What can you do ?Originally posted by devilf91:but this year for 3 times i initiated breakup with her. the reasons for all 3 is the same, that she's been giving me hot and cold treatment (of which she denies) and i felt that i'm giving her too much problems considering how she said she neglect her friends for me and have to sacrifice so much for me, i really dun wanna see her like that anymore.
Giving hot and cold treatment is actually a way to generate attraction. You should be more attracted to her, but since you're not, it means she's doing it the wrong way.
When a girl says she neglects her friends for you, and have to sacrifice so much to be with you, it means she likes you alot! And her actions have just proven it! She just wants you to know that "Hey, i've done so much for you, treat me better k?"
but each other i can't bear to break with her, however damage's done; now she treats me with much coldness and awkwardness. she said it's not worth spending so much effort on me, and that i dun understand her at all. she said that if i have the heart to give her up i'm not worth her doing so much for me.
Yea, you didn't understand the two concepts i listed above. You misinterpreted her actions.
i hope she understands that sometimes giving her up is a blessing than being cruel to her, yet perhaps i really love her too much to really let her go. and now i'm suffering from the consequences of my own actions. she always said that i'm the lousiest bf around and any of her guy friends can understand her better than me.
If you spend 10,000 bucks on a computer, you would expect it to last for more than 3 years right? That's the least you can expect.
But no, she invested so much time and effort on you, to have you break up with her.
Yes she's sore, very sore about it, that's why she keeps saying what she does.
wad should i do? I'm really at a loss now.
For everything that happens, there is a reason behind it. She must have her own reasons for giving you the hot and cold treatment, and complaining that you don't understand her. Have you ever wondered if the problem doesn't lie with her, but with you?Originally posted by devilf91:keep this short. i've been in this relationship for 2 years and throughout my feelings for her have never changed. of course we do have our ups and downs, but this year for 3 times i initiated breakup with her. the reasons for all 3 is the same, that she's been giving me hot and cold treatment (of which she denies) and i felt that i'm giving her too much problems considering how she said she neglect her friends for me and have to sacrifice so much for me, i really dun wanna see her like that anymore. but each other i can't bear to break with her, however damage's done; now she treats me with much coldness and awkwardness. she said it's not worth spending so much effort on me, and that i dun understand her at all. she said that if i have the heart to give her up i'm not worth her doing so much for me. i hope she understands that sometimes giving her up is a blessing than being cruel to her, yet perhaps i really love her too much to really let her go. and now i'm suffering from the consequences of my own actions. she always said that i'm the lousiest bf around and any of her guy friends can understand her better than me. wad should i do? I'm really at a loss now.
Very lousy combination...Originally posted by devilf91:thanks pple. perhaps it's really my fault and i really dun understand her. the more i put in effort the more i screw things up. failure or not, i failed her this time. i appreciate her, but really not enough. i'm so stupid. the first time i decide to break with her i really should let her go, she wun be happy with me, but because i can't bear to, i end up hurting her even more. we spend too much time together to give each other free space and too little time communicating our thoughts. we're still together and even though i wanted to make up for everything, i know things can never be the same, and i can see it from her eyes.
How old are the both of ya?Originally posted by devilf91:lolz yeah true... problem is whenever i express myself if my thoughts disagree with her she will kick up a fuss... maybe it's the way i put it across i dunno... whenever i say my piece she will get pretty upset... like suddenly like very moody and pissed... also she everyday mood swing like that i really dunno wad is in her mind... and she dun tell expecting me to know everything...
Originally posted by devilf91:keep this short. i've been in this relationship for 2 years and throughout my feelings for her have never changed. of course we do have our ups and downs, but this year for 3 times i initiated breakup with her. the reasons for all 3 is the same, that she's been giving me hot and cold treatment (of which she denies) and i felt that i'm giving her too much problems considering how she said she neglect her friends for me and have to sacrifice so much for me, i really dun wanna see her like that anymore. but each other i can't bear to break with her, however damage's done; now she treats me with much coldness and awkwardness. she said it's not worth spending so much effort on me, and that i dun understand her at all. she said that if i have the heart to give her up i'm not worth her doing so much for me. i hope she understands that sometimes giving her up is a blessing than being cruel to her, yet perhaps i really love her too much to really let her go. and now i'm suffering from the consequences of my own actions. she always said that i'm the lousiest bf around and any of her guy friends can understand her better than me. wad should i do? I'm really at a loss now.
*claps* =) that was a very well done advice.Originally posted by mercutioz:Been there, done that. U got 2 sit down n evaluate ur feelings for her. Do u forsee a future with her? R u happier with/without her? Take a step back n look at things calmly n rationally.
I know it's hard since love is totally irrational n senseless sometimes. But crying wolf 2 many times r jus prolonging the agony n deterioting the relationship. Once u sort out ur own feelings with regard to how important is she 2 ur life, then u can tried to go about n salvage this relationship.
It might not b u at all but her wanting out of this relationship for watever reasons. Even if the end is inevitable, at least have the courage to end it. U tried ur best n mayb some times, things jus don't work out but if u do love her, let her go with grace. At least one person will b happy n her happiness is more important if u do cherish her.
People tdy sure duno wat is called paragraphing.Originally posted by devilf91:keep this short. i've been in this relationship for 2 years and throughout my feelings for her have never changed. of course we do have our ups and downs, but this year for 3 times i initiated breakup with her. the reasons for all 3 is the same, that she's been giving me hot and cold treatment (of which she denies) and i felt that i'm giving her too much problems considering how she said she neglect her friends for me and have to sacrifice so much for me, i really dun wanna see her like that anymore. but each other i can't bear to break with her, however damage's done; now she treats me with much coldness and awkwardness. she said it's not worth spending so much effort on me, and that i dun understand her at all. she said that if i have the heart to give her up i'm not worth her doing so much for me. i hope she understands that sometimes giving her up is a blessing than being cruel to her, yet perhaps i really love her too much to really let her go. and now i'm suffering from the consequences of my own actions. she always said that i'm the lousiest bf around and any of her guy friends can understand her better than me. wad should i do? I'm really at a loss now.