should guy give in?
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when quarrel with gf.. even though it the girl fault?
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hopefully got no quarrels in the first place lor...if something wrong then must speak up, cannot wait until wanna quarrel.
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actually there no quarrel involved.. it just that i speak up and suddenly cold war started..Originally posted by the.raven:hopefully got no quarrels in the first place lor...if something wrong then must speak up, cannot wait until wanna quarrel.
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IMO, no......
i like him to argue till the end
but still end up he give in to me most of the time.........
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no. cannot. must be reasonable.
whoever's at fault shd give in. -
No! Hold on to your pride...~ At least for a few more days lor. How long has it been?Originally posted by blowfish:actually there no quarrel involved.. it just that i speak up and suddenly cold war started.. -
Wait for both of you to cool down and sit down and talk things out nicely la. Let her see your point of you. Take a neutral stand and don't go, see you are wrong I am right because it will trigger things off again.
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either you were talking in an accusing tone, or she is just unreasonable.Originally posted by blowfish:actually there no quarrel involved.. it just that i speak up and suddenly cold war started..
if its the latter, then kick her ass -
but i don like the feeling of cold war.. it been nearly a week liao...
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must give and take bah.
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haiz...
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Have the courage to be sincere, open and honest with her. This opens the door to deeper communication all around. It creates self-empowerment and the kind of connections with others we all want in life. Speaking from the heart with compassion and understanding frees us from the secrets that burden us and lets us build new foundations for heart-based communication and hope.
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sorry to put in something awefully....but perhaps the other part does n't like your voice.Originally posted by blowfish:but i don like the feeling of cold war.. it been nearly a week liao...
I used to date someone when I was younger and this girl likes to started quarrel with me , nothing big, except about god, sometimes she's just so assertive that it piss me off, and I show her "my black Face", but everytime she act cute and said " i don't want to querral with you one ler , sorry lor..." then she pull my shirt alittle and looked shy, she always had me back on my knees feeling sorry, and I had to say " I am sorry too" also. I felt so bad that I made her feel so bad even though she started the qurral with me.
But I also dated anyone one whom, I can't really fancy her voice, and yes I took to cold war until I need her. ...... to kill my bordom lar
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So I really think that it's little things like these that test the foundation of a relationship. It doesn't really matters who give in first. In some relationship, the guy always give in and they live happily everafter, sometime the weaker sex is just the girl and still is an award winning love story.
IMHO, You really need to examine your relation ship lor to see whether you want to give in. -
bear what u said is correct. But when u had done that many times but the problem kept popping out.. it take 2 hands to clap..
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Aiya, communicate and compromise as much as possible from both side in future. In my opinion, don't always give in else spoil the gal, later she keep throwing tantrum. Guess, cool down for now, there will come in time she will realise she is being unreasonable.Originally posted by blowfish:when quarrel with gf.. even though it the girl fault? -
dun cold war la.. both sides suffer and who gain in the end? no one...
juz get ur point through, and after that solve the prob like a mature adult loh...
if she still wans to yaya and wans to win, den scold her... sometimes gf cannot be condoned in tis kinda unreasonable act..
but u must also noe that in tis type of situation, u'll say things tt are not nice.. so u're at fault too...
juz compromise to each other and u'll return to normal.. nth difficult it all depends on whether u wanna give in first to discuss it or not...
muz cherish ur gf when u still haf her.. girls are cute animals meant to de-stress us.. not to add on to it...
(i'm not treating them as animals.. juz using an illustration) -
yesOriginally posted by blowfish:when quarrel with gf.. even though it the girl fault? -
What kinda problem? Can take an alternate approach? Kiss and make up 1st, then ponder and think over the issues and have them addressed even before they pop up again in the future...?Originally posted by blowfish:bear what u said is correct. But when u had done that many times but the problem kept popping out.. it take 2 hands to clap.. -
errr ..... don't undertsand this part ler ... care to be more explicit?Originally posted by pescar:.. girls are cute animals meant to de-stress us.. ...
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I would like to say don't give in but sometimes it depends on what the reason for the disagreement. A person can just be moody and like to argue sometimes becos of not feeling well or under stress. In cases like this, letting you win the arguement might makes her more angry cos she just want to vent her initial anger.
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i dunno wat u mean by give in. as in who will talk to who first? it depends on how much u care. if you care enuff, you will make the first move to talk to the other person first. no need to apologize or anything, just say sth like we shud get together for a talk to clear things up or sth like dat. then only decide who is at fault.
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Never believe in cold war.
Better to talk it out straight away.
Depends on what the quarrel is, give in if it is a small matter.
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Good point. But try not to overstress on whose fault it is.Originally posted by icyprincess:i dunno wat u mean by give in. as in who will talk to who first? it depends on how much u care. if you care enuff, you will make the first move to talk to the other person first. no need to apologize or anything, just say sth like we shud get together for a talk to clear things up or sth like dat. then only decide who is at fault.
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yea. but if it is clear dat party shud apologize. it does make a difference.Originally posted by pete98:Good point. But try not to overstress on whose fault it is.
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True, unfortunately people sometimes have problem saying the word 'sorry'. Its easy for me cos I do it oftenOriginally posted by icyprincess:yea. but if it is clear dat party shud apologize. it does make a difference.
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but for those with the so call pride/ego, it might just make them start another arguement again.