Happiness
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I feel happy now.. I know that he likes me.. I kinda like him too.. But I'm afraid that things will be shortlived.. I known him only a short time.. I don't dare to or there's a fear to start.. He has agreed to take things slow.. To give me time to know him better.. But there's still a fear in my heart.. A scar/shadow left behind by past r/s.. I'm afraid to be too happy..
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huh? wat happened in the past?
u shud reali give it a try ba...1 step at a time...know him better...feel him with ur heart...make sure history don repeat itself lo...
he already gave u chance to know him ma...so jus take it lo...know him well...and clear...if ting don click...then 4get it ba...i don tink u wanna get hurt again...
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long time no see..!
u can take things slow, but dun forget that the fear that u might get hurt could well be the reason why the reln won't work. so i guess u can "fear prudently" in a way that i shouldn't affect ur reln.
i know people who refuse to hold hands or hug or kiss becos they dun feel the reln is at an appropriate "stage" yet, but deep inside they long for their partner's touch. i think such restraint is unhealthy.
of course, that's just an example. there are many things that pple restraint themselves from, when it's natural and harmless.
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You fall, but doesn't mean you should quit walking altogether...Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I feel happy now.. I know that he likes me.. I kinda like him too.. But I'm afraid that things will be shortlived.. I known him only a short time.. I don't dare to or there's a fear to start.. He has agreed to take things slow.. To give me time to know him better.. But there's still a fear in my heart.. A scar/shadow left behind by past r/s.. I'm afraid to be too happy..
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we all carry baggages from our past r/s.Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I feel happy now.. I know that he likes me.. I kinda like him too.. But I'm afraid that things will be shortlived.. I known him only a short time.. I don't dare to or there's a fear to start.. He has agreed to take things slow.. To give me time to know him better.. But there's still a fear in my heart.. A scar/shadow left behind by past r/s.. I'm afraid to be too happy..
dam! dat's not good advise.
sort urself out first before commiting to a new r/s.
u can be happy without a guy too.
but if ur gut feeling tell u he's the one, go for it. good luck. -
Hello,Originally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I feel happy now.. I know that he likes me.. I kinda like him too.. But I'm afraid that things will be shortlived.. I known him only a short time.. I don't dare to or there's a fear to start.. He has agreed to take things slow.. To give me time to know him better.. But there's still a fear in my heart.. A scar/shadow left behind by past r/s.. I'm afraid to be too happy..
From the way you write it, I guess you're very insecure.
"Fear" is a very contagious word here. You mustn't compromise to it. Fear will only cause everything you do to backfire.
One thing though, try not to be expecting too much out of anything, 'cos if anything doesn't turn out right, you will only end up in great disappointment.
Give yourself some time to know him well. At the same time, find some time to be alone to do your stuff and build your own character and knowledge.
In time to come, you'll be ready for the next step.
Best of hope!
yours faithfully,
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I noe tt carrying baggages is not gd.. But how do I leave everything behind?? I wish I can.. Can you teach me??Originally posted by Fuqua:we all carry baggages from our past r/s.
dam! dat's not good advise.
sort urself out first before commiting to a new r/s.
u can be happy without a guy too.
but if ur gut feeling tell u he's the one, go for it. good luck.
Yes I noe I can be equally happy without one.. But I wish to have someone to share my life..
I'm not sure if he's the one.. M i supposed to noe when I first noe him or do I take time to find out whether is he the one?? -
Hi.. thanks.. Yah u're rite.. I'm a really insecure person who needs lotsa reassurance... I really need to build up my self esteem also as e previous guy had trample on it really badly...Originally posted by keuriseudo:Hello,
From the way you write it, I guess you're very insecure.
"Fear" is a very contagious word here. You mustn't compromise to it. Fear will only cause everything you do to backfire.
One thing though, try not to be expecting too much out of anything, 'cos if anything doesn't turn out right, you will only end up in great disappointment.
Give yourself some time to know him well. At the same time, find some time to be alone to do your stuff and build your own character and knowledge.
In time to come, you'll be ready for the next step.
Best of hope!
yours faithfully,
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how can i teach if i'm still learning too. so if u know how to leave everything behindOriginally posted by AsTr0GiRL:I noe tt carrying baggages is not gd.. But how do I leave everything behind?? I wish I can.. Can you teach me??
Yes I noe I can be equally happy without one.. But I wish to have someone to share my life..
I'm not sure if he's the one.. M i supposed to noe when I first noe him or do I take time to find out whether is he the one??
, tell me how.
r/s is fulfillling. but all i'm saying is don't jump into ur next r/s too quickly. sort urself out first. if u can be happy being alone, then ur r/s has a better chance of working out.
i believe in love at first sight. but u set ur own standard. how u proceed from here, depends what u want from ur life. good luck. -
thanks... good luck to u too...Originally posted by Fuqua:how can i teach if i'm still learning too. so if u know how to leave everything behind, tell me how.
r/s is fulfillling. but all i'm saying is don't jump into ur next r/s too quickly. sort urself out first. if u can be happy being alone, then ur r/s has a better chance of working out.
i believe in love at first sight. but u set ur own standard. how u proceed from here, depends what u want from ur life. good luck. -
well, I have the same fear as you. I have also been hurt before...and i think now I have become more self-protective than ever. but sumthing in me wants me to keep trying because i know it is all worth it when I have found the right one...
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