Can give me your comments?
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Should i give her up, forget abt her and carry on? Or just be friends? Or dun give up and wait patiently?
I just broke up with my gf a week ago.We have been together for more than 2 yrs. Throughout this time i have been very good to her, she is to me too. We seldom quarrel and have been very happy and loving. We always felt that we will get marry each other in the end. But..
She has been working for about a yr. As a depress and pessimistic girl, she always have many thing to complain especially when she just started work. Everytime, i will listen patiently to her, help her think so solutions, calm her down and make her feel better. As time goes by, she became better, problems from work was lesser. And our conversations are also getting shorter. We begin to have communication problem as we didnt have much common topic to talk about. She tried her best to hang on but i didnt realised it till its too late..
She became very close to an ex colleague. I knew it and complain abt it to her. but she keep assuring me that they are just patonic friends. As i know she loves me alot, so i believed her. but all the while i was quite uneasy abt it. she was afraid that i will be very miserable so she begin to lie to me abt going out with him. But everytime i would know about it as she dunno how to lie and will end up quarreling with her.
One night, we went out with him again. i found out and was very hurt and angry. i went down immediately to look for her. we talk abt it and she told me they have some time cross the line of being friends. She was moved by him.
she was confused abt it and was really sorry and want me to give her time to sort out her feelings. So i sent her back home. When i reach home, i called her but she didnt pick up for very long. i was worried and went around looking for her. In the end, she called me. she was at the movies with the guy. She said that her feeling for me was always the same but she felt even more for the guy. She is able to click emotionally with him!
We didnt broke up immediately though.. i didnt want to give her up.this is what she had always taught me. i tried to win her back. she was touched but also guilty. But one day i found out that she send a love letter to the guy.. When i knew it i was very angry, felt cheated and hurt. I confronted her and in the end we broke up.. broke up the night before my exam..
Though i was angry at the night, but all the anger and hate was gone by the next day. i started to miss her.. i still love her.. i regretted that i confronted her that night as that marked the end of everything.. she is still not together with him yet. but i know its soon or later. i felt that i have given her up, given my chance up. I know that she wont turn back. she always felt that a r/s with a scar will never have a good ending.. is this true?? But is it possible for a r/s to never have a scar?? -
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is it possible for a r/s to never have a scar??
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NO!
Anyway, I think she has made up her mind and just that she can't take the courage to tell you. Her actions have already speak louder than her words now.
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i think you shud refer to the "how to keep a relationship thread" .. you are partly at fault to let ur relationship turn cold
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Sigh, sound so familiar...
Guess that working life opens up ones perspective towards relationship.
Just part and parcel of relationship....
No point persuing further, because you end up suspecting and quarelling
again....best to seperate for a while and time will take care of everything. -
then how do u handle with the scar? how can u let it heal?Originally posted by stormax:quote:
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is it possible for a r/s to never have a scar??
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wah,this is harsh,especially when exams r near,u better concentrate on ur studies 1st man......
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dun worry exam are never a problem for me.Originally posted by amuletgurl:wah,this is harsh,especially when exams r near,u better concentrate on ur studies 1st man...... -
Your gf seems to have a change of heart. She is attracted to her colleague cos they spend more time together & he is someone new.
Also the r/s becomes boring & u both drifted apart.
U caught her cheating on u & she felt guilty.
Are u sure u want her back knowing she doesn't love u?
Unless she is willing to give up the other guy & come back to u, if not u will forever be suspicious whether she is cheating on u again.
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Scar is what you imagine and keep thinking about. 2 ppl with 2 different family background,experience, etc are bonded to have differences.Originally posted by snoght:then how do u handle with the scar? how can u let it heal?
It's just hw you handle the differences, quarrels and ups and downs.
In a r/s, u dun focus on how 2 keep it without scar or let it heal. You just forgive and forget. Either learn to accept and grow in r/s, or just move on.
Time and maturity are the best medication for healing.
For you, the only thing I sense is that you are not letting go, you are the only person who is still there trying ways to patch up the r/s. The girl has made up her mind, she has sadly 2 say... chose the other guy.
For this present situation, I have seen too many similar cases. The best advice is still Let GO!
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Originally posted by snoght:
WAKE UP... If she DOESN'T want it... There's NOTHINg you can do about it too....?
Should i give her up, forget abt her and carry on? Or just be friends? Or dun give up and wait patiently?
I just broke up with my gf a week ago.We have been together for more than 2 yrs. Throughout this time i have been very good to her, she is to me too. We seldom quarrel and have been very happy and loving. We always felt that we will get marry each other in the end. But..
She has been working for about a yr. As a depress and pessimistic girl, she always have many thing to complain especially when she just started work. Everytime, i will listen patiently to her, help her think so solutions, calm her down and make her feel better. As time goes by, she became better, problems from work was lesser. And our conversations are also getting shorter. We begin to have [b]communication problem as we didnt have much common topic to talk about. She tried her best to hang on but i didnt realised it till its too late..
She became very close to an ex colleague. I knew it and complain abt it to her. but she keep assuring me that they are just patonic friends. As i know she loves me alot, so i believed her. but all the while i was quite uneasy abt it. she was afraid that i will be very miserable so she begin to lie to me abt going out with him. But everytime i would know about it as she dunno how to lie and will end up quarreling with her.
One night, we went out with him again. i found out and was very hurt and angry. i went down immediately to look for her. we talk abt it and she told me they have some time cross the line of being friends. She was moved by him.
she was confused abt it and was really sorry and want me to give her time to sort out her feelings. So i sent her back home. When i reach home, i called her but she didnt pick up for very long. i was worried and went around looking for her. In the end, she called me. she was at the movies with the guy. She said that her feeling for me was always the same but she felt even more for the guy. She is able to click emotionally with him!
We didnt broke up immediately though.. i didnt want to give her up.this is what she had always taught me. i tried to win her back. she was touched but also guilty. But one day i found out that she send a love letter to the guy.. When i knew it i was very angry, felt cheated and hurt. I confronted her and in the end we broke up.. broke up the night before my exam..
Though i was angry at the night, but all the anger and hate was gone by the next day. i started to miss her.. i still love her.. i regretted that i confronted her that night as that marked the end of everything.. she is still not together with him yet. but i know its soon or later. i felt that i have given her up, given my chance up. I know that she wont turn back. she always felt that a r/s with a scar will never have a good ending.. is this true?? But is it possible for a r/s to never have a scar??
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I think you should move on. When a gal had a change of heart or had made a decision, there is almost nothing that can make her change her mind. Really.
The person who love, is the one getting hurt in the end. But what to do? This is life. Move on and look straight. I'm having problems in my r/s too. I understand how you feel right now. But get this right, I'm sorry I have to tell you this, This Relationship Is Over... -
Yeah somehow everyone face with this before and you not alone...Human is human because they have great desire. We will never pleased with the things we have....
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this is so darn familiar...
i guess ur feeling now is BUAY GAM WAN... -
Hi, there is something i would like to make clear here.. You said you went out with both of them and you are hurt abt it?? If there is no typo error there, should you not haven taken the chance to know him better and make it clear that at that point of time, you are attached with her?Originally posted by snoght:Should i give her up, forget abt her and carry on? Or just be friends? Or dun give up and wait patiently?
One night, we went out with him again. i found out and was very hurt and angry. i went down immediately to look for her. we talk abt it and she told me they have some time cross the line of being friends. She was moved by him.
she was confused abt it and was really sorry and want me to give her time to sort out her feelings. So i sent her back home. When i reach home, i called her but she didnt pick up for very long. i was worried and went around looking for her. In the end, she called me. she was at the movies with the guy. She said that her feeling for me was always the same but she felt even more for the guy. She is able to click emotionally with him!
We didnt broke up immediately though.. i didnt want to give her up.this is what she had always taught me. i tried to win her back. she was touched but also guilty. But one day i found out that she send a love letter to the guy.. When i knew it i was very angry, felt cheated and hurt. I confronted her and in the end we broke up.. broke up the night before my exam..
From where you are standing, we can see that you are kinda scared and in secure of what she is doing.. 2 years of a relationship should be something that you know how firm is it.. The way you put yourself in this relation ship is like someone who has just started one.. and not sure of whether she will run off with another guy...
I don't blame you for feeling sad or angry when she sent that love letter to that guy.. Cause no matter what, at that point of time when she sents the letter, she is still attached to you.. That is an "indirect at of being unfaithful". Anyway, at the rate things are between you 2 now, you are standing on a thin line.. if things turn out very well and she wants to be back with you, she will come back to you.. But something I would like to advice you first.. The scar will always be there.. There is no such thing as not feeling awkward when something bad has happened..
What you can do is maybe drop 1 or 2 hints that you wan to get back to her.. Unless you really are firm abt your decision that you wanna leave her for good and vice versa..
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got out & buy 4 packet of mates...each packet contains 4 rubbers...use up all 16 in one week...make sure you let your f.ucking b.itch of a gf know you've been boning other chicks chioer than her ugly mug...that ought to make her feel like a f.ucking b.itch...dont worry, she'll come running back to you in a jiffy...fu.ck these b.itches...
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WHy do guys think that there is only 1 girl oUT THERE ALL THE TIME ROFL!?!?
Listen mate. U should learn to MAXIMISE ur UTILITY. There is no better time than now, everyone is WAITING, even when they are in a relationship. So what u should do is go out and meet new people while having this girl at the back of ur head, dun think she is the only girl in the world. This is what girls do ALL THE TIME, learn from them -
unless both of u can accept this "scar" n forget it, if not, it is v.difficult esp when both of u quarrel n may take this out to say...but i wan to advise is tat she has oredi changed her heart...get it on, man, surely there's other gd gals in this world !!