Is she just nice to me or interested in me?
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Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
yes.. she likes you. go for it dudeOriginally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list]
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if U are also interested in her...no harm going for it.Originally posted by m.c.king:I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. -
I think she was just being nice? From what I see, there's no indication of attraction.Originally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list]
However, the point about her going down to Chinatown to buy herbs for you is a bit puzzling. Does she do that for her female friends as well? Or is she by nature, a helpful person?
Let me tell you that some girls just wanna have guys as their good friends, not boyfriends. But guys always get the wrong idea, and blame them for giving the wrong impression. Actually, it's the guys' fault, because they're so 'into' BGR that they cannot accept friendship from the opposite gender.
If you want a more precise answer, ask a close female friend of yours to analyse your situation. She will definitely be able to tell you much more than I can. Why? Simply because I'm not a female -
She is definately interested cos she is going out of the way to do things for u.
Good luck!
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Read the one in redOriginally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list]
Being helpful doesn't means like. -
u never ask u never noe
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May be applicable to guys, may not be applicable to gals.Originally posted by gerrykoh:She is definately interested cos she is going out of the way to do things for u.
Good luck! -
I know a gal who is good to my friend too. They went out together, celebrate birthday and took the dog out for strolling together. My friend also thought the gal liked him but the gal told him, she believed that between a girl and a boy, there can also be good friends and not only bgr.
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if you like her in that way, ask her.
if you dun, then just enjoy having a nice considerate friend. why think so much?
but if you do ask her, be prepared for the possibility of rejection.
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Hi, I'm a girl, so below r juz my views:Originally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
Feow: I used to do tt for my best guy fren too, & we weren't together yet. There was No interest watsoever @ tt pt in time.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
Feow: No biggie. Juz recommending a fren, & why Not a close fren? If I'd wanted a car-sharing membership, I'd recommend my best guy fren too, cosh he'd be the 1st fren to come to mind.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
Feow: No biggie either. Sometimes I dun feel like trading in my fone & wld rather pass it to family members if they need it.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
Feow: Basic courtesy. My best guy fren & I used to share drinks!
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
Feow: I'd do this wif any guy fren, No harm sez'g hi.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Feow: When I'm bored, I'll SMS my frens too, & my best guy fren will usu come to mind.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
Hmm... My opinion's no concrete evidence... But VERY MUCH on the BONUS's side...Originally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
u r in luck dude...
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Just to clarify. Actually I'm not interested in her, but if she's sending signals then I better try to clear things up before it gets out of hand. That's what I hope to do.
I just don't want to mislead her or to be an ignorant fool who seemingly cannot catch the ball. So I try to be sensitive to whatever she's doing.
Just to clarify certain details (see below in italic):Originally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
I don't know if she does this for other frens but she is quite well-known for making herbal tea. So maybe some other frens she has have the privilege of drinking her herbal tea as well.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
Maybe she's just nice bcos she knows I've a driving license but no car, so as a member, she just recommend to me?
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
It's an old phone and she tried to sell it off but it doesn't have a charger, so the shop didn't want to take her offer. Since she knew I had a phone with that charger, she offered it to me.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
The first drink she ordered for herself, she drank halfway then found a fly in it. She asked the restaurant to change a new one and she offered the 2nd replacement drink to me. So I think it's not out-of-the-way kind of thing or special treatment.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
Congrats. Your answers have told you that she's just a nice friend, and wants to remain that way too. Since you have no attraction to her. Keep it that way.
Its not everyday we meet good friends... -
Just have to learn to say 'no need' next time?Originally posted by m.c.king:Just to clarify. Actually I'm not interested in her, but if she's sending signals then I better try to clear things up before it gets out of hand. That's what I hope to do.
I just don't want to mislead her or to be an ignorant fool who seemingly cannot catch the ball. So I try to be sensitive to whatever she's doing.
Just to clarify certain details (see below in italic): -
Don't see it as a loss! Think of it as an advantage. Not every guy can have a good female friend, you know! And besides, having a good female friend will let you understand females ALOT better than you do now. All you have to do is to ask..
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she 1 u 2 buy insurance from herOriginally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
ouchOriginally posted by otacon:I know a gal who is good to my friend too. They went out together, celebrate birthday and took the dog out for strolling together. My friend also thought the gal liked him but the gal told him, she believed that between a girl and a boy, there can also be good friends and not only bgr. -
Wah... actually before I read this, I didn't know that girls can send out so many wrong signals one! If I were a guy, I would've thought that this girl is interested in me based on her actions!
Guys, you sure don't have it easy! I don't envy you! hehe!
On the other hand, we girls don't have it easy either. Some guys are so shy, it's easier to draw a hermit crab outta its shell! hehehe! -
Unfortunately, those guys are the ones who most frequently get misled by the wrong signals once they comes out of their shell. So sometimes its actually once bitten twice shy.Originally posted by Rhonda:Wah... actually before I read this, I didn't know that girls can send out so many wrong signals one! If I were a guy, I would've thought that this girl is interested in me based on her actions!
Guys, you sure don't have it easy! I don't envy you! hehe!
On the other hand, we girls don't have it easy either. Some guys are so shy, it's easier to draw a hermit crab outta its shell! hehehe! -
x 2Originally posted by pete98:Unfortunately, those guys are the ones who most frequently get misled by the wrong signals once they comes out of their shell. So sometimes its actually once bitten twice shy. -
wah lau brother, don't think so much. like or don't like, love or don't love. Just ask her tomorrow first thing in the morning. And everything will be solve..
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Originally posted by m.c.king:Hi.
I got to know a female fren for about a year now. During this time, she has been nice to me and I wonder if that's a sign that she's interested. So need to seek you guys' opinion on interpreting her actions.
[*]When I was sick, she went down to Chinatown to buy herbs and made herbal tea for me, and other frens didn't get it. This happened twice.
[*]She recommended me for car-sharing membership when she had to pay more.
[*]She wanted to give me a used handphone for free.
[*]She ordered a drink when we were having dinner together and when I didn't order a drink myself, she gave her drink to me and she herself went w/o a drink.
[*]She was always instant-messaging me when I do not start a online conversation if both of us are online.
[*]Sometimes she SMS me some seemingly bo-liao thing like the weather today.
If she is not keeping you as a pet or doing you favours as a hobby... why not give it a shot? However, be tactful about it.. you don't wanna step on a thumb tab barefooted. Most importantly, are you attracted towards her???
Based on what she has done, do you think that she's just nice to me and I should not have to worry too much, or there's indication to believe that she's interested somehow and is sending signals, either consiously or subconsiously.[/list] -
Even if you are not attached to her, you still have to tell her cos you surely don't want a gal to wait for you in the dark without knowing if you get the msg or if you already accept her. At least if you tell her, She will get the msg and be able to find another man that really love her. And if you love her, you two can finally be together. And if she don't love you, Good for you. End of your trouble...
Don't be wishy washy about it,