Involved with married man....

• lynna

  30 Oct 04, 11:28

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..
• sgFish

  30 Oct 04, 11:32

  die already
• Starletz

  30 Oct 04, 11:50

  I believe asking such questions here will only have heaps of replies to dissuade your friend from doing something that's obviously shouldn't be happening. Obviously most will agree that he's out to play and that she will lose out for sure. Be it whatever advice you want, it's just a support you need from others for helping her think about getting out of the relationship. However, it is only HER who has her final decision in giving or not. Many times, it'll probably be a temptation to her. However, SHe has to bear her own responsiblity in the decision she makes and all you can do is say what you feel is best for her and be there for her when she needs you.
• beagle

  30 Oct 04, 11:52

  married man? please stay away .. in e end, it's only gonna hurt ur fren, and even the man's family.
• Devil1976

  30 Oct 04, 12:10

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  Ask her to be responsible to herself...
  
  But afterall, it's her life and little background is made known... No point commenting much...
  
  If you want, can explain the situation to her... The rest only can up to her liao...?
• beagle

  30 Oct 04, 12:10

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Ask her to be responsible to herself...
  
  But afterall, it's her life and little background is made known... No point commenting much...
  
  If you want, can explain the situation to her... The rest only can up to her liao...?

  agree
• fymk

  30 Oct 04, 12:17

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  She better not or else she will regret it , for a moment of stupidity. He is a perverted a$$ after little girls. Ask her how she would feel being the homewrecker plus also how would she feel if she was his wife. If he does it to her , god knows how many girls he had duped.
• beagle

  30 Oct 04, 12:19

  now now don't get so agitated, it's not gonna help things
• BrUtUs

  30 Oct 04, 12:40

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  shouldnt la, the ah pek probably onli wans excitement after tat she will b taken over by some other fresher prettier gal... tink tis relationship wun hv a gd ending... so dun do it...
• Lim Li Hao

  30 Oct 04, 12:47

  be virgin dun have sex.
• lynna

  30 Oct 04, 13:12

  Thanks for the advise.. but i guess she's so into it until she don't listens to anyone of us.. she just insist that he is very good and won't hurt her.. Aiyo.. sighz..
• Dr Who

  30 Oct 04, 13:45

  
  Adultery is SIN.......
  
  bad Karma.......
• Ayla

  30 Oct 04, 13:49

  As long as you have done your part as a friend to persuade her, I think the rest is up to her. Some people just need to learn things the harder way...
  
  Good luck to your friend...
• X-men

  30 Oct 04, 13:55

  This kind of thing still need advise one meh?
  
  20 yrs old should be old enough to think for her own future and know whats right and whats wrong.
  
  When a guy tells you how much he loves you, and wants to have babies with you, he means I love having sex with you for free. Free meaning no obligations. No obligations means as soon as he cums, he's like, 'Get the f uck out! I don't know you who you are. I've never seen you before in my life'
  
  
• FireIce

  30 Oct 04, 14:05

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  your fren or urself???
• Transmission

  30 Oct 04, 14:48

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  I don't believe that she doesn't know what to do ...
  impossible...
  its a freaking new era ..wake up..
  
• Kennerve

  30 Oct 04, 14:52

  Originally posted by lynna:

  Thanks for the advise.. but i guess she's so into it until she don't listens to anyone of us.. she just insist that he is very good and won't hurt her.. Aiyo.. sighz..

  There is nothing we can do much if she is so stubborn.. Sometimes, things got to be learnt the hard way..
• the_don

  30 Oct 04, 15:47

  DON'T DO IT
  
  1) guy is married, see it from the wife's eyes
  2) guy is a ass hole. he only interested in her hole
  3) first time, second time or watever, if she think by having sex with the guy will keep him with her, think again. it's clear the guy's intention is to play.
  4) tell your fren she deserves better, a better man that can respect her as a human and not treat her as a play thing
  
  if she is lonely, that find more frens, sgforums got some nice pple and can go for outing.
  
  if she never attached before, than tell her this guy stinks and she should open eyes big big. she can live happily single too.
  
  if she just wanna lose her virginity, then wat is the issue, just do it and remember don't cry foul after.
  
  just my 2cents worth
  
  Don
  
  

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

• shaunlaw

  30 Oct 04, 18:04

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  I believe its time u wake ur fren up. She will be the losing end no matter wat. Involving with a married man is sth not worth it and our society sees it as not desirable.
  
  I believe u shld ask ur fren to break away from such a relationship. It does more harm to her than good. Ask her this question: "Why do u love that guy? Bcos of love? Or bcos hes mature and financially independent?"
• picachu

  31 Oct 04, 03:51

  The man can be her father lei.
  
  If she really dont mind peopl gossip and she confirm will love the man even when he is old and ugly, then let her be lo...anyway love is blind.
  
• Danisdead101times

  31 Oct 04, 03:56

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  ofcuz no!! why go and breaks other family up? there are alot of other guys out there and your friend is still young ,why should she stay with an old man?
• boy in blues

  31 Oct 04, 04:10

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  the old geezer is feeling itchy. she should not have physical relationship with him. however if he is filthy rich, she should make him spend a lot on her, after which, blackmail him by threatening to rat to his wife
• Devil1976

  31 Oct 04, 23:38

  Originally posted by lynna:

  Thanks for the advise.. but i guess she's so into it until she don't listens to anyone of us.. she just insist that he is very good and won't hurt her.. Aiyo.. sighz..

  Try to find people you know who had bad experiences of that before to talk to her....
• mimi71

  1 Nov 04, 09:42

  Originally posted by lynna:

  HI all,
  
  my friend told me that she's involved with a married man..and ask if she should continue..
  
  They have some touching and initmate relationship and the guy ask for sex.. should she give him her first time?
  Please give some advise, i don't know what to tell her also..
  
  For your info, she's 20 this year.. and the guy is 40 plus..

  SO COMMON-LAH EVERY WHERE IS HAPPENING HAHAH
  
  It's all up to her, it's either she stays wif him or she leaves him NOW, GOOD LUCK
• gerrykoh

  1 Nov 04, 11:18

  She should even ask u such a stupid question- of course it is not ok.
  Tell her not to be blinded by his money or status.
  He will only play with her, after he is tired of it, he will ditch her.