
Hmmmm i wonder got any girls can give more opinion on this??? Can u really accept the truth after u hear the answer....??? Based on your exp if possible... PM if u want, -
I guess it is ok to tell yr present gf abt yr past r/s & why they failed.Originally posted by men_@_arms:What if it is not sex, what if a girl keeps asking a guy about his previous relationships?
This way, she will understand u better.
Don't think u shd tell her all the intimate details abt what u did.
Speaking for the females, I won't want to know cos it is in the past.
Raking all up will make everyone unhappy.
Ignorance is bliss!