Mum won't stop smoking!
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A month ago, I made my mum promise to cut down on her smoking and to let me know when she does but from 1 or 2 sticks a day occasionally, it's become a 3 or more daily affair.
My father and sister know about this but do nothing even when I talk to them about it. She never smokes when either of them is around. I tell her 'no' when she tells me she's going to have a second one but she carries on...and has another later...and another. I feel powerless, and don't know what to do, short of throwing away every box. (It sounds like a good idea actually, it's all going to end up burnt anyway)
I'm going all emotional now...I fear it will get worse and I hate watching her self-destruct slowly. And the day will come when I wish I could have stopped her. -
ask her to buy the nicotin pack? or the chewing gum loh... or u tell her if she feels like smoking then eat a sweet (fisherman's friend) or a fruit. tells her if she continue she might get stroke early... high blood pressure, cardiac failure, asthma...
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She's not motivated to stop.
Smoking is very addictive, and many people i know who smokes, are hooked on it. Some people i know, quit when their bf/gf tells them to, or they quit together.
For your case, perhaps you could convince her that the smoke she exhales are actually inhaled by your family? She's raising the chances of cancer for everyone who lives in the house!
Look at her in the eyes, tell her that you love her, and that you don't want to see her slowly wither away from cancer 10 years later.
Alternatively, you can try being mean, tell her you won't take care of her when she withers away 10 years later. (Depends on what your mom's personality is like).
There's always the Nicotine sweets, gum that are in the market which provides the same nicotine. Maybe you can ask her to try it.
Hope to hear good news from you soon~ -
Is there anyway you can get her to 'connect up' with the professionals?Originally posted by Kuali Baba:A month ago, I made my mum promise to cut down on her smoking and to let me know when she does but from 1 or 2 sticks a day occasionally, it's become a 3 or more daily affair.
My father and sister know about this but do nothing even when I talk to them about it. She never smokes when either of them is around. I tell her 'no' when she tells me she's going to have a second one but she carries on...and has another later...and another. I feel powerless, and don't know what to do, short of throwing away every box. (It sounds like a good idea actually, it's all going to end up burnt anyway)
I'm going all emotional now...I fear it will get worse and I hate watching her self-destruct slowly. And the day will come when I wish I could have stopped her. -
Wha'dyu mean?Originally posted by Devil1976:Is there anyway you can get her to 'connect up' with the professionals?
I talked to my dad about it, he says she's an adult, she knows what she's doing and can decide for herself...still I don't think that is the right attitude, and I seriouslt doubt she knows what she's doing. -
*agrees with Aaron*
wow Nick didn't know your mum smoked.
As Aaron mentioned , passive smoking will eventually harm you and people around her. If she loves you guys and doesn't want you'll to end up with cancer than she must stop smoking. When did she take up this habit? at what age?
She must really look after her health and your family's.
If nicotine patches/gums etc does not work , how about Hypnotherapy? But dunno how safe it is or if it has any side-effects.
Smoking is more of a disease than a bad habit. Just like alcoholism. Your whole family should encourage her to quit smoking,not only you. -
Well, in my case, its my grandfather who woud NEVER quit smoking.
Actually he took the nicotin gum for a 1 week, but just couldn't resist the temptation of lighting up again. Sigh....
I can understand how you feel, you love your mom and really wanted her to quit it for good.
I heard a saying, it goes like this: " Its really easy to quit smoking, I've quited for a thousand times." See, its really not easy to stop smoking.
But as her kid, i think you have to take control of her habit since she is still young. Try to keep all ciggas away from her even if you have to hide them.
Maybe you could ask her to try the nicotine gum just to see if she could replace the ciggas for the gums.
Peace.
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Same here.
Whenever our grandfather smokes, everyone vanishes out of sight cos we can't stand the smoke.
Also he is so old already, knows the consequences.
Tell her she will suffer if she gets lung cancer, show her horrifying pictures to scare her -
I mean I believe there're help groups which actually encourages each other to quit smoking or perhaps even get advices from professionals.. Check out with Health Promotion Board for such things...?Originally posted by Kuali Baba:Wha'dyu mean?
I talked to my dad about it, he says she's an adult, she knows what she's doing and can decide for herself...still I don't think that is the right attitude, and I seriouslt doubt she knows what she's doing.
And my previous question is.. Would your mum is willing to meet such people up if arrangements are to be made
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for every one ciggarrete smoked, give her one stroke of a rod or cane.....Originally posted by Kuali Baba:A month ago, I made my mum promise to cut down on her smoking and to let me know when she does but from 1 or 2 sticks a day occasionally, it's become a 3 or more daily affair.
My father and sister know about this but do nothing even when I talk to them about it. She never smokes when either of them is around. I tell her 'no' when she tells me she's going to have a second one but she carries on...and has another later...and another. I feel powerless, and don't know what to do, short of throwing away every box. (It sounds like a good idea actually, it's all going to end up burnt anyway)
I'm going all emotional now...I fear it will get worse and I hate watching her self-destruct slowly. And the day will come when I wish I could have stopped her.
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takes time la...not so fast
encourage her and help her along -
Maybe you want to check why is she smoking? Stress? Worry?
If you do need professional help to stop her smoking, I might have contacts to pass to you.
Before that, have a good chat to understand her. -
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I'll find a nice window to talk to her (we'll be busy with preparations for the family dinner on the eve), and I'll let you all know the outcome. Thanks a milOriginally posted by Devil1976:And my previous question is.. Would your mum is willing to meet such people up if arrangements are to be made 
P.S. Solutions might not be effective if they clash with her line-dancing activities LOL -
doping her cigars with gun powder should stop her smoking once and for all. addicts need to go cold turkey to stopOriginally posted by Kuali Baba:A month ago, I made my mum promise to cut down on her smoking and to let me know when she does but from 1 or 2 sticks a day occasionally, it's become a 3 or more daily affair.
My father and sister know about this but do nothing even when I talk to them about it. She never smokes when either of them is around. I tell her 'no' when she tells me she's going to have a second one but she carries on...and has another later...and another. I feel powerless, and don't know what to do, short of throwing away every box. (It sounds like a good idea actually, it's all going to end up burnt anyway)
I'm going all emotional now...I fear it will get worse and I hate watching her self-destruct slowly. And the day will come when I wish I could have stopped her. -
If she so into line-dancing, can try to ask the people there to advise her on quitting. Sometime they listen to others more than family members.Originally posted by Kuali Baba:I'll find a nice window to talk to her (we'll be busy with preparations for the family dinner on the eve), and I'll let you all know the outcome. Thanks a mil
P.S. Solutions might not be effective if they clash with her line-dancing activities LOL
Can check Tan Tock Seng, got telphone lines to help both the people to quit and also for family members who want to persuade others to quit if not wrong. Get expert views rather than force her, might get negative response.
hope you are successful
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Always arrange the timing... try to get her line-dancing friends to discourage her from smoking...Originally posted by Kuali Baba:I'll find a nice window to talk to her (we'll be busy with preparations for the family dinner on the eve), and I'll let you all know the outcome. Thanks a mil
P.S. Solutions might not be effective if they clash with her line-dancing activities LOL -
She doesn't smoke outside the house, so it would be inappropriate to let this leave the walls of the house.
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Just tell your mother....women who smoke have a higher chance to get lung cancer, bre*st cancer, cervix cancer, nose cancer, tongue cancer and very high chance to get stroke & heart attack....
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Got this number from TTSH signboard can trying calling and tell them your suitation, may be they have a strategy for you. They should be experts. Tel 63578188
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Hmm... Make appropriate arrangements for her then...?Originally posted by Kuali Baba:She doesn't smoke outside the house, so it would be inappropriate to let this leave the walls of the house. -
steal all her cigarettes and throw them away