Originally posted by forum_man:
Haiz it seems like all my friends' dad are good father and husband, but how come my dad is like so useless...Well he was unfaithful to my mum and basically wrecked our family....now that he is penniless, he always stay at home and do nothing but mess up the place....sometimes i really wonder how come i have such a useless dad...
Beoz of his unfaithfulness, the relationship between me and my sibling and my mum distanced....sometimes really hated him, everytime saw him feel more hatred....anyone can advise on my situation
I have a friend who's like that as well. But what can we do?
If you're spiritual, then pray.
If you're not, all you can do, is use him as a model. A model of someone whom you do NOT want to be when you grow up.
I'm doing the same thing, though my dad isn't really that bad, he has a lot of character flaws that i'm adapting to as i grow up, growing up to be the exact opposite of him.
I guess that's the only thing we can do. Of course, you could try talking to him, but i'm not placing any high hopes there. You could get your grand parents to talk to him as well, to try and whack some senses into him.
But this is a gray area that i don't quite know as well, maybe can wait for Yunhaier or someone else who knows to post..