how the hell do you forget someone?
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erm... just a 2months relationhip.... short, but it was special to me.
we broke up 2 months ago. but i still can't forget.
how?
scold me stupid and pathetic if you want, but don't remember to give advice too.
this is my first breaking-up with someone. i initiated the break-up. -
If you cant,dun.
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How to forget if you have once loved the person?
Teach me.
The feeling might fade away with time.
But memories will ALWAYS be there. -
ah, i need advice too. i just broke wif someone I really care about yesterday. We have been seeing each other for the last 6 months or so, and I initiated the break up oso, because I think we are in the r/s cos of wrong reasons.Originally posted by rumie:erm... just a 2months relationhip.... short, but it was special to me.
we broke up 2 months ago. but i still can't forget.
how?
scold me stupid and pathetic if you want, but don't remember to give advice too.
this is my first breaking-up with someone. i initiated the break-up.
Anywya, now I am trying to submerge myself in my studies and work to forget him. Or you can try working out, go gym, etc.
i.c.y -
time.. there will be one day u will rem him.. then u realised u actually already forget him.Originally posted by icyprincess:ah, i need advice too. i just broke wif someone I really care about yesterday. We have been seeing each other for the last 6 months or so, and I initiated the break up oso, because I think we are in the r/s cos of wrong reasons.
Anywya, now I am trying to submerge myself in my studies and work to forget him. Or you can try working out, go gym, etc.
i.c.y -
yea, dat happened with my ex crush. but that time I already have someone else in my life, mebbe dats y I could forget him so fast...Originally posted by blowfish:time.. there will be one day u will rem him.. then u realised u actually already forget him.
i.c.y -
Can't forget.....memories are there forever.
But time heals all wounds....it gets milder by the week. Two months is too short lah. -
yeah... time is a factor. As time goes by, your strong emotions will fade eventually. If you have not felt strongly for that someone, then it was just a fling.
So think good bout it, carry on with life
Personally, I'd advice a nice cold shower, get a new hobby, get back old hobbies, meet new friends, bring a good book to a cafe... the ist goes on. Fnd was to chill and occupy your time. I go to jazz cafes with a good book to forget things, work and relationships. So give it a shot
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Originally posted by rumie:erm... just a 2months relationhip.... short, but it was special to me.
we broke up 2 months ago. but i still can't forget.
how?
scold me stupid and pathetic if you want, but don't remember to give advice too.
this is my first breaking-up with someone. i initiated the break-up.
Hey hey, see! guy are not the only one having fun today.Originally posted by icyprincess:ah, i need advice too. i just broke wif someone I really care about yesterday. We have been seeing each other for the last 6 months or so, and I initiated the break up oso, because I think we are in the r/s cos of wrong reasons.
Anywya, now I am trying to submerge myself in my studies and work to forget him. Or you can try working out, go gym, etc.
i.c.y
back to point. see someone for 2 mth or 6 mth and say cannot forget him or her? just show you are young, too young for R/S now. what thick and thin had you both gone through during the 2 mth or 6 mth which you cannot forget?
once you start another fun, you will not even remember how you and that person get start in the 1st place. -
Wow I am also having problem with my current R/s too. So close to valentine day and so many r/s ends or on the rock. How sad
Do you have a good time with her? If thats the case why forget the good times? So accept that its be a lovely experience and move on. You could still be friends that way. -
I agree.. time may heal some wounds.. may allow u to forget.. but memories will remain.. scars will still exist.. i know how u feel.. i still do reminisce abt the past with my ex..
oh well.. u can keep urself busy with other things to take ur mind away.. though temporarily.. it's still alright.. schoolwork..work.. exercise.. comm work..etc.. most imptly.. u have to gradually cultivate n adopt a mindset of looking forward n not remain in the past.. wat hap in the past hap for a reason n no point remaining there..
there's more in life tt u haven discovered yet.. -
time is not a measurement of the strength of feelings involved. I wouldn't say that for him, because I do not think he was emotionally involved but I was. I decided to give us a try and invest my everything...my feelings, my heart, my efforts. So in the end, I was the one who got hurt the most.Originally posted by Joshua1975:Hey hey, see! guy are not the only one having fun today.
back to point. see someone for 2 mth or 6 mth and say cannot forget him or her? just show you are young, too young for R/S now. what thick and thin had you both gone through during the 2 mth or 6 mth which you cannot forget?
once you start another fun, you will not even remember how you and that person get start in the 1st place.
i.c.y -
u can only forgive not forget...
time will do the healing -
why force yourself to forget when u can't and shouldn't ?
she was part of ur life.
but it's time to move on.
since u picked this path
memories will always b there.
think of the hapy memories
think that it made a part of u feel the happiness.
u dont need to forget her
u dont have to forget her
it will only make u feel lost
and more depressed...
this may sound strange
but lok at the bright side
u now gained 'freedom'
instead of havin thoughts of all about HER
think about urself
u, urself is most important
only u
can make urself feel better -
Avoid seeing her. Things that will make u remind of her also avoid. Try to look out for other girls, spend time in work, playing games, going outing, making friends.. Keep urself busy.
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#sniff sniff, sob sob#
the people in here in this forum are much more sympathetic...
thanks people, really need all of these.
love you people so much!
haha, i'm a guy, but who cares, right?
let's all just remember the happy things and move on with our lives!
yea!
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just leave it as a memory~ i don't think you'll be able to forget someone~ ormaybe keep yourself busy may helps~
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Time will heal all wounds.Just let nature takes its course and continue with life,
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i dun quite understand this part, can u explain ?Originally posted by gurei:why force yourself to forget when u can't and shouldn't ?
she was part of ur life.
but it's time to move on.
since u picked this path
memories will always b there.
think of the hapy memories
think that it made a part of u feel the happiness.
u dont need to forget her
u dont have to forget her
it will only make u feel lost
and more depressed...
this may sound strange
but lok at the bright side
u now gained 'freedom'
instead of havin thoughts of all about HER
think about urself
u, urself is most important
only u
can make urself feel better -
How long can u keep yrself busy with stuffs to do?
How long will time take to heal yr wounds?
Though we can find things 2 do 2 keep ourselves busy, but once u r alone n free, once u met her on the streets, heard her voice on the phone, these feelings for her, thoughts of her will come back n haunt u.
then the whole cycle of forgetting that some1 u loved will repeat itself.
It takes a second to love some1 but a lifetime to 4get him/her -
I agree. It is especially hard at night. Cos the memories seem to come back easier when it is quiet and when I have nothing to do. During daytime, it is easy for me to find things to do to distract myself, easy for me to go out wif my frens and not think of him at all. But it is at night...Originally posted by starExcaliblur:How long can u keep yrself busy with stuffs to do?
How long will time take to heal yr wounds?
Though we can find things 2 do 2 keep ourselves busy, but once u r alone n free, once u met her on the streets, heard her voice on the phone, these feelings for her, thoughts of her will come back n haunt u.
then the whole cycle of forgetting that some1 u loved will repeat itself.
It takes a second to love some1 but a lifetime to 4get him/her
I haven't met him yet but even now when I heard my frens talking about him, I felt like a knife stabbing into my heart. and when I wake up in the morning, I feel empty because I can no longer look forward to meeting him, to talking to him...
sad things have to come to this point...
i.c.y -
hey, i've the exact same feelings. yes, i know my relationship only lasts for 2 months and what i say here is never the same.Originally posted by icyprincess:I agree. It is especially hard at night. Cos the memories seem to come back easier when it is quiet and when I have nothing to do. During daytime, it is easy for me to find things to do to distract myself, easy for me to go out wif my frens and not think of him at all. But it is at night...
I haven't met him yet but even now when I heard my frens talking about him, I felt like a knife stabbing into my heart. and when I wake up in the morning, I feel empty because I can no longer look forward to meeting him, to talking to him...
sad things have to come to this point...
i.c.y
but yesterday, i realised that, no matter how long the relationship, memories will be there.
you dont have to forget, and know this very important thing:
The person whom you've have once loved is never going to forget as well.
and this is all that matters now.
He/She will want you to move on.
So, just be happy, remember ONLY the good memories, and when you DO go to familiar places or whatever, whenever you are reminded, just smile at the memories and know that you had once possessed.
And that is all that matters now.
Stay happy!!! -
The following is for all of you who is hurt, and who was hurt. This is written by someone who IS still important to me.
But I know the both of us will be part of each other's happy memories now.
Everyone has a Past,
Everyone has a Memory.
A Memory never to be forgotten,
A Memory meant to be treasured.
And, as life moves on,
The Memory is never erased.
Look upon this as a new beginning,
The memory however, never lost. -
the more I remember the good memories, the harder I cried...Originally posted by rumie:hey, i've the exact same feelings. yes, i know my relationship only lasts for 2 months and what i say here is never the same.
but yesterday, i realised that, no matter how long the relationship, memories will be there.
you dont have to forget, and know this very important thing:
The person whom you've have once loved is never going to forget as well.
and this is all that matters now.
He/She will want you to move on.
So, just be happy, remember ONLY the good memories, and when you DO go to familiar places or whatever, whenever you are reminded, just smile at the memories and know that you had once possessed.
And that is all that matters now.
Stay happy!!!
i.c.y -
u cant forget a person totally if tat person was once ur most loved once, and why did u initiate the break up n in the end feeling so worst now?