Year End Blues...
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Why am I always plagued with such moodiness & low self-worth at this time of the year. Year-end period are usually the happiest for the mass, ‘normal ppl’--- festive seasons are near, exams are over, lots of gatherings, celebrations etc...
Maybe it’s also an appraisal time for ur life. I used to have this “I have achieved nothing again this year” feeling. Think I beat the trap this year cause I had set personal goals to be achieved, eg. getting gd grades for my course, building a better physique (going to the gym, eatin more etc). My grades so far are still satisfactory..
Maybe IÂ’m overly self-critical & pessimistic but emotionally, I still canÂ’t beat myself. As my remaining friends gets fewer, my ability to connect with new friends deteriorate & each failed relationships adds to the burden of my painful memories, I actually feel worse with year..
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/patz Beautiful Mind's head.
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tod of going oversea to escape the yr-end moodiness...
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reading yr story... now u r making me feel sad...
~ meow ~ meow ~
meow ~ meow meow ~ meow ~ meow ~ meow ~ -
sorry dude... jus needed an outlet for all my messed up emotions....
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Ooooowwww... so emotional.. dun cry..
/me pat u too..
for me.. i'm glad.. end of sch term.. beginning of army days.. -
I missed the story ... maybe you'll post it again when you feel like it? =)
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100 plus clicks & only a few replies... reflective of my real life too
used to make many calls, take "the initiative" to meet up frens, but realised it became a pretty one-sided effort ...
I always feel that maybe the contents of my conversation, or the way i convey my message across is "un-connected" with most ppl out there.. hence i seldom get response or lacklustre ones frm ppl.. -
you are not alone.... count me in too...Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:100 plus clicks & only a few replies... reflective of my real life too
used to make many calls, take "the initiative" to meet up frens, but realised it became a pretty one-sided effort ...
I always feel that maybe the contents of my conversation, or the way i convey my message across is "un-connected" with most ppl out there.. hence i seldom get response or lacklustre ones frm ppl..
oh ya... i didnt accomplish anything this year too....
i feels so lousy whenever i think of it... -
Ya i think everyone feels the same way from time to time; it only gets worse at this time of the year.
Like for me, my exams just ended but i don't feel that there's any big deal about it. And yes i used to organise some gathering or something but over the years i feel that i'm always the one doing it. Since no one else bothers, everyone's banking on me (assuming that they care in the first place), why should i always be the one doing it? People will like 'let's meet up blah blah' then expect u to go call everyone else up. Ya so just heck it, since everyone couldn't care less then so be it. -
You have to walk out from whatever problems you are facing now or in the past, then only you can be happy and have more confidence of yourself.
If you keep on thinking about the burdens you have, etc. you will never be happy.
Its your own life, and you can either choose to live it positively or in a negative way. Think about it. -
What nonsense... Some people just like to read and not respond...Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:100 plus clicks & only a few replies... reflective of my real life too
used to make many calls, take "the initiative" to meet up frens, but realised it became a pretty one-sided effort ...
I always feel that maybe the contents of my conversation, or the way i convey my message across is "un-connected" with most ppl out there.. hence i seldom get response or lacklustre ones frm ppl..
Looking back at my '2004', I've not achieved much too..? But NAY... I never really let such things bother me...
I organise outings and few or none turn up.. Does that BOTHER me..?? NAY... If they don't like to come, I can't force them..? I still very much of my OWN LIFE to live (which I pretty much enjoys now..
).. Instead of being SO NEGATIVE, learn to appreciate your life and make best out of situations..
On communication and connections... If you feel that you can't make it BIG, make it SMALL? It's always GOOD to widen your social circle, but don't just bet on that ALONE.. Try to keep a few regular closer friends whom you can hang out with...? Yeah? -
There is a problem with the world today.
What is it? Why do we all feel so ... unmotivated, unhappy? 10 years ago(here i go again) everything was much better. Why?
Or perhaps, what can we do... to make us all motivated again? This is really sad(one of the few emotions i can feel). And something needs to be done... but what? -
*clap clap clap*Originally posted by Blueskyz:You have to walk out from whatever problems you are facing now or in the past, then only you can be happy and have more confidence of yourself.
If you keep on thinking about the burdens you have, etc. you will never be happy.
Its your own life, and you can either choose to live it positively or in a negative way. Think about it. -
a trip always perks me up!
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thanx for all the kind souls' replies
planning to follow mum to BBK for a short trip late this month... e food & shopping there's good
strangely, i dun feel "lonely & isolated" when i am abroad, even if i am alone or with some big weird travel grp..
Cause maybe i cld always justify my feelings... I am in a foreign plc so its perfectly normal for me to be alone, have no frens etc etc..
& i sort of dun mind racism (unless its physically threatening)... cause i feel at least they have a REASON to hate me ( cause we are diff). But to be so dis-connected with sch mates, frens ... its a diff feeling
Dun know why, but sometimes i feel kinda of "pai seh" when i am out alone in SG, maybe cause i hav no "excuse" to be alone here in my homeland -
i am sorrie... cuz i am one of those unresponsive ppl in the world as well... not much response on outings and stuff like tat... cant help it... juz abit phobia of meeting up with ppl... but erm... hope u dun feel down cuz of such response from ur friends who are like tat k... even if they dun go for catching up sessions... some of them do care for u...
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YES its always one sided ffs. Yeah people also hardly respond to me also..Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:100 plus clicks & only a few replies... reflective of my real life too
used to make many calls, take "the initiative" to meet up frens, but realised it became a pretty one-sided effort ...
I always feel that maybe the contents of my conversation, or the way i convey my message across is "un-connected" with most ppl out there.. hence i seldom get response or lacklustre ones frm ppl.. -
december sux. holidays sux..i wana go back to sch!
*insert profanities*
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Seriously. As much as many people would like to see humans as group animals. There is nothing wrong with being alone too? Some people are just more of the solitary type? Seeing that as something wrong is only an unhealthy perception...Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:thanx for all the kind souls' replies
planning to follow mum to BBK for a short trip late this month... e food & shopping there's good
strangely, i dun feel "lonely & isolated" when i am abroad, even if i am alone or with some big weird travel grp..
Cause maybe i cld always justify my feelings... I am in a foreign plc so its perfectly normal for me to be alone, have no frens etc etc..
& i sort of dun mind racism (unless its physically threatening)... cause i feel at least they have a REASON to hate me ( cause we are diff). But to be so dis-connected with sch mates, frens ... its a diff feeling
Dun know why, but sometimes i feel kinda of "pai seh" when i am out alone in SG, maybe cause i hav no "excuse" to be alone here in my homeland -
i am just the opposite. end year makes me lively and upbeat.....
coz i look forward.
that old year is coming to an end. now i make plans, which i am excited about.
every year i learnt from the last.. and work on the new.
hey, look forward not backward.
saying : Look toward the sun and you will never see the shadows.
look forward to 2005 and put 2004 behind. time to move on ! -
The concluding of a year does bring me some mixed feelin of ecstasy & broodiness..Originally posted by nuchio:i am just the opposite. end year makes me lively and upbeat.....
coz i look forward.
that old year is coming to an end. now i make plans, which i am excited about.
every year i learnt from the last.. and work on the new.
hey, look forward not backward.
saying : Look toward the sun and you will never see the shadows.
look forward to 2005 and put 2004 behind. time to move on !
Maybe cause some sh** happened during year end period so always during xmas, NY will trigger the memories...
& i hate media propoganding all the happy stuff... like big group of frens enjoying away, sweet loving couples..
why can't show an advert of a lonely guy eating pizzas & watching dvd in his own house..
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Why must add that word? Can't it be a HAPPY guy with his pizza?Originally posted by A Beautiful Mind:The concluding of a year does bring me some mixed feelin of ecstasy & broodiness..
Maybe cause some sh** happened during year end period so always during xmas, NY will trigger the memories...
& i hate media propoganding all the happy stuff... like big group of frens enjoying away, sweet loving couples..
why can't show an advert of a lonely guy eating pizzas & watching dvd in his own house..
Anyway, forum BBQ coming mah... "