Cant forget her intense Nostalgia
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Fell in love with a gal 3 years ago...I was 20 then....This story had happened to me.....It forever changed my outlook in life.First the first time after 2001 i used to feel bleak and depressed for a reason...Could not understand why it was good or bad but could not let go of it either cos it seems like apart and parcel of my life..It just keeps me "alive" till now.I pondered if i didnt went out of my house that fateful day. things might have been different though...how different is a question..To this day i could not forget that nostalgia and still keeping everything associated wth her like a treasure- the movies, songs and incidents like the 911....everything...very intense nostalgia
Somehow i got to know her on that day itself..Everything went smoothly for a while then the world came
crashing down on me when i found out that
she was not that much interested in me even
just being frens for reason GOD knows..She just "left" without a word..Now this was the greatest mystery of my life as i dwelled deep down into the bowels of depravity in the human psyche..This "investigation" into her life has brought me to various places and people in the course of my journey..it was a depressing ride and a self agonizing cycle..But for the first time i am glad that i
undertook this journey for it has opened my 'instinctual" capabilities..it it became a neverending journey but its journey which matters most in the end..The spiritual truth of us humans lies in it..What was i looking for?..what did i hoped to get? The truth?...What is Truth?..its a deceiving thing though..In the end another question lingered n my mind..Is te truth i got really the Truth? or was it just a fabrication of my own mind? I spent half my time seeking the truth , the other half trying to validate it.....But cant let go of this quest either...it is the driving force in my life now...And it had expanded to other areas in my life....Glad it was beneificial
and In case the gal if she is reading this message board....
pls dear i hope sincerely she might be here because
she have made me fall in life for the first time to the
extent i almost cried..
But I thank God that he
send her to me if i didnt see her,
i wouldnt have known that such a great gal existed..
God is great and never does anything without reason..
Everything happens for a reason..
Maybe i would see her again,
but maybe not..
Watever it is i am trying hard to accept fate but seems like
fate is powerless in the face of my love..
But so long we are both in this world somewhere,someplace.
My heart will always be with her..
it will be lost with her and i am forever searching for it.
unless she hapen to return it back to me..
I may not be able to live without a heart nor her..
She could keep it but keep it beating
and truly iwill live in her memories for the rest of my life..
God shall have mercy on my soul in this lifetime..God shall bless me for this conviction
I will always pray for her
Anyone has similar thoughts or was in the same situation wish to comment.by all means do so... -
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It is indeed a sad experience. And I guess you may be feeling a little messed up in ur mind right now. Am I right?Originally posted by Chewbacca:Fell in love with a gal 3 years ago...I was 20 then....This story had happened to me.....It forever changed my outlook in life.First the first time after 2001 i used to feel bleak and depressed for a reason...Could not understand why it was good or bad but could not let go of it either cos it seems like apart and parcel of my life..It just keeps me "alive" till now.I pondered if i didnt went out of my house that fateful day. thingsm ight have been different though...how different is a question..To this day i could not forget that nostalgia and still keeping everything associated wth her like a treasure- the movies, songs and incidents like the 911....everything...very intense nostalgia
Somehow i got to know her on that day itself..Everything went smoothly for a while then the world came
crashing down on me when i found out that
she was not that much interested in me even
just being frens for reason GOD knows..She just "left" without a word..Now this was the greatest mystery of my life as i dwelled deep down into the bowels of depravity in the human psyche..This "investigation" into her life has brought me to various places and people in the course of my journey..it was a depressing ride and a self agonizing cycle..But for the first time i am glad that i
undertook this journey for it has opened my 'instinctual" capabilities..it it became a neverending journey but its journey which matters most in the end..The spiritual truth of us humans lies in it..What was i looking for?..what did i hoped to get? The truth?...What is Truth?..its a deceiving thing though..In the end another question lingered n my mind..Is te truth i got really the Truth? or was it just a fabrication of my own mind? I spent half my time seeking the truth , the other half trying to validate it.....But cant let go of this quest either...it is the driving force in my life now...And it had expanded to other areas in my life....Glad it was beneificial
and In case the gal if she is reading this message board....
pls dear i hope sincerely she might be here because
she have made me fall in life for the first time to the
extent i almost cried..
But I thank God that he
send her to me if i didnt see her,
i wouldnt have known that such a great gal existed..
God is great and never does anything without reason..
Everything happens for a reason..
Maybe i would see her again,
but maybe not..
Watever it is i am trying hard to accept fate but seems like
fate is powerless in the face of my love..
But so long we are both in this world somewhere,someplace.
My heart will always be with her..
it will be lost with her and i am forever searching for it.
unless she hapen to return it back to me..
I may not be able to live without a heart nor her..
She could keep it but keep it beating
and truly iwill live in her memories for the rest of my life..
God shall have mercy on my soul in this lifetime..God shall bless me for this conviction
I will always pray for her
Anyone has similar thoughts or was in the same situation wish to comment.by all means do so...
Well, it's human of us to feel like this whenever similar incidents such as this happened. It happened to me before so I can understand ur pain.
However, you need to let go now. It's been years. And you have a long way of lifetime to go. Are you going to live your next 50 or 60 plus years feeling like this? Or are you going to spend your remaining time wisely and do great things? Stop sitting around, brooding over the past and whining at your unfortunate situation when there're so much more things left to do.
I don't know how's ur relationship like with the gal. But I hope that u r not just being super nice because being super nice will turn a girl off, even so, she may only treat you as a good friend. If you are a super nice guy now, I suggest you change before another girl rejects you again.
Every relationship is a stepping stone to a greater love life. You may fail once, twice, or many times... but never quit, never rufuse to stand up again. Move on, advance. Learn from past mistakes and progress from there.
I wish u all the best for your future courtship!
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N. -
Y supernice will turn a girl off?... Me a guy in dat category i guessOriginally posted by keuriseudo:I don't know how's ur relationship like with the gal. But I hope that u r not just being super nice because being super nice will turn a girl off, even so, she may only treat you as a good friend. If you are a super nice guy now, I suggest you change before another girl rejects you again.
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N. .... I'll wil alwayz go da great length to b wif sum1 i like... wen she is sick, i take care.. i neva at a moment actually 4get bout her... wen she is sad or down, i always b by her.. wen she is angry over sumthin else, i wil b ther to chill her down... n bla bla bla (n trust me, its not easy)
N ever since b4, i've got da msg dat i shuldn't b so nice to a gal... even she said dat 2 me... n then, she moved away.... n came another her, n she too moved away... n so on till now.... all of them r my so called "very very good fren", or sum "deep frenship" n wateva is it to them...
so wut da hell im suppose to do?
S.H.I.N., juz tell a word or two, on how shuld i turn out 2 be?
dun care wen she is sick? dun listen wen she is sad/down? -
My guy is nice, & I'm still madly in love wif him...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ysonice:Y supernice will turn a girl off?... Me a guy in dat category i guess .... I'll wil alwayz go da great length to b wif sum1 i like... wen she is sick, i take care.. i neva at a moment actually 4get bout her... wen she is sad or down, i always b by her.. wen she is angry over sumthin else, i wil b ther to chill her down... n bla bla bla (n trust me, its not easy)
N ever since b4, i've got da msg dat i shuldn't b so nice to a gal... even she said dat 2 me... n then, she moved away.... n came another her, n she too moved away... n so on till now.... all of them r my so called "very very good fren", or sum "deep frenship" n wateva is it to them...
so wut da hell im suppose to do?
S.H.I.N., juz tell a word or two, on how shuld i turn out 2 be?
dun care wen she is sick? dun listen wen she is sad/down? -
When i speak about being nice.. it's not that I'm telling you to stop caring for the girl u love. I'm reminding u not to miss out one important factor that women need. It's the factor of - Attraction.Originally posted by ysonice:Y supernice will turn a girl off?... Me a guy in dat category i guess .... I'll wil alwayz go da great length to b wif sum1 i like... wen she is sick, i take care.. i neva at a moment actually 4get bout her... wen she is sad or down, i always b by her.. wen she is angry over sumthin else, i wil b ther to chill her down... n bla bla bla (n trust me, its not easy)
N ever since b4, i've got da msg dat i shuldn't b so nice to a gal... even she said dat 2 me... n then, she moved away.... n came another her, n she too moved away... n so on till now.... all of them r my so called "very very good fren", or sum "deep frenship" n wateva is it to them...
so wut da hell im suppose to do?
S.H.I.N., juz tell a word or two, on how shuld i turn out 2 be?
dun care wen she is sick? dun listen wen she is sad/down?
Women may tell you, "Oh, I love my guy.. he's nice." What does this means? It doesn't means that the guy is nice in a way u think of. Women feel attracted to a guy because there's chemistry. And chemistry is a feeling of attraction. It is either there or it isn't. The word "nice" doesn't means "doing everything for her" kind of meaning. It means building an atmosphere of attraction.
Here're some examples on how attraction works on women: -
AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)...
There are two basic stories for how men and women "start off" together, and two basic stories for how men and women "end up".
Through all of time, I'm sure that men and women have been playing out these stories... and I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it... and I do).
THE MEETING STORIES
Here's "Meeting Story #1":
Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him... so instead he tries to "pursue" girl by
offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no "sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend".
Here's "Meeting Story #2":
Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him, boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful
physical and emotional response for boy that she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl "get together".
As I'm sure you know...
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation, and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.
THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"
Let's assume that somehow boy and girl actually "get together". Things usually go one of two ways after that...
Here's "End Up Story #1":
Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he "REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share "how he feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy, and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy, and boy is left wondering what happened.
Here's "End Up Story #2":
Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around "sharing how he feels" and become boring. Boy keeps the relationship
interesting, and he keeps challenging girl. He stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as "The Man" in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.
And again, as I'm sure you know...
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation, and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.
If you look at your experience with women, I'm sure you'll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you've had.
Now, of course there are slight twists and variations, but the message is clear:
YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN...
AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET
A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.
If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It's very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic solution" by accident...
ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN -- VERY DIFFERENT
The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to.
But the key is:
1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.
2) Understanding YOURSELF so you don't ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring, and turn a good thing into a bad one... but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.
If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with
women.
Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.
OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men.
How different? What do I mean by that?
Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS... not an "event". It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.
For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an "event", meaning that it's either there or it isn't. It really doesn't matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman
really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)
So think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism" more like a volume knob than a light switch.
It's like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.
Here's a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you'll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION, she'll love you for it... and you'll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.
Here are a few specific tips for you for the "Meeting Phase":
1) Start with something STRONG, not with something
WEAK.
When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he's nervous and weak.
Don't do it.
Do something STRONG.
Challenge her.
If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her. If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better.
When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME IS ON.
If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.
2) Keep the TENSION UP.
One of my favorite concepts is "Never let the line go slack".
This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry" or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP.
Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she's interested doesn't mean that it's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.
Turn UP the volume a little. It's working, so do more!
3) Tease.
The word "tease" has a couple of meanings.
One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone.
The other meaning is subtly different, and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.
Do both.
If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her... and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.
If you want to know how she feels about you, say "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says "NO I DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES "love" you.
Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.
And here are a few tips for the "End Up" phase:
1) Never become BORING.
Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Don't do either.
Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.
Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable.
We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.
But when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd better figure out a way to STOP IT.
There's nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you're about to do or say.
2) Don't hand over control.
Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don't like guys who are always saying things like "I don't know, what do YOU want to do, baby?".
Women don't want men that they can control, so don't be one.
3) Respect yourself, and keep your own interests.
When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.
This is natural, of course.
But there's a big danger here, as well.
If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.
In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy... WITHOUT
HER.
And I think it's VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect.
As soon as you start acting like she's going to be around forever, she'll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.
Oh, and trust me brother, when you can make a woman feel attraction for you, there's nothing she can do about it. 'Cos, she DOESN'T even know how come..
Hope these will help u. Good luck!
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N. -
Good! Your guy sure knows the meaning of attraction.Originally posted by FeowFeow:My guy is nice, & I'm still madly in love wif him...
FeowFeow
All the best!
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In short - It means that, Guys shouldn't be logical at all when chasing after a girl.Originally posted by keuriseudo:When i speak about being nice.. it's not that I'm telling you to stop caring for the girl u love. I'm reminding u not to miss out one important factor that women need. It's the factor of - Attraction.
Women may tell you, "Oh, I love my guy.. he's nice." What does this means? It doesn't means that the guy is nice in a way u think of. Women feel attracted to a guy because there's chemistry. And chemistry is a feeling of attraction. It is either there or it isn't. The word "nice" doesn't means "doing everything for her" kind of meaning. It means building an atmosphere of attraction.
Here're some examples on how attraction works on women: -
AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)...
There are two basic stories for how men and women "start off" together, and two basic stories for how men and women "end up".
Through all of time, I'm sure that men and women have been playing out these stories... and I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it... and I do).
THE MEETING STORIES
Here's "Meeting Story #1":
Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him... so instead he tries to "pursue" girl by
offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no "sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend".
Here's "Meeting Story #2":
Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him, boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful
physical and emotional response for boy that she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl "get together".
As I'm sure you know...
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation, and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.
THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"
Let's assume that somehow boy and girl actually "get together". Things usually go one of two ways after that...
Here's "End Up Story #1":
Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he "REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share "how he feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy, and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy, and boy is left wondering what happened.
Here's "End Up Story #2":
Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around "sharing how he feels" and become boring. Boy keeps the relationship
interesting, and he keeps challenging girl. He stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as "The Man" in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.
And again, as I'm sure you know...
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation, and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.
If you look at your experience with women, I'm sure you'll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you've had.
Now, of course there are slight twists and variations, but the message is clear:
YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN...
AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET
A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.
If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It's very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic solution" by accident...
ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN -- VERY DIFFERENT
The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to.
But the key is:
1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.
2) Understanding YOURSELF so you don't ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring, and turn a good thing into a bad one... but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.
If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with
women.
Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.
OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men.
How different? What do I mean by that?
Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS... not an "event". It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.
For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an "event", meaning that it's either there or it isn't. It really doesn't matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman
really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)
So think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism" more like a volume knob than a light switch.
It's like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.
Here's a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you'll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION, she'll love you for it... and you'll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.
Here are a few specific tips for you for the "Meeting Phase":
1) Start with something STRONG, not with something
WEAK.
When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he's nervous and weak.
Don't do it.
Do something STRONG.
Challenge her.
If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her. If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better.
When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME IS ON.
If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.
2) Keep the TENSION UP.
One of my favorite concepts is "Never let the line go slack".
This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry" or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP.
Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she's interested doesn't mean that it's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.
Turn UP the volume a little. It's working, so do more!
3) Tease.
The word "tease" has a couple of meanings.
One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone.
The other meaning is subtly different, and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.
Do both.
If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her... and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.
If you want to know how she feels about you, say "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says "NO I DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES "love" you.
Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.
And here are a few tips for the "End Up" phase:
1) Never become BORING.
Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Don't do either.
Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.
Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable.
We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.
But when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd better figure out a way to STOP IT.
There's nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you're about to do or say.
2) Don't hand over control.
Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don't like guys who are always saying things like "I don't know, what do YOU want to do, baby?".
Women don't want men that they can control, so don't be one.
3) Respect yourself, and keep your own interests.
When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.
This is natural, of course.
But there's a big danger here, as well.
If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.
In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy... WITHOUT
HER.
And I think it's VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect.
As soon as you start acting like she's going to be around forever, she'll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.
Oh, and trust me brother, when you can make a woman feel attraction for you, there's nothing she can do about it. 'Cos, she DOESN'T even know how come..
Hope these will help u. Good luck!
yours sincerely,
S.H.I.N.
You'll find your self in a huge mess and may think that she caused it. -
Originally posted by Chewbacca:Fell in love with a gal 3 years ago...I was 20 then....This story had happened to me.....It forever changed my outlook in life.First the first time after 2001 i used to feel bleak and depressed for a reason...Could not understand why it was good or bad but could not let go of it either cos it seems like apart and parcel of my life..It just keeps me "alive" till now.I pondered if i didnt went out of my house that fateful day. thingsm ight have been different though...how different is a question..To this day i could not forget that nostalgia and still keeping everything associated wth her like a treasure- the movies, songs and incidents like the 911....everything...very intense nostalgia
Somehow i got to know her on that day itself..Everything went smoothly for a while then the world came
crashing down on me when i found out that
she was not that much interested in me even
just being frens for reason GOD knows..She just "left" without a word..Now this was the greatest mystery of my life as i dwelled deep down into the bowels of depravity in the human psyche..This "investigation" into her life has brought me to various places and people in the course of my journey..it was a depressing ride and a self agonizing cycle..But for the first time i am glad that i
undertook this journey for it has opened my 'instinctual" capabilities..it it became a neverending journey but its journey which matters most in the end..The spiritual truth of us humans lies in it..What was i looking for?..what did i hoped to get? The truth?...What is Truth?..its a deceiving thing though..In the end another question lingered n my mind..Is te truth i got really the Truth? or was it just a fabrication of my own mind? I spent half my time seeking the truth , the other half trying to validate it.....But cant let go of this quest either...it is the driving force in my life now...And it had expanded to other areas in my life....Glad it was beneificial
and In case the gal if she is reading this message board....
pls dear i hope sincerely she might be here because
she have made me fall in life for the first time to the
extent i almost cried..
But I thank God that he
send her to me if i didnt see her,
i wouldnt have known that such a great gal existed..
God is great and never does anything without reason..
Everything happens for a reason..
Maybe i would see her again,
but maybe not..
Watever it is i am trying hard to accept fate but seems like
fate is powerless in the face of my love..
But so long we are both in this world somewhere,someplace.
My heart will always be with her..
it will be lost with her and i am forever searching for it.
unless she hapen to return it back to me..
I may not be able to live without a heart nor her..
She could keep it but keep it beating
and truly iwill live in her memories for the rest of my life..
God shall have mercy on my soul in this lifetime..God shall bless me for this conviction
I will always pray for her
Anyone has similar thoughts or was in the same situation wish to comment.by all means do so...
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Find something else to occupy your mind, make new friends, catch up with your old friends. These might help in making it easier to not think of her. It helped when I was in the same situation. Though it's hard, but you can do it if you try.
Anyway, since it's already past, no point keep thinking about it. Keep it as a happy memory in your mind. Love doesn't mean you have to possess the person, as long as the person is happy and well, that's fine...right?
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Works both ways, he's madly in love wif me too : ) That's partly wat makes me confident : ) But it does take work after awhile, it's human to take thgs for granted sometimes.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by keuriseudo:Good! Your guy sure knows the meaning of attraction.
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thnaks for all yr comments... feel better
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Got problem forgetting her......should i seek counselling?Originally posted by loneconfuser:Find something else to occupy your mind, make new friends, catch up with your old friends. These might help in making it easier to not think of her. It helped when I was in the same situation. Though it's hard, but you can do it if you try.
Anyway, since it's already past, no point keep thinking about it. Keep it as a happy memory in your mind. Love doesn't mean you have to possess the person, as long as the person is happy and well, that's fine...right? -
Not quite.Originally posted by loneconfuser:.. Love doesn't mean you have to possess the person, as long as the person is happy and well, that's fine...right?
Having Love go all the way, the ultimate aim is 'possession'.
Anything short of that is because, somehow or rather, it cannot be realised. -
if you are willing to accept counselling, why not? Coz if you just don't want to forget her, counselling will not help eitherOriginally posted by Chewbacca:Got problem forgetting her......should i seek counselling? -
dun tink so much..and dun tink of her..as time goes by..u WUN forget..but e pain wun be so much..tings like tis cant be forgetten..it jus replaced by tings which matters more to u
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The memories keep coming back again and again...at times i feel so sad i just sleep through it....