Should i try again or move on??
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Hmm... Juz asking for advices... I meet tis girl not long b4... And after tat we start to call ans sms each other everynite... Soon abt 1 month plus we were already together...
Things were pretty sweet for us at the starting... But soon not long after our 1st month, she wrote me a letter saying she still cant forget the guy she use to love... I was upset... Thus i asked her if she wan to break... She say no...
Den i requested a 2wks period to tink things through myself... But i only use 1 day... I noe deep down i love her... And i wan to be wif her... After i told her my ans and asked her if we could be together she said give her 2 wks to tink things through herslef... I was upset by the ans she given me after 2 wks...
She say she is sure she dun love tat guy anymore... And she still like me abit... But she said let be friends 1st to noe each other better cos she tink we dun kinda understand each other... If still got feeling can be together again... I agreed...
Soon i tried to be like wat we do in the past... Sms her often but she sort of nv reply... Or juz gave a short reply... Things are nv the same now... And i misunderstood her tinking tat she avoid my msg... But she said she is working so nv replied my msg... Den see my msg very late le scare im slping le so nv reply...
Now things are so different le... I dunno wat to do... She dun seem to give me the chance to noe each other better that she promised... And i felt tired... But everytime i wanted to give up i told myself to try again... But everytime i tried i juz end up in another disappointment... Im very upset wif our "reationship" now...
Should i try again to give both of us another chance?? To give my heart to someone who broke it once?? Or should i try forget her and move on wif my life??...
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Like what a lot of them told me here...
"Follow your heart..." -
u may want to try, but wat abt her? does she feel the same way as well?Originally posted by yunyun:Hmm... Juz asking for advices... I meet tis girl not long b4... And after tat we start to call ans sms each other everynite... Soon abt 1 month plus we were already together...
same thing happened to me ........
Things were pretty sweet for us at the starting... But soon not long after our 1st month, she wrote me a letter saying she still cant forget the guy she use to love... I was upset... Thus i asked her if she wan to break... She say no...
Den i requested a 2wks period to tink things through myself... But i only use 1 day... I noe deep down i love her... And i wan to be wif her... After i told her my ans and asked her if we could be together she said give her 2 wks to tink things through herslef... I was upset by the ans she given me after 2 wks...
She say she is sure she dun love tat guy anymore... And she still like me abit... But she said let be friends 1st to noe each other better cos she tink we dun kinda understand each other... If still got feeling can be together again... I agreed...
i agree that 2 ppl should take their time to know each other first b4 going into a steady r/s.
Soon i tried to be like wat we do in the past... Sms her often but she sort of nv reply... Or juz gave a short reply... Things are nv the same now... And i misunderstood her tinking tat she avoid my msg... But she said she is working so nv replied my msg... Den see my msg very late le scare im slping le so nv reply...
when u 2 were tog, does she rpl ur sms even thou she's wkg??
Now things are so different le... I dunno wat to do... She dun seem to give me the chance to noe each other better that she promised... And i felt tired... But everytime i wanted to give up i told myself to try again... But everytime i tried i juz end up in another disappointment... Im very upset wif our "reationship" now...
Should i try again to give both of us another chance?? To give my heart to someone who broke it once?? Or should i try forget her and move on wif my life??... -
when u 2 were tog, does she rpl ur sms even thou she's wkg??
Yah she did reply... But only once... Even though i msg her after tat she din reply anymore... Now she dun msg me anymore... Im owaz the 1 who msg her 1st now... Unlike last time we sort of ake turn to msg each other to initate a chat...
u may want to try, but wat abt her? does she feel the same way as well
She is the one who said to give us more time to noe each other... To understand each other better... To go out in a grp... If after understanding each other better le and still got feeling for one another... We can still be together... -
First off, during the first month, both of you were working? Or did she recently get a job?Originally posted by yunyun:Hmm... Juz asking for advices... I meet tis girl not long b4... And after tat we start to call ans sms each other everynite... Soon abt 1 month plus we were already together...
Things were pretty sweet for us at the starting... But soon not long after our 1st month, she wrote me a letter saying she still cant forget the guy she use to love... I was upset... Thus i asked her if she wan to break... She say no...
Den i requested a 2wks period to tink things through myself... But i only use 1 day... I noe deep down i love her... And i wan to be wif her... After i told her my ans and asked her if we could be together she said give her 2 wks to tink things through herslef... I was upset by the ans she given me after 2 wks...
She say she is sure she dun love tat guy anymore... And she still like me abit... But she said let be friends 1st to noe each other better cos she tink we dun kinda understand each other... If still got feeling can be together again... I agreed...
Soon i tried to be like wat we do in the past... Sms her often but she sort of nv reply... Or juz gave a short reply... Things are nv the same now... And i misunderstood her tinking tat she avoid my msg... But she said she is working so nv replied my msg... Den see my msg very late le scare im slping le so nv reply...
Now things are so different le... I dunno wat to do... She dun seem to give me the chance to noe each other better that she promised... And i felt tired... But everytime i wanted to give up i told myself to try again... But everytime i tried i juz end up in another disappointment... Im very upset wif our "reationship" now...
Should i try again to give both of us another chance?? To give my heart to someone who broke it once?? Or should i try forget her and move on wif my life??...
I know you feel tired. She's leaving you hanging. However, she may be too tired with work to feel/think about Love.
Perhaps you should meet her up one day for tea, and ask her if the two of you can still be together, would she give you a chance to know her well. A bit straightforward, but that's what i would do. (Though success is quite limited). This would answer your own question.
But it does seem like she's losing her feelings for you. Perhaps if its possible, fetch her home from work? Or just meet her up once or twice a week for a chat, since she seems to be unresponsive to Smses. Meeting up is a much better idea than smsing anyways.
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Dun sms her...sms d former bf....find out wat reasons did she cite for their breakup...
If its d same....u've jus been had...... -
if she broke off with her previous bf jus to be with u, den perhaps she is having some huge questions in her mind. perhaps she's feeling gulity that she let her ex down and if she continues with u, she may be deemed unfaithful to others. ( which i agrees)
so i guess the best way forward now would be for u and her to cool down and let her decides wat she wants. no point fighting when the war has alreadi ended without u knowing it.Originally posted by yunyun:Hmm... Juz asking for advices... I meet tis girl not long b4... And after tat we start to call ans sms each other everynite... Soon abt 1 month plus we were already together...
Things were pretty sweet for us at the starting... But soon not long after our 1st month, she wrote me a letter saying she still cant forget the guy she use to love... I was upset... Thus i asked her if she wan to break... She say no...
Den i requested a 2wks period to tink things through myself... But i only use 1 day... I noe deep down i love her... And i wan to be wif her... After i told her my ans and asked her if we could be together she said give her 2 wks to tink things through herslef... I was upset by the ans she given me after 2 wks...
She say she is sure she dun love tat guy anymore... And she still like me abit... But she said let be friends 1st to noe each other better cos she tink we dun kinda understand each other... If still got feeling can be together again... I agreed...
Soon i tried to be like wat we do in the past... Sms her often but she sort of nv reply... Or juz gave a short reply... Things are nv the same now... And i misunderstood her tinking tat she avoid my msg... But she said she is working so nv replied my msg... Den see my msg very late le scare im slping le so nv reply...
Now things are so different le... I dunno wat to do... She dun seem to give me the chance to noe each other better that she promised... And i felt tired... But everytime i wanted to give up i told myself to try again... But everytime i tried i juz end up in another disappointment... Im very upset wif our "reationship" now...
Should i try again to give both of us another chance?? To give my heart to someone who broke it once?? Or should i try forget her and move on wif my life??... -
follow the flow
let nature take it course -
Hey boy, there is e reason, she is REALLY busy or she have start moving on her life.... I guess everything need two hand to clap... if u see things dun work out, why still remind in e same spot? Move on, =)
And definitly, the nxt comin gf will be even better.... tats for sure!!!
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seems to me like she's purposely avoiding you. Maybe that's her answer to you. Anyways judging by her respone on short reply to yr smses or never reply at all, i guess she is already decided that she doesn't want to carry on this relationship. If she was really serious about giving you all a second chance, i feel that she's not putting in enough effort. SMSing only takes at most 1 minute and i'm sure she could afford tt time no matter what she's doing. especially with the state of yr relationship. My advice is move on bro. I'm sure you'll find the right one someday.
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What 'promise'...?Originally posted by yunyun:Hmm... Juz asking for advices... I meet tis girl not long b4... And after tat we start to call ans sms each other everynite... Soon abt 1 month plus we were already together...
Things were pretty sweet for us at the starting... But soon not long after our 1st month, she wrote me a letter saying she still cant forget the guy she use to love... I was upset... Thus i asked her if she wan to break... She say no...
Den i requested a 2wks period to tink things through myself... But i only use 1 day... I noe deep down i love her... And i wan to be wif her... After i told her my ans and asked her if we could be together she said give her 2 wks to tink things through herslef... I was upset by the ans she given me after 2 wks...
She say she is sure she dun love tat guy anymore... And she still like me abit... But she said let be friends 1st to noe each other better cos she tink we dun kinda understand each other... If still got feeling can be together again... I agreed...
Soon i tried to be like wat we do in the past... Sms her often but she sort of nv reply... Or juz gave a short reply... Things are nv the same now... And i misunderstood her tinking tat she avoid my msg... But she said she is working so nv replied my msg... Den see my msg very late le scare im slping le so nv reply...
Now things are so different le... I dunno wat to do... She dun seem to give me the chance to noe each other better that she promised... And i felt tired... But everytime i wanted to give up i told myself to try again... But everytime i tried i juz end up in another disappointment... Im very upset wif our "reationship" now...
Should i try again to give both of us another chance?? To give my heart to someone who broke it once?? Or should i try forget her and move on wif my life??... 
I think you're sort of delusioned...? She just give you a chance to know each other better yeah...? -
Wat would you prefer?
Option 1 > Hang on to it with uncertainty. Always wondering.
In your head, you want it to work out, but yuo're not sure abt her.
Option 2 > Open up your mind, while you're not sure abt her, just keep your options open. Tell yourself I'm not getting married tmrw...
Who knows!!? when you're not feeling so lousy abt the matter, someone much much better could be right there waiting for you.
Cheers bro!! -
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From my female perspective, let me tell u what I think -- MOVE ON! she is obviously not interested in u anymore!
That's how i behaved to my ex, when i wanted to break off with him, but scared that he would be angry/sad/exasperated. I avoided him. Tell him all sort of excuses like i am very busy working, or scared that he slept liao (exactly what she said to u). When finally he came to confront me, i told him that we need a break. it was more difficult for me then bcos we were together for 2 yrs. But when feelings change, it is that harsh.
it takes two to clap. come on, be a man. maybe she will respect u more. -
Try to talk to her about it first before moving on. Never leave a unresolved rs hanging cos it might cost both of you regrets for the rest of your life.
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If she can't get over him, no point starting. Will bring hurt only.
Have a talk with her..
Give yourselves time. time to know each other better..no hurry..