Bothering...
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I am now 16, in JC1, next year JC2. My gf and i have a totally diff thinking from each other. She is pampered, attention seeking, likes to complain about everything, and so on. She even agrees with me. Enough said. I'm a councillor, holding numerous leadership posts and keep myself totally busy. For the past three months together, she has always been very selfish and scolds me for not spending time with her.
My still like her, but slowly turning to dislike. I am feeling a lot of pressure from parents and peers to continue the relationship. My friendships are stiil ok but have been damaged a lot due to my constant attention given to her. Also i now fear falling in love again, and hence try to hang on to the rel hoping something will come out of it. My close friends have told me i am a tad bit too selfish this way which i agree. From their point of view, this is the only thing i have done wrong in the rel. It is a great sin to lie about my feelings but i feel really trapped... What do i do?? -
Wahah u are like Antony, Struggling between whether or not to spend more time ****ing Cleopatra or go back to Rome to do your duty for Octavius Caesar!!
If it were a shakespearan tragedy, my friend u will commit suicide and so will she. *touch wood*
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Then do it the old n best way. Choose the right time, right place, right mood of her n talk to her n tell her bout it. Tell her how u feel n you are soooo stress bout it. N see wats the outcome. Y bother go n stress this on yourslef whereby u cant get anything out of it n suffer yourself.
Not compatible = cant be together
Not compatible still be together = one suffer n no happiness
Not compatible, not together = Happiness
choose it yourself...
Success Is My Only MothaF'ing Option, Failure's Not -
dont waste everybody's time...talk to her honestly about it and see where it leads to...if U think U dont want to continue the relationship...just tell her..Originally posted by watdoido:It is a great sin to lie about my feelings but i feel really trapped... What do i do?? -
You are still young.. You still havent seen the world.. If she's aint suitable for you.. don't waste each other time.. Sit down and talk about it.. If can.. maybe this relationship will still go on.. but are you sure that both can maintain it well..Originally posted by watdoido:I am now 16, in JC1, next year JC2. My gf and i have a totally diff thinking from each other. She is pampered, attention seeking, likes to complain about everything, and so on. She even agrees with me. Enough said. I'm a councillor, holding numerous leadership posts and keep myself totally busy. For the past three months together, she has always been very selfish and scolds me for not spending time with her.
My still like her, but slowly turning to dislike. I am feeling a lot of pressure from parents and peers to continue the relationship. My friendships are stiil ok but have been damaged a lot due to my constant attention given to her. Also i now fear falling in love again, and hence try to hang on to the rel hoping something will come out of it. My close friends have told me i am a tad bit too selfish this way which i agree. From their point of view, this is the only thing i have done wrong in the rel. It is a great sin to lie about my feelings but i feel really trapped... What do i do??
Fearing in falling in love.. this is jus a small lesson learnt.. there's no need to fear.. you are 16 only.. A long way for you to go.. This is jus your growing period.. and you have to handle things yourself.. of cos sometimes is pressurized.. and stressful.. But you still have to go thru..
Get her out and chat... about the r/s.. Maybe if both arent together.. you'll be happier.. let her go.. and free yourself.. why make yourself feeling so terrible..
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Sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her, tell her what you really feel. Don't be bothered by the fact that it may offend her, because she will be more offended if you keep lying to her.Originally posted by watdoido:I am now 16, in JC1, next year JC2. My gf and i have a totally diff thinking from each other. She is pampered, attention seeking, likes to complain about everything, and so on. She even agrees with me. Enough said. I'm a councillor, holding numerous leadership posts and keep myself totally busy. For the past three months together, she has always been very selfish and scolds me for not spending time with her.
My still like her, but slowly turning to dislike. I am feeling a lot of pressure from parents and peers to continue the relationship. My friendships are stiil ok but have been damaged a lot due to my constant attention given to her. Also i now fear falling in love again, and hence try to hang on to the rel hoping something will come out of it. My close friends have told me i am a tad bit too selfish this way which i agree. From their point of view, this is the only thing i have done wrong in the rel. It is a great sin to lie about my feelings but i feel really trapped... What do i do??
Being busy is not a valid excuse. Did you try to make time out for her, or did you just ditch her aside? Anyway, I believe that you already know that your schedule is packed before the r/s began. You know this is going to happen. So why did you still start the r/s?
You hope the something good will come out of the r/s, but you're not making any effort. Nah, I should say that you're not making enough effort. If you want to salvage this r/s, you MUST make some sacrifices. Sacrifices would mean that you would have to quit some of your posts so that you have time for her. Sounds unfair? That's called balancing between your love life and social life.
If you're unable to balance, it probably means that you're not matured enough to handle a r/s yet. Break up, concentrate on your JC life, and move on. A r/s is not just a matter of "kiss gf, hug gf, whisper sweet nothings, intimidate moments, dump her aside when you're busy, find her again when you're lonely." -
Tell her u want some 'time out' period cos next yr is "A' levels- u need to concentrate on yr studies. I'm sure she will understand & will want u to have a good future.
Tell her she is free to go out with other people (incl. boys) if she cannot wait for u.