What shld i do?
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Hello hello....
u noe rite, i met this girl in poly, it's been 5 mths since, and i've been secretly liking her la, so i din realli ask her out.. den one day i decided to tell her that i like her.. and.. well, she rejected me haha.. so nvm... a bit shy, din talk for 2 wks, den went on an outing with another guy and 3 other girls, including me and her, a week after that outing, i decided to ask her again, but still the same response. when i asked her if i stood a chance, she said no.. but up till now, even though she said no la, i still like her leh, i still wanna try, but i dunno whether this time, it's still gonna be the same ans. a not leh, i'm thinking of getting back to the level of comfort between us before i told her i like her, then i ask her again .. cos now dun realli talk le.. cos of those 2 incidents.. what do u think? does she realli mean no? i'm not doubting her or anything, but then ... dunno la.. -
no means no. look for other girls bah
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... >.< realli arh .... i can't forget abt her leh ..
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keep asking after long periods of time, and in between, try to get to know her more. ask her until she slaps you, and thats when you noe its game over
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i love u sgFish ...
this is actually the first encouraging advice i got.. feeling better for the first time in days
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Take it as a NO for now. Alternatively, you can try irritating her even further then come back here in AA and share your sorrows of how she got really p|ssed off by you?Originally posted by beagle:Hello hello....
u noe rite, i met this girl in poly, it's been 5 mths since, and i've been secretly liking her la, so i din realli ask her out.. den one day i decided to tell her that i like her.. and.. well, she rejected me haha.. so nvm... a bit shy, din talk for 2 wks, den went on an outing with another guy and 3 other girls, including me and her, a week after that outing, i decided to ask her again, but still the same response. when i asked her if i stood a chance, she said no.. but up till now, even though she said no la, i still like her leh, i still wanna try, but i dunno whether this time, it's still gonna be the same ans. a not leh, i'm thinking of getting back to the level of comfort between us before i told her i like her, then i ask her again .. cos now dun realli talk le.. cos of those 2 incidents.. what do u think? does she realli mean no? i'm not doubting her or anything, but then ... dunno la..
Of course you 'dunno'... All you KNOW is a 'YES' probably...?
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when she say no reali means no chance... so stop it or she will list u as a stalker soon... go for other gals la...Originally posted by beagle:Hello hello....
u noe rite, i met this girl in poly, it's been 5 mths since, and i've been secretly liking her la, so i din realli ask her out.. den one day i decided to tell her that i like her.. and.. well, she rejected me haha.. so nvm... a bit shy, din talk for 2 wks, den went on an outing with another guy and 3 other girls, including me and her, a week after that outing, i decided to ask her again, but still the same response. when i asked her if i stood a chance, she said no.. but up till now, even though she said no la, i still like her leh, i still wanna try, but i dunno whether this time, it's still gonna be the same ans. a not leh, i'm thinking of getting back to the level of comfort between us before i told her i like her, then i ask her again .. cos now dun realli talk le.. cos of those 2 incidents.. what do u think? does she realli mean no? i'm not doubting her or anything, but then ... dunno la.. -
haha... see what i mean .. dunno y leh, but everyone around me tells me "no" ... what shld i realli do .. everyone tells me no, she told me no, but i seem to have this ... "determination" to try n get her..
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When people says "no" to you or rejects. It means success is in the process, get to know her better or even becoming 1 of her closer friend or so, then slowly hint her.
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Personally I will back off for now. Its obvious she have no interest in having a closer rs with you currently. Move on, look for greener pasture. Even if you persist its unlikely to end up happily ever after like a hollywood show.
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lol. i'm doing what i told you to do now... but i haven't asked yet =POriginally posted by beagle:i love u sgFish ...
this is actually the first encouraging advice i got.. feeling better for the first time in days
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No means no, take no for an answer.
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mmm ur method of approach is abit abrupt and startling. how abt adopting my method below:
1. get to know her more and let her know u more too by going out with friends, talking, joking, etc
2. be nice and try to find out more abt her. ask her friends wat she like or not like, wat kind of guys she prefer?
3. don't get so worked up, relax. if u all fate, sure things will happen. as i always say wat is urs will be urs, wat is not urs will forever not be urs
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Have one last cry and forget her.
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hehe.. u noe, i tried that, i believe it was 3 times, but it didn't work. honestly.Originally posted by Patrik:Have one last cry and forget her. -
u are like the energizer batt... never say die...
good spirit!! keep it up!
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thx a lot
haah.. having a bit of trouble striking up a convo with her.. even though it's just online
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You pop the question too early
Your intentions have been made known.
You are exposed.
The 'be a good friend first' ploy won't work.
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-_-" omg ...Originally posted by Magnus:You pop the question too early
Your intentions have been made known.
You are exposed.
The 'be a good friend first' ploy won't work.
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agree with Magnus..you pop the question too early. nvm, learning experience for you
get over her bah, it's easy to find another girl you like. and i think you like her because she's the prettiest girl in your class, right?
a girl will decide whether you are in her 'friends' group or 'lovers' group based on your behaviour and the conversations you had with her.
so learn how to talk confident and act confident in front of her. being too serious, acting cool, and keeping your mouth shut are some of the best things you can do to be friends with her forever.
like i said, experience is the best teacher. you'll learn better and much more if you try it out yourself.
if you need practice, just find some of the less attractive girls in your class and start talking to them. just go up and say 'hi'. DON'T WORRY ABOUT HAVING NO TOPICS TO TALK ABOUT. just talk to her about anything! her sec sch life...your sec sch life...latest gossip...music...jokes...etc.
besides, if she's uninterested...what's the worst thing that could happen? eat up your kkj? tear your balls out? turn you into a toad? NO! the worst thing that would happen is that she would walk off! hey, at least she wasn't the girl of your dreams! better practice more if you don't want the girl of your dreams to do the same thing!
a few more tips for you:
- don't EVER confess your feelings for her, unless you're certain that she likes you as well. just treat her as a normal friend.
- DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT BE EXTRAORDINARILY NICE TO HER. IT WILL ONLY SCARE HER AWAY.
- if you like a girl, be her friend first! talk to her, and go out with her. let her get to know you better first.
- if you like her, act like you're not interested in her, just treat her as a normal friend. (i know it sounds stupid, but it really works.)
- don't always give in to her. i think that applies to not giving in to all girls.
btw, if you want to get your friendship back to its comfort zone, you have to convince her that you're not interested in her anymore. make her feel that she isn't your target anymore (there are plenty of ways to do this. one of them is to act gay with your buddy
) when she realises that she isn't your target anymore, she'll start to open up again.
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Originally posted by verloren:
OMG i love this piece of advice OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG thank u so very much
agree with Magnus..you pop the question too early. nvm, learning experience for you
get over her bah, it's easy to find another girl you like. and i think you like her because she's the prettiest girl in your class, right?
a girl will decide whether you are in her 'friends' group or 'lovers' group based on your behaviour and the conversations you had with her.
so learn how to talk confident and act confident in front of her. being too serious, acting cool, and keeping your mouth shut are some of the best things you can do to be friends with her forever.
like i said, experience is the best teacher. you'll learn better and much more if you try it out yourself.
if you need practice, just find some of the less attractive girls in your class and start talking to them. just go up and say 'hi'. [b]DON'T WORRY ABOUT HAVING NO TOPICS TO TALK ABOUT. just talk to her about anything! her sec sch life...your sec sch life...latest gossip...music...jokes...etc.
besides, if she's uninterested...what's the worst thing that could happen? eat up your kkj? tear your balls out? turn you into a toad? NO! the worst thing that would happen is that she would walk off! hey, at least she wasn't the girl of your dreams! better practice more if you don't want the girl of your dreams to do the same thing!
a few more tips for you:
- don't EVER confess your feelings for her, unless you're certain that she likes you as well. just treat her as a normal friend.
- DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT BE EXTRAORDINARILY NICE TO HER. IT WILL ONLY SCARE HER AWAY.
- if you like a girl, be her friend first! talk to her, and go out with her. let her get to know you better first.
- if you like her, act like you're not interested in her, just treat her as a normal friend. (i know it sounds stupid, but it really works.)
- don't always give in to her. i think that applies to not giving in to all girls.
btw, if you want to get your friendship back to its comfort zone, you have to convince her that you're not interested in her anymore. make her feel that she isn't your target anymore (there are plenty of ways to do this. one of them is to act gay with your buddy ) when she realises that she isn't your target anymore, she'll start to open up again.
believe me...i've been through this.
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haha but how do i noe if she likes me back? -
gd luck beagle
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She dun like u means she dun like u. Why must u pester her?? Its not once but 2 times u told her. If she has any slight feeling for u, she would have not given u a straight NO. She means a definite NO.Originally posted by beagle:Hello hello....
u noe rite, i met this girl in poly, it's been 5 mths since, and i've been secretly liking her la, so i din realli ask her out.. den one day i decided to tell her that i like her.. and.. well, she rejected me haha.. so nvm... a bit shy, din talk for 2 wks, den went on an outing with another guy and 3 other girls, including me and her, a week after that outing, i decided to ask her again, but still the same response. when i asked her if i stood a chance, she said no.. but up till now, even though she said no la, i still like her leh, i still wanna try, but i dunno whether this time, it's still gonna be the same ans. a not leh, i'm thinking of getting back to the level of comfort between us before i told her i like her, then i ask her again .. cos now dun realli talk le.. cos of those 2 incidents.. what do u think? does she realli mean no? i'm not doubting her or anything, but then ... dunno la..
Dun make her feel u are pestering her if u stil wana be frens with her. And frens is the only thing u can be with her from wat i see now. She said u stood no chance! Get that like feeling out of u and move on. U tried 2 times, I can gaurantee u, the 3rd time is stil the same ans and she will not be frens with u again. -
*Robo Cop 3*: Rrrrriii... SHE SAID NO... MAybe you have a hearing problem.Originally posted by beagle:Hello hello....
u noe rite, i met this girl in poly, it's been 5 mths since, and i've been secretly liking her la, so i din realli ask her out.. den one day i decided to tell her that i like her.. and.. well, she rejected me haha.. so nvm... a bit shy, din talk for 2 wks, den went on an outing with another guy and 3 other girls, including me and her, a week after that outing, i decided to ask her again, but still the same response. when i asked her if i stood a chance, she said no.. but up till now, even though she said no la, i still like her leh, i still wanna try, but i dunno whether this time, it's still gonna be the same ans. a not leh, i'm thinking of getting back to the level of comfort between us before i told her i like her, then i ask her again .. cos now dun realli talk le.. cos of those 2 incidents.. what do u think? does she realli mean no? i'm not doubting her or anything, but then ... dunno la..
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girls express themselves through body language...so there are some ways to see if she's interested in you or not:
1) when you're talking to her, look at her straight in the eye. hold the eye contact for 2 seconds: if she continues to gaze at you after 2 seconds, it means that she's quite interested in you. if she looks away, that's bad news for you. this is one of the easiest ways to test if she's interested in you or not.
2) try to move in a little closer to her when you're talking to her. the point here is not to zoom into her like you're going to rape her. any girl, no matter how interested she is, will move back if you zoom in on her too suddenly. a small but significant shift in position will do the trick.
if she's interested in you, she'll stay put. if not, she'll move back.
3) when you're having a conversation, does she lean towards you? if she is, it's a clear sign that she's interested in you.
4) does she play with her hair/earrings/rub her wrists when she's talking to you? that sounds like good news.
5) if she's smiling and nodding alot when talking to you, that's a good sign as well.
you might want to look out for these things as well, because they're signs of no interest:
- eye contact never lasts for more than 2 seconds.
- constantly turning away from you while you're talking to her.
- always gives excuses to NOT go out with you.
btw, being interested in you doesn't mean that she is definitely in love with you! remember that your goal here is just to check whether the interest is there or not, not anything else.
when you know she's interested in talking to you, you can start making your moves