Leave Or Continue?
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I've been dating this guy for 2 years. Well... For the past 2 years, our relationship didn't improve much.... No ups and downs, just plain straight, constant relationship. When we were in school, we don't meet up and do what other couples do, like having lunch together,study together, etc. People doubt that we are couple. To me and this guy, we don't really like doing such thing in school, esp in school uniform. But because of this, we end up not meeting each other often.. In 2 years' time, we only went out for about 10 times.
Recently, I confronted him. I told him that he doesn't really care about how i feel. I don't feel special in him and sadly, he has been rejecting me when i asked him out. Although it's alright for girls to make the first move, but when the other party keep rejecting, you will really get sick of asking him again. When I tell him about this, he said:'I'm really busy and i seldom go out even when i'm free.' Yes, he didn't go out with people even when he's free. Okay, let me ask u guys out there, do u wish to see ur gf when ur free? Or maybe just spend ur day with her? I believe most of u will agree with it but not him. It's been around.. 6 months since we last went out.
The idea of breaking has been in my mind for months, my friends persuade me to leave him. I choose not to. I don't wish to break his heart, he still loves me, just that he's a homely person and don't understand me at times.
He just can't compromise me, I know that i won't be happy if it continues. So should i leave him or continue with it? Should i care about my feelings or his feelings? -
In school? How old sia?Originally posted by L0cked:I've been dating this guy for 2 years. Well... For the past 2 years, our relationship didn't improve much.... No ups and downs, just plain straight, constant relationship. When we were in school, we don't meet up and do what other couples do, like having lunch together,study together, etc. People doubt that we are couple. To me and this guy, we don't really like doing such thing in school, esp in school uniform. But because of this, we end up not meeting each other often.. In 2 years' time, we only went out for about 10 times.
Recently, I confronted him. I told him that he doesn't really care about how i feel. I don't feel special in him and sadly, he has been rejecting me when i asked him out. Although it's alright for girls to make the first move, but when the other party keep rejecting, you will really get sick of asking him again. When I tell him about this, he said:'I'm really busy and i seldom go out even when i'm free.' Yes, he didn't go out with people even when he's free. Okay, let me ask u guys out there, do u wish to see ur gf when ur free? Or maybe just spend ur day with her? I believe most of u will agree with it but not him. It's been around.. 6 months since we last went out.
The idea of breaking has been in my mind for months, my friends persuade me to leave him. I choose not to. I don't wish to break his heart, he still loves me, just that he's a homely person and don't understand me at times.
He just can't compromise me, I know that i won't be happy if it continues. So should i leave him or continue with it? Should i care about my feelings or his feelings? -
We started dating when we're 14... Now we're 16
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??? wow liao... just be friend lar, what do you 2 know about love. just be friends and enjoy your youth, your friendship. he can do "nothing" much for you now neither can you for him.Originally posted by L0cked:We started dating when we're 14... Now we're 16
Leave? Where can you go? If still same school than will still meet de mah.
Continue? To where? Marriage? (only 0.01% will)
Both just like company of each other and that all. When both start to work or when he go NS things will change as the social life get bigger, you meet more ppl and you may like another more than him than how?
Just be friiend for now. -
ask yourself if you are happy in this. if you are not, if you have doubts, better clear them off fast. talk to him, dun demand him to bring you out, but just suggest....
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she is still young lar. should ask how many 16 she still has?Originally posted by icyprincess:ask yourself if you are happy in this. if you are not, if you have doubts, better clear them off fast. talk to him, dun demand him to bring you out, but just suggest....
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my dear, you are still young. seriously, you will find someone better when you get older. and when you grow older, you will think that you were very silly when you were younger.
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si gina ke ta che lah
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I'm not dead yet.Originally posted by wishhunter:si gina ke ta che lah
I agree that 16 is very young... but do u think love has age limits? 
Erm... well.. I also think that at my age, i should put studies as my first priority but the problem is to let go now, is very difficult for me. Most importantly, the relationship didn't affect my studies. -
Yea... I agree that i'm wasting time at my age. I need help in how to approach him to tell him that too. Guys think that " I wanne concentrate on my studies," is an excuse.Originally posted by inextremo:my dear, you are still young. seriously, you will find someone better when you get older. and when you grow older, you will think that you were very silly when you were younger. -
Please gal, you are just as young as my brother... I would advise you to let go and concentrate in your studies. Just tell him straight, "We're not getting anywhere in this situation." Why let yourself get vexed by the problems of BGR at this time? You should be enjoying your teenage years!!!
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i dink its adorable.....
Puppy luv...
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if you love him...then love him the way he is...Originally posted by L0cked:I've been dating this guy for 2 years. Well... For the past 2 years, our relationship didn't improve much.... No ups and downs, just plain straight, constant relationship. When we were in school, we don't meet up and do what other couples do, like having lunch together,study together, etc. People doubt that we are couple. To me and this guy, we don't really like doing such thing in school, esp in school uniform. But because of this, we end up not meeting each other often.. In 2 years' time, we only went out for about 10 times.
Recently, I confronted him. I told him that he doesn't really care about how i feel. I don't feel special in him and sadly, he has been rejecting me when i asked him out. Although it's alright for girls to make the first move, but when the other party keep rejecting, you will really get sick of asking him again. When I tell him about this, he said:'I'm really busy and i seldom go out even when i'm free.' Yes, he didn't go out with people even when he's free. Okay, let me ask u guys out there, do u wish to see ur gf when ur free? Or maybe just spend ur day with her? I believe most of u will agree with it but not him. It's been around.. 6 months since we last went out.
The idea of breaking has been in my mind for months, my friends persuade me to leave him. I choose not to. I don't wish to break his heart, he still loves me, just that he's a homely person and don't understand me at times.
He just can't compromise me, I know that i won't be happy if it continues. So should i leave him or continue with it? Should i care about my feelings or his feelings?
..If not...forget it and either go get a new boyfriend that has what u want or just go study.... 
..No one is perfect.. 
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Sadly girl.. I have bad news for you. We guys mature sexually earlier than you ladies... BUT! we mature mentally slower than you ladies.
So, your BF (16? holy cow! so young!) is probly thinking bout game boy, PS2 or soccer more often than you. If he's close to you now... it's only for.. ahem... sexualy needs. Imagine a sexually matutred body with the mind of a child.
Sorry for being direct... but let's be adult bout this. The rest of the advices are right, you should learn to relax, make more friends, concentrate on your school instead. I know because I am one of the dumb asses who neglected school .. fooled around in NCC and landed up with a sucky job!
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hmmm.. pretty similar situation.. me n my gf have busy schedules.. we dun meet as often as most couples do.. when rare few free days.. we prefer to relax at home or do some stuff so as to relieve some pressure from future busy days..
but i see some problems..
1st.. 6mths since the last date!!! Oh my.. tt's too long n not exactly healthy for a relationship..though it's true one shouldnt take it too seriously esp at ur age.. trying to be impartial.. u cant take relationships tt lightly too..
2nd.. he keeps rejecting ur attempts for a date.. tt's not very nice too.. furthermore u r a girl.. i'm not saying tt girls should initate.. juz saying tt he shouldnt always reject u..
talk to him.. have a serious talk.. let him know u r serious this time n tt u demand his attention..
if he still remains nonchalant it.. i have hit the wall.. it's time for u to change ur direction.. leave him.. though it's painful to leave someone whom u love.. but sacrifices have to be made.. it's not fair for u to be perpetually be in pain n neglected by him n him not bothering to show the slightest concern..
if he really loves u.. he'll be able to sense ur seriousness in the conversation n get into action..
i must say it's kinda sad tt a 2-yr relationship ended up this way.. do sth abt it.. but once all avenues has been exhausted.. u have to admit defeat n give it up.. u r only human.. u have ur limits..
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tell him that its time for the both of you to move on. tell him that you have better things to do than to wait for him.
there are many other fishes in the sea
no fish, still got lobster.
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no lobster.. still got prawn.
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no prawn still got abalone.
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No abalone still got shark's fin.
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Thanks for all the advices!