My GF just broke off with me
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I know my gf for 6 years liao, last fri, had a huge argument with her, and she blow out all the things, saying that I am not giving her any assurance, not giving her space to breathe etc etc.
She wanted to call it quit temporary to cool things before committing again, now all she wanted is to concentrate on her career, and not on any relationship.
I tried to pacify her, on sat and sun, but she just won't listen and insisting me on giving her some time to think over it.
I am damn stupid to have created such a problem! I really love her a lot. -
thanks for registering with us a year and a half ago and dedicate ur 1st post oni today.....
wats done cannot be undone....since she wants a cool-off period, jus let her be....
do take this time to reflect on urself oso....
u may want to keep in contact with her by SMS....a few msgs a day jus to let her know u are still here if she need u, but do not go to the extend of harassing her or provoking her further.... -
I had been trying to call her on sat and sun hoping to patch things up but seems not to be working. I spoke to a few close friends abt it, i was really hurt that 6 years relationship just went down the drain.
Ya, perhaps I shld give her some time to cool down rather than trying to call her everyday like the past while we are still couple. I also do not want to end up like becoming a harass to her.
I'm still feeling very hurt.... -
what did u do?
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yeah,wat happened exactly??
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I know sometimes I dun have enff time for her, but the ultimate issue on fri is that she went out with her friends and came back quite late, I was very worried for her and till the extend of quarrelling.
I know I was in the wrong, she ought to have her own circle of friends. -
let her cool down first la..
=)
if she really loves u, she'll be back with u soon. -
after 6 yrs, u are still so concern of your char bor safetyOriginally posted by powerstation:I know sometimes I dun have enff time for her, but the ultimate issue on fri is that she went out with her friends and came back quite late, I was very worried for her and till the extend of quarrelling.
I know I was in the wrong, she ought to have her own circle of friends.
i am impress..
its her lost i would say....
its her tt needs to wake up her idea....
dont worry.....after awhile, she will realised u r a truly nice man. -
Hi Powerstation,
Let her take a break loh. But while she's taking a break, let her know that u still love her, think about her, and waiting for her return. Hopefully she will be touched and return to u. Then, u should also reflect on ur own and change and become a better boyfriend for her in the future. -
thanks all for the concerns and advise! Really appreciate that..
Ya, seems that all i can do now is to take a step at a time. -
wah seems like the minor problem probably opened a can of worms. one thing happend tonite led to something happening last week, last month and 6 years ago...
something like that?
not that i'm trying to pour water over u, but i guess a gentle warning/reminder to all couples out there, sometimes it's better to sit down and kao beh to each other EARLY in the piece, dun sweep them under the carpet...
okz anyway, honestly there's two situations i can think of. one is that she's being rash, becos as u stated and i assume, it is a small problem that created it all. so hopefully she'll come round and realise she was a bit too emotional.
the other situation is that she's been holding this back for AGES, and she's just decided to stop trying, or too tired to go on. OR, something outside of ur reln gave her the courage or impetus to do wat she wouldn't normally do (initiate break up). this isn't to put any thoughts in your head, just listing down the possibilities.
all that said, if it's irrecoverable, then dun waste time, becos happiness can lie elsewhere. dun make the same mistake, and you and a future partner can be even happier together, dun lose heart!
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no matter what u did.........sent roses to her house and a sorry card!! Be romantic and dun call, sms her.....
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ahhaha if only it were that easy all the time.Originally posted by cindtan29:no matter what u did.........sent roses to her house and a sorry card!! Be romantic and dun call, sms her.....
but hey... prob good advice since it's coming from a woman. -
IT IS!!! believe me! I chio Bu so alot of experience to be angry and get roses!!Originally posted by jOhO:ahhaha if only it were that easy all the time.
but hey... prob good advice since it's coming from a woman. 
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I've just spoken to her close friend this morning, she was shocked too, that this relationship just went burst overnite.
Anyway, she is gonna see how best she can help us to get together, ultimately, I'll have to work harder to compensate her of what I've not given her over the years, like spending more time with her.
Thanks again all... U all are simply GREAT!!
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I've just spoken to her close friend this morning, she was shocked too, that this relationship just went burst overnite.
Anyway, she is gonna see how best she can help us to get together, ultimately, I'll have to work harder to compensate her of what I've not given her over the years, like spending more time with her.
Thanks again all... U all are simply GREAT!! -
No use crying over spilt milk.. 6 years is not too long.. neither is it too short a time.. THese period of time.. Both of you should have known each other's character very well.. Her group of friends and those you mixed around with.. Both of you more or less should be able to know each other friends well enough..
Being possessive is ok.. But being too possessive in your case 6 years.. is a nono thing.. Where is the trust in her and vice versa? Its good that you realised your mistake.. But make sure that your realisation is not because she left you.. But is because you really found out that you are at fault..
If she gives you a second chance, grab it.. And good luck.. -
Worried also no used. Just let her be lah. U can't always 24 hrs worrying about her. When something bad happen to her just ditch her lor....Originally posted by powerstation:I know sometimes I dun have enff time for her, but the ultimate issue on fri is that she went out with her friends and came back quite late, I was very worried for her and till the extend of quarrelling.
I use to worried about my gf and my sis safety when they stay out late. Especially where my gf and my place got many foreign workers like Thais, Indians and Banga......they even got drunk and fight amount themselves??? So anything can happen with them around.
One classic case is that this two Indian workers sit at our block bus stop around 1030pm. So happen that my neighbourhood friend's younger sister passby and one of the indian leave up his "Sarong" and show his dick. The poor girl ran home crying and told my friend about it. The next moment, our neighbourhood gang(kids gang since 1984) arm with poles and spanners(huge one) etc bash up the two indians with nake bottoms running back to their squtter....
Another classic case will be the poor lady in Woodland
If only the guy friend had accompany her till her door step.....
I am not trying to encourage violence. But sometimes it is the only solution where law is not applicable...... -
actually y is it ur fault? so wat u cant pei her? does tis mean she have to go out till very late with friends? wat if she kana rape or wat? then she gonna say its ur fault..then wat u gonna do? say "ya ya my fault"? maybe she don understand u deep enough...or maybe she don love u as much as u do...so show hack care hack care altitude...give her some time...if she wanna come back...she will...
good luck...
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take good care there... all the best..
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Could she have found someone else?Originally posted by powerstation:I know my gf for 6 years liao, last fri, had a huge argument with her, and she blow out all the things, saying that I am not giving her any assurance, not giving her space to breathe etc etc.
She wanted to call it quit temporary to cool things before committing again, now all she wanted is to concentrate on her career, and not on any relationship.
I tried to pacify her, on sat and sun, but she just won't listen and insisting me on giving her some time to think over it.
I am damn stupid to have created such a problem! I really love her a lot. -
cheer up ya
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Do you all also agree that I was too over-possessive? And not trusting? Perhaps this is a bad thing that I think I shld reflect on myself and change for a better...
Now... all I want is to have her back.... -
Possessive?Originally posted by powerstation:Do you all also agree that I was too over-processive? And not trusting? Perhaps this is a bad thing that I think I shld reflect on myself and change for a better...
Now... all I want is to have her back.... -
typo error, just realise it..