Great... Yeah... Just do that please.... AFTERALL, he's NOT our bf... So some of us can just say whatever we like...?Originally posted by Fuqua:Trust your gut instinct. DUMP him if u must. He sounds like he's playing u.
I have a very bad episode with a lying, cheating EX. Is it normal to receive sms from a sister of an EX ?? who incidentally has a BF just to test her new HP!! PLEASE-lah!. Anyway, the BF shud be sensitive enuff to the GF feeling to see this and assure her nothing going on before she even knows about it. So, my earlier advise was, she shud listen to her gut feelings. If it's saying, he's playing wiv her heart, then DUMP that poor excuse of a man.Originally posted by Devil1976:Great... Yeah... Just do that please.... AFTERALL, he's NOT our bf... So some of us can just say whatever we like...?
He's YOUR BF... You THINK about it...?![]()
Though I understand that you had your bad experience... It's just harsh, if not irresponsible to ask another to DUMP her bf for that alone...?Originally posted by Fuqua:I have a very bad episode with a lying, cheating EX. Is it normal to receive sms from a sister of an EX ?? who incidentally has a BF just to test her new HP!! PLEASE-lah!. Anyway, the BF shud be sensitive enuff to the GF feeling to see this and assure her nothing going on before she even knows about it. So, my earlier advise was, she shud listen to her gut feelings. If it's saying, he's playing wiv her heart, then DUMP that poor excuse of a man.
Trust shud be earned. So far, the bf's more interested in hiding the truth and saving his own butt then be more concerned with his gf very valid concerns.
I can be symphatetic to her and say everything gonna be ok. But i'd like to give my honest response to it, especially when it comes to cheating bf/gf.Originally posted by Devil1976:Though I understand that you had your bad experience... It's just harsh, if not irresponsible to ask another to DUMP her bf for that alone...?
Pls read my earlier advice... Like I've said, if his gf is indeed a very sensitive girl, putting her to such information probably won't help at all.. Whether the way he did it was of good will or evil intention, we certainly can't be sure at all...? Afterall, we're not in the relationship itself...
'Gut feelings' and 'listening to the heart' don't always work in circumstances... Lots of relationships had died form that because of misunderstandings, rumours and intentional sabotages by 3rd parties...
I agree that trust should be earned. But condemning him based on some lies which could very well be just white lies certainly ain't a wise thing to do...?
Though I might agree to a certain extent on some of the things you've wrote...Originally posted by Fuqua:I can be symphatetic to her and say everything gonna be ok. But i'd like to give my honest response to it, especially when it comes to cheating bf/gf.
Rite now, she has to ask herself what she wants from the r/s. She's not happy now and continue to have persistent doubts. If her gut feelings telling her the bf some lying tosser, then she shud listen to it and act appropriately. No need to make excuses for his behaviour, and certainly no need to tolerate any dishonesty. Dishonesty sucks.
Let's just agree to disagree on this. Up to her to decide. Her life.
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~ meow ~ meow ~Don't you think that there could be an equal chance that you might be oversensitive to things...?Originally posted by gur:dear all...
thanks for your advice...i haven't speak coz i am still upset over it. I am still keeping track of this thread thou...
As much as i like to TRUST him...his "perfectly normal" response seemed to be rather irrational to me....
in times like this...he always appear to be siding his EX/Ex's sis whatever when i voiced my opinion on such...
thus...from being surprised (at my discovery), will become upset (dat he refused to see my point of view) to being angry (that he's so insensitive) to being suspicious of his actions (my gut feelings tells me that its his Ex not his Ex's sis or whoever)..![]()
I remember my lecturer telling me about trust.Originally posted by Fuqua:I can be symphatetic to her and say everything gonna be ok. But i'd like to give my honest response to it, especially when it comes to cheating bf/gf.
Rite now, she has to ask herself what she wants from the r/s. She's not happy now and continue to have persistent doubts. If her gut feelings telling her the bf some lying tosser, then she shud listen to it and act appropriately. No need to make excuses for his behaviour, and certainly no need to tolerate any dishonesty. Dishonesty sucks.
Let's just agree to disagree on this. Up to her to decide. Her life.