Originally posted by doomz:
Many frzs tend to envy me cos i have found someone i love and my other half also love me..
First few day,weeks n months the love is so strong!!Everyday die die must meet....but after a few yrs,we tend to take each other for granted.
After a few yrs of relationship i think commitment is the only thing tat keep the relationship going on...anyone agreE?
Cos my gf told me the love we have is not strong compare to the days we first met,i am scare tat she will leave me 1 day but she say is normal,she say she only looking forward to start a family...

How do i make her love me more?We still meet each other frequently but she seldom hug me as often as b4

Commitment means being
faithful
loyal and planning to have a family....

To one who earns $20k a month and suddenly experienced a decrease in income to $6K, he would probably felt that he probably cannot survive anymore - due to the huge discrepancy between the two figures.
But is that the case? There are many who could never earn up to $6K a month and they are still surviving well.
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Pray do tell me how you judge the quantity of love in your relationship? You took your honeymoon period as a basis of how much love was? And now that all was calm and you felt that love was gone?
Passion may suffer a little dip, but certainly not love.
Love always evolve, because as time moves and our expectation changes, everything would be different. The kind of love she has, has transformed into security and future planning and not the kind of lovey-dopey thingy you two had years back. In fact, only conscious effort would allow you to upkeep such passion in relationship - but as you have mentioned, the relationship has been running rather smoothly and uneventfully, and causes this conscious effort to wane gradually. Painfully true - only lessons and obstruction are remembered and worked on.
In CloUdiSm, under Love Eco-Cycle, every relationship will strike a peak where growth is at its least. Our first step into every relationship is to try and lengthen the stage of Honeymoon and drag as much during the second stage of Growth.
We must grow with our relationship and not expect our relationship to move as a separate entity. Do not let fear discourage you.
In fact, serve it as a motivation and time to work onto your relationship.
Nothing is dead until declared.
Fight for your relationship and strive to improve.

Cheers