Originally posted by watdoido:
I am now 16, in JC1, next year JC2. My gf and i have a totally diff thinking from each other. She is pampered, attention seeking, likes to complain about everything, and so on. She even agrees with me. Enough said. I'm a councillor, holding numerous leadership posts and keep myself totally busy. For the past three months together, she has always been very selfish and scolds me for not spending time with her.
My still like her, but slowly turning to dislike. I am feeling a lot of pressure from parents and peers to continue the relationship. My friendships are stiil ok but have been damaged a lot due to my constant attention given to her. Also i now fear falling in love again, and hence try to hang on to the rel hoping something will come out of it. My close friends have told me i am a tad bit too selfish this way which i agree. From their point of view, this is the only thing i have done wrong in the rel. It is a great sin to lie about my feelings but i feel really trapped... What do i do??
Sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her, tell her what you really feel. Don't be bothered by the fact that it may offend her, because she will be more offended if you keep lying to her.
Being busy is not a valid excuse. Did you try to make time out for her, or did you just ditch her aside? Anyway, I believe that you already know that your schedule is packed
before the r/s began. You know this is going to happen. So why did you still start the r/s?
You hope the something good will come out of the r/s, but you're not making any effort. Nah, I should say that you're not making
enough effort. If you want to salvage this r/s, you MUST make some sacrifices. Sacrifices would mean that you would have to quit some of your posts so that you have time for her. Sounds unfair? That's called balancing between your love life and social life.
If you're unable to balance, it probably means that you're not matured enough to handle a r/s yet. Break up, concentrate on your JC life, and move on. A r/s is not just a matter of "kiss gf, hug gf, whisper sweet nothings, intimidate moments, dump her aside when you're busy, find her again when you're lonely."