"last min" gf
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Always unable to fix timing to go out with her. She likes to say "will call you if i am free". Always last min then make decision...haizz...
I guessed she places her friends above me.
This is pissing me off man...any advice??
Or is she not suitable for me? -
hahaha get use to it lah... dun say gf lah. all my fren all treat mi like that one.. always last one.. no one like mi on earth lah..
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I advise u to better set the ground rules rite. If she cannot follow, break up with her. Show her n dare to break up with her if she's like this. If not she'll wrap u around her finger. Remember that u are in control.
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Originally posted by MetalGear:
yeah true. dump her if she don't want to change her attitude. shows how insignicant you're in her life.
I advise u to better set the ground rules rite. If she cannot follow, break up with her. Show her n dare to break up with her if she's like this. If not she'll wrap u around her finger. Remember that u are in control. -
i agree,dump her man...or ignore her also and she will know ur importance...hehe...play hard to get bro....
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Yea, her priorities lies with her friends, not you.Originally posted by thoreldan:Always unable to fix timing to go out with her. She likes to say "will call you if i am free". Always last min then make decision...haizz...
I guessed she places her friends above me.
This is pissing me off man...any advice??
Or is she not suitable for me?
She either doesn't hold you in high regard, or her friends really got trouble.
Though i doubt its the latter...
You need to see how you can improve yourself, as she doesn't seem to be interested in the relationship at all.
Either that or find someone who really treasures you. -
How old is your gf? This got nothing to do with age actually but it seems that this is rather common with younger girls than older girls.Originally posted by thoreldan:Always unable to fix timing to go out with her. She likes to say "will call you if i am free". Always last min then make decision...haizz...
I guessed she places her friends above me.
This is pissing me off man...any advice??
Or is she not suitable for me?
Anyhow, it's rather common for anyone to answer "will let you know later." "will confirm with you later." etc. especially when the followings applies
1. He or her does not have the ability to draft out a schedule
2. If a schedule is work out, but the mind is not installed with "stick to schedule." program.
3. He/ She doesn't place you as someone he/she will be dying to see more often. You get frustrated because you want to meet up more often and his/her way of scheduling is affecting yours badly.
4. His/ her profession requires her to commit her 24 hours to her client.
Regardless, take my advice and relax a little. This is what you should try doing...
1. Do not initial dating that has activities that is 'yours' interest oriented.
2. Help her out to run some of her errands.
3. Reduce the frequency to meet up and let her initial some times. The logic is this... you will not be missed if you are always there, but will always be there if she wants/needs you to.
4. Always remember that relationship is not about getting even with one another if they don't like each other's behaviour but rather learning to adapt to each other's bad habits and slowly find ways to accept it.
Afterall, if you only fall in love due to her looks, her character will not really matter. However, if you fall in love with her for what she is.. you are actually falling in love with her good and bad habits. Try not to manipulate her to change her bad habit for you as you won't like it if she does the same. Rather, be patience and let her and yourself to adapt each other's lifestyle.
Good luck.
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she wants to dump you and is trying to piss you off.
you're actually number 2 boyfriend...so if BF #1 cancels, she'll meet you -
Thats the main reason i broke up with my last ex. The last straw was when she couldnt meet me the day before i was going oversea. She had clubbed the entire nite before & felt too "shacked" to meet me.
I place "Having time to meet me" as the 1st priority in all my future relationships..
Actually i was thinking.. if having 1 f** up gf who is always too busy for me, wouln't having a few more gf be the perfect solutions
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Some girls are like that.Originally posted by thoreldan:Always unable to fix timing to go out with her. She likes to say "will call you if i am free". Always last min then make decision...haizz...
I guessed she places her friends above me.
This is pissing me off man...any advice??
Or is she not suitable for me?
Suitable or not, only you know? -
actually i also thought of initialising a breakup if she cannot commit the time i need ...
just like this new year eve, asked her out. But she ended up watching movie with friends...haizz -
i can understand...my gf also like that...i asked her out long beforehand but she will tell me a day before that she going out with her friends...you cannot stand it that she rather go out with her friends rather than you right?me also...and i don't get to meet her all the time so i thought she should spend her time with me when possible
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when u give your word, you should keep it, whether it's friends or bf/gf.Originally posted by spacesurf:i can understand...my gf also like that...i asked her out long beforehand but she will tell me a day before that she going out with her friends...you cannot stand it that she rather go out with her friends rather than you right?me also...and i don't get to meet her all the time so i thought she should spend her time with me when possible -
oh come on, stop trying to figure what she's thinking.
if you are really pissed by her "call u when i'm free" scenario, tell her how you feel when she says that kind of stuff.
if she loves you, she will change. but importantly, tell her that you don't feel appreciated when she says "call u when i'm free".
Things can only be solved when both parties speak up and figure out a solution.
Gd Luck. -
to save time, just SMS her that she's been dumped.Originally posted by thoreldan:actually i also thought of initialising a breakup if she cannot commit the time i need ...
just like this new year eve, asked her out. But she ended up watching movie with friends...haizz -
tell her " Tiu lei lo mo... lim bei see bei buay song..knn @#$%^&**(!!!!! )
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Looks like she isn't very keen on u.
She should inform u earlier if she has other appts.
Even if she is meeting friends, she can incl. u
Make yr stand clear. Tell her she shouldn't treat u this way. -
Yeah I think what some members said is quite true: that she doesn't place you as priority. She doesn't seem to want to meet you, the 'heart' is not there, know what i mean?
So tell her what you feel. and stick to it. -
If we keep hounding you to meet up with us, you say we're needy.
If we put our friends before you, you say we're all B|tches and don't treasure you. OMG.. what do you guys want? -
Put friend wif bf together.Originally posted by Lingos:If we keep hounding you to meet up with us, you say we're needy.
If we put our friends before you, you say we're all B|tches and don't treasure you. OMG.. what do you guys want?
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90% of the friends are male. How to put them togetherOriginally posted by IceTea:Put friend wif bf together. 
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Yes, you're right. She's not suitable.Originally posted by thoreldan:Always unable to fix timing to go out with her. She likes to say "will call you if i am free". Always last min then make decision...haizz...
I guessed she places her friends above me.
This is pissing me off man...any advice??
Or is she not suitable for me?
She's not suitable for a wuss like you. hahaha......
Hey, take it easy dude... why don't you take control instead of letting her wrap you round her arse? -
sigh...i know tt feeling...sux a lot..my gf also liddat...4gt it..jus dump her....reli pointless...don follow after me..the ending sux..don wanna say more...haf ur share of fun and jus go..tis type of gf..is jus 4 fun....nt a soulmate or lifetime partner or anything...