should you wait for someone you love?
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looking at etitus's posts made me wonder if one should wait for so long for someone they love? i have a few reasons why one should not wait:
1) you may just be getting used to waiting for the person and forget if you even love the person still
2) the person may not return your love ever, so for how long are you going to wait? indefinitely?
3) surely you deserve someone who appreciates you and does not make you wait
4) if the person accepts you one day, it is more likely than not that he/she is moved by you but does not really love you.
hence my advice to people here is, do not wait too long for that person. check if they have the same feeling, if not, move on! life is too short with pining and no action. -
depends how you define LOVE...
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On hindsight, probably yes, we should not wait.
But in life, lotsa things are unpredictable.
It could have a happy ending too.
Even if the person is physically with you, you would not know what he/she is thinking. The next moment, Bam! your world came crushing down. -
Hmm, my previous response highlighted that it's not that the personOriginally posted by foxwalk:looking at etitus's posts made me wonder if one should wait for so long for someone they love?
hence my advice to people here is, do not wait too long for that person. check if they have the same feeling, if not, move on! life is too short with pining and no action.
really wants to wait but needs time to heal the pain and also for the right
time to meet THE ONE. As long as there is no right one, just wait loh.
Otherwise, even if you just jump into another relationship very quickly, it will
not last because your heart is still not mended... -
"sometimes we look too long at the closing door that we never notice the open door"
paraphrased. forgot the exact phrase. -
Originally posted by foxwalk:
I don't quite agree with your 4th point but your points are generally NICE... ESPECIALLY the 1st....
looking at etitus's posts made me wonder if one should wait for so long for someone they love? i have a few reasons why one should[b] not wait:
1) you may just be getting used to waiting for the person and forget if you even love the person still
2) the person may not return your love ever, so for how long are you going to wait? indefinitely?
3) surely you deserve someone who appreciates you and does not make you wait
4) if the person accepts you one day, it is more likely than not that he/she is moved by you but does not really love you.
hence my advice to people here is, do not wait too long for that person. check if they have the same feeling, if not, move on! life is too short with pining and no action.[/b]
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Originally posted by foxwalk:
i'll drink to that.
looking at etitus's posts made me wonder if one should wait for so long for someone they love? i have a few reasons why one should[b] not wait:
1) you may just be getting used to waiting for the person and forget if you even love the person still
2) the person may not return your love ever, so for how long are you going to wait? indefinitely?
3) surely you deserve someone who appreciates you and does not make you wait
4) if the person accepts you one day, it is more likely than not that he/she is moved by you but does not really love you.
hence my advice to people here is, do not wait too long for that person. check if they have the same feeling, if not, move on! life is too short with pining and no action.[/b]
cheers, and have a meryy xmas. -
Mai tan leow lah.
Scotty....beam me out of this place....
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Dun agree with your reasons but personally I feel that it is very tiring to wait for somebody..in most cases, that person is very sure that you are not the one for him/her.
And also, sometimes we wait for the wrong person and miss the right one...ask yourself whether he/she is worth waiting for... -
"Dun agree with your reasons but personally I feel that it is very tiring to wait for somebody..in most cases, that person is very sure that you are not the one for him/her.
And also, sometimes we wait for the wrong person and miss the right one...ask yourself whether he/she is worth waiting for "
I agreed with Lilo_gal.
e.g
what if he/she is waiting for 2-3 he/she ?
how would you know if that he/she is suitable even though u wait.. the "love waiting "you feel now may or may completely be different when both are together after the waiting period...
most of the time, "waiting" is referring to faithful or.. however, does it really mean in this way that he /she is the right one.
In the end, all is none. -
From experience, just move on. Let go and live ur own life.
If the person really returns, then take a sec to decide is it that really he likes you or u r jus a spare.
Remember you have a choice to stay or move on. -
Originally posted by foxwalk:
i think time is too precious to wait for anything. humans should be versatile and compromise a little. there's no reason to believe she/he is The one, just because she/he is the 1st. there are others out there, many of whom could be better. just that we don't consider them because we focus too much on current target. don't get stuck, move on, give others a chance. and give ourselves a chance
looking at etitus's posts made me wonder if one should wait for so long for someone they love? i have a few reasons why one should[b] not wait:
1) you may just be getting used to waiting for the person and forget if you even love the person still
2) the person may not return your love ever, so for how long are you going to wait? indefinitely?
3) surely you deserve someone who appreciates you and does not make you wait
4) if the person accepts you one day, it is more likely than not that he/she is moved by you but does not really love you.
hence my advice to people here is, do not wait too long for that person. check if they have the same feeling, if not, move on! life is too short with pining and no action.[/b]
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it's easy to say.. but hard to excute it.
for me... i noe prehap she isnt the one for me. but i donno why am i'm still waiting for her.. majority of my frds call me silly... but i still donno why am i'm waiting for her. even thou all of them can see tat she isnt appreciating me.
prehaps one day.. i can move on too. -
love is blind. like what the above forumite said, we tend to focus on one traget and get stuck, blinding ourselves and dun look ard for better ones.Originally posted by edLow:it's easy to say.. but hard to excute it.
for me... i noe prehap she isnt the one for me. but i donno why am i'm still waiting for her.. majority of my frds call me silly... but i still donno why am i'm waiting for her. even thou all of them can see tat she isnt appreciating me.
prehaps one day.. i can move on too.
anyway, all the best to you, edLow.
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I waited for more than 1 year...and all those while, I had to pretend to be his best fren, be there for him when he needs me, help him pursue other gals, etc.
I had thought he was the one for me. Cos we can talk about anything and everything under the sun, like the same songs, and even laugh at the same joke. More than once people thought we were a couple, but I always denied it because I know he likes other girls...he never looks at me as anyone more than a fren.
and that is a very torturous feeling. when you love someone enough to put his happiness before your own, and when you feel like he is just taking you for granted, I believe this feeling can only be felt truly by someone who has experienced it before.
In the end, I just gave up waiting. Not because I don't love him anymore, in fact, I think he will always have a place in my heart. Now I think I am in love with another guy who has treated me like a princess, but the scar from that experience will always remain there. We continue to be close fren, but I think these few days when we spend some time together again, there was once I felt so much pain that I cried a bit. He never saw my tears of course...
There is always a price to pay for waiting. And for me, it is a big one, because now I can never really love anyone the same deep way again. I am too afraid to.
i.c.y -
Wait till a better person comes into ur life?
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agree....easy to say but hard to do.Originally posted by edLow:it's easy to say.. but hard to excute it.
for me... i noe prehap she isnt the one for me. but i donno why am i'm still waiting for her.. majority of my frds call me silly... but i still donno why am i'm waiting for her. even thou all of them can see tat she isnt appreciating me.
prehaps one day.. i can move on too.
it hurts to think she let go and also hurts to try to forget.... u dun want to wait but u keeping of that one day she'll come back to hold on.....
i still say move on...try yr darnest... some habits r hard to break... but we have to try.... -
tks.. n guess ya rite. but even if there are better ones ard u.. u might be so used to wait.. tat u cant even appreciate the other party. Now this cause another party to wait. LOL.Originally posted by LilO gIrL:love is blind. like what the above forumite said, we tend to focus on one traget and get stuck, blinding ourselves and dun look ard for better ones.
anyway, all the best to you, edLow. -
but i guess it worse if he end up with ur best frds and u still cant forget him.Originally posted by icyprincess:I waited for more than 1 year...and all those while, I had to pretend to be his best fren, be there for him when he needs me, help him pursue other gals, etc.
I had thought he was the one for me. Cos we can talk about anything and everything under the sun, like the same songs, and even laugh at the same joke. More than once people thought we were a couple, but I always denied it because I know he likes other girls...he never looks at me as anyone more than a fren.
and that is a very torturous feeling. when you love someone enough to put his happiness before your own, and when you feel like he is just taking you for granted, I believe this feeling can only be felt truly by someone who has experienced it before.
In the end, I just gave up waiting. Not because I don't love him anymore, in fact, I think he will always have a place in my heart. Now I think I am in love with another guy who has treated me like a princess, but the scar from that experience will always remain there. We continue to be close fren, but I think these few days when we spend some time together again, there was once I felt so much pain that I cried a bit. He never saw my tears of course...
There is always a price to pay for waiting. And for me, it is a big one, because now I can never really love anyone the same deep way again. I am too afraid to.
i.c.y
or prehaps.. u try to forget him by loving someone else. but when u realise tat someone is beginning to love u more than u love that person. u start to feel afraid, bad and prehaps guilty? -
but watif tat person do come into ur life. but u nvr notice or appreciate him/her?Originally posted by AngGuKuay:Wait till a better person comes into ur life? -
that's the peril of waiting.. hurt yourself and hurt others.. deny yourself of happiness and deny others of happiness.Originally posted by edLow:but watif tat person do come into ur life. but u nvr notice or appreciate him/her? -
Meow_Meow's post say it all~
Really depends on how u define love~
To me, I dun blif there's such thing as THE ONE~
Love is but a choice and all bout the rite timing~
Nobody is indispensable~
Tt's y we won't die even if the one we love so much leaves us after being together for no matter how long~
So~ again, to me, nobody is worth waiting as long as the wait starts to bring sorrows, doubts and regrets, etc.
Btw, I waited 2 yrs for my 1st GF but tt was like more than 10yrs back
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Actaully this kinda things is sad to say see heng sway 1 lah...Originally posted by edLow:but watif tat person do come into ur life. but u nvr notice or appreciate him/her?
Alot of things is Yin Cha Yang Chuo 1... -
Well...
come to think of that... we usually spend about 30% or more of our life time waiting...
every little small things we are waiting..
example.. waiting for dinner? services? buses? etc...
but its just more significant when we are in love waiting for him/her.
we cant really ask a person or even ourselves to wait or not to wait.. cos... its a feeling we all know we want the person badly..
just that sometimes.. we are waiting for the right time rather than the person him/herself.. right time to express ourselves..
i have been waiting for this gal for 2 yrs... we have got together really really close.. but in the end.. u know the sad ending...
i have moved on now.. but again.. waiting for another...
somehow.. the previous one.. i know.. is someone whom i really really love so much.. never ever care n love someone so much.. must admit even more than my ex gf...
thus... simple enough... if you think its worth waiting.. go for it...
follow ur heart but keep ur mind clear...
waiting is never in vain.. everytime is a different experiences.. a learning experiences.. cos u r facing diff people... -
woh... tt's poignantly written.Originally posted by ThoMasSacrE:Well...
come to think of that... we usually spend about 30% or more of our life time waiting...
every little small things we are waiting..
example.. waiting for dinner? services? buses? etc...
but its just more significant when we are in love waiting for him/her.
we cant really ask a person or even ourselves to wait or not to wait.. cos... its a feeling we all know we want the person badly..
just that sometimes.. we are waiting for the right time rather than the person him/herself.. right time to express ourselves..
i have been waiting for this gal for 2 yrs... we have got together really really close.. but in the end.. u know the sad ending...
i have moved on now.. but again.. waiting for another...
somehow.. the previous one.. i know.. is someone whom i really really love so much.. never ever care n love someone so much.. must admit even more than my ex gf...
thus... simple enough... if you think its worth waiting.. go for it...
follow ur heart but keep ur mind clear...
waiting is never in vain.. everytime is a different experiences.. a learning experiences.. cos u r facing diff people...
have ya been reading a lot of love poems n stories lately?