Got flamed
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what would u do if u have a misunderstanding which is unable to be cleared off with someone online, as she is unwilling to reply u though u wanted to solve things out with her? and she goes round telling ppl things abt u, true and untrue, and yet she claimed that u badmouthed and backstabbed many many ppl, which is totally untrue. den more and more ppl believe in her, and at the same time, more and more ppl hates her too. den things get more and more complicated. and kpo ppl who knows nothing starts to take sides too, and it's mei wan mei liao!
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Simple, abandon your current nick, register a new nick. Then wait 49 days later, no one will even remember what the hell happened.
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but there are some frens that i reali know personally that she knows too, and she jus can't let go of the mattter and keep talking bad abt me. and she spread the matter to reali tonnes of ppl, that i got scolded by ppl in forums and on blogs. and she claimed that she wants peace and will let go of the matter if i take initative to appologise or talk to her, but the fact is tat she refused to talk to me or reply my mail!
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Since you have already taken the first and only step, which is to email her, and she doesn't reply...
There's only 1 other thing you can do.
Ignore her.
Lets look at it from a practical point of view. What Can you do? You keep protesting your innocence, but there's no point, since its already out of hand.
She doesn't reply you, although you spend so much time emailling her.
Just forget it and ignore her.(Oops, that's 2 things.)
Get on with your life, there are much more better things your time could be spent on, then worrying on something that you can do Nothing about.
From another point of view...
Maybe you can seek her out in real life and have a talk. But things could get ugly, so you best get a few friends with you,(provided you 2 eventually meet.) But then again, she may choose to do nothing also.
So why bother? Ignore and forget is the best~ -
ya i think i shd jus forget abt this whole thing. but the thing is, she's ALWAYS there haunting me like a ghost. and so many of my frens know abt this thing and it's irritating to the core.
meet her up? she's crazy lah. she doesnt even reply my mails, and u think she will meet me up?
i wish i've nv know her! -
Yeap. Just take a deep breathe and relax.Originally posted by sickening:ya i think i shd jus forget abt this whole thing. but the thing is, she's ALWAYS there haunting me like a ghost. and so many of my frens know abt this thing and it's irritating to the core.
meet her up? she's crazy lah. she doesnt even reply my mails, and u think she will meet me up?
i wish i've nv know her!
And if it makes you feel any better, scroll and read the other life stories in Aunt Agony, you'll feel much more blessed.
Take care! -
thanks _Aaron_,
but it's kinda sad that i made so many enemies within such a short period of time, and it isn't something that i can control or something that i deserve, i'm sure.
its jus so funny. some ppl insist they are rite, and den flame u and get 'support' from all the ppl that she knows, to make them hate u. den claim that u are a backstabber and badmouther. and they even criticise my religion. that's damn childish.
watever, my conscience is clear. -
You are just a victim of circumstances.Originally posted by sickening:thanks _Aaron_,
but it's kinda sad that i made so many enemies within such a short period of time, and it isn't something that i can control or something that i deserve, i'm sure.
its jus so funny. some ppl insist they are rite, and den flame u and get 'support' from all the ppl that she knows, to make them hate u. den claim that u are a backstabber and badmouther. and they even criticise my religion. that's damn childish.
watever, my conscience is clear.
Things happen to people all the time, be it good or bad.
It seems like a bad one has chosen you, but if you shrug it away, and walk out of it wiser, it may actually be a good one in disguise eh?
Just learn that the world is kinda messy. You may be exposed to these kind of backstabbing when you start working in the outside world, but perhaps the next time, you'll be more prepared... At least emotionally.
But i pray and hope that you won't. Continue to live with that clear conscience, and live life without any regrets.
Hope you get over it soon!
Aaron -
haha u pay the price for being sickening
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Such things happen...Originally posted by sickening:but there are some frens that i reali know personally that she knows too, and she jus can't let go of the mattter and keep talking bad abt me. and she spread the matter to reali tonnes of ppl, that i got scolded by ppl in forums and on blogs. and she claimed that she wants peace and will let go of the matter if i take initative to appologise or talk to her, but the fact is tat she refused to talk to me or reply my mail! -
New year is coming. I hope to 'settle' this matter before the brand new year starts, because i truly deeply dunwan to have any enemies. But the fact is that, no one seems to believe me for that (i mean those flamers) for that. I think i got a terrible reputation there. Sometimes the more u want to explain, the more the matter gets complicated.
well, i will leave it as it is and forget about it. i decided to leave the forum (not this of cos) and delete all my webbies and links that could lead them to me. just wan them to get lost from my life! -
Ignoring them is the best solution. No point defending for urself, things will get more complicated if u insist tat u r not in the wrong.
Pple already got the wrong idea, so let them be, u wun lose a fur, rite? If ur conscience is clear, u dun ve to bother abt wat they say...........time will dissolve everything.
People who have higher EQ have higher tolerance. -
e.g those who surf sgforums during official working hours and claim it is part of the JOB?Originally posted by sickening:what would u do if u have a misunderstanding which is unable to be cleared off with someone online, as she is unwilling to reply u though u wanted to solve things out with her? and she goes round telling ppl things abt u, true and untrue, and yet she claimed that u badmouthed and backstabbed many many ppl, which is totally untrue. den more and more ppl believe in her, and at the same time, more and more ppl hates her too. den things get more and more complicated. and kpo ppl who knows nothing starts to take sides too, and it's mei wan mei liao! -
Oi Croco... got problem..?Originally posted by sgboy2004:e.g those who surf sgforums during official working hours and claim it is part of the JOB? 
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normal lah., someone here who surf sgforums during official working hours and claim it is part of the JOB is doing tat now to crocoOriginally posted by sickening:what would u do if u have a misunderstanding which is unable to be cleared off with someone online, as she is unwilling to reply u though u wanted to solve things out with her? and she goes round telling ppl things abt u, true and untrue, and yet she claimed that u badmouthed and backstabbed many many ppl, which is totally untrue. den more and more ppl believe in her, and at the same time, more and more ppl hates her too. den things get more and more complicated. and kpo ppl who knows nothing starts to take sides too, and it's mei wan mei liao!