Sounds like an excuse to go and let things die off. Just let go and move on. I did the same. I moved on. Always the same excusesOriginally posted by alien_04:when he says he wants a cooling period for us to seperate for a while because he does not know what he wants and very confused about his life. He does not know what to do with me. He says he don't know when this
"confused" state will end and whether I'm willing to wait for him or not.
Sigh, I'm equally confused.
oh oh...mostly guys will say this way is the end of the r/s already...Originally posted by alien_04:when he says he wants a cooling period for us to seperate for a while because he does not know what he wants and very confused about his life. He does not know what to do with me. He says he don't know when this
"confused" state will end and whether I'm willing to wait for him or not.
Sigh, I'm equally confused.
Not necessarily....?Originally posted by mujiland:Sounds like an excuse to go and let things die off. Just let go and move on. I did the same. I moved on. Always the same excuses
Always take things in your stride and remind yourself he has given you the opportunity to seek another better person to fit into your life!![]()
Really...?Originally posted by Camellias4me:while he is still feeling confused... i would b quite sure i'm not... i can't feel or see in any way dat he wants mi at all. Y would i need to wait for him to figure his own heart out? He doesn't even noe wat he wans & wat can he gif? still selfishly expect u to hang on for him... & wat? wait for him to reject u at the end? tsk tsk.. tell him to go sort himself out as long as he wan to take... u've to focus on urself now... look at the many other eligible men ard u.. not worth getting urself upset gal.. u deserve some1 better... 1 who is very sure he WANTS & NEEDS u in his life.. now.. future.. & forever
Don't quite understand... What's the main issue here..? Just between you and him? Or does it involve other problems and hence aspects of his life....? Cause to me, it would sound very much like the latter...? If you don't know or ain't sure, try to find out more....?Originally posted by alien_04:when he says he wants a cooling period for us to seperate for a while because he does not know what he wants and very confused about his life. He does not know what to do with me. He says he don't know when this
"confused" state will end and whether I'm willing to wait for him or not.
Sigh, I'm equally confused.
How do you know the problem lies with men...?Originally posted by browniebaobao:Men...
*pardon my expressiON* he could just want to see more pussies/Originally posted by alien_04:when he says he wants a cooling period for us to seperate for a while because he does not know what he wants and very confused about his life. He does not know what to do with me. He says he don't know when this
"confused" state will end and whether I'm willing to wait for him or not.
Sigh, I'm equally confused.
Wow, u are very observant. Yes. we have underlying problems and my postOriginally posted by Devil1976:Don't quite understand... What's the main issue here..? Just between you and him? Or does it involve other problems and hence aspects of his life....? Cause to me, it would sound very much like the latter...? If you don't know or ain't sure, try to find out more....?
How old are the both of you...? Currently occupations...?
Personally, I would like to think that he cares for you... Because he's giving you the freedom of choice in waiting for him or not... If he really don't care, he probably could have done 'better'....?
The 'issue' you're talking about... Is it the only main issue which have put your relationship into its current position...?Originally posted by alien_04:Wow, u are very observant. Yes. we have underlying problems and my post
is not to blame him. I myself has commited a bigger mistake and regret over it. The biggest problem is he refuse to talk about our problem. He insists that he will call and talk about it when both of us are ready. I guess my only hope is to pray for his forgiveness and return. Or rather a miracle to happen.
It's too complicated and too long winded to write.Originally posted by Devil1976:Both your age, star signs and occupations pls...?
Well... Maybe you're a total disbeliever... But it might help in a way...Originally posted by alien_04:It's too complicated and too long winded to write.
It's been nearly a yr since his request. Both of us are hurting and only time will tell and heal our wounds.
Just curious, does age, star signs and occupations matter ?
Originally posted by alien_04:Thank you all. Really nice to have you people around for advise.
Wish you all in good health and happy relationship.