Cont. Go for someone who's attached?
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Can't find previous post where we talking about the similar topic. So, I created a new thread.
Just saw this news which might be relevant to this:
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/singaporelocalnews/view/123161/1/.html
Frankly, I just never see anyone who went for someone attached/married has a good ending. Either the third party killed, or the one at the middle killed, or suicided. Is that what they call happiness? Just one word to conclude them, they are “STUPID”.
So, for those who thought is “OK” to go for someone attached/married, you should think twice. -
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Hey thanks, that's the one.Originally posted by _Aaron_:
There are always some rules for the game, to break the rules, you know the consequences. -
Huh? I only know the police classified it as un-natural death...
But how you know that there was a 3rd party involved? The article never say anything about that.
But in cases of relationships, even normal 1-1 relationships see people suiciding... perhaps 3rd parties just serve as a catalyst... *shrugs*. -
Nothing concrete yet. But there are some rumors related to this.
Hatred and jealousy can be very destructive. -
Once I inadvertently became the third party in another relationship.... The girl was my classmate, you see, while her bf (a prefect) was in another class.Originally posted by _Aaron_:Huh? I only know the police classified it as un-natural death...
But how you know that there was a 3rd party involved? The article never say anything about that.
But in cases of relationships, even normal 1-1 relationships see people suiciding... perhaps 3rd parties just serve as a catalyst... *shrugs*.
The girl and I became good friends. I would help her a lot in her schoolwork, and we spent quite a bit of time discussing homework on the phone. I was, however, acutely aware of her bf and consciously did not get in the way of their relationship.
As time passed, however, the guy got jealous. He constantly sneered at me and glared at me. The two of them would argue a lot over me. I didn't pay attention to the guy's antics, for I didn't do anything wrong at all. After all, what was he going to do to me? He is, after all, a prefect. I did feel bad for the girl, though. It seemed that I was creating misery for her.
Unfortunately, he crossed the line. One day he snapped and very nearly slugged me. I managed to make a break for it, though.
As expected, they continued to argue violently over me.
In the end, the girl dumped the guy.
I don't think I did anything wrong. All I did was to befriend the girl and help her with her schoolwork. Nothing wrong with that, I hope. I refuse to take any responsibility for the break-up. Heck, I told that to the girl straight in the face and she accepted it. We're still friends after all these years.
I do, however, still feel terrible about having played a part in the break-up of a couple.
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What would i do if i see my gf with another guy ALL the time? More than she sees me? As a normally calm person, even i will become jealous. And i will wonder what they are always doing together...Originally posted by fudgester:Once I inadvertently became the third party in another relationship.... The girl was my classmate, you see, while her bf (a prefect) was in another class.
The girl and I became good friends. I would help her a lot in her schoolwork, and we spent quite a bit of time discussing homework on the phone. I was, however, acutely aware of her bf and consciously did not get in the way of their relationship.
As time passed, however, the guy got jealous. He constantly sneered at me and glared at me. The two of them would argue a lot over me. I didn't pay attention to the guy's antics, for I didn't do anything wrong at all. After all, what was he going to do to me? He is, after all, a prefect. I did feel bad for the girl, though. It seemed that I was creating misery for her.
Unfortunately, he crossed the line. One day he snapped and very nearly slugged me. I managed to make a break for it, though.
As expected, they continued to argue violently over me.
In the end, the girl dumped the guy.
I don't think I did anything wrong. All I did was to befriend the girl and help her with her schoolwork. Nothing wrong with that, I hope. I refuse to take any responsibility for the break-up. Heck, I told that to the girl straight in the face and she accepted it. We're still friends after all these years.
I do, however, still feel terrible about having played a part in the break-up of a couple.
Even if you're not doing anything together... i'll still think that my gf is spending more time with another guy.
Aiya, in secondary school its very different, people are naive and get jealous easier... but then even in the working world... its not that different is it?
But if I was the '3rd party' in your situation, and i know i'm messing them up. I would take responsibility and give them some room lar.
I believe in this, "if there's something wrong, fix it". Since i'm the "wrong" here, i'll "fix" it by distancing myself from her. But you didn't... i wouldn't worry too much though, secondary school couples rarely last anyways... -
It's easy to differentiate a mature man and a selfish-childish-jerk.Originally posted by _Aaron_:What would i do if i see my gf with another guy ALL the time? More than she sees me? As a normally calm person, even i will become jealous. And i will wonder what they are always doing together...
Even if you're not doing anything together... i'll still think that my gf is spending more time with another guy...
If you know that's not right, you should avoid it. How much happiness for the friendship you bought to her if you are the cause of their argument?
Well, jerks might said "I did nothing wrong what", "I didn't do anything what", "We are just purely friendship, what can he do to me?” You can say all those things, but sometime we should look at things from different perspectives, don't always look at things from your point of view. How about put yourself on that guy’s shoes? If you girlfriend being very close to another guy, what is your reaction? And that guy knows that he is the cause of the problems, but he just doesn’t bother, and continue to do so, what is his motive?
Some people are just very selfish, they think they did nothing wrong, in fact, they did nothing wrong, but the problems that causes by them, they can actually avoid it.
I don’t see this kind of friend is a sincere friend, when they know that they are the cause of arguments, but they still up their head high and tell you “hey, you see, I did nothing wrong what.” Well, can you be a more considerate friend?
Hey _Aaron_, I can said that you are a wise guy. -
i thot u were the one who's ok with going after someone who's attached. you kept advocating for it in the other thread that i started.Originally posted by Canavaro:It's easy to differentiate a mature man and a selfish-childish-jerk.
If you know that's not right, you should avoid it. How much happiness for the friendship you bought to her if you are the cause of their argument?
Well, jerks might said "I did nothing wrong what", "I didn't do anything what", "We are just purely friendship, what can he do to me?” You can say all those things, but sometime we should look at things from different perspectives, don't always look at things from your point of view. How about put yourself on that guy’s shoes? If you girlfriend being very close to another guy, what is your reaction? And that guy knows that he is the cause of the problems, but he just doesn’t bother, and continue to do so, what is his motive?
Some people are just very selfish, they think they did nothing wrong, in fact, they did nothing wrong, but the problems that causes by them, they can actually avoid it.
I don’t see this kind of friend is a sincere friend, when they know that they are the cause of arguments, but they still up their head high and tell you “hey, you see, I did nothing wrong what.” Well, can you be a more considerate friend?
Hey _Aaron_, I can said that you are a wise guy. -
You must be confused. I never agreed with this.
I just said, for those who think is "OK", why don't they just pass me their girlfriend or wife’s number and let me try to approach their partner and see whether they still say “OK” with it.
Or, for those who think, “if your relationship is strong, nobody can break it” kind of craps, I am challenging them whether they would allow me to give them a tiny test.
Well, obviously, they are just talking C.O.C.K.