tell mi wad to do??
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jus a 15 yr old ger turnin 16..knew dis guy fer 2 yr but knew him betta in dis yr during may litat..stead the 1st time in june veh fast break ler..is ard 6 dae nia lo..kinda pathetic..hmmm..dis brk is i ask fer de..dunno y..cos i think we dunno each other well..den few dae later he got a stead liao lo...but after tt dey stead fer ard 9 dae..he brk wif tt ger..den tt time i still lurfe him loads...can't ferget him.my days is so miserable lo..den on the dae dey brk..mi,my fren n him n his fren went to eat at nite after some event in sch..got eye contact wif him litat lo...den later nite he sms mi tell mi hebrk wif the ger le...he noe i still lurfe him..n daes b4 i went fer my sec 3 camp we sms like close fren..wif "muacks" n "huggiex" at nite...during the 3 dae 2 nite in camp..i miss him alot...den when i return bck home n c my hp..i was glad to receive his msg sayin he miss mi all dis...he sae he jus suddenly miss mi n ask mi take care all dis lo..so sweet...so a few dae after i return frm camp..i ask him patch..he agreed...my wonderful moment start on the 14th july...happi moments wif him..but during a period when his hp spoilt..den he was oso busyin wif his o'level.. i chat on fone wif 1 guy.. but as a fren nia lo... den i told him..cos i dun 1 him hear rumours frm others or wad..nt oli i chat wif tt guy la..still got other guy..den we tends to argue over all dis matter..but we nvr quarrel till veh cham all dis lo..den 18th september...we 2 agreed to break up..i was sad..damn sad...i continously cried fer 1 mth litat lo..haix..every nite i'm cryin like sky's gonna fall tml..n it is the end of everything..during the brk up..it was near to my exam..n i did quite badly fer every subject..after my exam..i told myself i mus ferget him..but i failed..den on the 18th of november..4 dae awy frm his end of his o'level..i smsed ask him patch(b4 dis dae i sitll got aks him patch..but he ask mi nt to wait..but i insist on waiting till his o level end),but he told mi tt he think it is nt the rite time yet..so i intend to gif up lo..tryin hard..n dae reali got betta..i try nt to think of him at nite by askin my kor to tok thru fone wif mi at nite till i m tired n i jus go slp lo..but 1 nite i slept at 12am litat..den he smsed mi ard 1.45am..he told mi he can't slp as he flip thru the thing i gave him..he rmb abt the past..he told mi y he dun accept my patch cos he think we likeno faith in the r/s..den i tends to gib him the wrong impression in the past..den i ask him y he jus can't let mi prove tt we will b betta the nxt time..den he sae tt the reason y he can't slp...den he sae he will gib mi an ans asap...den after tt i can't slp till 5am in the morning...after the dae he tell mi all those...my hope of fergetting him is DASHED...i keep thinkin abt wad he sae..but all my fren tell mi nt to patch wif him if he asked...haiz..i dunno..dey sae he like playin wif mi feeling..when i abt to ferget him..he come tell mi all dis..dey sae mayb he go read mi blog,i said i will ferget him in the blog..den he dun wan mi ferget him all dis lo..i oso dunno..den dis few dae we nvr tok much oso..no topics..haix..i reali bu zhi dao..tillnow he haven tell mi his ans...but he jus like ignore mi..i veh sad lo..tell mi wad to do..hai...i need help..
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i'm actually at the same situation with ya.. just tht the opposite gender is a ger.. he/she will tell you they've no faith in a r/s or that they do no wish to commit to a r/s so fast.
From what's happening to me, seems like the ger doesn't seems to be able to forget how the guy she previously liked play with her feelings.. when she's abt to forget him and move on.. there he comes contacting her.. telling her how much he had neglected her ... cuz there was another ger tht da guy likes.. now tht the ger tht he likes was attached.. he got no one to turn to cept this backup ger.
Everytime when i'm abt to get her.. there this guy who comes bak and disturb her.. it'll strongly affect someone who's very vulnerable ..
Now she's kind of giving of hot and cold treatment.. say she misses me .. thn heck care me. Maybe let ur guy sort things out first by himself, give him sometime.. if he doesn't contact ya after some time.. guess u'll koe the ans
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hmmm...orhx..but i reali in a dilema...but wad u think abt wad mi fren tell mi lei?..i reali dunno..his fren tell mi mayb he oso in a dilema..i reali hope when i go fer another camp nxt wed-fri..he will sms like wad he sms mi during the sec 3 camp i went lo..haix...Originally posted by paradox86:i'm actually at the same situation with ya.. just tht the opposite gender is a ger.. he/she will tell you they've no faith in a r/s or that they do no wish to commit to a r/s so fast.
From what's happening to me, seems like the ger doesn't seems to be able to forget how the guy she previously liked play with her feelings.. when she's abt to forget him and move on.. there he comes contacting her.. telling her how much he had neglected her ... cuz there was another ger tht da guy likes.. now tht the ger tht he likes was attached.. he got no one to turn to cept this backup ger.
Everytime when i'm abt to get her.. there this guy who comes bak and disturb her.. it'll strongly affect someone who's very vulnerable ..
Now she's kind of giving of hot and cold treatment.. say she misses me .. thn heck care me. Maybe let ur guy sort things out first by himself, give him sometime.. if he doesn't contact ya after some time.. guess u'll koe the ans -
it doesn't matter what ya fren say ya.. if it's true.. thn maybe he dunwanna lose a fren and thus doing all these.. .. rite now, everything he does will be on impulse.. so better not hurry him.. it'll get u no where..
anyway check ur private message.
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i'm nt hurryin him lo..i jus let it b le..i use cruelty lo..i delete his msn contact n hp...since he dun msg mi on msn or sms mi..i keep his contact..see le make myself more sad norhx
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learn 2 write in paragraphs
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With a mentality like that, it is clear ur not matured enough for a real relantionship and can't even prioritize properly. Screwing your studies up for a kid...(I consider a secondary boy a kid, until he fulfils his NS) is plain stupidity. Better study hard, get to university.....guys that age are really more ready to talk serious relantionshipOriginally posted by xUan-`:jus a 15 yr old ger turnin 16..knew dis guy fer 2 yr but knew him betta in dis yr during may litat..stead the 1st time in june veh fast break ler..is ard 6 dae nia lo..kinda pathetic..hmmm..dis brk is i ask fer de..dunno y..cos i think we dunno each other well..den few dae later he got a stead liao lo...but after tt dey stead fer ard 9 dae..he brk wif tt ger..den tt time i still lurfe him loads...can't ferget him.my days is so miserable lo..den on the dae dey brk..mi,my fren n him n his fren went to eat at nite after some event in sch..got eye contact wif him litat lo...den later nite he sms mi tell mi hebrk wif the ger le...he noe i still lurfe him..n daes b4 i went fer my sec 3 camp we sms like close fren..wif "muacks" n "huggiex" at nite...during the 3 dae 2 nite in camp..i miss him alot...den when i return bck home n c my hp..i was glad to receive his msg sayin he miss mi all dis...he sae he jus suddenly miss mi n ask mi take care all dis lo..so sweet...so a few dae after i return frm camp..i ask him patch..he agreed...my wonderful moment start on the 14th july...happi moments wif him..but during a period when his hp spoilt..den he was oso busyin wif his o'level.. i chat on fone wif 1 guy.. but as a fren nia lo... den i told him..cos i dun 1 him hear rumours frm others or wad..nt oli i chat wif tt guy la..still got other guy..den we tends to argue over all dis matter..but we nvr quarrel till veh cham all dis lo..den 18th september...we 2 agreed to break up..i was sad..damn sad...i continously cried fer 1 mth litat lo..haix..every nite i'm cryin like sky's gonna fall tml..n it is the end of everything..during the brk up..it was near to my exam..n i did quite badly fer every subject..after my exam..i told myself i mus ferget him..but i failed..den on the 18th of november..4 dae awy frm his end of his o'level..i smsed ask him patch(b4 dis dae i sitll got aks him patch..but he ask mi nt to wait..but i insist on waiting till his o level end),but he told mi tt he think it is nt the rite time yet..so i intend to gif up lo..tryin hard..n dae reali got betta..i try nt to think of him at nite by askin my kor to tok thru fone wif mi at nite till i m tired n i jus go slp lo..but 1 nite i slept at 12am litat..den he smsed mi ard 1.45am..he told mi he can't slp as he flip thru the thing i gave him..he rmb abt the past..he told mi y he dun accept my patch cos he think we likeno faith in the r/s..den i tends to gib him the wrong impression in the past..den i ask him y he jus can't let mi prove tt we will b betta the nxt time..den he sae tt the reason y he can't slp...den he sae he will gib mi an ans asap...den after tt i can't slp till 5am in the morning...after the dae he tell mi all those...my hope of fergetting him is DASHED...i keep thinkin abt wad he sae..but all my fren tell mi nt to patch wif him if he asked...haiz..i dunno..dey sae he like playin wif mi feeling..when i abt to ferget him..he come tell mi all dis..dey sae mayb he go read mi blog,i said i will ferget him in the blog..den he dun wan mi ferget him all dis lo..i oso dunno..den dis few dae we nvr tok much oso..no topics..haix..i reali bu zhi dao..tillnow he haven tell mi his ans...but he jus like ignore mi..i veh sad lo..tell mi wad to do..hai...i need help..
Charbo must not be so hard up to be loved, this way can easily end up as a sex object for the pleasure of chao ah-bengs or aimless kids who think they are men. These young pricks are in for the thrills and do not know the word responsibility.
U will met good men at the university and subsequently when u join the workforce....real men who can earn their keep and as well as being able to really take care of you. Much better choice then as compared to wild carding at boys who probably still depend on their parents for pocket money.
Ur to young to talk relantionship, it shows from the way u write. Focus on your studies and save your loving and time for your parents and siblings. -
Xuan ... U have just experienced the jealousy of an immature boy. Boys usually can't stand their girlfriends talking alot to other guys. Especially without their Acknowledgement. Next time inform before you do. Its too late scolding your child for not taking care of the jug when the milk is already spilled. Emotions are hard to control. I know when you are lonely and you can't communicate with your boyfriend, you tend to seek another close friend. But please, try calling a girl instead of a boy, that way, you could avoid much miscommunication that you liked another guy, etc. But since now that guy is avoiding you... The only solution to build back the trust between you two. You state that you know him better for only a year? Have you experienced close experiences together during that period of time when you both were just friends? He likes you, but doesn't know whether be able to trust you not to talk to other guys on the phone at nights when he is not free. He wants to believe you, but perhaps the amount of time you both spent together as friends are not suffice to convince his "reality concious" that you will change for the better. Or rather, change to suit his needs. IF you really need to talk to guys on lonely nights, perhaps you should convince him logically why, like talking to that guy friend reminds you of him, etc. etc. If he is matured enough, he should understand that he may not be always there for you as he is still a human, and continue to allow you to communicate with that guy PROVIDED he knows that guy well, and that you both do not talk too long. OK, back to reality. Love doesn't last long, any logical commonfolk would know that, At this age, its really as what saab95 has said, its better to be friends. As you both have not a stable income yet, parents may be a problem in the future, and other reasons stated by saab95. Think positive, count your blessings, at least you still have your Kor =), remember, don't easily get into relationships anymore. Make sure you really know the person, Experienced joyful and trumatising events before, and really enjoys the person's accompany. Otherwise, prepare for heartaches throughout your whole youth.Smile more and enjoy life. If fate really declares you two both together, you two will be together in the future. worry about your studies now.. Get a decent job, enjoy company of your friends, go clubbing, discos, snookers, pools, KTVs, pubbing, beach parties, swimming, exercising, outings, shopping, study together, have meals together, cherish the time spent with friends, get your mind off him. Don't bother making yourself worrying all the time while he is enjoying himself, live your life to the fullest, show him you can live without him, show him that he needs you. =) be desirable, not a bounded slave. Lastly, take care and goodnitez =)
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ask urself how serious is this guy.. how true are his intentions.. how repentent is he after the break up.. after asking these questions.. u should know wat to do..
personally.. i dun think he is at all reliable true n serious.. most prob he's juz toying around with u.. he's treating u more like his property.. u deserve sb better.. pls think carefully.. -
x2Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:learn 2 write in paragraphs
i keep losing track of where i read until. !might! be i am sleepy.
but from what i gathered, u two have been together for days only (pardon if i misread anything) and the whole liking has been on for less than 6mths. 6mths leh. how long have u two known each other before u two got together? dont tell me known for a few days, talk for a few days then got together hor..
wha, envious of you all young ppl leh, hong hong lie lie... i old liao laa
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well,i think this is the end for the r/s already,so why don't you give up and carry on with your life...actually there are quite alot qns in every r/s we can't can get all the ans all isn't it?
so my advice is that you should let go and carry on since he already started to ignore you,don't force yourself or anyone into a r/s if there are no longer love in between... -
thx..i agree wif wad u sae..i m showin him tt i can live without him...n show tt he need mi!..i 1 make him regret fer his choice..mayb i'm reali nt into r/s...aniway..i'm oready fergettin him in progress..i deleted his contact in msn n hp lo..i'm thinkin tt i c him online den he refuse to tok to mi..why shud i bother to go tok to him n make him think tt i m irritating?...haax...thx fer ur advice...=)Originally posted by Ledikusa:Xuan ... U have just experienced the jealousy of an immature boy. Boys usually can't stand their girlfriends talking alot to other guys. Especially without their Acknowledgement. Next time inform before you do. Its too late scolding your child for not taking care of the jug when the milk is already spilled. Emotions are hard to control. I know when you are lonely and you can't communicate with your boyfriend, you tend to seek another close friend. But please, try calling a girl instead of a boy, that way, you could avoid much miscommunication that you liked another guy, etc. But since now that guy is avoiding you... The only solution to build back the trust between you two. You state that you know him better for only a year? Have you experienced close experiences together during that period of time when you both were just friends? He likes you, but doesn't know whether be able to trust you not to talk to other guys on the phone at nights when he is not free. He wants to believe you, but perhaps the amount of time you both spent together as friends are not suffice to convince his "reality concious" that you will change for the better. Or rather, change to suit his needs. IF you really need to talk to guys on lonely nights, perhaps you should convince him logically why, like talking to that guy friend reminds you of him, etc. etc. If he is matured enough, he should understand that he may not be always there for you as he is still a human, and continue to allow you to communicate with that guy PROVIDED he knows that guy well, and that you both do not talk too long. OK, back to reality. Love doesn't last long, any logical commonfolk would know that, At this age, its really as what saab95 has said, its better to be friends. As you both have not a stable income yet, parents may be a problem in the future, and other reasons stated by saab95. Think positive, count your blessings, at least you still have your Kor =), remember, don't easily get into relationships anymore. Make sure you really know the person, Experienced joyful and trumatising events before, and really enjoys the person's accompany. Otherwise, prepare for heartaches throughout your whole youth.Smile more and enjoy life. If fate really declares you two both together, you two will be together in the future. worry about your studies now.. Get a decent job, enjoy company of your friends, go clubbing, discos, snookers, pools, KTVs, pubbing, beach parties, swimming, exercising, outings, shopping, study together, have meals together, cherish the time spent with friends, get your mind off him. Don't bother making yourself worrying all the time while he is enjoying himself, live your life to the fullest, show him you can live without him, show him that he needs you. =) be desirable, not a bounded slave. Lastly, take care and goodnitez =) -
i wanna help but having hard time reading your powderful english... sorry...
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meow ~ meow meow ~ meow ~ meow ~ meow ~ -
da dou bu dong de zhen xi... ni you he bi ke xi ne?
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i read first sentence i sianz liao...
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thx Gackt247..i will definitely ask myself dis ques if 1 dae he gib mi an ans..n it is positive...but nw..mi will jus try n jus b kor n mei wif him nia lo... let nature take its course bahx... i can't help de lo.. den if 1 dae he gib mi an positive ans..den i will think..if negative..it wun affect mi much..cos i oready learn to ferget him..yeahX?..x)Originally posted by Gackt247:ask urself how serious is this guy.. how true are his intentions.. how repentent is he after the break up.. after asking these questions.. u should know wat to do..
personally.. i dun think he is at all reliable true n serious.. most prob he's juz toying around with u.. he's treating u more like his property.. u deserve sb better.. pls think carefully.. -
My eyes hurt... alot ... *rubs eyes*
From what i know ar girl, besides learning to write in paragraphs, what you need to have to do is to realise...
That its all puppy love.
Yea, its a stage all of us goes through at the age of 14-16(or even more). The stage when we feel that .. "he is the one!" .. "he's yandao... ohhh i'm falling for him!" and in other cases "wah so chio, wonder if she can be my gf or not."
Its really normal to feel this way, but what you do not know is that you should not place too much 'love and trust' on this.
Would a couple in love really break up after a few days? Of course not, we only do that when we like each other cause of certain traits we display, E.g "Good looks, rich, etc"
Girls your age are extremely susceptable to feelings of love. What i mean is, so long as we show you a bit of care, are a bit good looking, and ask you to be our gf, many of you will do so,(especially if we do a bit of those romantic stuff). But many of us may not be truly in love with you..
As what many people have told me time and again... never be so quick to love, for you'll just find your heart broken faster..~
You're still young girl, just wait til your heart settles down, and you grow up a bit more before you settle for another relationship.. -
sorri to ppl who take the effort to read my forums n make u hab a hard time..=\Originally posted by _Aaron_:My eyes hurt... alot ... *rubs eyes*
From what i know ar girl, besides learning to write in paragraphs, what you need to have to do is to realise...
That its all puppy love.
Yea, its a stage all of us goes through at the age of 14-16(or even more). The stage when we feel that .. "he is the one!" .. "he's yandao... ohhh i'm falling for him!" and in other cases "wah so chio, wonder if she can be my gf or not."
Its really normal to feel this way, but what you do not know is that you should not place too much 'love and trust' on this.
Would a couple in love really break up after a few days? Of course not, we only do that when we like each other cause of certain traits we display, E.g "Good looks, rich, etc"
Girls your age are extremely susceptable to feelings of love. What i mean is, so long as we show you a bit of care, are a bit good looking, and ask you to be our gf, many of you will do so,(especially if we do a bit of those romantic stuff). But many of us may not be truly in love with you..
As what many people have told me time and again... never be so quick to love, for you'll just find your heart broken faster..~
You're still young girl, just wait til your heart settles down, and you grow up a bit more before you settle for another relationship..
hmm...aniway..i noe it is puppy lurfe..but it is reali difficult to control the feelin..nw i had fall fer him n it is oso nt easy to get out of the so called "TRAP" lo..
mayb wad u sae i agree la...as long as a guy show mi more care than other i wud fer in lurfe..but definitely i dun go fer looks ehx...mayb i reali gotta learn to ferget him n concentrate on studies first -
Hi Xuan.. Would like to ask both you and ur guy a question.. Are you sure that you really love each other or are just seeing if you 2 will work out in different circumstances? From the way you mention.. It seems that he is literally not sure of himself and the relationship..
I think both of you should actually sit down and see what both of you want.. Is it a good relationship.. Which is based on trust, love and commitment.. If these 3 cannot come into place, than I think you should forget it and concentrate on your studies.. To get attached.. It is very easy.. But to be committed is not.
You should focus on your studies at this point of time.. You are very very young.. Getting attached at the age of 20 or even 25 is nothing wrong as long as it is based on the 3 pts i mentioned above. Don't go into a relationship for the sake of going in ya?
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Yeap. Just as you said.Originally posted by xUan-`:sorri to ppl who take the effort to read my forums n make u hab a hard time..=\
hmm...aniway..i noe it is puppy lurfe..but it is reali difficult to control the feelin..nw i had fall fer him n it is oso nt easy to get out of the so called "TRAP" lo..
mayb wad u sae i agree la...as long as a guy show mi more care than other i wud fer in lurfe..but definitely i dun go fer looks ehx...mayb i reali gotta learn to ferget him n concentrate on studies first
You don't go for looks, but there are many people out there who play girls. You'll do better if you forget him and concentrate on your studies first... Some guys are just not worth it.
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Please write in proper English- will definately help in yr compos.
Well it is puppy love. U are still so young. Concentrate on yr studies.
When u are older, u will look back & realise how silly u are.
There will be plenty of guys later in jc, U, or poly.
Don't get tied up in a r/s now, enjoy chatting & going out with many guys without having to answer to anyone. Believe me, it is more fun! -
hmmmm..wad i can sae is when we r in lurfe..we r truely in lurfe..but nw..he is probably nt feelin anithing lo... hmmm..nvm...i'm tryin to ferget him..concentrating on mi studies..=)Originally posted by Kennerve:Hi Xuan.. Would like to ask both you and ur guy a question.. Are you sure that you really love each other or are just seeing if you 2 will work out in different circumstances? From the way you mention.. It seems that he is literally not sure of himself and the relationship..
I think both of you should actually sit down and see what both of you want.. Is it a good relationship.. Which is based on trust, love and commitment.. If these 3 cannot come into place, than I think you should forget it and concentrate on your studies.. To get attached.. It is very easy.. But to be committed is not.
You should focus on your studies at this point of time.. You are very very young.. Getting attached at the age of 20 or even 25 is nothing wrong as long as it is based on the 3 pts i mentioned above. Don't go into a relationship for the sake of going in ya?
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hmmmm..sorwie..mi eng is of this standard...hehe..hmmmm..aniways...i noe wad u men by getting tied up...indeed.nw i can tok to ani guy n i dun haf to answer to anyone...Originally posted by gerrykoh:Please write in proper English- will definately help in yr compos.
Well it is puppy love. U are still so young. Concentrate on yr studies.
When u are older, u will look back & realise how silly u are.
There will be plenty of guys later in jc, U, or poly.
Don't get tied up in a r/s now, enjoy chatting & going out with many guys without having to answer to anyone. Believe me, it is more fun! -
I only have one comment on this post.Originally posted by xUan-`:hmmmm..wad i can sae is when we r in lurfe..we r truely in lurfe..but nw..he is probably nt feelin anithing lo... hmmm..nvm...i'm tryin to ferget him..concentrating on mi studies..=)
Try not to predict what he's thinking.
Many people here including you may not be right.
Let time show you the truth.
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You're back?Originally posted by M©+square:I only have one comment on this post.
Try not to predict what he's thinking.
Many people here including you may not be right.
Let time show you the truth.
Cheers.