My love story 1
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My story started when I was still in secondary school. I get to know this guy(lets call him A) from one of my friend when we went out together. He managed to get my hp no. from one of my friends(dunno how he does it lahz). From my friends I heard that he's a playboy who had alot of GFs, always went around cheating other girl's feeling.
We chatted on phone and went out few times then we finally together after 2 weeks. I ignored all the advices from my friends to stay away from him cos I wanna try out something different and see if I can use LOVE to change A.
We starting together for 3 weeks everything very sweet he will surprise me whenever he can and I'm touched by what he did and slowly loved him more. Day by day loved him more and more but the 3rd month came and his attitude changed . He suddenly very cold towards me. I found out from his hp that he had been going out with this ger for few days already. I treat it as nothing, pretending that nothing happen hoping him to change back. come back to me when he had his fun. but this went on for 2 yrs, not with the same ger but differnet gers. I tried hinting him that i know about them wanting him to admit and ask for forgiveness. but no he continued. I also dunno how i can bear with all the things going on. maybe cos i loved him too much last time. Wat a stupid thing to do. Wasted few yrs on him and in the end nothing came the right way the way I've planned it to be.
I finally met this guy(lets call him X) from my workplace last yr. A caring guy who will like hack care but actually he cared alot but he didn't show only. I finally broke off with A cos of the love and care X had been showering me with. -
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Originally posted by yvonne_kua:My story started when I was still in secondary school. I get to know this guy(lets call him A) from one of my friend when we went out together. He managed to get my hp no. from one of my friends(dunno how he does it lahz). From my friends I heard that he's a playboy who had alot of GFs, always went around cheating other girl's feeling.
We chatted on phone and went out few times then we finally together after 2 weeks. I ignored all the advices from my friends to stay away from him cos I wanna try out something different and see if I can use LOVE to change A.
This is a common misconception girls have, that love can change everything. While i do not want to dispute that fact, most boys just won't change.
They will at some point of their life, but that's much later in their lives. As a PlayBoy... girls are his way of life. He probably won't ease up on that game til his late 20's ... or even later. Of course he may get hurt by a girl and come to his sense... but most likely he will not change unless something significant happens... and you're not it.
We starting together for 3 weeks everything very sweet he will surprise me whenever he can and I'm touched by what he did and slowly loved him more. Day by day loved him more and more but the 3rd month came and his attitude changed . He suddenly very cold towards me. I found out from his hp that he had been going out with this ger for few days already. I treat it as nothing, pretending that nothing happen hoping him to change back. come back to me when he had his fun. but this went on for 2 yrs, not with the same ger but differnet gers. I tried hinting him that i know about them wanting him to admit and ask for forgiveness. but no he continued. I also dunno how i can bear with all the things going on. maybe cos i loved him too much last time. Wat a stupid thing to do. Wasted few yrs on him and in the end nothicng came the right way the way I've planned it to be.
I finally met this guy(lets call him X) from my workplace last yr. A caring guy who will like hack care but actually he cared alot but he didn't show only. I finally broke off with A cos of the love and care X had been showering me with.
Glad you finally broke up with him. Hope this one is a much better choice girl~ -
Sorry to ask, but your story seems to end abruptly...
Do you have something you need pple to help u out with?
Hope everything is going on fine for you now... -
Thankx for the words. I finally can give up him All cos of X he encouraged me like no 1 else did.Originally posted by _Aaron_: -
To answer to the question:
Well when he's in his army I thought he will changed cos normally guys enter army will think more more maturely. but he's totally different from all the guys I've known. he actually made me wait for him when he book out by going out with other gers and once he even did something which I can't forgive him by having sex with someone he not long. Coming to think of it Its so dirty u know? thats the main reason for me to wanting to give up this relationship . cheating on me by having other gers is alright cos that time i think he will change but I was wrong. Way too wrong...........So stupid of me -
continue from where I've stopped.
The guy X I knew from my workplace is a someone whom I've always wanted someone who care for u alot won't let you down. Someone whom will always be there for you when u need. We chatted on the phone meet up for movies, I told him about the things that happened to me and A. he will cheer me up telling me that its not over at all. all i have to do is stand up and continue.
I listened to him and then we ended up being together. He's great so great that I'm willing to give up anything for him.
But 1 day when we were outside shopping I came across A when X is in the toilet. A told me 1 thing, he said ' I won't let you 2 get together so easily, I'll break you 2 up in no time.'
I didn't tell X about it cos I'm scared he'll be angry but he found about it after that.
Yes i admit that i did answered A'S call but all i wanted to do is to ask him to give up no matter wat we can't be together. But then X mistaken that i still cannot forget about A but the thing is I already forget about him. I just wanna A not to call anymore , to do anything to harm the relationship between me and X.
Then our relationship very shaky after that, will tend to quarrel even over the smallest thing. A tried all means to get between us by calling me, talking to me, smsing me and will even wait for me outside my school.
I tried avoiding from A but he really had his means to find me. No matter how i hide he still be able to find me.
Then things seemed to get bettEr when X forgives me and we return to normal. He dotes me alot buys me things, lots of things. Everytime there for me. Loves me alot alot and I love him too. I loved him till the extend that no 1 can.
But all happened again when we're about to be together for almost 1 yr somethings happen. I was in school having my in school project attachment then lecturer scolding then A keep calling. I so angry cos no reason lecturer came in scolding shouting. so noisy then somemore i so moody. then i no think so much, I sms to A telling him wat he wan keep calling for wat, but he no reply anything.
In the evening X asked for my hp to spot check and he saw the sms. he very angry and then we broke off. cos he said he can't trust me anymore he dun feel secure with me at all. like anytime will do things to hurt him lor. but the fact is i didn't i just dun want A to call or wat lor but why can X think about it? I tried explaining but he dun wan to listen to any reasons. Wat to do?
Why can't he think of all the happy moments we've had instead of the unhappy things?
I loved him alot lor too much to bear to leave him. These few weeks I've been struggling not to be too sad in front of my frens I dun wan them to worry about me. But I can't do it anymore, I've bottled it all up too deep until I cannot stand it anymore. I love him but why must he do this to me? Why can't he love me like b4 forget about all the unhappiness and think about the future and not the past? -
Did you try to explain the situation to him? Or even changing your contact number?
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yes i did change but i dunno how he managed to get hold of my new number again and started to contact and disturb our relationship again.Originally posted by Devil1976:Did you try to explain the situation to him? Or even changing your contact number? -
One thing for sure, no matter for what reasons, lie is meant for good or what, it's just unacceptable in any relationship. You should have told him everything earlier.
You know, somebody gave you trust, is all in your hands whether you want to maintain trustworthiness. ItÂ’s not that he canÂ’t think of all the happy moments in the pass, but he will feel very hurt when he thought of the happy moment, because at that moment, you are cheating behind him when he is happily with you (thatÂ’s might be what he thought, even you didnÂ’t mean to cheat him).
Cheat can be lead to imagination, he will fill all unanswered questions with imagination, a small problem or misunderstanding can amplified to a big big issue.
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In such cases, it's ALWAYS WISE to EXPLAIN the SITUATION to your bf BEFOREHAND...Originally posted by yvonne_kua:yes i did change but i dunno how he managed to get hold of my new number again and started to contact and disturb our relationship again. -
Did you really just wanna stop A from breaking up with u n X?
Do u sms or call A regarding on other things?
Do u say u love A or even call him Dear?
Have u not let ur bf down?
I just think that calling A to stop him from breaking up wifh u n ur bf is acceptable. But does e conversation ends up 2 long when he happened 2 call or sms u everyday? Do u tink is contradicting urself when u say that u want 2 stop A to disturb u all and yet chatting with A all along? Issit e true that u wan to continue ur relationship with A? It jus didnt make any sense when you can simply ask A not to disturb u n ur bf. A simple sentence will have finish e conversation btw u n ur ex. Maybe u r just giving urself a chance to get back to A and yet not really understand urself. -
I can swear to god that I didn't talk to him about anything else cos wat for? He wanted to call or sms me how can I stop him? I will never get bcak to A cos X is the guy I've always wanted ......Originally posted by gaara11:Did you really just wanna stop A from breaking up with u n X?
Do u sms or call A regarding on other things?
Do u say u love A or even call him Dear?
Have u not let ur bf down?
I just think that calling A to stop him from breaking up wifh u n ur bf is acceptable. But does e conversation ends up 2 long when he happened 2 call or sms u everyday? Do u tink is contradicting urself when u say that u want 2 stop A to disturb u all and yet chatting with A all along? Issit e true that u wan to continue ur relationship with A? It jus didnt make any sense when you can simply ask A not to disturb u n ur bf. A simple sentence will have finish e conversation btw u n ur ex. Maybe u r just giving urself a chance to get back to A and yet not really understand urself. -
A bit exaggerated but...
maybe you can get a restraining order against A? Like show proof to the cops that A is harassing/stalking you etc etc. :/ -
Do u sms or call A regarding on other things?
Do u say u love A or even call him Dear?
Have u not let ur bf down?
have u ans 2 my qns on tis? Who care bout u swearing to gods, only a idiot does. Do i need to repeat my point of view? i said that does stopping A from disturbing u n X will end up in a long conversation? long until u end up talking e next day and onwards?[/quote] -
1) u can by simply telling him not to pester u anymor, if not u can tell ur parents abt it and seek for advice. Tats wat i did and it works. i mean ur parents should be more sensible than u to decide.Originally posted by yvonne_kua:I can swear to god that I didn't talk to him about anything else cos wat for?
1)He wanted to call or sms me how can I stop him?
2)I will never get bcak to A cos X is the guy I've always wanted ......
2)Then follow ur heart. U already know tat its impossible btw the 2 of u, den stay clear of it. U shouldn't be dragging ur previous r/s to every other new r/s(i mean even for ur future r/s).
It's nv ending....
why i said tat?
cuz deep in ur heart, u noe tat u still have feelings for A but u felt tat its impossible btw the 2 of u liao.
I have been thru the same dilemma as u when i was younger, and tat was my 1st love. Our r/s ended up so abruptly tat i cudn't forget him over the years. But its not tat i still love him as b4, its juz tat our r/s didn't end up clear and clean. tat's y we still have a thingy to hold on to it.
If u realy hope to patch up with X, u should settle ur own feelings first. No pt explaining to X tat u bore no feelings for A alridy when u still haven got over him yet.
I noe u r trying to, and i hope tat u can do it. And i really wish u all the best from the bottom of my heart! Cherish dos who r wif u when u needed them most.... -
sigh, humans will never be contented.
they want A, get A already they want B.
got A and B they want C.
just not worth it, you can't please everyone.
you want A B C and D? Get a robot. -
hey girl, no matter who is at fault I feel that you ought to look at your own faults. You keep on pin-pointing A for coming between you and X. Are you sure you are a "perfect" gf? have you done nothing wrong to let A get the wrong idea? Have you done anything to make X angry? Think over it and stop saying what a sad state you're in. Everyone has their bad days but still they got to move on.
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since the day you and A broke off.. you shld have stop any contact with him, ignore his call and sms, soon he will get tired of it and stop doing those stupid stuff. But you never, you still answer his call , reply his sms. You shld tell X that A went to wait for you outside the school , i m sure X will know what to do. But you never do anything like that, and now is too late. Anyway, i think if you still wan X back, tok to him... tell him the problem you are facing, if he love you, he will understand. Gd luck to you ! Hope everything will be alright for you
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Well i did look at my own fault I did change but did he give me a chance yes he did but he kept looking backwards at the past nv give me a chance to really prove myself wat ever things i did wrong he will point back to the past u think is fair for me? I did wrong things in the past but i wanted to change but he didn't when he say to have another chance to changeOriginally posted by Kak4shi:hey girl, no matter who is at fault I feel that you ought to look at your own faults. You keep on pin-pointing A for coming between you and X. Are you sure you are a "perfect" gf? have you done nothing wrong to let A get the wrong idea? Have you done anything to make X angry? Think over it and stop saying what a sad state you're in. Everyone has their bad days but still they got to move on. -
I believe in wat u type but to me I wanted A first but then X made me wanted him and give up A.... thats the truth up to u all to believe....Originally posted by kopiosatu:sigh, humans will never be contented.
they want A, get A already they want B.
got A and B they want C.
just not worth it, you can't please everyone.
you want A B C and D? Get a robot. -
someone told me this...Originally posted by yvonne_kua:I believe in wat u type but to me I wanted A first but then X made me wanted him and give up A.... thats the truth up to u all to believe....
when you give a reason for doing something, it is a trigger
but before you pull the trigger, the intention must be there. get it? -
Thankx for the advice, I'll settle my feelings first b4 I jump into another relationship again. Well explaining is too hard for me..... I've get over A just that I dunno how to put it to him in a nicer way without hurting him that time to ask him not disturb me again. But wat ever I said no 1 will believe me cos all will think that I put my story up in the forum so as to let ppl pity me and so X will come back to me but I didn't.Originally posted by kiekie:1) u can by simply telling him not to pester u anymor, if not u can tell ur parents abt it and seek for advice. Tats wat i did and it works. i mean ur parents should be more sensible than u to decide.
2)Then follow ur heart. U already know tat its impossible btw the 2 of u, den stay clear of it. U shouldn't be dragging ur previous r/s to every other new r/s(i mean even for ur future r/s).
It's nv ending....
why i said tat?
cuz deep in ur heart, u noe tat u still have feelings for A but u felt tat its impossible btw the 2 of u liao.
I have been thru the same dilemma as u when i was younger, and tat was my 1st love. Our r/s ended up so abruptly tat i cudn't forget him over the years. But its not tat i still love him as b4, its juz tat our r/s didn't end up clear and clean. tat's y we still have a thingy to hold on to it.
If u realy hope to patch up with X, u should settle ur own feelings first. No pt explaining to X tat u bore no feelings for A alridy when u still haven got over him yet.
I noe u r trying to, and i hope tat u can do it. And i really wish u all the best from the bottom of my heart! Cherish dos who r wif u when u needed them most.... -
Well i know that and regreted that. But then sometime when you in a rush, anger, or wat ever things you did is not wat u actually wan.Originally posted by kopiosatu:someone told me this...
when you give a reason for doing something, it is a trigger
but before you pull the trigger, the intention must be there. get it?