Originally posted by alien_04:
Emotionally Independent ?
Does it mean to be devoid of emotion ? How can a human being do
that especially in relationship when there is feelings/emotions involved ?
Hehehe...emotionally independent.

Well, to be emotionally independent...you will have to be in control of your own emotions. Not to be totally devoid of emotions...just need to be able to reject everybody's influence on your own emotions/moods/reactions. Say, if you decide that today will be a happy day for you...regardless of what other people does and whatever unfortunate events happens to you on the day you decided to be happy. If you can stay happy and feel truely happy on that day, you have achieved emotions independence. Hmm..perhaps staying happy is quite a difficult task to achieve, how about not feeling unhappy over any uncertain events that might occur due to the response/reactions of other people?

To do that, you will first need to overcome your fears and worries. You either face them or avoid them...in our daily case, we avoid our fears and worries. To be emotionally independent, you will need to face your own fears and worries. Deal with them one at a time, don't bring all of them out from your mind at once or you might end up feeling worse than ever. Overcome them one by one and eventually you will find peace in yourself. When you have peace in your mind, you will find happiness in your heart. When that comes, you will realised that you suddenly actually have something called self-confidence.

True self-confidence comes from within people who are able to overcome their own fears and worries in life. And if you have your own true self-confidence in yourself, you will find that life is actually no that bad after all. Because whatever events that is going to happen/come to you in the future is definitely not going to be worse than your own fears which you have successfully overcome.
Hmm...when a person is devoid of emotions, that person is at the end of his/her border of sanity. That only happens when the body/mind kicks in the last line of defence in order to protect the soul of the person. If any cause of chance whereby the person is subjected to another emotional disaster, that person might be forced to take drastic actions to protect his/her sanity. Well, sometimes people goes crazy when they are not able to deal with a long-term problem.

Good luck and always be true to your own emotions.
