How to maintain relationship..?
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is there anyway to maintain relationship? how to ensure tt relationship last forever.. the gurl i like is actualli my ex... there's difficulty for us to get together again.. we do nt wan to get hurt by each other like wad happened in the past.. in the past, i took her for granted.. perhaps becos of tt i had fallen for another gurl tt time.. i did nt dare to tell her tt i'll love her forever..
for her.. she was veri devoted and loved me wholeheartedly. but b'coz of tt she didn't reeli get to enjoy life when she's wif her frenz.. she spent most of the time tinkin' abt me. she tell me tt she dun1 tt.. she say she may like somebody again, but will nt get into relationship. does this haf to do wif age..? ya.. we r jus 16..
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12 tips for a great relationship
1. Talk to each other – your partner cannot read your mind, be clear about what you want to say and listen carefully to your partner.
2. Spend time together – make your relationship a priority.
3. Balance the time you spend at work and the time you spend working on your relationship.
4. To feel good about your relationship you need to feel good about yourself.
5. Make room in your relationship for differences and value them.
6. Relationships are flexible – let your relationship adapt and grow with you.
7. Set goals for your relationship and plan your future together.
8. Try not to judge, criticise or blame each other.
9. No one is perfect, arguments happen, resolve them with respect.
10. Be sexually considerate with your partner – be affectionate and have fun but remember your sex drives may be different.
11. Be attentive and romantic – remember how it was when you first met.
12. Express and demonstrate your commitment to the relationship – have fun and celebrate the things you enjoy in your life together. -
then when is the right time for relationship? how to noe whether we r ready to get into relationship?
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Not to belittle you because of your age... 'Forever' is really a long way to go for a couple at the age of 16... Even anybody older than that would have much difficulty achieving that....Originally posted by Itachi:then when is the right time for relationship? how to noe whether we r ready to get into relationship?
What I would urge you for now... Don't be too bothered by the 'forever' thing... Sometimes relationship is not all about 'forever'... Even life ain't a 'forever' thing.... Learn to enjoy, experience and understand 'love' now instead....?
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Good adviceOriginally posted by Devil1976:What I would urge you for now... Don't be too bothered by the 'forever' thing... Sometimes relationship is not all about 'forever'... Even life ain't a 'forever' thing.... Learn to enjoy, experience and understand 'love' now instead....? -
Enjoy your friendships now than going into relationships. Don't be offended but 16 is too young to have a serious relationship.
There are more interesting things in life at 16 than the opposite sex.
Sorry I sounded like a typical adult...
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Most Important Rule IMOOriginally posted by ^spidee^:12 tips for a great relationship
1. Talk to each other – your partner cannot read your mind, be clear about what you want to say and listen carefully to your partner.
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x2. Agree.Originally posted by Axelheat755:Most Important Rule IMO 
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Ya, 16 is still too young for a r/s.
U should be enjoying the company of many people of yr age.
Go for group outings & concentrate on yr studies.
Wait till u get to U. There will be many opportunities to get a gf.
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Relationships were never easy. Frankly speaking, I don't see any true love sparkling at the age of 16. You are still too young. You see, you fell for another gal when you are in a relationship. You are simply not ready.
But then, I do have friends who are very blissful and lucky. I think they are meant for each other. They were together when they were 14. Now, they're married. 9 years of courtship, now husband and wife. But, such examples are hard to find.
I advise you not to indulge too much into relationship now. At least wait till you have gone army, then you will think differently.
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haiz, we had been together for 2 and a half yr and it's been 7 mths since we broke up le..
reeli hope tt we can be like b4 again.. *saD* -
i agree with the comments that the ppl gave here. 16 years old is too young for 'forever' becos the way is too long. like wat they say mayb u shd njoy life now, and taste the sweetness of love rather than the 'forever' thing..Originally posted by Itachi:haiz, we had been together for 2 and a half yr and it's been 7 mths since we broke up le..
reeli hope tt we can be like b4 again.. *saD* -
who say.. i know mine when i was 16! still going on great forever~~~
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Wake up and go dip urself in the pool. U took ppl for granted, hurt ppl then come say u love ppl again. Qu shi ba!Originally posted by Itachi:is there anyway to maintain relationship? how to ensure tt relationship last forever.. the gurl i like is actualli my ex... there's difficulty for us to get together again.. we do nt wan to get hurt by each other like wad happened in the past.. in the past, i took her for granted.. perhaps becos of tt i had fallen for another gurl tt time.. i did nt dare to tell her tt i'll love her forever..
for her.. she was veri devoted and loved me wholeheartedly. but b'coz of tt she didn't reeli get to enjoy life when she's wif her frenz.. she spent most of the time tinkin' abt me. she tell me tt she dun1 tt.. she say she may like somebody again, but will nt get into relationship. does this haf to do wif age..? ya.. we r jus 16.. thanks for reading. 
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Okie.. good for you.Originally posted by BabyLover:who say.. i know mine when i was 16! still going on great forever~~~ -
Did you enter this relationship because you know what you want from it? Or did you jump into it just because she likes you, and you like her?Originally posted by Itachi:is there anyway to maintain relationship? how to ensure tt relationship last forever.. the gurl i like is actualli my ex... there's difficulty for us to get together again.. we do nt wan to get hurt by each other like wad happened in the past.. in the past, i took her for granted.. perhaps becos of tt i had fallen for another gurl tt time.. i did nt dare to tell her tt i'll love her forever..
for her.. she was veri devoted and loved me wholeheartedly. but b'coz of tt she didn't reeli get to enjoy life when she's wif her frenz.. she spent most of the time tinkin' abt me. she tell me tt she dun1 tt.. she say she may like somebody again, but will nt get into relationship. does this haf to do wif age..? ya.. we r jus 16.. thanks for reading.
Too often, many people jump into relationships without giving second thoughts. Why? That's because they're only looking for people who will love them, instead of people who will meet each other's needs. Such relationships will more often than not cool off very quickly.
Ask yourself these questions before you go into a relationship:
- What do I want out from a relationship?
- What do I want from my partner?
- WHY do I need to get into a relationship?
This is important for both genders because it allows both parties to understand what they truly want/need from a relationship, which is essential for a long lasting relationship.
I strongly suggest you and your ex-girlfriend to ask yourselves these questions. Perhaps you'll get a clearer answer. -
use r sharingan n c ur own future lo....
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COMMUNICATE....COMMUNICATE....COMMUNICATE....COMMUNICATE....
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advice advice~ ?Originally posted by BabyLover:who say.. i know mine when i was 16! still going on great forever~~~
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wah lan i veri luan leh.. nono i shldn't put it this way saying mi fallen for another gurl.. i jus gt alittle abit of crush crush like.. not veri jia lart kuan!! !@#$%^& haizz !@#$%^&* myself..
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guys always do that and i can tell you it hurts like fuk. Your selfish in a sense that you never think about her feelings and you expect her to consider yours now? she'll probably be afraid to trust you again, afraid that she might get hurt.
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I agree with cutiepixie.Originally posted by cutepixie:guys always do that and i can tell you it hurts like fuk. Your selfish in a sense that you never think about her feelings and you expect her to consider yours now? she'll probably be afraid to trust you again, afraid that she might get hurt.
U shldnt have any feelings for a girl other than frenship then. Crush is also a form of love. So dun go and hurt ur ex when shes happy. Just leave her alone. U dun deserve her anymore! -
i agree too.. regret liao, really hate myself.. but can't do anything to payback.. even for entire lifetime. but we're now veri veri gd frens.. jus be always there for her ba.. i tink tt's all i can't do.Originally posted by cutepixie:guys always do that and i can tell you it hurts like fuk. Your selfish in a sense that you never think about her feelings and you expect her to consider yours now? she'll probably be afraid to trust you again, afraid that she might get hurt.
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Hi..
I can understand ur plight very well.. Coz i myself got myself into hmm 'mess'? Haha.. I went steady wit my bf when i m 15yrs old.. I started to lik him when i am 14.. We were tog for almost 4 yrs when we broke off..
He was like my life.. If he is happy, i am happy.. If he sad, i also sad.. I put him as my top priority.. Dunno why i love him tat much also.. Haha.. We got along very well..
Almost a yr have gone by since we broke off.. Still i am missin him alot.. Though i have given up totally on him.. Our breakoff was mutal.. But then.. Haha.. He now has got on wit life, found a new gf.. Whereas for mi.. I am still unable to start on a new relationship..
I feel tat.. Hmm.. True.. Is indeed a mistake to go steady at such a young age, say 16... There isn a gd time whereby people say.. U r still young or etc.. It all depends on ur maturity level..
U may feel tat.. I am old enough.. I am matured enough to handle all of tat in a relationship... I am very much in love.. etc.. Haha.. i been thru all tis..
But then, i come to realise tat.. I was wrong.. At different pt of time.. I stead at 15.. so at 16.. Ok.. my thinkin still bt the same.. But when i reach 18, and we both got into poly.. Change of envt, friends..
Suddenly, we both changed.. our preceptions, our thinkin.. It was then we realise tat we both were not rite for each other.. Despite how hmm.. close we were.. Then we started to drift apart..
16, 18, 21.. I feel tat tis 3 ages.. U go thru a major change.. Tak my words.. wat u see now when u r 16, u see later when u r 18...etc.. So.. Hmm, mayb the best time is after 21, or after when both parties have gone to society to work.. Tis is e time whereby both parties are very sure of wat they want in each other.. And thus.. the relationship will be more of a sucess..
Now is the time to work hard for ur future! Jia you! -
thanks alot for these advices.. really appreciate it.. see how bah.. if we're really fated to be together, no matter what happen in next few years.. we'll still be together dee.. if not just forget it bah.. it'll oso be nice to be v gd frens.. sometimes relationships puts friendship to risk.. hahaOriginally posted by ahkico:Hi..
I can understand ur plight very well.. Coz i myself got myself into hmm 'mess'? Haha.. I went steady wit my bf when i m 15yrs old.. I started to lik him when i am 14.. We were tog for almost 4 yrs when we broke off..
He was like my life.. If he is happy, i am happy.. If he sad, i also sad.. I put him as my top priority.. Dunno why i love him tat much also.. Haha.. We got along very well..
Almost a yr have gone by since we broke off.. Still i am missin him alot.. Though i have given up totally on him.. Our breakoff was mutal.. But then.. Haha.. He now has got on wit life, found a new gf.. Whereas for mi.. I am still unable to start on a new relationship..
I feel tat.. Hmm.. True.. Is indeed a mistake to go steady at such a young age, say 16... There isn a gd time whereby people say.. U r still young or etc.. It all depends on ur maturity level..
U may feel tat.. I am old enough.. I am matured enough to handle all of tat in a relationship... I am very much in love.. etc.. Haha.. i been thru all tis..
But then, i come to realise tat.. I was wrong.. At different pt of time.. I stead at 15.. so at 16.. Ok.. my thinkin still bt the same.. But when i reach 18, and we both got into poly.. Change of envt, friends..
Suddenly, we both changed.. our preceptions, our thinkin.. It was then we realise tat we both were not rite for each other.. Despite how hmm.. close we were.. Then we started to drift apart..
16, 18, 21.. I feel tat tis 3 ages.. U go thru a major change.. Tak my words.. wat u see now when u r 16, u see later when u r 18...etc.. So.. Hmm, mayb the best time is after 21, or after when both parties have gone to society to work.. Tis is e time whereby both parties are very sure of wat they want in each other.. And thus.. the relationship will be more of a sucess..
Now is the time to work hard for ur future! Jia you!