super stressed out.. wanna leave.........
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i am kinda tired and stress by this group of 'frens'
i think they are really nice people..but when religion comes into play.. its really difficult to say how nice they are...coz they are stressing me out
i am thinking of taking a break from this group.. but i suspect i may have a hard time . I think some of u must be wondering wat group is this..nah its not a cult.. its a church group.. i am not gonna mention the church name of coz.. no need to.
just that some of them got to know that i am dating a non christian.. a church mate said if this guy is realy my bf.. she would be worried for me... coz she thinks he is not rite for me
i am sick and tired of having to follow the 'rules and regulations' I dun think i need to report to them all aspect of my life.. i hate to conform.. besides..i dunno why i attend church..why i even attend this church...a church i tot was too hyped up..even till now..i never quite see myself as a memeber there . bad huh? yeah i know. I have live the past 20++ over yrs without people telling me wat to do.. and i tried to abide..but after 8 mths of attending.... i dun think i wan to live life like that..
dun flame me.. i just think this church is not for me.. too many rules..
christian bros and sisters.. dun scold me.. hahahha.. people here..dun flame me.. -
aiyaa... its your life, so live it as you want...
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The problem is that those within a religion thinks those not in their religion are bad
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ask them wat they tink of father kang....
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It is ok to date a non-Christian.
Not right to reject someone based to religion.
Some religion say compulsory for life partners to be the same so some pple convert. It is a matter of choice.
Do whatever makes u happy. -
who cares what they think!!!
they don't have the right to dictate yr life.
there are always other churches around -
I guess is rather fine to date someone who is a non-christian.. but of cos they do hope that both parties shared that same religion.. they feel it a better and you both can served together this and that..Originally posted by snowygal:i am kinda tired and stress by this group of 'frens'
i think they are really nice people..but when religion comes into play.. its really difficult to say how nice they are...coz they are stressing me out
i am thinking of taking a break from this group.. but i suspect i may have a hard time . I think some of u must be wondering wat group is this..nah its not a cult.. its a church group.. i am not gonna mention the church name of coz.. no need to.
just that some of them got to know that i am dating a non christian.. a church mate said if this guy is realy my bf.. she would be worried for me... coz she thinks he is not rite for me
i am sick and tired of having to follow the 'rules and regulations' I dun think i need to report to them all aspect of my life.. i hate to conform.. besides..i dunno why i attend church..why i even attend this church...a church i tot was too hyped up..even till now..i never quite see myself as a memeber there . bad huh? yeah i know. I have live the past 20++ over yrs without people telling me wat to do.. and i tried to abide..but after 8 mths of attending.... i dun think i wan to live life like that..
dun flame me.. i just think this church is not for me.. too many rules..
christian bros and sisters.. dun scold me.. hahahha.. people here..dun flame me..
Well.. to be in a religion.. you need commitments.. if you still think that you ain't ready for it.. then jus put a stop to it... noone can force to stay if you dun wish to.. this is your freedom.. and freewill to do anything..
Jus go ahead and tell them that you needed a break.. maybe this isn't really suitable for you.. If the time comes.. that you think you can commit.. anytime you can jus go back to the church again.. Or maybe you find another religion that really suits you more..
There is no yes or no to such things..
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All you church groupies who think you are not church groupies but act like church groupies, better take note.
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Snowygal,
Look at the basis of all good religions:
- Be thankful to the Divine One who has given us life.
- Do as much good as possible.
- Do not deliberately harm others in any way.
- Love and accept everyone without discrimination.
Any religion which tells you that "outside" people are unacceptable clearly goes against the last 3 points above.
I'd just leave if I were you. You can find other friends "outside". -
Want to leave, leave lah.
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If u ever find urself in a situation u're not comfy wif, then juz get out of it.. True frens stand by u n respect ur wishes.. Not dictate u on wat to do wif ur life..
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thanks everyone.. i guess i needed some reassurance that my leaving /taking a break is okay. I tried to stay committed to the church and group...but by doing that.. it pleases the group yet makes me unhappy..
I should be happy and look forward going for cell groups and gathering..but i dun. I guess this is not so much of dating a non christian... i am fine with my bf...and he told me to keep an open mind about things. He never desude me to leave... he just wans me to be happy. The church mates may think they are just being concern..but in my point of view... they are giving me stress and pressure.
some of my frens ever encounter this b4 ... some of course couldn;'t stand it and broke up eventually. Dun wish to see that happen to me... breaking up coz of something like this. So.. in order to save my sanity hahaha..i kinda have decided to just MIA. I tried to take a break once..and gues wat.. one of the cell group leaders had a long 'chat' with me. Aiyo.. being very soft hearted..i stayed on. This time round..i dun see the need to pre inform anyone... I am just gonna MIA. i know its silly... but.. why make myself unhappy rite?
i just hope my good fren whos in the same group as me understands this..and not see it as a form of forsaking God. I am not forsaking God.. other churches out there maybe better for me.
thanks for reading my rant
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y borther than?
if church is not for u,
u can either chose to be a free thinker or embrace other religion.
U live ur own life ultimately.. -
Originally posted by skeujin:ask them wat they tink of father kang....
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God lives everywhere... In ur heart.. Wherever u r...
HE loves u unconditionally.. And HE won't forsake u so don't gib up on HIM.. It's not HIM i believe.. It's e church.. Tt's how lame certain people from certain churches might be... Be strong.. HE's always there to witness everything.. -
if yr good fren don't understand, maybe u need to rethink whether he/she is yr fren!!!Originally posted by snowygal:thanks everyone.. i guess i needed some reassurance that my leaving /taking a break is okay. I tried to stay committed to the church and group...but by doing that.. it pleases the group yet makes me unhappy..
I should be happy and look forward going for cell groups and gathering..but i dun. I guess this is not so much of dating a non christian... i am fine with my bf...and he told me to keep an open mind about things. He never desude me to leave... he just wans me to be happy. The church mates may think they are just being concern..but in my point of view... they are giving me stress and pressure.
some of my frens ever encounter this b4 ... some of course couldn;'t stand it and broke up eventually. Dun wish to see that happen to me... breaking up coz of something like this. So.. in order to save my sanity hahaha..i kinda have decided to just MIA. I tried to take a break once..and gues wat.. one of the cell group leaders had a long 'chat' with me. Aiyo.. being very soft hearted..i stayed on. This time round..i dun see the need to pre inform anyone... I am just gonna MIA. i know its silly... but.. why make myself unhappy rite?
i just hope my good fren whos in the same group as me understands this..and not see it as a form of forsaking God. I am not forsaking God.. other churches out there maybe better for me.
thanks for reading my rant
Frens don't make demand, they r there when u need then!!!
A friend in need is a friend indeed -
Rant? It's totally NICE and SENSIBLE...Originally posted by snowygal:thanks everyone.. i guess i needed some reassurance that my leaving /taking a break is okay. I tried to stay committed to the church and group...but by doing that.. it pleases the group yet makes me unhappy..
I should be happy and look forward going for cell groups and gathering..but i dun. I guess this is not so much of dating a non christian... i am fine with my bf...and he told me to keep an open mind about things. He never desude me to leave... he just wans me to be happy. The church mates may think they are just being concern..but in my point of view... they are giving me stress and pressure.
some of my frens ever encounter this b4 ... some of course couldn;'t stand it and broke up eventually. Dun wish to see that happen to me... breaking up coz of something like this. So.. in order to save my sanity hahaha..i kinda have decided to just MIA. I tried to take a break once..and gues wat.. one of the cell group leaders had a long 'chat' with me. Aiyo.. being very soft hearted..i stayed on. This time round..i dun see the need to pre inform anyone... I am just gonna MIA. i know its silly... but.. why make myself unhappy rite?
i just hope my good fren whos in the same group as me understands this..and not see it as a form of forsaking God. I am not forsaking God.. other churches out there maybe better for me.
thanks for reading my rant -
hello there! Cheer up ! you're not alone, be happy wif your bf, follow your dreams, love is blind and love conquers all...Originally posted by snowygal:i am kinda tired and stress by this group of 'frens'
i think they are really nice people..but when religion comes into play.. its really difficult to say how nice they are...coz they are stressing me out
i am thinking of taking a break from this group.. but i suspect i may have a hard time . I think some of u must be wondering wat group is this..nah its not a cult.. its a church group.. i am not gonna mention the church name of coz.. no need to.
just that some of them got to know that i am dating a non christian.. a church mate said if this guy is realy my bf.. she would be worried for me... coz she thinks he is not rite for me
i am sick and tired of having to follow the 'rules and regulations' I dun think i need to report to them all aspect of my life.. i hate to conform.. besides..i dunno why i attend church..why i even attend this church...a church i tot was too hyped up..even till now..i never quite see myself as a memeber there . bad huh? yeah i know. I have live the past 20++ over yrs without people telling me wat to do.. and i tried to abide..but after 8 mths of attending.... i dun think i wan to live life like that..
dun flame me.. i just think this church is not for me.. too many rules..
christian bros and sisters.. dun scold me.. hahahha.. people here..dun flame me.. -
I support you sister!Originally posted by snowygal:thanks everyone.. i guess i needed some reassurance that my leaving /taking a break is okay. I tried to stay committed to the church and group...but by doing that.. it pleases the group yet makes me unhappy..
I should be happy and look forward going for cell groups and gathering..but i dun. I guess this is not so much of dating a non christian... i am fine with my bf...and he told me to keep an open mind about things. He never desude me to leave... he just wans me to be happy. The church mates may think they are just being concern..but in my point of view... they are giving me stress and pressure.
some of my frens ever encounter this b4 ... some of course couldn;'t stand it and broke up eventually. Dun wish to see that happen to me... breaking up coz of something like this. So.. in order to save my sanity hahaha..i kinda have decided to just MIA. I tried to take a break once..and gues wat.. one of the cell group leaders had a long 'chat' with me. Aiyo.. being very soft hearted..i stayed on. This time round..i dun see the need to pre inform anyone... I am just gonna MIA. i know its silly... but.. why make myself unhappy rite?
i just hope my good fren whos in the same group as me understands this..and not see it as a form of forsaking God. I am not forsaking God.. other churches out there maybe better for me.
thanks for reading my rant
In our world, there are people who seems to care alot about you, but all they want is a familira sense of conformity. They don't feel at peace when someone goes out of their 'fixed rules' list.
While i know they 'care', i deeply believe that God does not want us to suffer or be unhappy.
If you're feeling pressured by your group of friends, please take a break from them. Think about your relationship with God, with everyone in your life.
Remember, in the end you only account to God, and no one else.
Cheers, to your new life ahead~ -
As long as you know that your relationship isn't affecting your faith adversely, sod them. He's dating you, not them!
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"A man's ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties
and needs; no religious basis is necessary. Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be
restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death."
[Albert Einstein, "Religion and Science", New York Times Magazine, 9 November 1930]
a true fren will not influenuce their fren to their religion. -
no worries, i left my former church when i felt it doesn't help enrich my lifestyle and spiritual walk.
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thanks fellow sg pals... u guys have been great..
religion can be such a difficult issue at times. Never tot that going church can be so 'polictical' Isn't it all about a person's relationship with God?
hey.. can someone tell me why issit wrong to wear cap/hat in a church?
i see some cat lovers here....
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Snowygal,
Nayyy...I don't think religion is a difficult issue. Its some of the people who practice it who make it complicated.
No idea about the hats in church. Maybe its just out of respect that you don't have any headgear...or maybe its so that the person behind you can see the front. haha. What did your church members say?
Take it easy huh? Not mixing around with religious people doesn't make you less religious, so you don't have to feel bad leaving the group. Its actually how good your heart is, which makes you closer to whoever you're praying to.
I gave up my religion too, years and years ago. Just kinda figured that Saturday night was for partying and Sunday mornings were for waking up late. Never made it to church on time. -
I believe in this
No matter what religion you are, it all boil down to the basic principle of
1) Do more good deed
2) Respect each other
Cheers