Originally posted by spacesurf:Im 18 this year and i just completed my A level.Last year when i was in jc1 i knew this girl from my school online.She was sort of attracted to me before she know me and so she initiated knowing me online.When we were still friends she did alot of stuff to show that she like me.After 1 month as friends we got together.
At first it was all sweet and nice,like every relationship.But as time passed by we started to quarrel,till the point we quarrel almost everyday.Mostly its me that started the quarrel.We always quarrel about
Initial starts to relationships are usually sweet...
1.her clothes.she likes to wear skimpy clothes that zaogeng easily.so im not happy about it and ask her not to wear clothes like that.but she thinks its no big deal.
If she's been used to this, it becomes a habit. Not to mention if all her clothes are like this, changing all of them will take quite a hefty sum of money. You know how many clothes females need to have...
2.her friends.how she always put her friends in the 1st place.like sometimes we arrange to go out but she will later say she going out with her friends and cancel our date.
You obviously rank below her friends. She's either thinking that
1) Her friends will be around for longer than you; or
2) She's having more fun with her friends, than with you.
3.her sms.how she takes very long to sms me.like she saw my sms but she does not reply immediately but only reply later when she feel like it.maybe this is stupid to argue about?
Can you be sure that she saw your sms, but don't reply immediately? Anyway, this is normal for some people.
4.she being sociable with other guys and like to join extra activities.she will be very friendly to her guy friends.like always joking around with them.and she likes to join alot of activities that will know alot of new people.i think if a couple is attached they shouldnt do things that will make the other party angry.since she know i will not be happy but she dont care and still do it.
She's a social butterfly~ She wants to know as many people as she can, so that she can have more friends, and maybe more future boyfriends to choose from. However, she may just enjoy knowing more people, and just want to have lots of fun when she can.
If she knows you're not happy and she still does it ... then maybe its time to not let yourself be unhappy.
5.she knowing guys online.guys message her in wholivesnearyou.com and she gives them her msn and then even her number.she even auto message one of them.she also adds guys that add her in her friendster that are not her friends.
Whoa. Seems like she really wants to know lots of people. The friendster part is normal, but giving number easily ... is another thing to be wary of. She's not treating the relationship with respect.
6.When i ask her go out she always give reasons like i ask her out only on that day and her parents dont allow then never go out.She also say its troublesome for her to go out cause still need to prepare all those.But i dont hear her saying all that when going out with her friends.Though its true her parents are strict with her.
Same as 2).
We always breakup and then patchback due to all these reasons.Until till august this year when we broke up and she say she want to take a break to concentrate on her As and we solve our problems after As.She promise to accompany me after As cause im going army soon.Though i told her we breakup and dont contact anymore.During that period of time we really never contact each other much.The day before the last day of As she ask me if im free the next day but i say not sure.But not that day she never ask me out.And she never ask me out on the next 2 days till its 3 days after As then she ask me out.She never ask me out after As cause she got class outing and the other days she went out with her friends.So i never agree to go out with her as i feel she only ask me out when she's free.After that a few days then it happen again,when she asked me out only when she never go out with her friends.
So do you think im being ridiculous to mind all these things?Or its normal for a guy to mind.
No its not ridiculous to mind all these things. The ridiculous thing is that you're still in a relationship with her!
Look at it this way, she doesn't treat you like a boyfriend at all. She doesnÂ’t care about this relationship. She's obviously making use of you as emotional support when she needs it, and you rank below her friends.
The reason why she's still holding on to this relationship is not important, and i don't want to guess. But why are you holding on?
Please move on, i do not see a future for you with this girl.
1) Some girls just look simply too good for thier own clothes, to the extent it makes one feel its skimpy, but yet regular to the one wearing it. You should feel lucky you have one attention catcher of a gf.Originally posted by spacesurf:We always quarrel about
1.her clothes.she likes to wear skimpy clothes that zaogeng easily.so im not happy about it and ask her not to wear clothes like that.but she thinks its no big deal.
2.her friends.how she always put her friends in the 1st place.like sometimes we arrange to go out but she will later say she going out with her friends and cancel our date.
3.her sms.how she takes very long to sms me.like she saw my sms but she does not reply immediately but only reply later when she feel like it.maybe this is stupid to argue about?
4.she being sociable with other guys and like to join extra activities.she will be very friendly to her guy friends.like always joking around with them.and she likes to join alot of activities that will know alot of new people.i think if a couple is attached they shouldnt do things that will make the other party angry.since she know i will not be happy but she dont care and still do it.
5.she knowing guys online.guys message her in wholivesnearyou.com and she gives them her msn and then even her number.she even auto message one of them.she also adds guys that add her in her friendster that are not her friends.
6.When i ask her go out she always give reasons like i ask her out only on that day and her parents dont allow then never go out.She also say its troublesome for her to go out cause still need to prepare all those.But i dont hear her saying all that when going out with her friends.Though its true her parents are strict with her.
We always breakup and then patchback due to all these reasons.Until till august this year when we broke up and she say she want to take a break to concentrate on her As and we solve our problems after As.She promise to accompany me after As cause im going army soon.Though i told her we breakup and dont contact anymore.During that period of time we really never contact each other much.The day before the last day of As she ask me if im free the next day but i say not sure.But not that day she never ask me out.And she never ask me out on the next 2 days till its 3 days after As then she ask me out.She never ask me out after As cause she got class outing and the other days she went out with her friends.So i never agree to go out with her as i feel she only ask me out when she's free.After that a few days then it happen again,when she asked me out only when she never go out with her friends.
So do you think im being ridiculous to mind all these things?Or its normal for a guy to mind.
Yes, as a forumite has quoted before "Treat a girl like Gold, and she will believe she is Gold."Originally posted by pete98:Even get the feeling that once you treat a girl very well, she might starts to take things for granted?
Originally posted by spacesurf:But the point is i dont treat her good.I always scold her and use vulgarities.She is the one that always cry to me and asked me to patch back after we broke up.But now i also dont really care already.
Sometimes we forget that all events here are from a one-sided perspective. Not just here, everywhere.Originally posted by M©+square:Now the truth is slowly oozing out. Typical AA situation.![]()
Not necessarily...?Originally posted by M©+square:Now the truth is slowly oozing out. Typical AA situation.![]()
Originally posted by _Aaron_:Sometimes we forget that all events here are from a one-sided perspective. Not just here, everywhere.
Oh well, lesson learnt. Next time people post... maybe we should ask... "YOU SURE OR NOT! YOU DID SOMETHING BAD FIRST RIGHT!"
haha... then everyone will run away liao~
hmmm..Originally posted by spacesurf:Im 18 this year and i just completed my A level.Last year when i was in jc1 i knew this girl from my school online.She was sort of attracted to me before she know me and so she initiated knowing me online.When we were still friends she did alot of stuff to show that she like me.After 1 month as friends we got together.
At first it was all sweet and nice,like every relationship.But as time passed by we started to quarrel,till the point we quarrel almost everyday.Mostly its me that started the quarrel.We always quarrel about
1.her clothes.she likes to wear skimpy clothes that zaogeng easily.so im not happy about it and ask her not to wear clothes like that.but she thinks its no big deal.
2.her friends.how she always put her friends in the 1st place.like sometimes we arrange to go out but she will later say she going out with her friends and cancel our date.
3.her sms.how she takes very long to sms me.like she saw my sms but she does not reply immediately but only reply later when she feel like it.maybe this is stupid to argue about?
4.she being sociable with other guys and like to join extra activities.she will be very friendly to her guy friends.like always joking around with them.and she likes to join alot of activities that will know alot of new people.i think if a couple is attached they shouldnt do things that will make the other party angry.since she know i will not be happy but she dont care and still do it.
5.she knowing guys online.guys message her in wholivesnearyou.com and she gives them her msn and then even her number.she even auto message one of them.she also adds guys that add her in her friendster that are not her friends.
6.When i ask her go out she always give reasons like i ask her out only on that day and her parents dont allow then never go out.She also say its troublesome for her to go out cause still need to prepare all those.But i dont hear her saying all that when going out with her friends.Though its true her parents are strict with her.
We always breakup and then patchback due to all these reasons.Until till august this year when we broke up and she say she want to take a break to concentrate on her As and we solve our problems after As.She promise to accompany me after As cause im going army soon.Though i told her we breakup and dont contact anymore.During that period of time we really never contact each other much.The day before the last day of As she ask me if im free the next day but i say not sure.But not that day she never ask me out.And she never ask me out on the next 2 days till its 3 days after As then she ask me out.She never ask me out after As cause she got class outing and the other days she went out with her friends.So i never agree to go out with her as i feel she only ask me out when she's free.After that a few days then it happen again,when she asked me out only when she never go out with her friends.
So do you think im being ridiculous to mind all these things?Or its normal for a guy to mind.
i totally agree with that.with her kind of attitude that regard so many things that an attached couple shouldnt do as acceptable,thereby making me always worrying what she had done that i dont know, she really deserve none of my love.Originally posted by pescar:a gf who failed to give u security will deserve none of ur love..
Go on and carry on with your life then. Don't forget her entirely, but remember the learning points of this relationship as you slowly pursue another~Originally posted by spacesurf:i totally agree with that.with her kind of attitude that regard so many things that an attached couple shouldnt do as acceptable,thereby making me always worrying what she had done that i dont know, she really deserve none of my love.