Need Advise, i really regret it.
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Haizzz, really regretted this.
Ok, my story goes...
was partying one day, with the ger that i have been going after for sometime already. Things finally seems to be going my way, cos we had our first kiss there, after months of courtship.
And i screwed up that day. cos i kissed her good friend too while dancing.
haiz.. she's totally upset and her friend came to told her about it and not me who confess..
how to calm her down? she also say we not official together yet and it is not wrong to flirt.. just that i'm doing it with her good friend and say i never show respect for her and watever i say is not going to work, cos i betray her trust.
how? sadness..
any ger will willing to forgive such things?
cos i always say thing will be very different if we are together..
"someone refusing to commit totally cos the other person not willing to give".. this is something we both have in common.. one has to give first.. haizzz..
now what can i do to calm her down and start afresh?
nearly win her heart after so long.. now its ruined..
think she like me also, just that she not really to commit, heart not ready..
how how how?
can advise?
at lost.. just wanna hear some advise, think it through..
really regret it.. -
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Shouldnt be a big issue here.She should be more understanding towards you..
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The best option, come clean with her on the truth, how you felt.
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"...drop to your knees and ask to be purified..."
~line from the purifer in
Seems like you put yourself in a fix. Never assume that just because it's not 'official', you can flirt around with others. If you do, that habit continues with you even after official attachment, which of course is never healthy.
Just express your feelings to her, make it a nite to remember, and explain your actions. After which, you make your relationship official.
At any time if she rejects you, dun pursue immediately. Give her some space and time to sort out her thoughts.
After all, she deserves that... -
thank you..
am giving her time now.. but still feels uneasy... feel like calling or sms her, see how she doing, but... donno what to say or msg..
things like different already..
hated changes.Originally posted by BillyBong:"...drop toy your knees and ask to be purified..."
~line from the purifer in
Seems like you put yourself in a fix. Never assume that just because it's not 'official', you can flirt around with others. If you do, that habit continues with you even after official attachment, which of course is never healthy.
Just express your feelings to her, make it a nite to remember, and explain your actions. After which, you make your relationship official.
At any time if she rejects you, dun pursue immediately. Give her some space and time to sort out her thoughts.
After all, she deserves that... -
Ah... u really fouled things up big time man. Guess u can only pray she likes u enuff to be able to gif u another chance & forgive u. (BUT never will she forget). Yep.. give her some time, dun bug her for the moment but don't let her drift too far away. Tell her how sorry & regretful u r over wat u've done. Dun msg.. try email? Good Luck!Originally posted by ahris:thank you..
am giving her time now.. but still feels uneasy... feel like calling or sms her, see how she doing, but... donno what to say or msg..
things like different already..
hated changes.
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Man, you kissed her best friend! If I were her, its out you go, excuses or not.
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Why you kiss her good friend in the first place
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yup x2Originally posted by ditzy:Man, you kissed her best friend! If I were her, its out you go, excuses or not. 
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cos i'm partying, and pretty drunk.
and.. i didn't force her.
it takes two hands to clap.. -
only one word came to my mind: bast*rd!
i've seen many guys like you. you're so out. forget about it.
drunk is not an excuse. don't push the blame to her friend by saying "it takes two hands to clap".
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if you were really drunk (ie if you downed half a bottle of straight vodka in a minute), i can sympathize and understand because after all, we're only human.
if not, HAHAHAHA. DICK. -
Partying, drunk, unconsentual kissing, then trying to push the blame, are all mutually exclusive. You would spend less time making up excuses if you spent a little more time thinking at the start.Originally posted by ahris:cos i'm partying, and pretty drunk.
and.. i didn't force her.
it takes two hands to clap.. -
sorry i had to post again.
HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA. -
i believe you're made a mistake, but u dun have to grovel like a dog (if u are).
please, be a man, admit ur mistake, but dun be a pussy. if ur heart is genuine, and she can't/won't see it, then off you go, NEXT. at most, just admit u fUcked up, and some things cannot be reversed. like someone said above, she could forgive, but she won't forget. not that i agree with that statement, nor accept it, but it's coming from a woman, so it's probably pretty accurate.
of course, one could always question your genuine heart (like i mentioned above) when u actually kissed someone else. let them question, the only person that needs to know the ans is HER.
bottom line, admit ur mistake, see whether it can be rectified, if not, the club's always open next week. i just don't like men to grovel, just as i dun like women to do so either. i think we should all have a little self-respect. -
dude, you made a mistake, and a dumb one.
its just a bit weird that you need advice from random idiots on the internet...dont you have enough common sense? -
x2!Originally posted by ditzy:Man, you kissed her best friend! If I were her, its out you go, excuses or not.
I believe when one is drunk, he is also 30% sober.
So no excuse lor.
Who ask you to go and kiss her best fren? If it's just any girl, maybe can tolerate, but best fren is a big no no.
What's done can never be undone, regret also no use.
Dare to do, dare to admit and ask for forgiveness.
If she dun forgive you, blame it on yourself for not being able to self-control. -
hmm...it is not official because you haven't made it official or because she refused to make it official? and how close are both of you? Prolly should just sit down and talk things over...
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i think it's a bit too late. When you were dancing with the friend, were you THINKING of kissing her? Why let yourself get into the situation if you know you're drunk? Shouldn't you be accompanying the girl that you like?
I can tell you that 99.98% of girls won't be able to tahan. Though i have met the other 0.02% before also. They chose the guy and dumped the friend. Are they happier now? I wouldn't know. Your err is that her friend was the one who told her first, so it's like she admitted her mistake.
What about you? Do you dare to admit yours?
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Aiyoo Ahris, how could u kiss her friend? You are really an idiot.
OK, now I teach u how to fix the mess....
Say to her....heart to heart....that u were drunk and couldnt think straight. U have to play up this drunkeness thing very well and make her believe u. Other people, please dont think this is lame. In courts, if u commit a crime under the influence of alcohol, or u have mental illness, ur punishment is lighter. Why? Coz people really behave differently under alcohol and under mental illness. People in otherwise normal circumstances wouldnt do those things. So remember ahris, use this alcohol thing as good as u can.
Next, tell her how much u regret it, and u seek her forgiveness. Three items must be there: regret, apologies, and seek forgiveness.
Next, apologize to her friend, with the same things: 3 items and alcohol excuse.
Next, tell her that u feel bad towards her friend too and had apologized to her friend. Tell her u hope the 2 of them will remain as friends.
Next, tell her how much u love her, want to be together with her, and this incident make u realize u love her alot, and u want to make her ur official gf.
Stop being a wishy-washy and make a decisive action to get her.
Hopefully, she will be touched by these sincere gestures of yours.
OK good luck....Dont say I neber teach u...... -
My parting words for you dear boy:
Talk is cheep, actions speak way louder. -
U really committed the most stupid mistake.
Most girls will never forget if u fool around with their best fren.
Moreover her best fren will influence her to believe u are a flirt & cannot be trusted.
It will be very difficult for u to undo yr mistake unless she likes u very much. -
Hmm... How old are you...?Originally posted by ahris:Haizzz, really regretted this.
Ok, my story goes...
was partying one day, with the ger that i have been going after for sometime already. Things finally seems to be going my way, cos we had our first kiss there, after months of courtship.
And i screwed up that day. cos i kissed her good friend too while dancing.
haiz.. she's totally upset and her friend came to told her about it and not me who confess..
how to calm her down? she also say we not official together yet and it is not wrong to flirt.. just that i'm doing it with her good friend and say i never show respect for her and watever i say is not going to work, cos i betray her trust.
how? sadness..
any ger will willing to forgive such things?
cos i always say thing will be very different if we are together..
"someone refusing to commit totally cos the other person not willing to give".. this is something we both have in common.. one has to give first.. haizzz..
now what can i do to calm her down and start afresh?
nearly win her heart after so long.. now its ruined..
think she like me also, just that she not really to commit, heart not ready..
how how how?
can advise?
at lost.. just wanna hear some advise, think it through..
really regret it.. -
Well.. you said you are drunk that's why things happen this way.. if you ever explain this to her.. i bet she won't take in.. Like many says.. be drunk is not an excuse to run away from what you have done..Originally posted by ahris:Haizzz, really regretted this.
Ok, my story goes...
was partying one day, with the ger that i have been going after for sometime already. Things finally seems to be going my way, cos we had our first kiss there, after months of courtship.
And i screwed up that day. cos i kissed her good friend too while dancing.
haiz.. she's totally upset and her friend came to told her about it and not me who confess..
how to calm her down? she also say we not official together yet and it is not wrong to flirt.. just that i'm doing it with her good friend and say i never show respect for her and watever i say is not going to work, cos i betray her trust.
how? sadness..
any ger will willing to forgive such things?
cos i always say thing will be very different if we are together..
"someone refusing to commit totally cos the other person not willing to give".. this is something we both have in common.. one has to give first.. haizzz..
now what can i do to calm her down and start afresh?
nearly win her heart after so long.. now its ruined..
think she like me also, just that she not really to commit, heart not ready..
how how how?
can advise?
at lost.. just wanna hear some advise, think it through..
really regret it..
You are close yet so far.. You ruined your very one chance... If you are really true to her.. will you even flirt with her friend?? Yes.. partying is partying.. but there's a extend to it.. If you are only there to party with friends without her.. then you can go and flirt all you want! Noone cares.. But she's there.. She cares..
Right now.. is to let her cool down first.. You have to admit what you have done.. She lost trust in you already.. There's a probability that you have to start from scratch if you still wanna court her! There's no need to put blame on yourself.. Don't do things that will make you regret for life.. Think before you do.. Sometimes there's only one chance for you.. and if you let it slipped away.. You lose it..
CHeers..