my advice to gals in terms of bgr.....
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especially those who do not dare to express themliking for someone because of being afraid os being called desparate or nobody -wants-you labelling.
forget about what the rest of the world will call you, critise you, laugh at you,
those people will 99% not dare to do it themselves given your postion.
remeber if you cannot overcome this mentality , you miss the chance, and so you wait.. and wait... and wait.......
IT IS your own loss not other people.
in general, caring about what others might say and making decision just to save your face is a BAD BAD thing that applies to everytinhg in life.
remeber, it is your own loss if you miss the chance.
so go out girls and achieve equlaity of gender. i know its hard to be the leading such a notion. but you will get to enjoy the benefits first.
i am a guy. but i am not saying this so that i will get attached loh.......
jus expresing my thots. and i dun believe in love loh..........
me currently in nus engineering EEE year 2 . anyine also in same place or near me....? -
what for? the one getting hurt, ends up to be me. =X
hehe.
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if you believe you are hurt, you are hurt.
if you believe you are ok, you are ok, its all in the mind.
you need to upgrade your thinking to a higher level. it is for your own good. -
for 2 complete strangers to live as a couple is not easy....
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to windjammer: you are out of point.....
please make constructive comments..... -
out of point has got nothing to do with me le...Originally posted by gkokm21:to windjammer: you are out of point.....
please make constructive comments.....
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well said.. but that isn't the case in reality... tell me who dun bother abt what others said abt them ?? i think everyone will bother abt what ppl said .. more or less ....Originally posted by gkokm21:especially those who do not dare to express themliking for someone because of being afraid os being called desparate or nobody -wants-you labelling.
forget about what the rest of the world will call you, critise you, laugh at you,
those people will 99% not dare to do it themselves given your postion.
remeber if you cannot overcome this mentality , you miss the chance, and so you wait.. and wait... and wait.......
IT IS your own loss not other people.
in general, caring about what others might say and making decision just to save your face is a BAD BAD thing that applies to everytinhg in life.
remeber, it is your own loss if you miss the chance.
so go out girls and achieve equlaity of gender. i know its hard to be the leading such a notion. but you will get to enjoy the benefits first.
i am a guy. but i am not saying this so that i will get attached loh.......
jus expresing my thots. and i dun believe in love loh..........
me currently in nus engineering EEE year 2 . anyine also in same place or near me....?
in this world that we live in , guys are always the hunter... we r supposed to take the initiatives ... no choice ...
it is not easy to call a gal to take the initiative... it takes a real brave one to take the first step.. be it a guy or a gal... -
like i said in my earlier post...Originally posted by justin_12345:well said.. but that isn't the case in reality... tell me when dun bother abt what others said abt them ?? i think everyone will bother abt what ppl said .. more or less ....
in this world that we live in , guys are always the hunter... we r supposed to take the initiatives ... no choice ...
it is not easy to call a gal to take the initiative... it takes a real brave one to take the first step.. be it a guy or a gal... -
to say that no choice guys just have to initiate is to throw the towel.
if everything you use the phrase no choice will only mean that you are in the losing end all the time.
i know that it is diffcult to achieve what i say for the gals.
but to enjoy the goodness of life, you have to earn it.
but if you fail its ok. failure is nothing more than a 8 charater word.
back to the books............ ^_^ -
Originally posted by gkokm21:
No no.. u are wanting to get attached, i must say this is a cool attempt to be sensitive and new age! Hope it works! But i prefer to go with the traditional male YUARGGH!! *ROAR! attempt meself =)
especially those who do not dare to express themliking for someone because of being afraid os being called desparate or nobody -wants-you labelling.
forget about what the rest of the world will call you, critise you, laugh at you,
those people will 99% not dare to do it themselves given your postion.
remeber if you cannot overcome this mentality , you miss the chance, and so you wait.. and wait... and wait.......
IT IS your own loss not other people.
in general, caring about what others might say and making decision just to save your face is a BAD BAD thing that applies to everytinhg in life.
remeber, it is your own loss if you miss the chance.
so go out girls and achieve equlaity of gender. i know its hard to be the leading such a notion. but you will get to enjoy the benefits first.
[b]i am a guy. but i am not saying this so that i will get attached loh.......
jus expresing my thots. and i dun believe in love loh..........
me currently in nus engineering EEE year 2 . anyine also in same place or near me....?[/b] -
Really depends on the relationship you want eventually. Typically, the one doing the chasing may be the one who accomodates the other party more.
For best result, it would be best that both guy and gal takes initiative to let the other party know that you have taken an interest. Both sexes needs courage and encouragement on this road of love. -
yup i agree with you. i believe in SEIZING THE DAY!! CARPE DIEM... but i sometimes wait for some time.... unless the feelings are damn strong, i jus let it go... if the feelings are too strong, u cant afford to let the chance slip past.Originally posted by gkokm21:especially those who do not dare to express themliking for someone because of being afraid os being called desparate or nobody -wants-you labelling.
forget about what the rest of the world will call you, critise you, laugh at you,
those people will 99% not dare to do it themselves given your postion.
remeber if you cannot overcome this mentality , you miss the chance, and so you wait.. and wait... and wait.......
IT IS your own loss not other people.
in general, caring about what others might say and making decision just to save your face is a BAD BAD thing that applies to everytinhg in life.
remeber, it is your own loss if you miss the chance.
so go out girls and achieve equlaity of gender. i know its hard to be the leading such a notion. but you will get to enjoy the benefits first.
i am a guy. but i am not saying this so that i will get attached loh.......
jus expresing my thots. and i dun believe in love loh..........
me currently in nus engineering EEE year 2 . anyine also in same place or near me....?
it's v rare to find someone whom u like and lieks u back.... dun ruin the chance! -
me me! i took the initiative... but i know not everyone is as lucky as me though... i believe that sometimes you have to make things happen because some things do not happen without a "trigger"... erm i'm not very good with words... hope someone can get my meaning yar...
personally i don't like regrets (who does?
)... so i prefer to give something a try/go even if i have not much confidence... at least i can look back and say "i've tried"... so even if you got rejected, don't despair or get too upset, pick yourself up... the one for you will hopefully appear somehow, someday... 
good luck to everyone... -
i think that guy is fantasizing that some ger is secretly in lurve wif him and she will biao bai to him..
eh stop dreamin and start workin la -
In this modern society, y not, however, most gals stil waiting for guys to take initiative..hmmm, maybe i am daring to do so lor, hahaha..well perhaps i dun wan to regret later or guess whether the other party likes me or not, make it clear..sometimes really can't wait, i hav experienced b4..i used to lik this guy, tinking of telling him but din, then few wks later found tat he's attached !! so i felt disappointed lor..however he borke up wif this gal later n i finally confessed to him, although finally we stil din get together but at least he knew my feelings, gals out there, dun feel shy abt it, who knows the guy maybe interested in u too, if u dun try, ur chance is ZERO, if u did, chances maybe 50-50, nothg to lose wat, if u din tell any ppl , who wil knows !!!
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Hmm... Not sure what kinda of 'advice' is this... But I guess it's 'to each their own'...?
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I guess it is ok to indicate to the guys u are interested in them but don't think it is a good idea to actively chase a guy. It puts him off!
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Only to you people who are stuck in confucianist CHING CHONG mentality. But hmmm i was chased by girls, but wad put me off was that none of the girls made me feel good.. i.e. they were not very nice people. That was why i got put off.Originally posted by gerrykoh:I guess it is ok to indicate to the guys u are interested in them but don't think it is a good idea to actively chase a guy. It puts him off!
So regardless of who chase who, it doesn't matter, what matters is that both parties like each other regardless of who does the chasing. -
I did.
I loved him first, and loved him last. -
sounds like the kind of advise which some pple give without sparing a thought for the person(s) he's meant to be advising.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Not sure what kinda of 'advice' is this... But I guess it's 'to each their own'...?
more like preaching if you ask me. then again, at least prechers have supporting evidence based on books, documents and history which they believe is true. this fella? based on his keyboard, internet connection and monitor? -
Mmm... Yup... A rather 'personal' kinda feeling... Perhaps it's more like expressing how he was feeling then...? Could be due to some things he've encountered in his own personal life...? That's why it's posted in AA in the 1st place...?Originally posted by jOhO:sounds like the kind of advise which some pple give without sparing a thought for the person(s) he's meant to be advising.
more like preaching if you ask me. then again, at least prechers have supporting evidence based on books, documents and history which they believe is true. this fella? based on his keyboard, internet connection and monitor?
Well... There was a moment of my life when I was harbouring those kinda thoughts too... Hmm... There're always such moments in our lives yeah...? It's all just part of growing up....?