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Originally posted by yvonne_kua:My story started when I was still in secondary school. I get to know this guy(lets call him A) from one of my friend when we went out together. He managed to get my hp no. from one of my friends(dunno how he does it lahz). From my friends I heard that he's a playboy who had alot of GFs, always went around cheating other girl's feeling.
We chatted on phone and went out few times then we finally together after 2 weeks. I ignored all the advices from my friends to stay away from him cos I wanna try out something different and see if I can use LOVE to change A.
This is a common misconception girls have, that love can change everything. While i do not want to dispute that fact, most boys just won't change.
They will at some point of their life, but that's much later in their lives. As a PlayBoy... girls are his way of life. He probably won't ease up on that game til his late 20's ... or even later. Of course he may get hurt by a girl and come to his sense... but most likely he will not change unless something significant happens... and you're not it.
We starting together for 3 weeks everything very sweet he will surprise me whenever he can and I'm touched by what he did and slowly loved him more. Day by day loved him more and more but the 3rd month came and his attitude changed . He suddenly very cold towards me. I found out from his hp that he had been going out with this ger for few days already. I treat it as nothing, pretending that nothing happen hoping him to change back. come back to me when he had his fun. but this went on for 2 yrs, not with the same ger but differnet gers. I tried hinting him that i know about them wanting him to admit and ask for forgiveness. but no he continued. I also dunno how i can bear with all the things going on. maybe cos i loved him too much last time. Wat a stupid thing to do. Wasted few yrs on him and in the end nothicng came the right way the way I've planned it to be.
I finally met this guy(lets call him X) from my workplace last yr. A caring guy who will like hack care but actually he cared alot but he didn't show only. I finally broke off with A cos of the love and care X had been showering me with.
Glad you finally broke up with him. Hope this one is a much better choice girl~
Thankx for the words. I finally can give up him All cos of X he encouraged me like no 1 else did.Originally posted by _Aaron_:
yes i did change but i dunno how he managed to get hold of my new number again and started to contact and disturb our relationship again.Originally posted by Devil1976:Did you try to explain the situation to him? Or even changing your contact number?![]()
In such cases, it's ALWAYS WISE to EXPLAIN the SITUATION to your bf BEFOREHAND...Originally posted by yvonne_kua:yes i did change but i dunno how he managed to get hold of my new number again and started to contact and disturb our relationship again.![]()
I can swear to god that I didn't talk to him about anything else cos wat for? He wanted to call or sms me how can I stop him? I will never get bcak to A cos X is the guy I've always wanted ......Originally posted by gaara11:Did you really just wanna stop A from breaking up with u n X?
Do u sms or call A regarding on other things?
Do u say u love A or even call him Dear?
Have u not let ur bf down?
I just think that calling A to stop him from breaking up wifh u n ur bf is acceptable. But does e conversation ends up 2 long when he happened 2 call or sms u everyday? Do u tink is contradicting urself when u say that u want 2 stop A to disturb u all and yet chatting with A all along? Issit e true that u wan to continue ur relationship with A? It jus didnt make any sense when you can simply ask A not to disturb u n ur bf. A simple sentence will have finish e conversation btw u n ur ex. Maybe u r just giving urself a chance to get back to A and yet not really understand urself.
1) u can by simply telling him not to pester u anymor, if not u can tell ur parents abt it and seek for advice. Tats wat i did and it works. i mean ur parents should be more sensible than u to decide.Originally posted by yvonne_kua:I can swear to god that I didn't talk to him about anything else cos wat for?
1)He wanted to call or sms me how can I stop him?
2)I will never get bcak to A cos X is the guy I've always wanted ......
Well i did look at my own fault I did change but did he give me a chance yes he did but he kept looking backwards at the past nv give me a chance to really prove myself wat ever things i did wrong he will point back to the past u think is fair for me? I did wrong things in the past but i wanted to change but he didn't when he say to have another chance to changeOriginally posted by Kak4shi:hey girl, no matter who is at fault I feel that you ought to look at your own faults. You keep on pin-pointing A for coming between you and X. Are you sure you are a "perfect" gf? have you done nothing wrong to let A get the wrong idea? Have you done anything to make X angry? Think over it and stop saying what a sad state you're in. Everyone has their bad days but still they got to move on.
I believe in wat u type but to me I wanted A first but then X made me wanted him and give up A.... thats the truth up to u all to believe....Originally posted by kopiosatu:sigh, humans will never be contented.
they want A, get A already they want B.
got A and B they want C.
just not worth it, you can't please everyone.
you want A B C and D? Get a robot.
someone told me this...Originally posted by yvonne_kua:I believe in wat u type but to me I wanted A first but then X made me wanted him and give up A.... thats the truth up to u all to believe....
Thankx for the advice, I'll settle my feelings first b4 I jump into another relationship again. Well explaining is too hard for me..... I've get over A just that I dunno how to put it to him in a nicer way without hurting him that time to ask him not disturb me again. But wat ever I said no 1 will believe me cos all will think that I put my story up in the forum so as to let ppl pity me and so X will come back to me but I didn't.Originally posted by kiekie:1) u can by simply telling him not to pester u anymor, if not u can tell ur parents abt it and seek for advice. Tats wat i did and it works. i mean ur parents should be more sensible than u to decide.
2)Then follow ur heart. U already know tat its impossible btw the 2 of u, den stay clear of it. U shouldn't be dragging ur previous r/s to every other new r/s(i mean even for ur future r/s).
It's nv ending....
why i said tat?
cuz deep in ur heart, u noe tat u still have feelings for A but u felt tat its impossible btw the 2 of u liao.
I have been thru the same dilemma as u when i was younger, and tat was my 1st love. Our r/s ended up so abruptly tat i cudn't forget him over the years. But its not tat i still love him as b4, its juz tat our r/s didn't end up clear and clean. tat's y we still have a thingy to hold on to it.
If u realy hope to patch up with X, u should settle ur own feelings first. No pt explaining to X tat u bore no feelings for A alridy when u still haven got over him yet.
I noe u r trying to, and i hope tat u can do it. And i really wish u all the best from the bottom of my heart! Cherish dos who r wif u when u needed them most....
Well i know that and regreted that. But then sometime when you in a rush, anger, or wat ever things you did is not wat u actually wan.Originally posted by kopiosatu:someone told me this...
when you give a reason for doing something, it is a trigger
but before you pull the trigger, the intention must be there. get it?