My love story 2
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continue from where I've stopped.
The guy X I knew from my workplace is a someone whom I've always wanted someone who care for u alot won't let you down. Someone whom will always be there for you when u need. We chatted on the phone meet up for movies, I told him about the things that happened to me and A. he will cheer me up telling me that its not over at all. all i have to do is stand up and continue.
I listened to him and then we ended up being together. He's great so great that I'm willing to give up anything for him.
But 1 day when we were outside shopping I came across A when X is in the toilet. A told me 1 thing, he said ' I won't let you 2 get together so easily, I'll break you 2 up in no time.'
I didn't tell X about it cos I'm scared he'll be angry but he found about it after that.
Yes i admit that i did answered A'S call but all i wanted to do is to ask him to give up no matter wat we can't be together. But then X mistaken that i still cannot forget about A but the thing is I already forget about him. I just wanna A not to call anymore , to do anything to harm the relationship between me and X.
Then our relationship very shaky after that, will tend to quarrel even over the smallest thing. A tried all means to get between us by calling me, talking to me, smsing me and will even wait for me outside my school.
I tried avoiding from A but he really had his means to find me. No matter how i hide he still be able to find me.
Then things seemed to get bettEr when X forgives me and we return to normal. He dotes me alot buys me things, lots of things. Everytime there for me. Loves me alot alot and I love him too. I loved him till the extend that no 1 can.
But all happened again when we're about to be together for almost 1 yr somethings happen. I was in school having my in school project attachment then lecturer scolding then A keep calling. I so angry cos no reason lecturer came in scolding shouting. so noisy then somemore i so moody. then i no think so much, I sms to A telling him wat he wan keep calling for wat, but he no reply anything.
In the evening X asked for my hp to spot check and he saw the sms. he very angry and then we broke off. cos he said he can't trust me anymore he dun feel secure with me at all. like anytime will do things to hurt him lor. but the fact is i didn't i just dun want A to call or wat lor but why can X think about it? I tried explaining but he dun wan to listen to any reasons. Wat to do?
Why can't he think of all the happy moments we've had instead of the unhappy things?
I loved him alot lor too much to bear to leave him. These few weeks I've been struggling not to be too sad in front of my frens I dun wan them to worry about me. But I can't do it anymore, I've bottled it all up too deep until I cannot stand it anymore. I love him but why must he do this to me? Why can't he love me like b4 forget about all the unhappiness and think about the future and not the past?
I wanted so much that he come back to me............................
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Just read your story...Originally posted by yvonne_kua:continue from where I've stopped.
The guy X I knew from my workplace is a someone whom I've always wanted someone who care for u alot won't let you down. Someone whom will always be there for you when u need. We chatted on the phone meet up for movies, I told him about the things that happened to me and A. he will cheer me up telling me that its not over at all. all i have to do is stand up and continue.
I listened to him and then we ended up being together. He's great so great that I'm willing to give up anything for him.
But 1 day when we were outside shopping I came across A when X is in the toilet. A told me 1 thing, he said ' I won't let you 2 get together so easily, I'll break you 2 up in no time.'
I didn't tell X about it cos I'm scared he'll be angry but he found about it after that.
Yes i admit that i did answered A'S call but all i wanted to do is to ask him to give up no matter wat we can't be together. But then X mistaken that i still cannot forget about A but the thing is I already forget about him. I just wanna A not to call anymore , to do anything to harm the relationship between me and X.
Then our relationship very shaky after that, will tend to quarrel even over the smallest thing. A tried all means to get between us by calling me, talking to me, smsing me and will even wait for me outside my school.
I tried avoiding from A but he really had his means to find me. No matter how i hide he still be able to find me.
Then things seemed to get bettEr when X forgives me and we return to normal. He dotes me alot buys me things, lots of things. Everytime there for me. Loves me alot alot and I love him too. I loved him till the extend that no 1 can.
But all happened again when we're about to be together for almost 1 yr somethings happen. I was in school having my in school project attachment then lecturer scolding then A keep calling. I so angry cos no reason lecturer came in scolding shouting. so noisy then somemore i so moody. then i no think so much, I sms to A telling him wat he wan keep calling for wat, but he no reply anything.
In the evening X asked for my hp to spot check and he saw the sms. he very angry and then we broke off. cos he said he can't trust me anymore he dun feel secure with me at all. like anytime will do things to hurt him lor. but the fact is i didn't i just dun want A to call or wat lor but why can X think about it? I tried explaining but he dun wan to listen to any reasons. Wat to do?
Why can't he think of all the happy moments we've had instead of the unhappy things?
I loved him alot lor too much to bear to leave him. These few weeks I've been struggling not to be too sad in front of my frens I dun wan them to worry about me. But I can't do it anymore, I've bottled it all up too deep until I cannot stand it anymore. I love him but why must he do this to me? Why can't he love me like b4 forget about all the unhappiness and think about the future and not the past?
I wanted so much that he come back to me............................
Is it that all the guys are the same they hurt girls but not in the same way?
K. If you wan to redeem back the relationship, now is not the time to mourn over the spilled milk.
1. Change your hp number.
2. Go right to X and talk to him, sit dwn with him and tell him the whole story, exactly what you have written here.
I have a gut feeling he aint a stubborn guy nor totally lost hope in you.
3. Threaten to issue a Protection Order against A if he keeps up with his childish tactics. We are in a civilised society. No Me-Man-You-Woman stone age era anymore k?
See how it proceeds from here then.
*hugs* Hope you feel better soon.
ps: Dun think all guys will hurt girls. This is a very "equal" society where both guys and girls hurt each other just as much.
I am a guy, and I have been hurt terribly before. Do I think all girls will hurt guys? NO. There's more to this world than just relationships.. but do go try and make things out with X 1st.
Hope to hear ur good news!
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Well I've tried talking to X but he dun wanna accept it. He thinks that he's not secure with me and that I'll cheat on him anytime but i didn't I just love him and I wanna us to be happy now and also the future and I've already actually planned my future with him lor.Originally posted by cutecuteboy:Just read your story...
K. If you wan to redeem back the relationship, now is not the time to mourn over the spilled milk.
1. Change your hp number.
2. Go right to X and talk to him, sit dwn with him and tell him the whole story, exactly what you have written here.
I have a gut feeling he aint a stubborn guy nor totally lost hope in you.
3. Threaten to issue a Protection Order against A if he keeps up with his childish tactics. We are in a civilised society. No Me-Man-You-Woman stone age era anymore k?
See how it proceeds from here then.
*hugs* Hope you feel better soon.
ps: Dun think all guys will hurt girls. This is a very "equal" society where both guys and girls hurt each other just as much.
I am a guy, and I have been hurt terribly before. Do I think all girls will hurt guys? NO. There's more to this world than just relationships.. but do go try and make things out with X 1st.
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the future is unseen.Originally posted by yvonne_kua:Well I've tried talking to X but he dun wanna accept it. He thinks that he's not secure with me and that I'll cheat on him anytime but i didn't I just love him and I wanna us to be happy now and also the future and I've already actually planned my future with him lor.
unpredictable.
take care of the present.
and the future shall take care of itself.
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I love him alot lor even if he hit me i still love him i forgive him. Cos i felt that he hit me cos he care too much for me thats y......Originally posted by icyprincess:the future is unseen.
unpredictable.
take care of the present.
and the future shall take care of itself.
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Originally posted by yvonne_kua:continue from where I've stopped.
The guy X I knew from my workplace is a someone whom I've always wanted someone who care for u alot won't let you down. Someone whom will always be there for you when u need. We chatted on the phone meet up for movies, I told him about the things that happened to me and A. he will cheer me up telling me that its not over at all. all i have to do is stand up and continue.
I listened to him and then we ended up being together. He's great so great that I'm willing to give up anything for him.
But 1 day when we were outside shopping I came across A when X is in the toilet. A told me 1 thing, he said ' I won't let you 2 get together so easily, I'll break you 2 up in no time.'
I didn't tell X about it cos I'm scared he'll be angry but he found about it after that.
Yes i admit that i did answered A'S call but all i wanted to do is to ask him to give up no matter wat we can't be together. But then X mistaken that i still cannot forget about A but the thing is I already forget about him. I just wanna A not to call anymore , to do anything to harm the relationship between me and X.
Then our relationship very shaky after that, will tend to quarrel even over the smallest thing. A tried all means to get between us by calling me, talking to me, smsing me and will even wait for me outside my school.
I tried avoiding from A but he really had his means to find me. No matter how i hide he still be able to find me.
Then things seemed to get bettEr when X forgives me and we return to normal. He dotes me alot buys me things, lots of things. Everytime there for me. Loves me alot alot and I love him too. I loved him till the extend that no 1 can.
But all happened again when we're about to be together for almost 1 yr somethings happen. I was in school having my in school project attachment then lecturer scolding then A keep calling. I so angry cos no reason lecturer came in scolding shouting. so noisy then somemore i so moody. then i no think so much, I sms to A telling him wat he wan keep calling for wat, but he no reply anything.
In the evening X asked for my hp to spot check and he saw the sms. he very angry and then we broke off. cos he said he can't trust me anymore he dun feel secure with me at all. like anytime will do things to hurt him lor. but the fact is i didn't i just dun want A to call or wat lor but why can X think about it? I tried explaining but he dun wan to listen to any reasons. Wat to do?
Why can't he think of all the happy moments we've had instead of the unhappy things?
I loved him alot lor too much to bear to leave him. These few weeks I've been struggling not to be too sad in front of my frens I dun wan them to worry about me. But I can't do it anymore, I've bottled it all up too deep until I cannot stand it anymore. I love him but why must he do this to me? Why can't he love me like b4 forget about all the unhappiness and think about the future and not the past?
I wanted so much that he come back to me............................
Is it that all the guys are the same they hurt girls but not in the same way?
Mars is weak; you talk about loving him and you focus far too much on the emotional aspect of your relationship without first realizing what MUST be done to secure the walls of the relationship - Like trying to contain water without having a container. One must be practical and adaptable in face of our unique personal relationship. We must learn to compromise and blend into our relationship, working for the greater good of our Love (CloUdiSm R3 - Fifth Law of the Old World), instead of persisting in our strict preception of certain issue and remain stubborn in them.
You spoke alot of why, but if you were to analysis your situation - you are greatly involved in the core of the actual problem. Instead of providing confidence in the relationship by being firm, defensive and going all out in one common-message, you did things that provide platform for misunderstanding to take place. Your overall intention may be good and your heart is with him, but your method ain't effective and continues to fuel sparks that burn the relationship inside-out.
Man are such simple creatures when it comes to Love: What they see, they believe. And to think that your ex-bf already make known to you that he wants to break up your relationship and you naively walk to where he dug his pit-trap. You answered his call (regardless of intention), spoke to him, etc when in fact you should have practice complete ignore, change your phone if possible and such.
Why not? If you truely understand your bf well enough, you should already know that such thingy will shake the relationship, then if it is within your means to avoid them, do it. Then he has to know what is your stand and what have you been trying to do about this issue. Communication is very much needed - it's no wonder why he thought you still had feelings for your ex. Actions never fails to speak louder than words. This is protection of your relationship and if you fail the protect your relationship, you will see it fall even if love still existed.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Thankx for ur quote I'll go and think about all............ I actually changed my number twice but he still managed to get my number I also dunno how he does it.i wanna try to ask A not to call anymore to give up is cos that X will still be angry when A called even I didn't answer the call. He'll think that i actually contact him first................. until now A still called just now also Mars is weak; you talk about loving him and you focus far too much on the emotional aspect of your relationship without first realizing what MUST be done to secure the walls of the relationship - Like trying to contain water without having a container. One must be practical and adaptable in face of our unique personal relationship. We must learn to compromise and blend into our relationship, working for the greater good of our Love (CloUdiSm R3 - Fifth Law of the Old World), instead of persisting in our strict preception of certain issue and remain stubborn in them.
You spoke alot of why, but if you were to analysis your situation - [b]you are greatly involved in the core of the actual problem. Instead of providing confidence in the relationship by being firm, defensive and going all out in one common-message, you did things that provide platform for misunderstanding to take place. Your overall intention may be good and your heart is with him, but your method ain't effective and continues to fuel sparks that burn the relationship inside-out.
Man are such simple creatures when it comes to Love: What they see, they believe. And to think that your ex-bf already make known to you that he wants to break up your relationship and you naively walk to where he dug his pit-trap. You answered his call (regardless of intention), spoke to him, etc when in fact you should have practice complete ignore, change your phone if possible and such.
Why not? If you truely understand your bf well enough, you should already know that such thingy will shake the relationship, then if it is within your means to avoid them, do it. Then he has to know what is your stand and what have you been trying to do about this issue. Communication is very much needed - it's no wonder why he thought you still had feelings for your ex. Actions never fails to speak louder than words. This is protection of your relationship and if you fail the protect your relationship, you will see it fall even if love still existed.
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i guess its all about trust. my gf told me sth last night, she said during her sec days there was this guy which she love, she love him so much that she felt tat she cant forget him in her whole life. and the worst thing is that she said this guy juz sms her 2 days ago. she said its juz a frenly sms from him asking how is her. they have already lost contact for some time.
when she told me that, felt v scared and sad all of a sudden. but when my gf saw tat, she secured me. she said during our poly years, the things tat me n her went thru b4 we were together made her forget abt him totally, and right now she only want me. and i accepted that, even though if that guy still sms my gf, i dun mind, becos i know my gf is truthful to me.
u need alot of courage to trust. and i told my gf last night, i dun care abt the past and i dun care about how long the future is, all i care is today and tomorrow eventually we will go thru the future if we think this way. -
Hmm... Why split your topics into 1 and 2
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Sorry i dun really know how to use so i accidently split it sryOriginally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Why split your topics into 1 and 2 -
Now i then found out that actually is he cheated on me he had a girl outside while being with me. he bluff me all along I had always thought that I'm the one in the wrong but now i know he break off not cause of me but cos of that girl. I really dun like girls to come in between a relationship. She will not only break the other ppl's heart, and one day the guy will leave her the way he left me.Originally posted by shifeng:i guess its all about trust. my gf told me sth last night, she said during her sec days there was this guy which she love, she love him so much that she felt tat she cant forget him in her whole life. and the worst thing is that she said this guy juz sms her 2 days ago. she said its juz a frenly sms from him asking how is her. they have already lost contact for some time.
when she told me that, felt v scared and sad all of a sudden. but when my gf saw tat, she secured me. she said during our poly years, the things tat me n her went thru b4 we were together made her forget abt him totally, and right now she only want me. and i accepted that, even though if that guy still sms my gf, i dun mind, becos i know my gf is truthful to me.
u need alot of courage to trust. and i told my gf last night, i dun care abt the past and i dun care about how long the future is, all i care is today and tomorrow eventually we will go thru the future if we think this way. -
I actually today then find out that he cheated on me. He actually bluff me about his relationship with this girl his ex. She actually came back into his life when both of us were quarrelling. She called him everyday even during her break time at work. Since me and X get together, we seldom chat on the phone mainly just sms cos he dun like to chat.
For him I suffered 2 miscarriages when we're together. The 1st time is out of the sudden the baby just gone, maybe I ate the wrong thing. The 2nd time is when he pushed me and I hit the edge of the bed. That time I didn't tell him cos I wanna find the right time to tell him cos that time he's very stressed over all things and I dun wanna him to stress this thing again. But I didn't expect this thing to happen.
I dunno is I sway or what, I found out I'm pregnant again before X broke off with me. I only told him about this pregnant thing last week but all he said was ''Abort la, even if you give birth to the child I also won't be back to you.'' After I heard that I'm actually very heart-broken. How can a guy suddenly change so much? I told him '' I wanted to keep the baby not cos I want you to come back to me, is because I love the child. Its my flesh and blood, an innocent and pure live.'' What he replied to me is '' Ok lor up to you, no matter what dun ask me anything cos I dun want to be tied down but anything now.''
After listening to someone's advice, I finally decide to keep the baby. She told me If X really get back to me and I have to abort the baby and will X not leave me again? If that happen I will be left with nothing at all. No X and also no baby. But if I choose to keep the baby at least I have something, the baby will love me when he/she grow up.
I managed to get hold of the girl's number and I called her. I called her not because I wanted to scold her or reason with her. I just wanted to tell her that I need X more than she do. But she actually told X that I called to bully her, which I didn't I can swear. I just said '' Please let me have back X cos me and baby need him more than you or anyone out there now, without him I dunno what to do.''
But X called me and scolded me for calling her and even said '' Don't try to do anything to her or else you will get it.''
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I'm sorry.. but i never read ur part 1 msg...
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Can that be a secret I prefer not telling.Originally posted by shirurinu:I'm sorry.. but i never read ur part 1 msg...
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well... sure of coz... but i think if u at least let us know the age range then mayb we can know better y some things happen.. young guys tend to be more heartless lol...
But if a matured guy say such things to u... then he's not even fit to be a man ba -
move on... it's your life... your child needs you... a brave woman... a caring mother.... take care!
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From what i see girl, you're both quite young.
Perhaps you have learnt by now, or perhaps you haven't, that Love is more than 'showering care and concern on you, buying you gifts, treating you dinner, etc, and then getting you into bed.'
If a guy rushes you into having sex with him, and asks you to abort the baby and wants to have nothing else to do with you... And he has a gf now who he pampers...
WAKE UP!
You've been used by him! He sees you as nothing but a playmate! And he would most likely do the same to his current gf as well, but that's not the core of the problem.
You need to move on! You've decided to keep the baby, and that's a wise choice, but you need to move on. Do not hype over him anymore. He's a worthless guy worse than A.
The world is more complicated than you think girl. Do not assume that a guy loves you just because he treats you well... Sex is something that should never be given in a relationship that easily, and worse of all, unprotected sex?
It will be hard, but you need to forget. Forget about those 2 unfaithful lying idiots and move on. This is YOUR life, do Not forget about it. This isn't about them, its about You. -
Originally posted by _Aaron_:
Perhaps you have learnt by now, or perhaps you haven't, that Love is more than 'showering care and concern on you, buying you gifts, treating you dinner, etc, and then getting you into bed.'
If a guy rushes you into having sex with him, and asks you to abort the baby and wants to have nothing else to do with you... And he has a gf now who he pampers...
You've been used by him! He sees you as nothing but a playmate!
That's right.
You need to move on! You've decided to keep the baby, and that's a wise choice, but you need to move on. Do not hype over him anymore. He's a worthless guy worse than A.
Forget about him.
A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. -
Hmm... 'Accidentally' typed 'My love story 1' without the intention of typing 'My love story 2'...? This is INTERESTING....?Originally posted by yvonne_kua:Sorry i dun really know how to use so i accidently split it sry
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Originally posted by Canavaro:
I'm really trying my very best to forget about him and concentrate on the baby.
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Perhaps you have learnt by now, or perhaps you haven't, that Love is more than 'showering care and concern on you, buying you gifts, treating you dinner, etc, and then getting you into bed.'
If a guy rushes you into having sex with him, and asks you to abort the baby and wants to have nothing else to do with you... And he has a gf now who he pampers...
You've been used by him! He sees you as nothing but a playmate!
That's right.
You need to move on! You've decided to keep the baby, and that's a wise choice, but you need to move on. Do not hype over him anymore. He's a worthless guy worse than A.
Forget about him.
A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.[/b]
But lots of thigns come into the way. wat to do when the baby grow up and ask about the father? wat to say? wat to say when X's family ask about the baby? -
Originally posted by yvonne_kua:
nb, i wish i could whack that guy.. din know such jerk exist on this earth..
I actually today then find out that he cheated on me. He actually bluff me about his relationship with this girl his ex. She actually came back into his life when both of us were quarrelling. She called him everyday even during her break time at work. Since me and X get together, we seldom chat on the phone mainly just sms cos he dun like to chat.
For him I suffered 2 miscarriages when we're together. The 1st time is out of the sudden the baby just gone, maybe I ate the wrong thing. The 2nd time is when he pushed me and I hit the edge of the bed. That time I didn't tell him cos I wanna find the right time to tell him cos that time he's very stressed over all things and I dun wanna him to stress this thing again. But I didn't expect this thing to happen.
I dunno is I sway or what, I found out I'm pregnant again before X broke off with me. I only told him about this pregnant thing last week but all he said was ''Abort la, even if you give birth to the child I also won't be back to you.'' After I heard that I'm actually very heart-broken. How can a guy suddenly change so much? I told him '' I wanted to keep the baby not cos I want you to come back to me, is because I love the child. Its my flesh and blood, an innocent and pure live.'' What he replied to me is '' Ok lor up to you, no matter what dun ask me anything cos I dun want to be tied down but anything now.''
After listening to someone's advice, I finally decide to keep the baby. She told me If X really get back to me and I have to abort the baby and will X not leave me again? If that happen I will be left with nothing at all. No X and also no baby. But if I choose to keep the baby at least I have something, the baby will love me when he/she grow up.
I managed to get hold of the girl's number and I called her. I called her not because I wanted to scold her or reason with her. I just wanted to tell her that I need X more than she do. But she actually told X that I called to bully her, which I didn't I can swear. I just said '' Please let me have back X cos me and baby need him more than you or anyone out there now, without him I dunno what to do.''
But X called me and scolded me for calling her and even said '' Don't try to do anything to her or else [b]you will get it.''
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Well Hitting won't help anymore. My heart is totally broken after this incident. Everything have changed, hearts, attitude, and all. But the thing I'm not happy with is that he went telling everyone is my fault And he's totally innocent. He didn't say about that ger at all.... Everyone meaning his parents, friends and some outsiders.Originally posted by shifeng:nb, i wish i could whack that guy.. din know such jerk exist on this earth..